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TyrsHTML
May 13, 2004

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Orgasms are good and jerking off is very cool and highly recommended but I agree with Pick (for once) that it shows very poor self-control and addiction issues if you can't go one single day without imploding if you don't masturbate.

Yea if you don't take some down time here and there your going to get a mangled dick.

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Panfilo
Aug 27, 2011
Probation
Can't post for 13 days!

Avenging_Mikon posted:

Like Bang Bus, and Bang Cab.

Maybe it's Amish porn? You know like Bang Buggy, Churn that Baby Butter, or Big Barn Boys?

kierrie
Jun 7, 2010

Brother Entropy posted:

hubby wants or either already has a young sidepiece and is preparing for the inevitable

or he just wants her to be so dependent on him that she'll never leave him - i'm going for the latter especially considering that he forced her to quit her job etc...

maskenfreiheit
Dec 30, 2004
i had a friend in college who hosed a lotta amish guys (from lancaster)

apparently they're pretty fit but smell terrible

Doggles
Apr 22, 2007

Oooooh, never thought to search for "amish" before...

I [26F] lied to my boyfriend [28M] about being Amish the first time we hooked up, and now I'm trapped in the lie.

quote:

Long story short, I was very romantically/sexually inexperienced before I met my boyfriend "Evan." I wasn't a virgin, but I was definitely a late bloomer and I'd only had sex twice before. I met him when I was 24 and liked him right away, but I wasn't interested in a relationship; I just really wanted to get more experience.

One night we started hooking up, but I panicked and got terrified that he'd be turned off by my obvious lack of experience. I made up a lie on the spot about how I had grown up Mennonite (not quite Amish but close) and how I had only left the church recently so I'd never had sex before. In retrospect I realize how stupid that was, but I was honestly never planning to see him again and I was just really nervous in the heat of the moment. We hooked up, it was good, and then we parted ways.

About 5 months later I ran into him randomly and we decided to go out again. That quickly led to us dating, and me falling for him. We've been together almost 2 years now, and Evan still thinks I grew up as a super religious Mennonite. (I did grow up in a mostly Amish/Mennonite town, but my family was not religious at all.) We don't talk about my childhood much, and I think he assumes it's a painful subject. He's met my mom briefly, but she and the rest of my fam live on the other side of the country. I told him the rest of my family also left the church.

So I know this makes me a terrible person, and the moment is long passed to tell him the truth. I just really did NOT anticipate it escalating like this, and by the time I realized that I really cared about him, it was sort of too late to come clean.

Evan is very easy-going and finds humor in the weirdest situations, so as naive as it may be, I'm kind of hoping that if he could understand the reason behind the initial lie, he might eventually think it was funny. Or not. I don't know what to do.

tl;dr: Told my boyfriend I used to be Mennonite/Amish the first time we hooked up (out of nerves), and the lie stuck. 2 years in and I don't know how to break it to him.

new phone who dis
May 24, 2007

by VideoGames
Morbid Hound

maskenfreiheit posted:

i had a friend in college who hosed a lotta amish guys (from lancaster)

apparently they're pretty fit but smell terrible

Goes for 3 hours but smells like a barn.

blarzgh
Apr 14, 2009

SNITCHIN' RANDY
Grimey Drawer

Bubblyblubber posted:

Seeing as the prostate is a muscle, my daily hours long jerk seshs count as Olympic level exercise.

Me [34 M] with my friend [38 M], he went into my bedroom without permission and told my friends about what he saw.

Dave sounds like a real NTTWATTN

Panfilo
Aug 27, 2011
Probation
Can't post for 13 days!

maskenfreiheit posted:

i had a friend in college who hosed a lotta amish guys (from lancaster)

apparently they're pretty fit but smell terrible

I keep hearing about this and it confuses me. Like I get that they probably do a lot of manual labor outdoors, but don't they also take baths/showers regularly?

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Panfilo posted:

I keep hearing about this and it confuses me. Like I get that they probably do a lot of manual labor outdoors, but don't they also take baths/showers regularly?

They don't wear deodorant.

maskenfreiheit
Dec 30, 2004

Panfilo posted:

I keep hearing about this and it confuses me. Like I get that they probably do a lot of manual labor outdoors, but don't they also take baths/showers regularly?

not having running water or ac is a factor

Lockback
Sep 3, 2006

All days are nights to see till I see thee; and nights bright days when dreams do show me thee.

Doggles posted:

Oooooh, never thought to search for "amish" before...

I [26F] lied to my boyfriend [28M] about being Amish the first time we hooked up, and now I'm trapped in the lie.

From Georgia in the new gender-swapped Seinfeld.

Bored
Jul 26, 2007

Dude, ix-nay on the oice-vay.

Pick posted:

That is strange, because if you tell someone on the first date that you love to collect taxidermy and you have hundreds and hundreds of pieces of it taxidermy, they actually pay attention. I have never had someone not react to that.

I have very few hobbies, and I generally don't bring them up very quickly because I figure no one cares. But they are usually pleasantly surprised when I bring up my bad art and show them since it's not bad at all. It's not great, but it is technically sound and makes people laugh.

Outrail
Jan 4, 2009

www.sapphicrobotica.com
:roboluv: :love: :roboluv:

Doggles posted:

Oooooh, never thought to search for "amish" before...

I [26F] lied to my boyfriend [28M] about being Amish the first time we hooked up, and now I'm trapped in the lie.

This is hilarious and I'd forgive on the condition I get to give her poo poo about it whenever I want regardless of company.

Yawgmoth
Sep 10, 2003

This post is cursed!

Outrail posted:

This is hilarious and I'd forgive on the condition I get to give her poo poo about it whenever I want regardless of company.
:same:

datajugend
Jan 15, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
every argument can be ended with "WHY DONT YOU JUST GO BUILD A BARN"

Captain Yossarian
Feb 24, 2011

All new" Rings of Fire"

Pick posted:

You know that most doctors are total charlatans, and will just tell you what you want to hear. If they didn’t, they basically just be screaming the words “you’re fat!” In your face every day.

Lol no I have prostatitis (which does NOT involve prostitutes somehow, despite the name). Trust me it was not a.. Fun... Trip to the doctor.

Bored
Jul 26, 2007

Dude, ix-nay on the oice-vay.

Submarine Sandpaper posted:

can you knitt with hound hair?

I'm gonna answer this because I used to groom dogs for a living.

Yes, you can. Every summer, when dogs were getting summer cut downs, we'd have people come by and ask to take the discarded fur. You can spin any hair into yarn.

Anne Whateley posted:

You absolutely can and people much more autistic than me absolutely do

https://www.rover.com/blog/things-made-out-of-dog-hair/

But note the texture of the dogs pictured, you need the fur to be long and poofy and the individual hairs should be a little bit wavy. It depends on your definition of hound because you'd be really sad if you tried to do it with, like, greyhound fur. Although somebody probably has. But it would need to be in a blend heavy on the wool and you wouldn't want to wear the result. Not that you'd want to wear any of it, though.

I stand corrected. Obviously greyhounds don't need summer cut downs, so I did not think of that. You might be able to make some decent yarn with basset undercoat, though. Undercoat tends to be super fluffy. It would just take a while to collect enough to spin a decent amount, I would think.

I always thought a pyranees fur scarf would be cool.

Bored fucked around with this message at 22:41 on Dec 27, 2017

Scathach
Apr 4, 2011

You know that thing where you sleep on your arm funny and when you wake up it's all numb? Yeah that's my whole world right now.


I'm a spinner and going to second that. Basically fluff just has to have long enough fibers. You can spin rabbit, too.

Hughlander
May 11, 2005

Captain Yossarian posted:

Lol no I have prostatitis (which does NOT involve prostitutes somehow, despite the name). Trust me it was not a.. Fun... Trip to the doctor.

Don’t try to have a medical discussion with the person who thinks you fart twice a week. Someone that repressed just isn’t worth it.

Outrail
Jan 4, 2009

www.sapphicrobotica.com
:roboluv: :love: :roboluv:
Is human hair a common medium?

Anne Whateley
Feb 11, 2007
:unsmith: i like nice words
It isn't common even as a weird yarn thing, but it's relatively common as art pieces.

Bored
Jul 26, 2007

Dude, ix-nay on the oice-vay.

Outrail posted:

Is human hair a common medium?

Looks like it only works well if you spin of with another common medium.

https://www.quora.com/Can-human-hairs-be-used-as-textile-fibre-Why-and-why-not

http://www.nativeearthteachingfarm.org/2008/05/spinning-human-hair.htm

I should let the actual textile workers answer these questions, but I find textile stuff fascinating, so I'll just share the Google results.

chumbler
Mar 28, 2010

I heard it takes like 7 10+ inch ponytails to make a cancer wig, so I imagine it would take a lot of people for enough hair to make a sweater.

Panfilo
Aug 27, 2011
Probation
Can't post for 13 days!

Admiral Ray posted:

They don't wear deodorant.

Do they shave?

Cough Drop The Beat
Jan 22, 2012

by Lowtax

Doggles posted:

Oooooh, never thought to search for "amish" before...

I [26F] lied to my boyfriend [28M] about being Amish the first time we hooked up, and now I'm trapped in the lie.

"The latest hit comedy coming to FX this fall: A White Mennonite Lie"

Patrick Spens
Jul 21, 2006

"Every quarterback says they've got guts, But how many have actually seen 'em?"
Pillbug

Panfilo posted:

Do they shave?

No

maskenfreiheit
Dec 30, 2004

Panfilo posted:

Do they shave?

younger ones shave, once married they grow a beard. both shave the moustache area, because apparently back in the day having an elaborate mustache was a military thing so as pacifists they did the opposite as a "gently caress you"

christmas boots
Oct 15, 2012

To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out
Biscuit Hider

Pick posted:

I can’t believe the people are so addicted that they can’t go a single day without an orgasm. Like, it is clearly an addiction, people get grouchy and weird. Might as well be using cocaine or whatever, at least you’ll get something done.

If I miss a day then I start worrying that I don’t love me anymore.

I (21M) snooped into my girlfriend's (20F) text messages to her best male friend (who had just confessed he's in love with her)

quote:

TL;DR: Girlfriend's best male friend confessed he's in love with my girlfriend. I find inappropriate text messages between them on her phone. She's mad at me for snooping in the first place.

So, I feel like I've hosed up here.

A few days ago, my girlfriend tells me that her best friend of 10 years (lets call him Jason) confessed that he's in love with her and has been for a while. I found this to be quite bizarre, but I appreciated that she told me. She did not make this a big deal, so I felt it was not really a massive threat to our relationship or anything. Just a guy confessing his love to a girl. Cool.

But later that evening, Jason, my girlfriend and I were out drinking with some friends. Jason is totally fine and polite and we all have a laugh, then he leaves. My girlfriend and I get progressively more drunk and she hands me her phone to look after. Next thing I know, I'm in the males toilets frantically reading text messages sent recently between Jason and my girlfriend. I found one particular message; my girlfriend telling Jason that she is "worth the wait", which in my mind meant that she was going to end our relationship and start a new relationship with Jason, and that this was a planned thing. I thought that Jason was going to have to wait until my girlfriend and I, inevitably, broke up and that she could then start a relationship with Jason instead.

I quickly put her phone back in my pocket and was shocked and angry. We had another drink at the pub and went home. She could obviously tell that something was wrong when we got home, so I confessed that I found some messages on her phone to Jason that I thought were worrying, a threat to our relationship and also inappropriate considering we've been together for 1 year now.

She told me that she does love Jason and that she will continue to flirt with him and other friends in this manner because that's just who she is as a person, a 'flirty' person. Then, understandably, she voiced her anger at me for looking through her text messages without her permission. I know I was in the wrong here, but I feel as though her sending messages like that to Jason was not appropriate either.

I guess I'm just looking for some advice as to how to move forwards from this; if anyone has been in a similar situation?

Thanks

Reddit is a healthy mix of

“Well you snooped, BUT...”

“The moment you found evidence your snooping became justified and any attempt on her part to call you on it is deflection.”

And one guy:

“You both betrayed each other so this relationship is done because you’re both dishonest. Both of you. All crimes are equal.”

Farmer Crack-Ass
Jan 2, 2001

this is me posting irl
one of my friends says that when he used to live in Great Falls, Montana, he was propositioned several times by Mennonites looking for someone to knock up their wives/daughters so as to increase the genetic pool or something like that

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost
Human hair, much like horse tail hair, is really finicky stuff. It is very slick and pulls apart easily. There are some ceremonial ropes made of human hair, however.

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich

Panfilo posted:

Do they shave?

no, having beards is kind of a big deal. a guy went to prison for cutting an amish man's beard

maskenfreiheit
Dec 30, 2004
do lady orgasms help you sleep pick?

its not even a sex thing anymore, it just like putting on pajamas or drinking a glass of vodka

maskenfreiheit
Dec 30, 2004

Farmer Crack-rear end posted:

one of my friends says that when he used to live in Great Falls, Montana, he was propositioned several times by Mennonites looking for someone to knock up their wives/daughters so as to increase the genetic pool or something like that

mennonites are a wild bunch i used to see them at sea world a lot

Outrail
Jan 4, 2009

www.sapphicrobotica.com
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fruit on the bottom posted:

If I miss a day then I start worrying that I don’t love me anymore.

I (21M) snooped into my girlfriend's (20F) text messages to her best male friend (who had just confessed he's in love with her)


Reddit is a healthy mix of

“Well you snooped, BUT...”

“The moment you found evidence your snooping became justified and any attempt on her part to call you on it is deflection.”

And one guy:

“You both betrayed each other so this relationship is done because you’re both dishonest. Both of you. All crimes are equal.”

"I found one particular message; my girlfriend telling Jason that she is "worth the wait", which in my mind meant that she was going to end our relationship and start a new relationship with Jason, and that this was a planned thing.
...
She told me that she does love Jason and that she will continue to flirt with him and other friends in this manner because that's just who she is as a person, a 'flirty' person."

That's not flirting you dumbass that's planning... it's kind of a red flag there buddy.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost
I do hope that anyone I meet in the future does not know about the entire hugh thing but whatever. I kind of figure if they see my post history it’s over anyway.

Panfilo
Aug 27, 2011
Probation
Can't post for 13 days!

maskenfreiheit posted:

younger ones shave, once married they grow a beard. both shave the moustache area, because apparently back in the day having an elaborate mustache was a military thing so as pacifists they did the opposite as a "gently caress you"

I meant the women.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost
An elaborate muff then

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich

Panfilo posted:

I meant the women.

typically not but there's no single set of things an amish is supposed to do, every community and even family has different behaviors

Hibbloes
Jun 9, 2007
Yo

Pick posted:

I do hope that anyone I meet in the future does not know about the entire hugh thing but whatever. I kind of figure if they see my post history it’s over anyway.

"my eyes lit up in horror at the thousands of messages. I was so wrong. She wasn't cheating on me, she was cheating the PATRIARCHY!"

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flick my Mr. Bean
Nov 18, 2014

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

I'm pretty boring. Most people are pretty boring. But the main difference between me and a genuinely boring person is that I'm not afraid to talk about my hobbies and interests. People like that "nice" girl are almost certainly too scared to talk about how much they enjoy Beyoncé or Breaking Bad because it might ruin the mood, which makes their dates completely devoid of personality and chemistry.

My interests are video games and trail running. Not too exciting but I've found that people can find just about any hobby interesting if you present it confidently but don't ramble on about it for too long.



My [27M] girlfriend [30F] and one of my best friends [27M] were gently caress buddies for a short period of time a couple years ago. Almost every time I hang out with the both of them, one or both of them brings it up. Quite frankly, I'm getting annoyed.

quote:

A few years ago Ally (my gf) and Billy (my friend) were gently caress buddies for a little bit. In total, they banged like six or seven times. I was around when this was going on. He's the type to fall hard for girls in his life so he was a bit crazy about her.. clearly wanted more than to just be FWBs. Her on the other hand, had zero interest in him romantically whatsoever. He was devestated and she had to cut him off. She says that he made her life a bit of a living hell for a while after this.

Shortly after, she began messaging me and showing clear interest in me. For the sake of not really wanting to be a lovely friend, I made it clear to her that I wasn't really interested. I did so by being pretty rude to her in her pursuit of me. lovely move but it was what it was.

Fast forward to about six or seven months ago, and her and I started hanging out. Billy had found a new girl that he's now pretty crazy for and is in a serious relationship with her. Turns out Ally and I really hit it off and have a lot in common. We mostly jive really well together. Ally and I have been together for close to six months now.

However, now, everytime that I'm hanging out with the two of them, it always seems to come up in conversation that they used to be gently caress buddies. Ally is the kind of girl that self-describes herself as having no shame. Billy is a loud and obnoxious guy with very little filter.

The first time we all hung out together, Billy went from "aw you two are so drat cute together" to declaring "don't forget that I hit that first" in front of Ally, me, and our friends. Awkward as gently caress. Ally got quite upset and was pretty disgusted that he would say that, feeling objectified by him saying that.

But the thing is, she seems to bring it up too. I've hung out with them both at the same time twice over the holidays and she's managed to bring it up both times. The first time we were at a bar and she was talking with me and a friend (who was the one who brought this conversation up) about being at a bar with more than one person they've slept with. They have a term for when that happens, and she said "well I'm doing that right now; I've hosed two guys in this bar". Me and Billy. I find it kind of lovely that I get lumped in with Billy as "a guy she's hosed"... She tells me she's so in love with me and that her heart and soul is mine, but her no shame no filter apparently prevents her from thinking before speaking. Billy also mentioned it when two other people were talking about fuckbuddies.. he said "I've only really had one gently caress buddies and it was..." Looks over to me and starts pointing at me. Later that night I talked to Ally about it and told her that I'm getting annoyed with the fact that I can't seem to be under the same roof as those two without the fact that they've hosed coming up in conversation.

Then again last night, Billy had people over for a get together and after having a fun night with everyone, we were on our way home and she says "I was talking about buttsex with Billy's now gf and she was like 'oh yeah well with Billy I'm always afraid, because, well, you know, he has a big dick."

she was bringing it up kind of because that was the first time Billy's gf had awknowledged that they used to bang, but I'm just getting a bit fed up with hearing about it to be honest. What benefit comes from you sharing this conversation with me? You can have your girl talk, whatever, but who benefits from her giving me the ins and outs of this conversation?

I honestly don't care that it happened, I was around when it was going on and knew how he felt and how she felt. I'm not threatened by him, she was completely devoid of feelings towards him then, and she's completely devoid of romantic feelings for him now, and he's moved on to a girl that he's crazy in love with now.

So why the hell can't they get through a night without reminding me that they were gently caress buddies for a month? My sentiment of the matter is move the gently caress on and stop bringing it up. I don't care to hear about it, I've told her how it bothers me. What I haven't told her is why it really bothers me... He's pretty disgusting, and it makes me less attracted to her when I'm reminded of it. It legitimately grosses me out that she brought herself to gently caress him. Iawknowledge that it happened, but I certainly don't need to be reminded of it from one or both of them every week.

I don't want to cut either one of them out of my life, and I also don't want to continue hearing about it. The thing is, when I've brought it up to her that it bothers me, she mostly just believes that I'm being too sensitive or insecure about it. But come on, what am I supposed to do? Laugh and reminisce to the time she used to gently caress my best friend on a weekly basis and say "hey it's just a part of who you are! Tell me more about it please!"

No. I'm annoyed with it. How would you deal with this? Because I'm personally done hearing about it and feel like I'm going to snap on the next one who brings it up.

TL:DR: gf of half a year and one of my best friends were gently caress buddies for a month a couple years ago. Almost every time I've hung out with both of them, one or both of them seem to casually bring it up in conversation with me. I don't care that it happened , but I'm sick of reminded about it so often. She says she has no shame and that I'm just being too sensitive.

They are still loving and keep bringing the past up as a way to alleviate the guilt without telling OP in the same way that people will sarcastically admit to things to feel better without actually confessing. One of my best friends is married to a girl I lived with for a while and had a semi-FWB situation with. She told him when they got together and we never brought it up again.

flick my Mr. Bean fucked around with this message at 23:58 on Dec 27, 2017

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