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This is actually a pretty boring post with a simple obvious answer ( ) but I enjoy the part where he apparently quit his job to lift weights:[Relationships] I [23M] don't think I love my fiancee [22/F] anymore. quote:Throwaway because she's a redditor and most likely knows my username.
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girl pants posted:This is actually a pretty boring post with a simple obvious answer ( What, you want him to set up boundaries so he can have a relationship and also have a reasonable workout routine?! 
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La Brea Carpet posted:I [19/M] overheard my girlfriend's [24/F] friends who were talking about me and found out that they secretly hate me. quote:They said I wasn’t “good enough” for her and that I was an immature kid. Well, they aren't wrong
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girl pants posted:This is actually a pretty boring post with a simple obvious answer ( He does say that he's in school and quit his job to focus on his education and his fitness, but without knowing what the split is there I don't know to what degree this guy is nuts or not Like if he's a full-time student living off money he's saved up, cool, but if he's taking like one class and spending several hours a day at the gym and has no money then, welp
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My sister [19F] caught me [16M] crying, and started shouting at me and hitting me. u/wascrying My sister and I live at home with our parents, and things are usually fine, its not like we fight all the time or at all for that matter. And I'm not even one to cry usually. Last night Mary drove out to a party with her friends. It was really late at night and she wasn't back when she said she would be, and she wasn't answering her phone. It was like 4 am and she said she'd be back around 10pm, and she hadn't answered the phone all night to tell us she'd be late or anything. Mary eventually came back in her car like half an hour later, and she was looking kind of drunk and dazy, and she had been driving. She got into a huge argument with my parents, and there was a lot of shouting because they thought she'd been drinking and driving. She turned to me and started shouting and swearing, "what the gently caress are you looking at, stop sitting there silent as if you're perfect". I went to my room and started crying, the whole night was an emotional ordeal for me, I'm not used to it and I'm not the sort of person who cries easily at all. She knocked on my door and came in, and was nice and apologetic, she was at first like "I'm sorry I shouted at you". Then she noticed I was in bed crying, and she was like "Are you crying? What the gently caress is wrong with you? Are you a little baby?" She started shouting at me, and hitting me and pulling my hair. I just tried to hide my face and say sorry, but it seemed to just make her angrier. She was saying like "Are you a man or a little girl? Stop crying, be a man." I eventually forced myself to stop crying and said sorry again, she called me a loser and slammed my door. I could barely sleep, I felt terrible and awful. Next morning Mary headed to work early, she left a note on my desk that just said "love you" and had a heart next to it. I'm not sure if it was an apology or anything but it kind of seemed like it. I don't know what to do. Why would she snap at me like that? How should I respond, what should I do? TLDR: sister caught me crying in my room, started shouting at me and hitting me. I don't know what I should do, I feel terrible.
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My (26M) wife (24F) ends up crying every time I suggest having sex. u/Thethrowingawayone22 (Using a throwaway account since my wife frequents this subreddit) Let me start by saying I love my wife very much. We have been married for 6 months now and have been together for almost 5 years. Aside from a lack of sex in our relationship I would have to say that I am very happy with our marriage. When we first started dating we were having sex constantly, ever time we were together and sometimes multiple times a day. Then when we started living together things slowed down a little, work and stuff getting in the way and all. Skip ahead to more present days and I'm lucky if we have sex once a month (we didn't have sex at all in October). The usual reasons were stuff like too tired, not in the mood, or on her period. Now we get to the crying part, cause whenever she turns me down I accept it and admittedly get a little down and frustrated (which happens when you get rejected), she noticed this and starts to feel bad and frustrated and ends up crying because she turned me down, which in turn makes me feel like an rear end for making her cry. This has happened so often I'm starting to consider giving up on trying for sex. We have had talks about this a few times before, but they almost always end in tears. I love her very dearly, and more than anything else I miss the closeness and intimacy of sex. Thanks for taking the time to read my post, any advice would be greatly appreciated, but the sheer fact of letting this all out has made me feel a little better. Tl:dr- wife feels bad for turning me down for sex and ends up crying, putting a strain on the intimacy of our relationship.
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My[30m] fwb[29f] broke down crying saying that she "is wasting away her life sucking dick" u/KallToArms I been with my fwb Kelly for over two years now. In the meantime I am pretty sure we both have dated and seen other people. For me she has been my consistent, drama free girl.We both do pretty well for ourselves we are urban professionals, no kids etc. Everything prior to this has indicated she is a happy person. Wednesday night she ended up coming to my place, she brought over a pintrest recipe that she wanted to make together. We made food, had sex, she wanted to spend the night. I told her that she can spend the night on Saturday that I have work tomorrow. She insisted, I told her it isn't happening. She told me alright and headed off to the bathroom. I am on my computer and then I hear crying, and she locked herself in the bathroom having a breakdown. She starts crying how she is a failure in life, that her sister has a family, and she is wasting away her life sucking dick and a bunch of other stuff. She sobbed for like an hour and a half, and then I walked to her to her car. She texted me the next morning saying that she was sorry about it. I called her she declined saying that she is still emotional and didn't want to talk. I sent her a couple texts she didn't reply to but then she texts me out of the blue about an hour a go asking if we are still on for Saturday. I really don't know whats going on with her. I am friends with her sister on fb, if I was I would contact her sister, but Kelly might be embarassed and not want to talk about it. Legitimately I don't know what to do here, Kelly seems to just want to forget this whole break down like it never happened. I am kind of worried about her and I really don't want her to do anything crazy in my place. tl;dr- fwb had a break down, I don't know what to do, she still wants to see me tomorrow. question about my account. it says that my post was 4 hours ago but I only made this account an hour ago what's going on?
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Ride The Gravitron posted:My sister [19F] caught me [16M] crying, and started shouting at me and hitting me. I assume Mary is the sister, but aince he never says that Id like to assume its a completely unrelated incident to the one hes asking help for.
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[UPDATE] I [27M] think my fiancee [27F] might be cheating u/throwaway9078096 Original post: https://iy.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3fp32i/i_27m_think_my_fiancee_27f_might_be_cheating/ First off, I wanted to thank everybody who commented on my original post. Most of you guys wanted me to call the number Sandra was constantly texting and I honestly was about to. She came home an hour after I had posted the original post. I was almost asleep by then and I guess she thought I was asleep. She took out her phone and unlocked it. I saw her password. Eventually she fell asleep and I unlocked her phone and searched the number on her phone. The number belonged to some guy named Jeff and the text messages were extremely sexual. Some examples: From Jeff: I loved the way you bounce when we gently caress. From Sandra: I love it when you go down on me. Those were just 2 examples of the sexts between them, but there was a hell of a lot more. I screenshotted a ton of them and sent them to myself. At this point, I was done with her. I confirmed that she was cheating on me. So I decide to snoop some more and looked through her photos. They were a couple of photos of her kissing and cuddling with some guy, who I assume is the same guy she's been cheating on me with. Of course I also send those photos to myself. But what threw me over the edge was a video of her (I assume one of her friends were recording this) giving some guy head. I almost lost it and woke her up to confront her, but I calmed down. Of course, I also sent the video to myself. At this point I went for a walk for nearly 2 hours. Mind you this is the middle of the night and the area I walked through isn't the safest of areas. Still, I didn't care. I was so angry. Eventually I calmed down enough and went back to our place. I slept for maybe 3 hours and woke up. I printed off some of the sexts and photos and waited for her to get up. She finally got up at about 6AM. When she finished eating breakfast I slammed the text messages on the table. She looked at me with horror. She started crying and shaking. I took the engagement ring from our dresser and walked out. I came back a couple of hours later and she wasn't there. I called my landlord and told him we wouldn't be renewing our lease. I told her I was moving out and to never contact me again. I packed all my poo poo and moved in with a friend. So yeah that's it. She was cheating on me and I'm done with her. She's been blowing up my phone begging for a 2nd chance, but she's not getting one. tl;dr: Sandra is a cheating bitch. She can go gently caress herself
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Ride The Gravitron posted:My (26M) wife (24F) ends up crying every time I suggest having sex. Good job you used a throwaway! No way your wife, who frequents this subreddit, will spot those incredibly precise details!
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Ride The Gravitron posted:My sister [19F] caught me [16M] crying, and started shouting at me and hitting me. Sorry I shouted at you earlier...what I meant to do was this *physical assault*  sis
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Log in / Register r/relationships◉ Locked Post ◉ Well some other guy just took my [18 M] g/f (now ex I guess) [17 f] virginity. u/yl23 WARNING wall of text incoming. I don't even know why I'm typing this. I am so heartbroken that I can't see a promise of tomorrow. Lexi (not her real name) and I have been together all of our lives, literally. Our Mothers are best friends and were sorority sisters. She and I are actually only 4 months apart in age, I just turned 18 and she will in October. We have been friends since we were kids and we became romantically involved with one another at 14. We have been with each other almost every day since. We are very young so obviously we both know that marriage wasn't on the immediate horizon but we have talked and planned and dreamed about it for years. Both of our family's attend the same church and through that we both decided that we would wait at least until we were out of our parents homes to actually go all of the way. Believe me it wasn't always my idea and there was more than one time I asked to break that but she is the one who held firm. God I feel like such a loving loser just typing that. We even both got into the same college to attend this fall and we were going to try and match up our schedules as much as possible. That is all gone to poo poo now. She had a chance to go to a 2 week leadership conference this summer and it was a great opportunity for her. Of course I was going to miss her and be sad that she was gone but what is 2 weeks right. RIGHT? My cousin, also a girl, was at the same camp and Lexi new her very well so they were planning on rooming together and hanging out. First couple of days there things seem fine. We text and Skype during the day and at night before she went to bed. Then day 3 she only text me a couple of times but tells me she is very busy with her schedule so I tell her that I'm fine if she just wants to Skype with me at night before we go to bed and I will be fine. A couple of days go by and I get radio silence from her. She isn't answering my text or my Skype request. I get a text from my cousin which made me start to hyperventilate. She tells me that a guy from the camp had been hitting on my g/f hot and heavy since almost the first moment they arrived. She said my g/f initially gave him the cold shoulder but over the past two days she has not seen my g/f a lot and she has been coming back to their room later and acts like she immediately falls asleep. So I text Lexi telling her that I am very concerned that she isn't contacting me and want to know if there is anything wrong. Nothing. Then finally the next day I get another text from her telling me that she is sorry for not contacting me, she has been very busy and has been involved in a leadership group in the evenings so she hasn't been able to Skype with me. (yes I know that is bullshit, believe me I know). Time goes on and she now gives me a few random meaningless text during the day talking about nonsense like nothing is going on. She does it at time she knows I can't respond (working a summer job) and doesn't respond when I try and text her. My cousin text me telling me that she is acting very sketchy and sends me a photo of her and this guy standing and talking. The photo itself is not incriminating because it is just them standing and talking with several other people around. However my cousin wanted me to see who he was. The last three days of their camp my cousin said that she had changed personalities altogether. She went from being happy and bubbly to being withdrawn and she said she could hear her crying at night. Once again she is radio silent with me. My cousin finally asked her on the last night there what was wrong with her and all she would tell he is that she had really messed up and didn't know what to do but never told her what. My cousin said that she never saw her and that guy together the rest of the camp before they left. She got back Tuesday night and she texted me that she was home but was going to bed as she was tired and would talk to me Wednesday. I had to work till 7 on Wednesday so I said I would come over after work. She texted back saying she was going with her family to her grandma's and she was just going to come over today (Thursday). She got here at my house around 1 and my entire world crumbled on me at 1:15. She tried initially to act like nothing was wrong but when I hugged her I could feel her trembling and she started crying. She told me that while she was at camp she had developed a relationship with someone from out of state and that they had been hanging out the first week and a half they were there. Obviously I was upset and showed her the photo on my phone. She went very pale and wanted to know how I got that, then she remembered my cousin was there and she started sobbing asking me how long I knew. I told her that when she stopped texting me I got concerned but thought she was just busy. At this point in time I had no idea how far things had gone. I thought she developed a crush and that she liked him or spent time with him and while I didn't want to think about it I thought there might be an off chance she might kiss him. I was not prepared for what she told me. I asked how far things had gotten and she started crying even harder. I started to panic and asked again. She then told me between tears that they had gone all the way. But then threw in that it was only once, like I was supposed to be okay with that. I wish I could tell you that I did or said something manly here but I just started crying harder than she did. How could she do this to me? Why would she do this to us? When I started crying she tried to come and hug me but I pushed her away and told her not to touch me. I then told her to leave and she started begging me to not do this to let her stay and talk about this. I honestly could not understand what she was saying for the most part. Between her crying and my crying and honestly my head was a blur. But she kept telling me she loved me and that she was so sorry and would do anything to make this up to me. I should have picked her up and threw her out but I didn't. I just sat there and cried for almost a half hour. All the while she is talking and trying to hug me, which I would not allow. Then she did the one thing that actually made me stop crying. She offered to have sex with me. I simply told her that she obviously did not understand that we were done, she killed us and I had no desire to be with her in any capacity. That I waited for her and she stabbed me in the back the first moment she got a chance. Then I asked why him and not me, why was I punished all of those nights and this guy in less than a weeks time was able to get to where I was not able to go for all of these years. She couldn't answer, she just set there. I then said it was time to go as there was nothing else for us to say. She wanted to know what we were going to tell our family's? Like I said this wasn't a relationship that was hidden. We set together at church, all of our friends are tied together and our family's to this day frequently go to each others houses. I agreed to not say anything yet till we can come up with something. I have no idea why I agreed to that, I think I just had weak moment. But there is no way I can hide this. So now I have to decide if I'm going to just say we broke up (which no one is going to believe) or if I tell the truth. Right now I'm leaning towards the truth. I didn't do anything wrong here and I do not want to get any poo poo or blame if people get upset by us not being together because this is going to change our lives. I don't want to see her again. Honestly if I could go the rest of my life without seeing her I would be happy. But Sunday is two days away and everybody will see everybody and most like will try and go out after church to lunch. But on a more personal point, I am devastated. I loved her so much, I never saw myself with anyone else and now that is over. All I can do is see them in my mind whenever I close my eyes. Obviously I don't measure up. She has shattered whatever self esteem I had. The kick to this is I learned tonight from my cousin that this guy was with another girl by the end of the camp. So in other words he got what he wanted and left her. She sent me a video email about two hours ago. She was begging me to give her another chance and finally closed by saying that if I couldn't forgive her or be with her that she really wanted to be friends because she couldn't imagine her life without me in it. Is it wrong that I actually hate her right now. I mean viscerally hate her. I feel like she just robbed me of my entire high school life. Sorry for going on for so long. tl;dr: g/f who made me agree to no pre marital sex goes to a leadership conf. and give virginity to random guy who then proceeds to dump her. She is begging me to not end things with her but its way to late for that as I hate her now. Complications aplenty because of our family's being so tightly interweaved.
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Ahhh, young love 
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Dude just walk up during church and say you forgive a known jezebel, her name, and hope that the community can forgive her too then sit back down. Christ young people do you not get revenge???
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the young MRA emerges fresh from his high school cocoon, newly emboldened and full of hate
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Log in / Register r/relationshipsNon-Romantic Me [19M], my sister [21F] found a video of our mom [45F] she thinks its of her cheating, but I think it might not be. We can't agree what to do with it. u/ismomcheating My sister found this video on my mom's laptop. I think she was using her laptop for some school stuff and she must have gone snooping through her personal files. She found this video, its from a few years ago according to the date of the file. Its definitely our mom in the video, and it looks to be in some hotel room. There's definitely a man in the video, but he's holding the camera and we don't see his face or hear his voice. I don't want to go into any detail but its basically a striptease/sex tape filmed by the man, so while our mom is clearly identifiable, I can't tell exactly who the man is. I first got angry at my sister for showing it to me, I told her this is gross, I don't want to see that. She told me she thinks it could mean our mom is cheating on our dad and we should at least present the information to our dad. I told her its very likely its him in the photo (you can see the man's hands in a few shots), I think its my dad, she seems to think its not him. I told her if we show it to them and it is him, not only will we be embarrassed, but they would be mad at her for snooping. She was like "why do you care? I'm the one who did the snooping, so only I'll get in trouble. I'll cover you if they try to get mad at you." I told her there has to be a more sensitive way of approaching the situation, instead of just bombarding our parents with "hey we saw your sex tape which could either be with you or mom's secret lover", and we should consider the fallout. However she seems pretty adamant that she just wants to show them, she thinks its the safest option; since if she was cheating, she gets exposed, but if it was just dad, then no harm done. We can't agree on what to do, and I have a feeling she might show it to them regardless of what I feel, but if I push hard enough I might convince her of an alternative solution. Any ideas on what we should do? tl;dr: Sister found a sex tape involving our mom on the computer; guy's face is not visible. I think its dad, sister thinks its another man and she's cheating. She wants to confront them with the evidence, but I think we'd be in trouble if we do and we should find a more sensitive solution to what's going on (if anything is going on). Log in / Register r/relationshipsUpdates An update, things don't go so well. Original: Me [19M], my sister [21F] found a video of our mom [45F] she thinks its of her cheating, but I think it might not be. We can't agree what to do with it. u/ismomcheating /r/relationships/comments/4gnzc3/me_19m_my_sister_21f_found_a_video_of_our_mom_45f/ TLDR: nobody was cheating, but my sister hosed up my parents relationship. Mom is crying now and has gone to stay with her parents, won't talk to my sister or me. Yeah, things didn't go so well unfortunately. I kept arguing with my sister. I told her if she's so certain they're cheating, the least we could do is ask dad first if he knows about the tape but not mention that we've seen it. She was determined that it was cheating, based on the hands and the feet, she was like "those definitely aren't dads". I told her she was creepy as gently caress, if that was them in the video, and God knows how many times she's watched it, she was basically watching a video of our mother naked and loving our dad's dick. Even if it wasn't our dad's dick, its still loving gross. She didn't care. I told her if I couldn't stop her, she should at least leave me out of it, i want nothing to do with it. She went nuclear, she went and told them everything, and embarrassed the gently caress out of herself. Turned out her little detective work was way off, it was dad in the video. Our dad was angry but mostly bewildered, but he just laughed it off and got over it. Our mom however didn't take it so well. She had a panic attack, she went nuts. She was like "what the hell is wrong with you kids?" I tried to stay out of it but my sister dragged me into it and named me as her accomplice even though I had warned her against it. Our mom was so hurt and upset, not only that her daughter would so brazely accuse her of cheating, but that her children had watched an explicit sex tape of her. She was really traumatized, she couldn't take it any more. She got up and left to her parents house where she's been there for a whole day to recuperate. She only called our dad to speak to, she won't speak to us. Our dad told us to just give it time until she's feeling better.
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I am a [20M] schizophrenic. I am frustrated at everything I try to fit in but always fail. Posting the title because of this nuclear hot take in the comments quote:Yes, in some cultures schizophrenia is not an illness. People with schizophrenia are thought to be spiritual healers, and they are trained to use their special abilities to help others.
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Ride The Gravitron posted:[UPDATE] I [27M] think my fiancee [27F] might be cheating
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eyes glazed, watching mom on dad's dick for the twelfth time writes on notepad: interesting
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Log in / Register r/relationshipsRelationships Boyfriend [26M] made me leave when I cried in front of him [24F] u/hitekoa The other day I was crying because I had a rough day at work. I was blamed for something that wasn't my fault, a particular co-worker has been a complete rear end in a top hat towards me; it just was not a good day. When I went to his house to see him, I just wanted to lay in his arms and forget everything. After a couple minutes I started to cry just because I needed to release the emotions and he told me to stop crying. I couldn't stop because I was upset so he pulled my arms off of him and said if I was going to keep crying, I had to go. I tried to explain that I just had a terrible day and sometimes I need to cry (I don't think that's abnormal, for a lot of females at least), and he was just making me feel 10x worse which would make me cry more. He said he understands that and he's not trying to pile it on, but he wasn't going to sit here and listen to me cry and said again, in a fairly harsh tone, that if I was going to cry that I had to leave. That in turn did make me cry more because I didn't get why he was being so mean. It's not like I was sobbing and getting snot and tears all over his shirt or anything gross. He got really agitated, grabbed my stuff, took it to the door, put it outside, and said to leave. I can't overstate how much that hurt me. I kind of just fled and went to my car and cried in my car in front of his apartment for like 20 minutes. I texted him to please me back in and I'll stop crying if he stops being mean to me, but didn't answer, and then he turned his phone off when I called him. I drove home and was obviously very upset the rest of that night because I was being punished for having emotions by my own boyfriend. I called him the next day to see if he was still upset and to hash it out like adults. The conversation amounted to him saying that "I'm not going to coddle an adult like a child", "crying doesn't fix anything", and "poo poo happens, but you don't cry over insignificant stuff. It's not like your parents died and your house burned down. There's no sense in crying over nothing and I'm just not dealing with it". He told me he cried like a baby when his dog died about a year ago, but he did it in private and he would never cry in front of a person and that was the first time he's cried since he was a small child. That really broke my heart because I'd want to comfort him if he ever needed me and I wouldn't judge him or see him as weak or annoying. Then he told me to come over and we could hang out, which I jumped at the chance to do. I went over to his house and we ended up making up terrifically. He made dinner while I relaxed, we cuddled on the couch, he rubbed my back and feet for hours, and he made me feel so loved again. He listened to my problems and he made me feel so much better about one particular problem. Then he said, "See what happens when you don't cry?" And it just made me loving dumb all over again for having emotions and like the whole thing was my fault, and I didn't show it, but I was really upset. I really don't know how to feel about this whole debacle. I love this man with my entire heart, but I cry at the drop of a hat usually. I'm very sensitive and I don't want to spend the rest of my life hiding my emotions from someone who's supposed to love me wholly and unconditionally forever. What do you think I should do going forward? tl;dr: Boyfriend kicked me out for crying at his house, wouldn't speak to me the rest of that night. Made up the day after and had an amazing time, but feel very confused about what this means for the relationship.
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La Brea Carpet posted:Posting the title because of this nuclear hot take in the comments Schizophrenic spotted. (They never say which culture when it's something like this, it's just 'some').
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no crying or fee-fees allowed in fort kickass. soon, no girls.
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I'm a 21F that has had Tinder for 6 months with zero matches. What's wrong with me? u/tinderfailure1 This may be a stupid question, but I'm attempting to date and signed up for Tinder a while ago. I've been swiping and stuff but haven't gotten a single match. Any messages I send are not answered. I'm not that pretty or anything but I thought on apps like Tinder I'd at least get one answer from a guy. Is there something horribly wrong? I'm not open to posting pictures (here on reddit, there are pictures on the profiles), but could you think of any situations in which a 21 year old girl wouldn't receive any online dating attention? Same thing happened with OKCupid too, btw. tl;dr: Attempting to online date. No matches on Tinder or OKC. What could be wrong? 927 UPDATE: I am a 21F that has had Tinder for 6 months with no matches.Updates submitted 2 years ago by tinderfailure1 OP: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3piyuj/im_a_21f_that_has_had_tinder_for_6_months_with/ I decided to ask a very close friend about this issue. She usually just said "you're fine, don't worry!" when I brought this up, but I was very frank with her. She admitted that I'm ugly. I asked if there's anything I could do about it, and she said other than literally caking my face in makeup and hiding my body, not much. She pulled up a bunch of plastic surgery clinics in the area and told me to look into it. I thanked her, went into my room, and cried. I knew I wasn't pretty but I didn't think I was that bad. No wonder my friends never invited me out with them. I can't really afford the plastic surgery, and while I could cake my face in makeup, the way she made it sound made it seem like that wouldn't be good enough. I've taken down all my social media accounts. I just can't look at pictures of myself anymore. I know there are worse things than being ugly, and that this is likely a first world problem, but it really sucks. No wonder I've never been approached and guys don't talk to me. Anyone been where I am? Is there a hope for dating? Should I save up money for plastic surgery? tl;dr: Friend told me I was very ugly, suggested plastic surgery. No dates for me. Log in / Register r/relationships◉ Locked Post ◉ UPDATE 2: I am a 21F that has had Tinder for 6 months and zero matches. u/tinderfailure1 OP: /r/relationships/comments/3piyuj/im_a_21f_that_has_had_tinder_for_6_months_with/ Update 1: https://ud.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3plw8j/update_i_am_a_21f_that_has_had_tinder_for_6/ Well, I restarted my Tinder profile yesterday and already got a couple of matches. I don't know if the first profile just wasn't working or if Reddit just came to my rescue, haha. Doesn't really explain the lack of OKC success, but I'm planning to start that up again too. The main thing was that I talked to my friend. I asked her for some advice on how to fix my looks. She was really, really harsh about it. She said it was doubtful I could fix things, that she felt sorry for me, that escorts were expensive but she'd front me the money if I wanted to lose my virginity (WTF?). I decided I didn't need her in my life. It sucks, because she was pretty much my only friend. I gave myself a look in the mirror and decided that I'm not all that ugly. Sure, I'm not beautiful like my friend is or like a lot of girls on this college campus, but I'm okay. I'm a good person, I have something to offer, and I'll just keep searching. There's no point in crying over the opinion of someone mean like my friend. I may not be a fitness model or beauty queen, but I'm okay. I had a conversation with one of my Tinder matches and he seems genuinely nice, so I'll see how that goes. I am going to put in some more effort into my face and body. I think exercise would help me. I'm not about to sculpt myself or anything right now, but jogging a few times a week seems like a good start. And I'm about to go to the drugstore and buy myself a couple more pieces of makeup, maybe a new cardigan or two. We'll see how it goes. tl;dr: Friend was a bitch, found a couple tinder matches, going to try to be comfortable in my own skin.
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feedmegin posted:Schizophrenic spotted. The shadow people who live inside the moon are completely accepting of schizophrenia.
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girl pants posted:why do people spend like months cheating on somebody and then ask for a second chance. The relationship is a comfort blanket, the person its with is irrelevant. Like looking for a job while you have one.
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Jan 9, 2018 16:23
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Ride The Gravitron posted:Log in / Register How many times do you think they watched the tape to try and figure out the identity of the man?
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feedmegin posted:Schizophrenic spotted. surely there is some enlightened culture where i am seen not as a pitiable brokebrains but as a wise shaman and everyone will come to me for advice on how to remove the tracking devices implanted in their wrists (only visible when you make a fist)
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Jan 9, 2018 16:25
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Yeah, that's definitely dad's dick. - a normal conversation between siblings
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girl pants posted:My boyfriend [24M] of 2 years says he's having trouble finding me attractive since I [24F] started working out. sandoz posted:lol did someone just type out an itemized list of their yearly gaming expenses in this thread
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Hold on sis, we need to get some better splatter analysis, back up to 18:55 and play in slowmo
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Log in / Register r/relationshipsUpdates My (31M) father (67M) is now on his deathbed, he verbally mentally and abused me when I was younger and now wants to see me, I have no desire to see this man but my mother and sisters are giving me hell over it and my wife thinks I should at least go, once, what do I do? UPDATE u/throwawaybadsonornah Original: /r/relationships/comments/3cf4yn/my_31m_father_67m_is_now_on_his_deathbed_he/ So I went to see my dad and it basically went like poo poo. I caved, I loving caved and decided gently caress it, I'll see what he wants. Maybe this is something worth hearing. I visited the hospital by myself. Now wife. No mom. No sisters. Just him and I. He looked old and tired and just as I predicted I didn't find it in me to be angry, this wasn't the man I remembered, this was just some old broken man. It would have been a waste of my time to feel angry and yet I did. I was so pissed off because I couldn't stand across from him eye to eye and let him see that the son he treated like dogshit had built a wonderful life for himself. We didn't say anything to each other for around an hour. Then eventually I found my voice and said ''you know this is the last time we'll ever see each other right?'' No response. Then he replied ''I know.'' So I asked him why now? Why did he want to see me so badly that he had to send a message through my mother for me? And here is where I learnt that my existence was gently caress all to him. He admitted that he did it just to give my mom closure, she didn't ask him to do it but he knew she wanted it. So I asked him why he treated me the way he did my whole life and he replied, ''I never wanted a son, never had any interest in one.'' It loving hurt but I kept listening and he kept speaking. He said that in the first few years of my life he tried his best to care about me but eventually he realized he couldn't. Then came the final nail in the coffin of my relationship with that man. I never loved you but I didn't hate you either, I just didn't care for you because I never wanted a son, I wanted to give you up for adoption when you were younger but your mother would never have forgiven me, so I did my best to push you aside and you would always try and get my approval for stuff, I felt bad at times but I just didn't care for you By that time I was crying, me a 31 year old man, left my dying father in his hospital room and went to my car crying. I could have gone my whole life not knowing that. gently caress my mom, my sisters, my wife and my dad. I'm just so pissed right now. There was a part of me that hoped we would bury the hatchet, nope, I just learnt he never gave a gently caress. I will never speak of my father again. I will not attend his funeral or visit his grave. When he dies I'll be at the bar drinking because the fucker is gone from this world and I will do everything I can to be the father he never was. TL;DR visited dying dad, found out he never wanted a son, wanted to put me up for adoption, didn't love me, didn't hate me, just never cared about me EDIT:- I just want to say thanks to everyone for your kind words, both in comments and pms, they really helped a lot, particularly while I was hung over this morning and laying in bed thinking about life. Also to the stranger who gave me gold, thank you, never had that before and it was quite unexpected. I've got a ways to go still, I feel like yesterday opened up wounds I didn't even realized had never really healed and I'll be talking to my wife about it and most likely a professional as well. I won't cut my mom or sisters out, I am not angry at them, their experiences with my father were different from my own and I do not fault them for that, however, right now, the best thing for me, is just to not be around them as much. So I don't think they'll be seeing/hearing from me for some time. Once again, I sincerely thank everybody, it was your comments and pms that made me realize, yeah it hurts like poo poo, but I can't let him have anymore power over me, I'm in the prime of my life and I've built a nice life for myself. I don't need a dying man's approval anymore because I've done the best I could for so long without it anyway, so here's hoping things will get better soon
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chitoryu12 posted:How many times do you think they watched the tape to try and figure out the identity of the man? the fact that they didn't immediately close vlc when they realized what it was was the problem. everything after that is just icing on the disgusting momporn cake. sister: *freezes, enhances* does dad have a mole like that on his left nut? CASE CLOSED!
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unironically I'd be out the door as soon as that video started playing. aint scarring me for life, nuh uh, whatever it is isn't worth it. id bury that poo poo, possibly my sister, in a lead lined coffin and pour concrete over it. then stick up the ol' "THIS PLACE IS NOT A PLACE OF HONOUR" and some backup anti-personnel mines
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Jan 9, 2018 16:30
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maybe breed some cats to start turning pink when they get too close to the sex tape sarcophagus?
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Ride The Gravitron posted:[UPDATE] I [27M] think my fiancee [27F] might be cheating
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Ride The Gravitron posted:Log in / Register That's going to cause trust issues for ever. Hope he can move past it, but he's going to have to :sever2:
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Log in / Register r/relationshipsBreakups Kicked out my pregnant cheating girlfriend(Xposting from /r/offmychest) u/NicBabyThro I was told posting here as well might help sorry if its against the rules A bit about us. We're both in our 30's and have just moved to a whole new city across the country a few months ago as I had been offered a much better paying job in an area that has generally lower living costs as well as it being a nice area to raise a child. She is currently 7 months pregnant. With what I thought to be my child, I was initially shocked since we always used protection or I pulled out but after having some time to think about it i was ecstatic, it was the perfect time in our lives for kids I just finished the last payments on my flat (low interest mortgages and first time buyer benefits ftw!) as well as being a strong contender for the job I currently have. Anyway, recently she has been very distant and reserved. I just chalked that up to pregnancy hormones but during breakfast she seemed even more distant and quiet than usual so I asked her what was up a few times until she yelled that she doesn't always have to answer me and walked away, right whatever, I was late for work so I went on my way. I got a message around lunch time asking me if I could leave the lab early because there was something very important she wanted to talk about and didn't want to do it after I got home after a long day, so I finished up my work and okayed it with my boss and went home picking up some Subs for us on the way. To cut a long story short and beating around the bush short she told me that while I was working hell week at the lab she met a guy during a night out with some work friends and one thing led to another and they ended up sleeping together. This carried on for a week or two supposedly because I was always working and not spending enough time with her (I worked 14 hour days during that time and just wanted to come home and sit. She mentioned how he lied about using a condom by saying he was using ultra thin ones and didn't realise what he did until she felt it. The time of this fits in with when she was up the duff, I can't describe how angry I felt after she told me, I got up and threw her sub into the bin and left the house to go for a drive to a friends so I could calm down. I returned home the next morning and demanded we book an appointment for a prenatal paternity test, which she was initially very much against but eventually gave in and agreed. I booked an appointment that morning for the following week and I stayed with my mate until the day. I took the afternoon off work and drove us there in silence, aside from her crying and apologising, got the procedure over with and dropped her back and went back to my mates until results day. Well we got the results back today and guess what! It turns out I am .... not the father of that little sprog, I drove us home and demanded she get out and start packing because I wanted her out before I got back from work/picking my stuff up from my friends. She was hysterical and saying how I couldn't just leave her alone and homeless while she was so close to the due date and so far away from home and that she really loved me and wanted me to raise this bastard child with her because it's the only way it'll have a decent life (she's an arts graduate and was working a minimum wage job before the move/pregnancy). I never made it into work, I drove into a field, rang my boss to tell him what happened and he told me to take as much time as I needed and he'd have a PhD student cover my work. I stayed there for hours just laying in the seat and cried at how everything has fallen apart. I had just gotten my life in order, everything was stable and ready to go for the baby. We even finished designing the babies room. I switched my phone back on and saw I had several missed calls and voicemails, a few from her, some from her family and a couple from my mate telling me to come to his as soon as I could. I rung my mate up, filled him in and went over to his. And that's what's happened so far, I haven't gone back to house yet, I just can't bring myself to go back there knowing that all the plans I had for it are dead. I have no idea what to do anymore. What should I do, Reddit? I apologise in advance if my rambling wall of text is difficult to read, I just wanted to get it all out and have been typing on my tablet. TL;DR Girlfriend cheated on me and lied about it being my baby so I threw her sandwich in the bin and kicked her out Quick Update I'm so sorry for the late reply but I've been sorting things out with a solicitor and her family. I took the advice and after calming down bought her a one way coach ticket back home (Trains don't go to Whoresville). The morning after this went down I went to the house with my friend with me and she was still there, which I expected. She immediately waddled over and started hugging me and crying begging not to end our relationship. I stayed with my initial feelings of wanting her to get the hell out of here, I gave her the piece of paper with the coach ticket and then told her to gather her stuff so I can drop her off at the coach station. After much more crying she packed her suitcase and I loaded it into the car and drove us (friend was with us all throughout as a witness because you can never be too careful) to the coach stand. After getting her out of the car with even more crying and sitting her down in the waiting room (she calmed down a bit because there were people around but) she asked me what she's meant to do now as a jobless, homeless single mother. My response was "gently caress you Jenny, go to Zach. It's his problem now"... Just kidding I told her that she should try find the father, wished her the best and left. I had a few calls from her family asking me if I was out of my loving mind and etc but I've had my phone off since then and I'm just trying to move forward, I might make a proper update on the weekend and turn my phone back on. But for the time being I'm trying to focus in work to catch up on everything. Thank you all so much for your support. This truly is an amazing community and I didn't expect this to blow up like it has.
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Yawgmoth posted:A good update. whenever I hear a story like this I always hope the explanation is that the partner is getting the person a new puppy or planning a surprise party or something because I'm sensitive and it's never the case.  this person on the other hand. do not gently caress with my sleep i will end you Me [26 F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of 5 years, keeps waking me up to do chores quote:submitted 2 hours ago by Worl12Sleepless
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