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Faffel posted:If you google necrotic buttslough it brings up that person's post history.
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If you touch me without my consent I will loving murder you! If you do it to prove some retarded point about why I should become comfortable with random strangers touching me I will double loving murder you!!  fruit on the bottom posted:My wife [28F] and I [30M] are rowing about my Brother-In- Law's gift: A painting of us in medieval costume I'm so mad I can't find this post. I physically need to see this painting. Show us the art! I really want to see what this guy does if he ever has kids and they produce art that's not up to his standards. "Sorry, kiddo, but it's my fridge and I can decorate it however I want. I'm peculiar about my decorations and this drawing of us playing football just doesn't meet my standards." girl pants fucked around with this message at 07:04 on Dec 29, 2017 |
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Dec 29, 2017 06:57
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Completely acceptable way to parent. Hugs are free, but if kids want a high five/fist bump/prominent display location for their art, they drat well better have accomplished something. I’m reasonably sure that isn’t damaging at all.
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just skimming this thread has made me REAL glad i am single and mingling with no mind toward anything serious as I apply for various post-bacc nursing programs
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I (24F) got really drunk, and my dad (55M) and his friends made fun of me and said horribly nasty things to me because they thought I was passed out. What the gently caress? How do I deal with this? Fire at my apartment so ive been staying with my parents. I went out with my friends, got pretty drunk, and came home with the spins. my dad had his friends over and right away noticed I was drunk. I sat in a chair and felt sick and sort of passed out slowly but was still pretty concious. I heard my dad and his friends laughing at how drunk I seemed, instead of like, you know, worrying about me being sick. I heard my dad say "shes always been a drunk, could never handle her liquor" (interesting, considering ive never drank in front of my dad). He also said "since she broke up with her boyfriend she put on a ton of weight, i suppose it always happens to women around her age, cant control what they eat". Which is also interesting, considering I only gained about 20 pounds in total (I am 5'11, 20 lbs is nothing). He then went on this sort of like, sexist rant about how modern kids turn into awful people in their 20s, using my 'recent behavior' as an example. He said "her apartment is hosed up because she did something stupid, so she just runs to her mom for help instead of helping herself" not even mentioning to them that my apartment caught on fire as the result of a fire in the NEXT apartment over. He said I was sensitive, sheltered, lazy etc. He said "I thought I raised her right, never thought she would be such a loving failure, I mean look at her right now, jesus christ". I literally earn more money than him at my job right now, but he has the audacity to call me a failure? While I was drunk enough that I was basically slumped over with my eyes closed, at a certain point I could have gotten up but I was scared for some reason to let them know I could hear everything. So I just stayed there pretending I was asleep. I am just so disgusted at my dad right now. I am actually genuinely astounded at the things he said about me, one, because most of it was just straight up lies, and two the fact that he would poo poo talk me in front of his friends that way?? What the gently caress? I honest to god thought my dad was a great guy but this just changes my entire opinion of him. Why would he do this to me? To brag to his friends? To make it seem like I am such a burden on his life? I have this horrible feeling in my stomach about him that I don't think will ever go away. He has always been such a great father to me and this just changes everything, I don't think I will ever forget those hurtful words he said. I honestly want to dead him, and never see him, ever again, but then I would be homeless until my apartment is fixed, and... well I just feel like he was such an amazing father before this moment. I have such conflicted feelings right now. How do I confront him about this? tl;dr: While I was passed out drunk, I heard my dad talk poo poo about me to his friends.
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Yeah as an autistic dude it hurts loving hard when you get a peek behind the curtain and realize what monstrous garbage people will say about you when they think they have privacy. Parents tend to hurt really bad. It took me a good number of years and some hard work on myself, but eventually you get good at faking it and using family for their resources and manipulating their condescension/pity. You really can't fight this kind of poo poo head-on unless you're truly prepared to burn bridges and salt the earth. I ended up doing that with more than a few family members. You never really trust again after that. That's the real problem. When your foundations get cracked that badly the only reason you let anyone else in is with the foreknowledge that they will turn out to be monsters too. The same way you are.
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maybe her memory is wrong? I can't imagine any parent with a good relationship would go that far, like saying my daughter is a big fat loser and failure who torched her place (said to an audience) is unusually cruel. maybe if you come home tanked and slump into a chair with your eyes closed for a long time you're not actually awake anymore? I've woken up from drinking and thought fights with roommates (that never actually happened) were real, imagined that I posted embarrassing stuff on Facebook when I didn't, stuff like that. Usually when I was anxious about other stuff too. If she stressing from the fire and moving home it could be that? Probably not, but it makes me feel better to think it was cause that situation really sucks :/ e: i mean look at it again, it's like a perfect laundry list of everything that this poor girl could be anxious about, perfectly outlined by her father as she's in a sleepy stupor - worried about drinking too much a recent breakup weight gain (20lb gain is not "nothing") "running home to mama" / moving back after independence a fire in her home general feeling of inadequacy in her mid-20s Kinda makes me think pop called her a lightweight for a laugh and then her mind took it and ran life is a joke fucked around with this message at 11:15 on Dec 29, 2017 |
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Dec 29, 2017 11:04
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lemon-lyme disease posted:Completely acceptable way to parent. Hugs are free, but if kids want a high five/fist bump/prominent display location for their art, they drat well better have accomplished something. Just have them make enough art that you agonise and discuss over what to put up where endlessly until your kids are so bored and sick of it that they'll agree to anything you want just so they can go do something else.
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life is a joke posted:maybe her memory is wrong? I can't imagine any parent with a good relationship would go that far, like saying my daughter is a big fat loser and failure who torched her place (said to an audience) is unusually cruel. maybe if you come home tanked and slump into a chair with your eyes closed for a long time you're not actually awake anymore? I don't really know which way Occam's Razor cuts on the choice between "some people are lovely garbage parents" and "maybe she was asleep". Based on this thread alone, I'd lean towards lovely garbage people.
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mind the walrus posted:Yeah as an autistic dude it hurts loving hard when you get a peek behind the curtain and realize what monstrous garbage people will say about you when they think they have privacy. Parents tend to hurt really bad. Or sometimes they'll say it right to your face, without the slightest bit of shame or self-awareness of how what they just said was horrifically offensive. (which is something when you have freaking autism and even you can tell it's hosed up. Then again, being compared to Forrest Gump hits a bit too close to home. That fucker was lucky as hell for a start.) People's attitudes towards even mild disability can be goddamn amazing when the mask drops. Perhaps there's an advantage to having to learn everything the hard way.
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life is a joke posted:maybe her memory is wrong? I can't imagine any parent with a good relationship would go that far, like saying my daughter is a big fat loser and failure who torched her place (said to an audience) is unusually cruel. maybe if you come home tanked and slump into a chair with your eyes closed for a long time you're not actually awake anymore? My dad is generally a good dad but he can say horrible, degrading things to us as a family and to his employees and he genuinely doesn't seem to remember them. I think some people just have this weird switch where they can go into full on talk down mode and view it in their head as it being like a coach talking poo poo to their team or something
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Dec 29, 2017 11:17
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Trying to get a fair assessment from your parents is impossible. Also, everyone lives in their subjective world and facts rarely permeate that (such as where a fire started). Your dad is a big freakin whiner and that's probably the lens through which he experiences his whole life.
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life is a joke posted:maybe her memory is wrong? I miss when I believed in human beings.
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Inescapable Duck posted:People's attitudes towards even mild disability can be goddamn amazing when the mask drops. Perhaps there's an advantage to having to learn everything the hard way.
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mind the walrus posted:Yeah as an adult I realized my instinct to lean into the 'gifted' nerdy autistic stereotype was partially a way to mitigate those attitudes toward disability. If everyone thought I was 'smart' they would either watch their mouths or keep them shut in the hopes of getting something. Then when I was an adult and hadn't made bank or done something really important the masks dropped and dropped hard. I'm sorry bud. Yeah that's not fun. I'm the black sheep of my family too. I like you as a poster if that helps a little.
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I appreciate that. It is definitely still a raw nerve. You get over it, but you never fully get over it. Oddly this digital septic tank is one of the few places on Earth I would expect people to understand. It's humbling to be right.
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Something I've noticed both in general and in this thread in particular is that sometimes, people can't just accept when somebody is a lovely person, so they invent these elaborate scenarios where the situation is totally different from what's obviously actually happening. I find it both hopeful and maddening -- hopeful because it's nice that people seem to want to see the best in others, and maddening because it's really painful when you open up to somebody about a hurtful thing someone else did or said and their response is to tell you it probably didn't actually happen that way. Especially when, like mind the walrus, it's something you've experienced over and over and are extremely familiar with. I could tell you guys about all kinds of horrible sexist things people have said to me and for every single one of those things, somebody i told about it minimized it or told me it wasn't sexism, i was just misinterpreting it. I think this is something people do to make the complainer feel better, but all it really does is make you feel like you aren't important enough to be taken at your word. This isn't meant to call you out, life is a joke, it's just a thought I've been having lately and your post made me think.
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This one got lost in the last few pages and I think it deserves some more attention. One of the best comments is "Your title of this post highlights the least concerning part of any of this.'La Brea Carpet posted:My[30] boyfriend still sleeps with his baby blanket/stuffed animals and that's only the beginning. I'm [38 F] a bit worried. quote:
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duck trucker posted:This one got lost in the last few pages and I think it deserves some more attention. One of the best comments is "Your title of this post highlights the least concerning part of any of this.' The few of us that commented on it all agreed ‘Jesus lady; you have to ask Reddit if it’s time to get the gently caress out of there?’ (Also, lol at the younger party in the age gap relationship being the utter loving creep)
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MR76R4gaC48
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Maybe the fat girl with no home who is leeching off her father actually is a fuckup and just refused to acknowledge that about herself? I know so many fuckups who don't consider themselves fuckups at all because literally everything is someone elses fault and they just had bad luck
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A Tad Ghostal posted:I was at my girlfriends house last night for dinner, and shortly after i had to go number 2. My Gf's brother was in the main bathroom, so i went to use the master bathroom. I was about to take a dump, and I remembered something my friend told me called AC Slatering. AC Slatering is when you take a dump facing backwards on the toilet, just how on saved by the bell AC Slater always sat backwards on a chair. So when I was taking a dump, my stomach was facing the back of the toilet, and my back was facing the door.
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Fartbox posted:Maybe the fat girl with no home who is leeching off her father actually is a fuckup and just refused to acknowledge that about herself? I know so many fuckups who don't consider themselves fuckups at all because literally everything is someone elses fault and they just had bad luck Earns more than her dad, her apartment burned due to her neighbors. gently caress you, moron.
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Fartbox posted:Maybe the fat girl with no home who is leeching off her father actually is a fuckup and just refused to acknowledge that about herself? I know so many fuckups who don't consider themselves fuckups at all because literally everything is someone elses fault and they just had bad luck why do i get the feeling you think her being fat is the main reason she's a fuckup and the rest is, for lack of a better analogy, icing on the cake?
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Earning money doesn't make you less of a fuckup you bozo and she never denies being a drunk with alcohol problems, just that she thinks her dad shouldn't be wise to it These confessions are always written from the perspective of the writer being a saint and thats probably not often the case
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fruit on the bottom posted:Is the fartbox your brain? i will admit any room i enter could be described as a box of farts
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Comes off as fake to me. Like even if he was taking a normal dump his plan was to still let his GF's mother walk in on him taking a poo poo? Just shout "Someone's in here!" Unless he's some sort of bathroom exhibitionist or something.
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if you're going to try fancy new toilet techniques at least do it in the comfort and privacy of your own drat home, jesus Also it's called a Butters, and you rest your book or phone on the cistern
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Please don't poo poo weird on your toilet, go outside and do it.
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Admiral Ray posted:Please don't poo poo weird on your toilet, go outside and do it. But thats where I leave my porn magazines
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No one else plays “Arc The Turd”? Oh.
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Fartbox posted:Earning money doesn't make you less of a fuckup you bozo and she never denies being a drunk with alcohol problems, just that she thinks her dad shouldn't be wise to it maybe you should try being less a fuckup than her or failing that less a fuckup than her dad
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Yawgmoth posted:for someone who is such a fuckup he can't even read a post fully you sure do have some dumbass opinions on what makes a fuckup
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I (24F) got really drunk, and my dad (55M) and his friends made fun of me and said horribly nasty things to me because they thought I was passed out. What the gently caress? How do I deal with this? Being a gently caress up is heritable, so since your dad is being a gigantic one right now by virtue of complaining to his friends about you in this way I'd say you're also probably at least somewhat of a gently caress up. That doesn't mean you should take this poo poo talking though,  and disown them so you aren't on the hook for nursing home costs.
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Fartbox posted:Earning money doesn't make you less of a fuckup you bozo and she never denies being a drunk with alcohol problems, just that she thinks her dad shouldn't be wise to it Your comments were that they were fat, leaching, and homeless. Two of those were discounted in the text you didn’t bother to read. Now you’re pretending she’s a gently caress up for completely different reasons than you originally said. You’re obviously just out to further poo poo on someone, so do everyone a favour and just write your posts in notepad, then leave them there. Then you can get your  burns in and we won’t have to scroll past your poo poo.
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If your apartment burns down, presumably including your stuff, that gives you permission to get sloppy drunk once imo
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Avenging_Mikon posted:Your comments were that they were fat, leaching, and homeless. Two of those were discounted in the text you didn’t bother to read. Now you’re pretending she’s a gently caress up for completely different reasons than you originally said. You're taking this poo poo a little personally.
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Avenging_Mikon posted:Your comments were that they were fat, leaching, and homeless. Two of those were discounted in the text you didn’t bother to read. Now you’re pretending she’s a gently caress up for completely different reasons than you originally said.
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