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I [23F] broke up with my BF [23 M] about a week ago, he won't accept it and insists we're soul matesquote:I've been dating this guy since last August. It was great at first and I had fun with him. I was a bit thrown off when he told me he loved me after a month together but I chalked it up to him being romantic. Now I see it should have been a red flag. He was really nice and easy-going, but that was about all he had going for him. By February I was starting to resent everything about him. I thought maybe my depression was causing me to detach, so I stuck it out.
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Haifisch posted:I [23F] broke up with my BF [23 M] about a week ago, he won't accept it and insists we're soul mates lol
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Jan 8, 2018 23:35
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Haifisch posted:I [23F] broke up with my BF [23 M] about a week ago, he won't accept it and insists we're soul mates Start loving a bunch of dudes, record it, and send him the videos
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Jan 8, 2018 23:38
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Haifisch posted:I [23F] broke up with my BF [23 M] about a week ago, he won't accept it and insists we're soul mates Nah you did it right, hes just a lovely dance partner.
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Jan 8, 2018 23:41
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Ride The Gravitron posted:All this internet porn seems to suggest otherwise Porn is for the emotionally childish  I [18F] recently met my birth parents [33F, 32M] and they want nothing to do with me. quote:I was adopted at birth by my adoptive parents who did the best they could to raise me in a home where I felt loved and appreciated. I was raised an only child in a small town in MD, with my mom and dad and younger autistic brother. Honestly, I never fit in with my family, and they always seemed much more invested in my brothers future then my own (he’s special needs, I understand he requires a lot of specific care). My parents were always VERY private about my birth parents, refused to tell me their names or ages, etc. Just that my birth parents were very good people that wanted the best for me, but weren’t ready to be parents... they gave me my birth records and the information they had about my parents when I turned 16. Turns out my bio parents wanted a totally closed adoption. I always find these interesting because I’m an adopted kid too, but I have zero interest in finding my birth family. It isn’t that I hate them or anything it’s just not a thing I ever even think about unless someone else brings it up. I mean, I’m a little curious so it’s one of those things I’d like to look into before I die but like if you give me the choice between that and shitposting here, well get ready for some low quality posting.
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Jan 9, 2018 00:03
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quote:I knew I would have to tell him otherwise I would say passive aggressive things (like with the coat) uhhh I think we've identified one of your problems
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Jan 9, 2018 00:14
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fruit on the bottom posted:I [18F] recently met my birth parents [33F, 32M] and they want nothing to do with me. This is sad AF because this girl was adopted and then the family had or adopted a special needs kid that probably sucked up a ton of time and resources. She started building up an imaginary relationship with her biological parents and when she found them they didn't want to be reminded of the choices they made years ago. Girl just wants some kind of love and attention that she's not likely to get 
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Jan 9, 2018 00:16
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I have a friend who found out him and his brother had a secret 3rd elder brother that was adopted in a similar situation. They sought him out and have reunited and he looks exactly like them. He ended up some state department dude working in the Obama White house and like half the pictures they showed me were of their secret brother chilling with Obama, so good work secret brother! Sometimes there's happy endings. But to find out that your bio-parents are a married couple with kids playing happy families but want nothing to do with you? owch.
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Jan 9, 2018 00:17
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Harry Potter set an unrealistic expectation for a lot of people. And yes I know the circumstances aren't exactly the same.
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Jan 9, 2018 00:24
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I can't imagine how she feels but if it was a closed adoption why on earth would you continue to look? You have to know it will end in heartbreak. There have been a few adoption stories on here and they all seem to end the same way. I see those posts on Facebook all the time of people looking for their parents/kid/siblings that were adopted in some manner and I can't help but think: did you ever think they don't want to be found? That they don't want to meet YOU?
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Jan 9, 2018 00:25
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What I imagine really stings is finding out you have toddler siblings and not being allowed to even see them.the popular kids posted:I can't imagine how she feels but if it was a closed adoption why on earth would you continue to look? You have to know it will end in heartbreak. There have been a few adoption stories on here and they all seem to end the same way. of course they want to meet me. I am the protagonist of life.
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Jan 9, 2018 00:26
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My [23 F] boyfriend [32 M] of three years has not introduced me to any friends or family. We recently had a big fight about it. Please help.quote:My boyfriend, let’s call him Chris, and I have been dating for three years. We met while I was working as a server in a high-end restaurant. He came with several men, who I assumed were friends or colleagues, and they had an EXPENSIVE dinner. He was very smiley and flirtatious with me, and he not only paid the entire tab, but also left me a very generous tip and his phone number. She's the side chick, right?
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Jan 9, 2018 00:36
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fruit on the bottom posted:Porn is for the emotionally childish
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Jan 9, 2018 00:42
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fruit on the bottom posted:Porn is for the emotionally childish This seems like a nightmare scenario for the parents who gave the child up for adoption. Nothing from this narrative seems like they did anything wrong and now they have an 18 year old threatening their jobs.
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Jan 9, 2018 00:43
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cowofwar posted:Are these ages wrong or were her parents 14 and 15 at birth? It would explain why her parents told her that her bioparents just weren't ready to be parents yet. Still wouldn't be the youngest parents I've known.
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Jan 9, 2018 00:45
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Regarding secret girlfriend, she really buried the lede on that one. Smacking your girlfriend when she accuses you of treating her like a whore kinda proves her point.
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Jan 9, 2018 00:45
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fruit on the bottom posted:Porn is for the emotionally childish harsh maskenfreiheit truth: if you had two loving adoptive parents you did just fine, and tracking down some people who took the time to make sure you ended up in that situation and berating them for daring to gently caress without having a child (something this child, and everyone else on the planet does) isn't a good look. not everyone gets two functioning BIO parents and insinuating you were entitled to a tranquil, perfect and biological childhood is dumb. pick two at best. im not adopted
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Jan 9, 2018 00:46
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quote:Then he really flew off the handle, yelled at me and smacked me across the face. I felt horribly. Very few situations where these sentences make sense together.
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Jan 9, 2018 00:49
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cowofwar posted:Are these ages wrong or were her parents 14 and 15 at birth? Yeah, from what she says they had her as the result of a pot-fueled accident, adopted her out, went their separate ways and reconnected with each other years later. Sucks to be her, but she's threatened them to get them to meet her and she's wondering why they don't seem terribly keen on playing happy families with her now? This is the plot of the next Gone Girl-ish bestseller, isn't it?
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Jan 9, 2018 00:54
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Runcible Cat posted:Yeah, from what she says they had her as the result of a pot-fueled accident, adopted her out, went their separate ways and reconnected with each other years later. Oh, drat. I missed that she threatened to out them because they wouldn't meet her. Seems like a weird threat. "Guess what! Your coworkers, Tom and Susan?! They made a responsible choice and gave a baby up for adoption in a bad situation! That's right!" Also, I like how she's made herself out to be a loving psycho to her bioparents. Like, imagine that 18 years later, your child shows up and the first thing they do is try to blackmail you. flick my Mr. Bean fucked around with this message at 01:02 on Jan 9, 2018 |
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Jan 9, 2018 00:59
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Runcible Cat posted:Yeah, from what she says they had her as the result of a pot-fueled accident, adopted her out, went their separate ways and reconnected with each other years later. it'd be pretty hilarious if they got no contact orders. bonus: they can shoot her if she shows up in person in violation of such an order in civilized states.
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Jan 9, 2018 01:00
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flick my Mr. Bean posted:Oh, drat. I missed that she threatened to out them because they wouldn't meet her. Seems like a weird threat. "Guess what! Your coworkers, Tom and Susan?! They made a responsible choice and gave a baby up for adoption in a bad situation! That's right!" it's technically a criminal offense (extortion or blackmail, i forget) forcing someone to do something they don't want to by revealing information is not legal and you probably shouldn't do it over loving facebook messenger
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Jan 9, 2018 01:01
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Guess I missed out on all the pot-fueled sex parties in grade 10.
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Jan 9, 2018 01:02
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cowofwar posted:Guess I missed out on all the pot-fueled sex parties in grade 10. I love how they kept saying pot-fueled. It was that drat marijuana! Teenagers would never have sex sober! maskenfreiheit posted:it's technically a criminal offense (extortion or blackmail, i forget) Getting arrested for threatening to reveal shocking but otherwise unremarkable information is the worst crime you can commit.
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Jan 9, 2018 01:04
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Yeah her acting like she's entitled to meet the bio-siblings while they're young is pretty hosed up too, like how in the gently caress do you explain something like that to a little kid, why do you get to turn their lives upside-down? This reminds me of the lady Reddit dragged a while back because she refused to meet her biochild who'd been a product of rape and adopted out closed.
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Jan 9, 2018 01:05
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13Pandora13 posted:Yeah her acting like she's entitled to meet the bio-siblings while they're young is pretty hosed up too, like how in the gently caress do you explain something like that to a little kid, why do you get to turn their lives upside-down? This reminds me of the lady Reddit dragged a while back because she refused to meet her biochild who'd been a product of rape and adopted out closed. hot take: not introducing someone who won't respect boundaries to children is good
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Jan 9, 2018 01:06
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13Pandora13 posted:Yeah her acting like she's entitled to meet the bio-siblings while they're young is pretty hosed up too, like how in the gently caress do you explain something like that to a little kid, why do you get to turn their lives upside-down? This reminds me of the lady Reddit dragged a while back because she refused to meet her biochild who'd been a product of rape and adopted out closed. I'm not defending her but I can kind of see how finding out that you have siblings that you can't see or meet might be hard to deal with. Probably one of the reasons they didn't want to meet with her in the first place.
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Jan 9, 2018 01:07
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flick my Mr. Bean posted:I'm not defending her but I can kind of see how finding out that you have siblings that you can't see or meet might be hard to deal with. Probably one of the reasons they didn't want to meet with her in the first place. If the siblings were older and could understand what was happening, why their parents made the decision they did, etc. then sure. This is not the case in this situation.
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Jan 9, 2018 01:09
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Bio mom said it was fine for her to reach out to the extended family, so I think that might possibly have been on the table at some point when they were older. Maybe not so much no
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Jan 9, 2018 01:11
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Bio mom probably felt like the extended-family ship had sailed, since the kid first found the grandma.
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Jan 9, 2018 01:13
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Jan 9, 2018 01:15
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13Pandora13 posted:If the siblings were older and could understand what was happening, why their parents made the decision they did, etc. then sure. This is not the case in this situation. Kinda confused on what you mean. I was just saying that I could see not being able to meet my siblings being really hard and it might be one of the many reasons the bioparents didn't want to meet OP. They knew it would be harder for everyone if she knew anything about them.
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Jan 9, 2018 01:18
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Rubellavator posted:Even with the blackmail, those are some really cold people. Nothing between them will ever happen unless the parents want it to, best she can do is provide them a way to talk to her and move on. quote:Biodad said he was so young when I was born, and he honestly never thought he’d see me again, that it feels unreal. I was shocked at how much I looked like him, I could literally be his twin. He was quiet through the whole thing, seemed much more preoccupied with how biomom’s was feeling/talking about them what I had to say.
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Jan 9, 2018 01:19
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Rubellavator posted:Even with the blackmail, those are some really cold people. Nothing between them will ever happen unless the parents want it to, best she can do is provide them a way to talk to her and move on. Why? They don't owe her anything. Tangenting slightly but this is why a lot of people choose abortion over adoption, the idea that you can't ever move on from your life and you'll forever "owe" something to someone you wanted nothing to do with is super unappealing when you want to finish growing up, move past a trauma, etc. Their obligation ended with placing her in a safe and loving home which by all accounts, they did. flick my Mr. Bean posted:Kinda confused on what you mean. I was just saying that I could see not being able to meet my siblings being really hard and it might be one of the many reasons the bioparents didn't want to meet OP. They knew it would be harder for everyone if she knew anything about them. I'm saying given the situation and how much they didn't want to see her at all in the first place, she shouldn't have even asked. I can empathize with wanting but wanting at the cost of the the children's stability is unresonable.
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13Pandora13 posted:Why? They don't owe her anything. Tangenting slightly but this is why a lot of people choose abortion over adoption, the idea that you can't ever move on from your life and you'll forever "owe" something to someone you wanted nothing to do with is super unappealing when you want to finish growing up, move past a trauma, etc. Their obligation ended with placing her in a safe and loving home which by all accounts, they did. they could have killed (aborted) her. this is why you never show mercy. point a gun at someone then put it away, all they do is WHINE
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Jan 9, 2018 01:22
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13Pandora13 posted:Why? They don't owe her anything. Tangenting slightly but this is why a lot of people choose abortion over adoption, the idea that you can't ever move on from your life and you'll forever "owe" something to someone you wanted nothing to do with is super unappealing when you want to finish growing up, move past a trauma, etc. Their obligation ended with placing her in a safe and loving home which by all accounts, they did. Their obligations are absolutely over, and they don't owe her anything. It's just very hard to imagine them not having some sort of emotional anything in response to her contacting them.
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Jan 9, 2018 01:30
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Jake Mustache posted:A similar incident happened to a Florida Panthers player whilst playing against Buffalo a few years back. Richard Zednik. It wasn't as bad but you could still see the stream of blood following him into the locker room.
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Jan 9, 2018 01:31
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Rubellavator posted:Their obligations are absolutely over, and they don't owe her anything. It's just very hard to imagine them not having some sort of emotional anything in response to her contacting them. they should channel the sadness into anger, and egg her car if she shows up again. or maybe pre emptively to assert dominance.
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Jan 9, 2018 01:38
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [23 F] boyfriend [32 M] of three years has not introduced me to any friends or family. We recently had a big fight about it. Please help. Oh yeah. "Travels a lot for work" is a dead giveaway, he's got a real family somewhere.
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [23 F] boyfriend [32 M] of three years has not introduced me to any friends or family. We recently had a big fight about it. Please help. One of them, yes.
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