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It's not kinship with older people it's called daddy issues
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With the 46-year-old, he's a recent widower so she's definitely a rebound.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 16:58 |
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Solefald posted:The age gap thing always bothers me a bit simply because I've always dated guys 10-15+ years older than me and I've never really had the same kinda issues I always seem to read about. It just sort of works and I often felt relationships with people of a similar age used to lead to way more weird emotional and power manipulation as what is usually described in this big age gapped relationships. As noted by Palpek there's a reason we've never had to post on reddit. *she does mock the poo poo out of me when I show her a story and point out the age gap and it's roughly the same as ours.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:08 |
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Darkhold posted:I'm 9 years older than my wife.* We had extensive talks about life stage/expectations/etc before getting married. Since we're not idiots we foresaw most of the issues and worked through the few that caused problems. Ten years and two kids later there's never been a moment where I thought there was an issue we couldn't work together on. How old were you when you started dating
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:11 |
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:12 |
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So when is he running for Senate?
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:21 |
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Blade Runner posted:How old were you when you started dating Yeah yeah I know. If I read about the details of my relationship too I'd think it was hosed up. Works for us for some reason though.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:22 |
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Blade Runner posted:If you're in an outright abusive relationship where your partner dictates the small minutiae of your life it would probably be better to leave that relationship, and so opening it is actually a good idea I don't have any jealousy or ownership in my relationship with my significant other, so you're saying that's bad?? 🤔
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:23 |
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Darkhold posted:19/28. So what are you going to do now that your Senate run has failed fridge corn posted:I don't have any jealousy or ownership in my relationship with my significant other, so you're saying that's bad?? 🤔 If you care so little about your significant other that you and her have no say whatsoever in one another's lives and you'd be cool if you found them loving someone else, yes that is bad
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:27 |
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fridge corn posted:I don't have any jealousy or ownership in my relationship with my significant other, so you're saying that's bad?? 🤔 Do you watch your SO bang your friends?
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:36 |
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Fridge corn is a really bad poster FYI
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:36 |
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If you start giving handjobs to other people is that cheating or an open relationship?
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:38 |
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fruit on the bottom posted:If you start giving handjobs to other people is that cheating or an open relationship? In this wild world of 2017 where everyone eats rear end, I assume hand beezies are basically how people shake hands these days.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:39 |
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Leon Einstein posted:How broke do you have to be to date a 45 year old as a 19 year old (and vice versa)? I was seeing a woman whose mom met her dad when she was 18 and he was 60. She liked to talk about her dad hanging out with Frank Sinatra. It's not as cool as you think that your dad is an octogenarian and you're 23. Of course her sisters had boyfriends that were like 15 years older too. It was just weird to see that behavior normalized. She went to college for music and he was decently connected in the city’s music scene. Doing shows with Blues Legends and being the Blues Legend barely pays the bills so his financial status as “backup sometimes studio musician for a blues legend” was bad enough she was basically his sugar momma.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:42 |
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Now now we all know my age gap is the only moral age gap. It's everyone else that's wrong and creepy.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:44 |
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I'm sure a lot of age gap relationships work out just fine, but in the land of r/relationships, the age gap is generally a big part of the heart of the problem. Take this one for example. Sure you can't just simply scream 'age gap' and suss out the core issue entirely, but it feels like a big contributing factor Me [41M] with my wife [31F] of ten years, how can I save my marriage? quote:I'm sorry this is so long. I'm writing this from a tempory account for privacy reasons.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:45 |
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A person of 31 years who marries a person of 21 years deserves nothing but ruin, and usually receives it.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:48 |
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Blade Runner posted:If you care so little about your significant other that you and her have no say whatsoever in one another's lives and you'd be cool if you found them loving someone else, yes that is bad Well first off I love my partner dearly, more than anything in the world. But we are together because we choose to be together. Everything we do is our choice. I wouldn't force or coerce her into doing something she didn't want to do because she's free to make that choice herself. Oftentimes I'll will choose to do something that I don't particularly want to do because she wants to do it, but again that is my choice and I make that choice because I love and respect her and she treats me the same way. If she decided to gently caress somebody else I would be distraught but she's free to make that choice. However, I know she won't make that choice because I choose to trust her completely. There is no ownership, only choice. There is no jealousy because there is no ownership.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:48 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:I'm sure a lot of age gap relationships work out just fine, but in the land of r/relationships, the age gap is generally a big part of the heart of the problem. Take this one for example. Sure you can't just simply scream 'age gap' and suss out the core issue entirely, but it feels like a big contributing factor Divorce is the only solution, this is so insane it makes me think he's making it up.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:49 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:I'm sure a lot of age gap relationships work out just fine, but in the land of r/relationships, the age gap is generally a big part of the heart of the problem. Take this one for example. Sure you can't just simply scream 'age gap' and suss out the core issue entirely, but it feels like a big contributing factor Oof. Dude, there is no saving that. Get the divorce.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:50 |
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There are all these words but all I take away from this is the two of them have a divorce edging fetish.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:50 |
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Darkhold posted:Now now we all know my age gap is the only moral age gap. It's everyone else that's wrong and creepy. It is within human nature to be less brutal on people if they are there to speak in their own defense instead of some formless Reddit thing, but it is legitimately weird and bad that you were pushing 30 and started a relationship with a literal teenager Maybe it worked out for you, but hoo boy is that still inherently hosed up and not something you should've gotten in in the first place
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:52 |
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That's so mrafantasy.txt the only surprise is he's named Ronnie instead of Chad.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:53 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:I'm sure a lot of age gap relationships work out just fine, but in the land of r/relationships, the age gap is generally a big part of the heart of the problem. Take this one for example. Sure you can't just simply scream 'age gap' and suss out the core issue entirely, but it feels like a big contributing factor Lmao just divorce her you idiot. Make sure to keep a record of all the stupid poo poo she does that indicates her desire to abandon her children, too. quote:She just lays there on her back, strictly missionary position, and it is “stick it in, and hurry up, you have three minutes” while she talks about other things, watches TV, or checks her phone. How the gently caress can you even have sex with someone doing that?
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:54 |
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Are we saying that from the standpoint that a 20 year old doesn't have the maturity to handle the age gap? Because I know a few people who started dating at 25/35 and that seemed to work out just fine.
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LadyPictureShow posted:
How does that even work?
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:56 |
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fridge corn posted:Well first off I love my partner dearly, more than anything in the world. But we are together because we choose to be together. Everything we do is our choice. I wouldn't force or coerce her into doing something she didn't want to do because she's free to make that choice herself. Oftentimes I'll will choose to do something that I don't particularly want to do because she wants to do it, but again that is my choice and I make that choice because I love and respect her and she treats me the same way. lol
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:56 |
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Vargatron posted:Are we saying that from the standpoint that a 20 year old doesn't have the maturity to handle the age gap? Because I know a few people who started dating at 25/35 and that seemed to work out just fine. 25 is finished college and has worked for 3-4 years. While 20 is not done with school yet. Those are pretty different.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:57 |
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fridge corn posted:Well first off I love my partner dearly, more than anything in the world. But we are together because we choose to be together. Everything we do is our choice. I wouldn't force or coerce her into doing something she didn't want to do because she's free to make that choice herself. Oftentimes I'll will choose to do something that I don't particularly want to do because she wants to do it, but again that is my choice and I make that choice because I love and respect her and she treats me the same way. Oh this is good.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:58 |
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fridge corn posted:Well first off I love my partner dearly, more than anything in the world. But we are together because we choose to be together. Everything we do is our choice. I wouldn't force or coerce her into doing something she didn't want to do because she's free to make that choice herself. Oftentimes I'll will choose to do something that I don't particularly want to do because she wants to do it, but again that is my choice and I make that choice because I love and respect her and she treats me the same way. You would be distraught because of your jealousy which stems from your feelings of ownership of her romantic affection These are general emotions and not necessarily bad things, in the same sense that feeling anger over someone hitting you is not a bad thing, it's just reasonable Really you're just going "I'm not gay I'm just a guy who enjoys having sex and romantic relationships with men and am uninterested in having them with women, what's gay about that"
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 17:58 |
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Blade Runner posted:It is within human nature to be less brutal on people if they are there to speak in their own defense instead of some formless Reddit thing, but it is legitimately weird and bad that you were pushing 30 and started a relationship with a literal teenager Maybe wait a few years and I will have a story like the one just posted. I'll be sure to share with the thread so you can all mock me.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 18:00 |
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fridge corn posted:Well first off I love my partner dearly, more than anything in the world. But we are together because we choose to be together. Everything we do is our choice. I wouldn't force or coerce her into doing something she didn't want to do because she's free to make that choice herself. Oftentimes I'll will choose to do something that I don't particularly want to do because she wants to do it, but again that is my choice and I make that choice because I love and respect her and she treats me the same way. This is one of those Poe's Law things where its so close to satire I can't tell if its real or not. In case its real: the blanket concept that "People have free will" is not really a description of how relationships work. "Trust" and "boundaries" are not a subversion of free will - they're opportunities to contribute to a whole thats larger than the two halves. When people set out to damage the trust and boundaries of a relationship, they're breaking down the foundations of that relationship. Being "not cool" with that sort of behavior has nothing to do with being controlling. If you're both carrying a box together, and the other person wants to drop their end to go run off to get a handjob, its natural and appropriate to object to that choice. In case its satire: you got me real good.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 18:04 |
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Admiral Ray posted:Lmao just divorce her you idiot. Make sure to keep a record of all the stupid poo poo she does that indicates her desire to abandon her children, too. Quickly, apparently... Somehow? Also I'm laughing that she's obviously loving other guys and the guy is either in denial about it, completely oblivious or so resigned he doesn't address it because it's so obvious. Doesn't cheating mean she gets nothing? And if he's been documenting all this college age poo poo he's probaby a shoe in for at least partial custody?
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 18:05 |
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Blade Runner posted:You would be distraught because of your jealousy which stems from your feelings of ownership of her romantic affection I would be distraught over the loss of a fulfilling relationship with a brilliant friend and companion. Where does jealousy factor into this?
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 18:05 |
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The broke brains are coming from inside the thread.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 18:06 |
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Outrail posted:Quickly, apparently... Somehow? In most states, bad behavior can swing the distribution of the marital estate from 50/50 in favor of the other party. If she's running around, he can probably get a good amount more than 50% of the estate because of it, but its highly unlikely that she gets absolutely nothing.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 18:08 |
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Coworker's (m38) wife (f30s) confronted me (f27) at my company's party. Boyfriend (M30) uncomfortable now, work uncomfortable.quote:Sorry if the title is confusing. I tried to write it as succinctly as possible. Thank you for reading this!
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 18:09 |
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My [37 M] wife [36 F] is thinking about ending our relationship (together 18y, married 12y). Desperate for advice. Relationships (self.relationships)quote:This might be rambling and messy, it's my first time posting in r/Relationships, so thanks in advance for any feedback. Your wife is gone dude, just and move on. She sounds like her anger is coming from more than two or three things over the last couple years, you've just started becoming aware of it. quote:She also handles all of the finances, and I frankly don't know if I make enough money to live on my own. She makes about 30% more than I do. Hahahaha you moron. You don't know how much money you make?
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 18:09 |
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fridge corn posted:I would be distraught over the loss of a fulfilling relationship with a brilliant friend and companion. Where does jealousy factor into this? Tell your programmer to either get back to work or quit his crushing job, he's obviously phoning it in.
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# ? Dec 13, 2017 18:09 |
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fridge corn posted:I would be distraught over the loss of a fulfilling relationship with a brilliant friend and companion. Where does jealousy factor into this? In fairness, I think you're talking about the kind of unfounded jealousy that comes from insecurity, and the other guy is talking about the kind of feelings of jealousy and insecurity caused by cheating. I think both can, and do exist.
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