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i feel guilty as gently caress for the whole situation so I am want to do everything I can to be friendly and nice to a person who had given the last ten years of her life to me, and banked her life on me being there im not really the "gently caress you got mine" type
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i mean yeah its just videos of poo poo its not important but its easy for me to do and it makes her a bit happier
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Jan 7, 2018 11:12
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how is that going to work though? I thought nz internet was crap
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Jan 7, 2018 11:19
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It's not about fygm it's about being reasonable in where you draw the line after you've separated with a person. Sharing your  is not a reasonable thing divorcees do.
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Jan 7, 2018 11:20
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spankmeister posted:It's not about fygm it's about being reasonable in where you draw the line after you've separated with a person. Sharing your
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Jan 7, 2018 11:23
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Maximum Leader posted:how is that going to work though? I thought nz internet was crap eh well thats why I thought ftp would be good coz she could download it first spankmeister posted:It's not about fygm it's about being reasonable in where you draw the line after you've separated with a person. Sharing your eh well maybe idk maybe i have a different idea than you but regardless I am still living in the same house as her for the next month and a half and her mac air cant deal with a windows SMB share so for now at least she can enjoy her tv shows
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Jan 7, 2018 11:59
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echinopsis posted:eh well thats why I thought ftp would be good coz she could download it first I'm guessing less than 1 mbit upload? You'd want to stay away from smb for sure due to latency and throughput but either its going to look like poo poo with plex transcoding or its going to take forever to download over ftp with some crap tier ux.
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Jan 7, 2018 15:56
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Maximum Leader posted:I'm guessing less than 1 mbit upload? You'd want to stay away from smb for sure due to latency and throughput but either its going to look like poo poo with plex transcoding or its going to take forever to download over ftp with some crap tier ux. both sound more malicious than expected which seems more appropriate for a separation process making someone use open source software to acquire large files slowly is a death by a thousand cuts process in the best of times
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Jan 7, 2018 17:14
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RISCy Business posted:i tried that cable and it only gave me 1920x1080@60hz so i had to go out and buy a $100 active adapter rip. i guess it's just single link with a generic dvi plug
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Jan 7, 2018 17:23
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in a more serious response: if they have ios devices, you could use something like air video to transcode and also download various quality versions, though the clients are only ios and apple tv. its a few bucks but pretty painless and the servers can run on macos and windows and multiple machines so you can customize sources and tweak settings
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Jan 7, 2018 17:25
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Luigi Thirty posted:I broke X11. booting my system to single user mode resets it to runlevel 3 in a script somewhere. I can mount my disk booting from a CD and edit scripts and junk. ok so there are two things to consider: 1. what did you do before X11 blew up? 2. can you run Xsun manually and have a reasonable outcome? (i.e. get a blank X11 display with a mouse cursor)
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Jan 7, 2018 17:51
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echinopsis posted:her mac air cant deal with a windows SMB share why is this
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Jan 8, 2018 01:25
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Notorious b.s.d. posted:ok so there are two things to consider: i hosed up the resolution settings in OWconfig. i fixed it by having it fall back to the NVRAM setting.
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Jan 8, 2018 02:43
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Raluek posted:why is this coz macos is poo poo I found it with my mbp too like if yuo reset the mac it would work.. but then after going to sleep it would just simply refuse to access the shared folder. I looked into it and the end result was just "guess it doesnt just work" Agile Vector posted:in a more serious response: if they have ios devices, you could use something like air video to transcode and also download various quality versions, though the clients are only ios and apple tv. its a few bucks but pretty painless and the servers can run on macos and windows and multiple machines so you can customize sources and tweak settings i suspect the end result would be the same as plex. ive used the original airvideo and it was very good
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help. something i did made itunes look like this and i can't figure out how to make it normal again what do i do? edit: okay, clicking on the itunes icon in the dock made it normal again. :whew: prefect fucked around with this message at 15:27 on Jan 8, 2018 |
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Jan 8, 2018 15:22
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spankmeister posted:It's not about fygm it's about being reasonable in where you draw the line after you've separated with a person. Sharing your Yeah, it's a bizarre thing to even think about. You going to stay on as part time tech support for her as well?
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Jan 8, 2018 15:28
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Luigi Thirty posted:i hosed up the resolution settings in OWconfig. i fixed it by having it fall back to the NVRAM setting. i have never tried to touch this file manually there are utilities for this based on your framebuffer. use the fb-specific utility.
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Jan 8, 2018 16:28
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akadajet posted:Yeah, it's a bizarre thing to even think about. You going to stay on as part time tech support for her as well? some people remain good friends after a divorce. it seems odd, but it's a real thing
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Jan 8, 2018 16:30
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prefect posted:some people remain good friends after a divorce. it seems odd, but it's a real thing it's not a question of friendship, it's a question of boundaries. i am not unpaid tech support for my friends. nor do i try to set up VPNs to improve their tv consumption scenario even if you are successful at building a new kind of relationship with your ex-wife in the future, that needs to be a new relationship with its own boundaries separation means separation, not just paying two electric bills
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Jan 8, 2018 16:33
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Notorious b.s.d. posted:it's not a question of friendship, it's a question of boundaries. i am not unpaid tech support for my friends. i mean maybe it's because they don't ask very often but if one of my friends gave me a jingle and said "hey my computer's all fucky can you help me figure it out" i'd be happy to help but then one time one of my friends had his ~gaming laptop~ die on him and i loaned him my media PC for a few weeks so he could play WOW while he waited for a warranty replacement
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Jan 8, 2018 18:15
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It's time to let go echi
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echi, just make sure you're seeing some kind of a shrink to talk about this kind of thing. we're all brain geniouses here, but it's good to get more advice
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Jan 8, 2018 18:34
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what will echi's wife do without having his collection of cuckold porn available 24/7?
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Jan 8, 2018 19:29
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prefect posted:echi, just make sure you're seeing some kind of a shrink to talk about this kind of thing. we're all brain geniouses here, but it's good to get more advice maybe. ill probably just wait until it causes an issue with a future relationship lol akadajet posted:Yeah, it's a bizarre thing to even think about. You going to stay on as part time tech support for her as well? probably i mean, we built a life together, and largely on the presumption the other one was there. so anything tech related was my thing. so not only am i pulling half the income out of the household, i am also pulling all these skills and talents so it just doesnt take much effort for me to help on that front I guess I get what bsd is saying about new boundaries.. idk. i know i wouldnt be happy for example for it to be written into a divorce settlment that i was the tech support but while we are amicble i am more than happy to save her money because shes a good person and anything she doesnt spend on something like tech poo poo that I could far cheaper, is money shell spend on bettering the family (coz she is an amazing mother who always prioritises the kids and makes most of her (finiancial) decisiong to suit them).. and well, if ya wanna think about it that way, its an investment in my families future
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echinopsis posted:maybe. ill probably just wait until it causes an issue with a future relationship lol dude get yourself a therapist and maybe look up what divorce is on wikipedia
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Jan 8, 2018 20:50
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Jimmy Carter posted:dyndns is paid so use one of a hojillion scripts to update a Cloudflare DNS entry every 15 minutes get/transfer a domain name to google.com/domains and then use their free dynamic dns services
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Jan 8, 2018 21:22
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god, imagine using a registrar with worse customer support than literally every other registrar on the planet
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Jan 8, 2018 21:27
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anthonypants posted:god, imagine using a registrar with worse customer support than literally every other registrar on the planet im still unsure about the part where your pet project does not use gandi as registrar
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Jan 8, 2018 21:36
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anthonypants posted:god, imagine using a registrar with worse customer support than literally every other registrar on the planet What, network solutions?
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netsol is the worst. route53 is a registrar now so I might move all our poo poo there.
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changeip.com still does free dynamic dns fun fact, FB messenger will not let you send messages with freetcp.com in the body. haven't tried other dynamic dns names but wouldn't be surprised if they generally block dynamic names
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Farmer Crack-rear end posted:changeip.com still does free dynamic dns
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echinopsis posted:maybe. ill probably just wait until it causes an issue with a future relationship lol Are you still slipping her the d? 
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Farmer Crack-rear end posted:changeip.com still does free dynamic dns imo them blocking that tier of Basic poo poo is good
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Schadenboner posted:Are you still slipping her the d? lol no cinci zoo sniper posted:dude get yourself a therapist and maybe look up what divorce is on wikipedia were separting, not a divorce yet. mate why can't you accept things could still be co-amicable. im going to be seeing this woman multiple times a week when we transfer kids. and we made the decision that the current home is gonna be the main kids home, so i am prepared to invest into it and help into it, for the sake of the kids. thats not a bad thing https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_V0mZ4tB90Y
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echinopsis posted:lol no
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echinopsis posted:lol no mate you asked me a while back if I think you're a bad person I don't You're really loving dense though
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echinopsis posted:were separting, not a divorce yet. mate this is a legal and mental distinction, not an emotional one you're divorced. sorry that it happened this way. lots of possible reasons, including "got married too young" and "was incomprehensibly naive about romantic relationships" and also "took no one's cautionary advice, ever" but you should probably start fresh from this position instead of hanging onto the threads you have left.
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Sagebrush posted:this is a legal and mental distinction, not an emotional one Unless she wants you to keep slipping her the d.
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imma keep being nice and generous until its no longer needed or wanted people might call me a fool. but shes not the using type. and my kids are going to benefit. they matter the most
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