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VanSandman posted:gently caress off with this poo poo Pick, just because you’re a joyless husk that couldn’t sleep with a disabled man doesn’t mean you have to drag your hatred of them and delight in their misery into this thread. I still think about it because I couldn't be what he wanted or needed, I don't resent him at all and hope he's doing really well  .I like posting these stories sometimes because gbs is full of people who love to make jokes like 3o's about murdering people different than them and this probably makes one or two people re-think going to see their friend who has a disability instead of finding it "weird" and completely abandoning them. imho it's super weird to me that cats with disabilities are popular, but not people. ???
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I think the sister should consider the idea that her brother could live alone and have another caretaker, or live in separate quarters on the same property if money permitted, and they could still have a close relationship. Her boyfriend wanting to place limits on her time with the brother would be a deal breaker for me, though.
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My [M27] boyfriend of two years wanted me [F26] to stop spending so much money on beauty supplies. I did, but now he thinks I'm ugly and he is secretly spending that money on something else. 1,237 points 631 comments submitted 2 years ago by turtledove1248 to r/relationships So I have fairly bad skin. I have about six to seven red pimples on my face at any one time, uneven skin tone, and dark undereyes. I also have rather small eyes and eyelashes. So without makeup and a regime of beauty products, I don’t look as pretty. However, my boyfriend is aware of, and hasn’t complained about my natural look before. We have live together for about six months, and recently in the last two months I have made a change. My boyfriend was rather upset with how much I spent on makeup and beauty supplies a month since we have combined expenses. I probably spend about $75 a month on lotions, makeup, and whatever else I need. He told me, “why not just go without makeup and use what I use?” He thought the extra $75 would be better spent on something we buy together, like food. So I did. I wanted to make my boyfriend happy, and it seemed like a good idea at the time. It wasn’t. After a few weeks I started to break out even worse, and once my old makeup started to run out I noticed that my boyfriend stopped taking me out. We used to go on a date every Friday, but not anymore. We would go out with friends on Saturday, but suddenly my boyfriend wants to just “hang out with the guys” for weeks. And grocery shopping? He started doing it by himself on Friday when I am at work (he’s self-employed). So I asked him about it, and he told me, “You’ve really let yourself go. I think you need to lose weight if you want this relationship to be more serious.” I have never been so insulted in my life. One, because we have been talking about marriage since we moved in together (though it “mysteriously” stopped recently), and two, I’ve lost ten pounds since I started to really focus on my exercise regime. I told him this, and he said I was lying. Clearly I’ve gotten fatter, because my face is all puffy. I wanted to shout at him, but I didn’t, and we sat in the living room. I told him that the only thing that changed, other than my weight gain, was that I stopped using all my beauty products and instead used the cheaper stuff he does. I asked him if the reason why we stopped going on dates is because I don’t look as polished as I normally do. He said yes, that’s why. I know how much attraction means to guys, so I told him that I should probably get back to my beauty regime, but he got very, very upset and said that I spend too much money and that I was obviously just not trying hard enough with what we already have. That maybe I was skipping out on washing my face and that maybe the scale is wrong and I have gained weight (I also weighed myself at my friend’s last week, so we would both need to have identically miscalibrated scales). After that we didn’t talk to each other for awhile, him because he thought I was lying, and me because I just needed to calm myself down so I wouldn’t say something I regretted. I went into the bedroom, and my boyfriend’s laptop was on his bed. When I moved it the screen flickered and I noticed that on his desktop was a bunch of videogames I hadn’t seen him play before. I feel really bad about it, but I thought something was off so I went onto our bank account website. Normally my boyfriend pays all the bills out of our joint account, and I have always paid everything in cash (I just like the feeling of it) so he usually gets money out of the bank for me during the day and I go spend it. Well, I noticed a lot of transactions for steam. About $75 worth for the last two months. Money is pretty tight in our household; we are putting money towards savings and student debt, but we are frugal otherwise. We each have a personal budget though for non-essential expenses, about $150 each. I didn’t realize it before, but when I stopped buying beauty products, my personal budget also went down instead of up, and my boyfriend has been spending the difference on video games. I don’t know what to do from here. TL;DR: My boyfriend asked me to stop spending so much money on beauty supplies to help out our budget. Now he considers me ugly and fat and may not commit to me in the future. Also, the money that was supposed to go towards shared expenses went towards secret video game purchases.
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Nov 29, 2017 20:42
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therobit posted:Her boyfriend wanting to place limits on her time with the brother would be a deal breaker for me, though. It's not time limits, it's your co-dependent relationship with your brother will not take priority over our relationship and he will not be an ever present third wheel while we try and establish our life together which is completely reasonable.
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Admiral Ray posted:Also lol at your gf for not helping either, like she has a moral argument here. That was my first reaction, too. She was obviously at the laundromat too, why didn't she help? Maybe the disabled guy didn't ask her, but she would at least be entitled to her righteous indignation. Also, I kinda sympathize having had them once myself. It was only for a few months (I moved, didn't take my bed with me, and my clothing was properly treated so they didn't follow me) and it was fifteen years ago, but the memory still gives me the heebie-jeebies. That said, it's unlikely she'd have gotten them from just helping a guy move wet clean clothes from the washer into the dryer for two minutes.
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She should  and never make-up.
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Clearly there wasn’t a solid foundation to the relationship.
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Pick posted:My [M27] boyfriend of two years wanted me [F26] to stop spending so much money on beauty supplies. I did, but now he thinks I'm ugly and he is secretly spending that money on something else. Stab your boyfriend.
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Me [27 M] with my best bud [26 M], he asked to "jack off" together. Is there a way I can ignore this and maintain the friendship?quote:Long story short: my best bud (we'll call him Kale) and I have been friends since we were 14. We've done everything together - went to high school, went off to college, work in the same field, live together, frequent the same bars, etc. He's always been a bit more of a ladies' man than me. I have a little trouble with the ladies from time to time, and he tries to set me up, which is cool. The problem seems obvious to me. The reason you don't have luck with the ladies is because your crystal is running on fumes. Broseph there just wants to help you recharge and get back in the game.
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Nov 29, 2017 20:56
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The story about the dude who felt invisible after the injury really resonated with me, while I'm still recovering (and I don't have bleak odds like this guy) I did experience something very similar, and it was extremely disorienting. What a very depressing story, I hope things get better for the guy.
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Nov 29, 2017 20:58
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Doggles posted:Me [27 M] with my best bud [26 M], he asked to "jack off" together. Is there a way I can ignore this and maintain the friendship? You gotta keep them crystals charged or women will run away from you.
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Pick posted:Me [29F] with my GF [26F] of 8 months, I refused to help a disabled man, now she is furious with me.Relationships Anything up to and including locking everyone including yourself inside the laundromat and burning it to the ground are completely acceptable actions. gently caress bed bugs and gently caress everyone who treats then as anything but the literal plague that they are.
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sabbathi posted:The story about the dude who felt invisible after the injury really resonated with me, while I'm still recovering (and I don't have bleak odds like this guy) I did experience something very similar, and it was extremely disorienting. What a very depressing story, I hope things get better for the guy. I had a similar situation last year with a debilitating injury. I was still able to get around, although slowly and painfully, and if it weren't for my own efforts there's maybe one friend who would've made the effort to stay connected. Out of sight and out of mind, and all that. Fortunately my injury was not permanent and not nearly as severe as his, but he needs to get his rear end to a support group right this second. The emotional toll of not being able to walk or move around well when I was used to running tens of miles each week was a total mindfuck and there were some really dark days. Losing your ability to walk, some of your memories, and all of your friends, not to mention having to move a ten hour car ride away? Yeah, he's gonna need people, and soon.
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Nov 29, 2017 21:05
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The Jerky Boys posted:Long story short: my best bud (we'll call him Kale) and I have been friends since we were 14. We've done everything together Obviously not EVERYTHING.
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Nov 29, 2017 21:07
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jon joe posted:She should
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Doggles posted:Me [27 M] with my best bud [26 M], he asked to "jack off" together. Is there a way I can ignore this and maintain the friendship? Dammit Caulifla, do the fusion dance with Kale or you stand no chance of defeating Son Goku.
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Nov 29, 2017 21:16
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Doggles posted:Me [27 M] with my best bud [26 M], he asked to "jack off" together. Is there a way I can ignore this and maintain the friendship? Someone needs to let this poor schlub know that he is married and his husband is emotionally abusive.
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Nov 29, 2017 21:31
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Doggles posted:Me [27 M] with my best bud [26 M], he asked to "jack off" together. Is there a way I can ignore this and maintain the friendship? My friend, have you heard of the double dutch rudder?
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Nov 29, 2017 21:53
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lol if your best buds are feeling blue and you don't immediately offer to jack it in front of each other
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Nov 29, 2017 21:57
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Doggles posted:Me [27 M] with my best bud [26 M], he asked to "jack off" together. Is there a way I can ignore this and maintain the friendship? Just jack off with your best friend dude.
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Three Olives posted:tbh I've jerked off with friends. But did you masturbate with a lady friend?
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I love the "international travel to see an ex" stories they're just great My [22 M] girlfriend [21 F] of 7 months is going to another continent to visit her ex. quote:So in a couple weeks, my lovely girlfriend will be going across to Europe for a week for the sole purpose of visiting her ex, who she misses a lot. Since their breakup, he went to school abroad and they have remained close friends. She decided to go visit him and spend a week exploring his new country and city. He will be taking her to nice dinners, and they will be sleeping in the same room. Instead you can be the under-controlling and weak boyfriend who lets his gf gently caress her ex in Europe
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Barudak posted:Dammit Caulifla, do the fusion dance with Kale or you stand no chance of defeating Son Goku. Glad I'm not the only one who noticed this
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Pick posted:You think that's bad? warning: the following post is gently caress. I feel so badly for everyone involved in this story. Life sucks. 
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How do I(21f) confront my bf(25m) of 7months?quote:Yesterday I came home to my boyfriend from my weekly overnight babysitting excursion(usually lasts 1-3 days) and today he works, while I have off. Upon entering my closet just now post-shower, I grabbed a haphazardly discarded white top to throw on, mistaking it for one of mine, ultimately realizing that 1) it is a girl's top that 2) i have never seen before. I'm not going to jump to conclusions as our roommate's sister spends enough time here that she does her laundry sometimes, but I did find it curious that it would just show up dirty, in our closet, on top of my dresser with my things. Why would a girl he brought over to cheat on me with hide away in the closet to change? Did he possibly think the shirt was mine and threw it in with my things? Regardless, more than anything I'm looking for help confronting him when he gets home. Should I ask up front whose shirt it is? Should I ask up front if he's cheating on me? Should I casually ask if anyone has been over in the last few days because they left something? How can I word things in a way that is non-accusing but to the point? Just looking for second opinions, especially from people who have been in similar situations! This lady seems really livid about this illegal shirt, gonna be a hell of a conversation / confrontation
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Ham Sandwiches posted:I love the "international travel to see an ex" stories they're just great She is obviously going to gently caress her ex on the trip so he really needs to decide if he can deal with that or they need to break up. Cough Drop The Beat posted:gently caress. I feel so badly for everyone involved in this story. Life sucks. I don't, the only one I feel bad for is the boyfriend who was dumped because he made a completely reasonable request to the woman who he loves and she was just like gently caress you, I choose my co-dependent hosed up relationship with my brother over you.
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Pick posted:Me [29F] with my GF [26F] of 8 months, I refused to help a disabled man, now she is furious with me.Relationships Her girlfriend is incorrect. I think a Fox editing room got infested from one person having brought a bedbug back from vacation, which meant everyone else who worked there also got bedbugs. I am absolutely with this lady. Also, bedbugs are not a sign of filth, so her girlfriend is being a jerk. Apparently girlfriend was the one who was actually worried about the guy being dirty if she's the one bringing it up. Bored fucked around with this message at 22:56 on Nov 29, 2017 |
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My friend [M27] cheated on his girlfriend [F24]. I [F19] know her too, should i tell?Infidelityquote:I should also add that we aren't friends anymore because i was the one he tried to cheat on her with. He touched me while i was sleeping, as soon as i noticed, i pushed him away and escaped. If she had a bit more detail on the touching / escape it would be easier to call this one, this dude seems hosed though
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Three Olives posted:She is obviously going to gently caress her ex on the trip so he really needs to decide if he can deal with that or they need to break up. Man your hosed up huh.
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And rounding out the day, here's a story of  snooping Me [26 M] with my GF [28 F] 7 Yrs, found pics on her computer quote:Hi I've been with my gf now for 7 years, living together. It turns out she was feeling sick... of his bullshit 
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Three Olives posted:She is obviously going to gently caress her ex on the trip so he really needs to decide if he can deal with that or they need to break up. *not shocked in the slightest
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Three Olives posted:I don't, the only one I feel bad for is the boyfriend who was dumped because he made a completely reasonable request to the woman who he loves and she was just like gently caress you, I choose my co-dependent hosed up relationship with my brother over you. 
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Ham Sandwiches posted:I love the "international travel to see an ex" stories they're just great Open the relationship.
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Doggles posted:Long story short: my best bud (we'll call him Kale)
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Ham Sandwiches posted:I love the "international travel to see an ex" stories they're just great Telling her not to go is controlling. Letting her go is weak. The only response is to break up because even she'll continue doing poo poo like that. It's irreverent whether or not she's actually cheating or not.
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Yawgmoth posted:3O does not understand empathy or family relationships; goons shocked* There are options for paraplegics that would give him a fulfilling semi-independent life without making his sister's life and relationship completely revolve around him. He is being an rear end in a top hat who should find an appropriate housing situation instead of enabling his sister's savior complex and their co-dependency. His sister threw away a great relationship because the man she was going to marry made the completely reasonable request that maybe your brother should have his own place and you guys have some boundaries instead of me always playing second fiddle. It's bullshit, he is ruining his sister's life and she is too stupid to realize it.
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Ham Sandwiches posted:And rounding out the day, here's a story of I dont want to read a drat snooping story if there isnt at least two sentences of incredibly flimsy justification for the snooping in it
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Do Pick and Three Olives have jobs? How are they constantly posting?
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