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Anony Mouse posted:Myself and gf of 1 year (23M/F): I watched her beat the poo poo out of a man who wanted to hurt her and stay happy about it. I just can’t look at her the same since "There's a lot of inconsistencies and illogical points in my gf's story, which she told me when she was drunk and looking for reasons to be mad at me, and by weird coincidence there were no witnesses. I guess it was just a crazy incredible streak of superhuman behavior, after all there could be no supplementary, truth-bearing, helpful details."
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Drunk Nerds posted:"There's a lot of inconsistencies and illogical points in my gf's story, which she told me when she was drunk and looking for reasons to be mad at me, and by weird coincidence there were no witnesses. I guess it was just a crazy incredible streak of superhuman behavior, after all there could be no supplementary, truth-bearing, helpful details." Hey dumbass, maybe try reading more than half the story before posting. Also, gently caress that OP. "My GF can stand up for herself without becoming an emotional puddle. WHAT DO?"
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Jan 11, 2018 01:12
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sounds like she got the blood lust it happens 
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Jan 11, 2018 01:15
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Duhhhhhh my girlfriend is happy that she was able to stop herself from getting sexually assaulted. Also I won't just say what loving country i live in so i can get good advice.
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Jan 11, 2018 01:16
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*sigh* my girlfriend just never looks as into it when she beats the poo poo out of me I felt I saw her bliss face for real that day and I can't shake the feelings of inadequacy.
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Jan 11, 2018 01:18
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Anony Mouse posted:I think deep down inside of this guy, in his heart of hearts, he felt a tiny bit of cold comfort in the physical power he assumed he had over his girlfriend, and now he feels vulnerable. Imagine being with a partner who could beat the poo poo out of you if they really wanted to... oh wait. I think you'll find that healthy relationships typically don't have the couple evaluating who could beat the poo poo out of who in a given situation In terms of the story quote:What happened from my perspective: I was walking back to where we parted with another friend who was also leaving. I heard screaming and of course I run there as fast as I could. When I got there she was punching and kneeing this man, who was on the ground, as hard as she could. I had to peel HER off him. The guy looked like human shaped mincemeat, I am still surprised he survived. There's something really really weird about the way this guy wrote it. He seems more sympathetic to the attacker than the GF. Like, look at the way he humanizes the attacker (looked like human shaped mincemeat, HE COULD HAVE DIED), and demonizes his girlfriend (Thea cried and ACTED so scared and confused in front of the cops). Like it's hard to overstate how hosed up I find that. So ok his GF has to sit around alone in a park at night because this guy is a doofus who can't remember his phone. Then he comes back and finds that she's beating the poo poo out of an actual convicted sex assaulter for trying to assault her. So what are the observations and conclusions this dude makes? -She was hitting her attacker excessively -She was putting her attacker's life in danger with her reckless disregard for his safety -She put on a show of fear / contrition in front of the cops (heavily implying it's fake) -Even though the police explained that he was a convicted sex criminal, that didn't change this dude's perception of events -Embellishes the details after the fact, that she was "trying to claw his eyes out" -Has an issue that she's proud of herself for defending herself Man it's like the ultimate selfishness. First, through your idiocy put your partner in a dangerous situation. Then, doubt everything they say happened, even when corroborated by the police. Finally, keep embellishing it and distorting it in your head so that you can present your GF as some kind of unhinged violent person and start building up a fear narrative around it. Why can't this dude have the drill sergeant father that beats the poo poo out of him, I would so enjoy if the awful people from the stories could somehow find each other and live happily ever after
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Jan 11, 2018 01:20
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Anony Mouse posted:Myself and gf of 1 year (23M/F): I watched her beat the poo poo out of a man who wanted to hurt her and stay happy about it. I just can’t look at her the same since  "Wah! My girlfriend didn't need me to save her from a sexual assault!" Also its completely natural to start crying when the cops are grilling you after the event, when you're tired and scared and the adrenaline rush has worn off. Its also totally natural to be happy that you beat the poo poo out of a rapist once you know you are okay.
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Jan 11, 2018 01:23
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Ham Sandwiches posted:I think you'll find that healthy relationships typically don't have the couple evaluating who could beat the poo poo out of who in a given situation I like this post. I also want to add that he spent an excessive amount of time arguing that he was TOTALLY JUSTIFIED in wanting his gf to walk back to the car in painful shoes for no real reason
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Jan 11, 2018 01:23
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Dudes upset because they didnt go to IHOP the same night to get a complimentary ice cream desert for beating up a rapist.
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Jan 11, 2018 01:24
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If "crime" or "self-defense" is being decided by a random mook of a street cop, you'd be a moron to not put on the best act you could regardless of how you felt inside.
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Jan 11, 2018 01:24
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:If "crime" or "self-defense" is being decided by a random mook of a street cop, you'd be a moron to not put on the best act you could regardless of how you felt inside. Its so important they actually coach you how to do it in self defense classes
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Jan 11, 2018 01:25
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Anne Whateley posted:This part is like 10000000% believable. I came from a tiny town and didn't do anything until I got to college, and that was a huge issue for guys, who almost all reacted exactly that way. It turns out the virgin = psycho stereotype is uhhh bad Yeah, people make fun of older male virgins, but a lot of people think there is genuinely something wrong with women who haven’t lost theirs by like 19 or something. And of course many people think having sex with a virgin is some huge responsibility and that she’ll get all clingy and stuff like that. I’m sure there’s some women who do, but it’s far from universal. Like you, I didn’t have sex until I was in college and I didn’t even tell the guy I lost it to, because I was afraid he either laugh at me or make it into a much bigger deal than it was.
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Jan 11, 2018 01:27
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My last gf was a 6'2 transgender lady who can and would beat the gently caress out of anybody harassing her. In all the time I've known her I've never seen her lose a fight. She's a real sweetheart, though I hope the woman in the reddit story dumps his pathetic loser rear end
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Jan 11, 2018 01:30
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ArbitraryC posted:that's basically what "fluid bonding" is meant to address as far as I can tell. i'm not poly but i get the impression it's also supposed to be a way of still setting yourself apart as the 'special one' in your partner's life. "okay buddy you might be plowin' my wife but I'm the only one who doesn't have to use a condom  "
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Jan 11, 2018 01:31
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Women only need men for two things: their physical strength and their sperm. Gentlemen, if we allow women to learn how to protect themselves, then it’s only a matter of time before science manages to synthesize artificial sperm from soybeans and much like the noble auto-worker, we will find ourselves without a job.
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Jan 11, 2018 01:34
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fruit on the bottom posted:Women only need men for two things: their physical strength and their sperm. But machines already do your job?
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Jan 11, 2018 01:39
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As an aside: I had never, never grasped how many men want other people to gently caress their partner until reddit Would have gone to my grave convinced it doesn't happen Yes, this was the story that prompted that comment My Husband (25M) convinced me (26F) to try an open relationship. quote:My husband (male, 25) convinced me (female, 26) to try an open relationship. We have been married almost 4 years now and he's been trying to get me interested almost the whole time. I have never been in one before so I am not sure if what is happening is normal or not. Long story short, the main person he wanted to bring in was his best friend who was also the best man at our wedding. They have been friends for like 15 years or so. They did share each other's girlfriends a few times in their teenage years but that was a long time ago. A little bit that might be important is shortly after our wedding his best friend and I ended up getting into a fight. (that's another long story) but I felt like his friend was being a jerk and my husband kept picking his side no matter what. I got very angry and didn't want him around. We talked off and on the past year or so and mended the bridge for my husband's sake. He just finally started to come around the past month and a half.
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Jan 11, 2018 01:46
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I think his main problem is that he's afraid to admit he'd have run at the first sign of trouble instead of staying to try and help her
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Jan 11, 2018 01:47
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I [23F] come back from a 3 week vacation to find my boyfriend [28M] of 3 months has regressed into a disgusting child. Am I overreacting?quote:I had been home for Christmas and New Years for 3 weeks and the entire time we facetimed religiously and I truly missed hanging out with him. He has fallen on hard times recently--he's out of a place to live and he's living with his dad, a myriad of car/money issues-- and he's never been a clean person, however before my vacation it was gross but tolerable. These were all things I could look past, he's disorganized and messy and has lost his debit card 4 times in the time we've been dating but hey! I love the kid. It's quirky!
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Jan 11, 2018 01:50
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I mean, it's a little disturbing if he comes back and finds his girlfriend trying to gouge the eyes out of some dude who "looks like mincemeat" and she relishes the memory of it. No way that isn't altering your perception of somebody. I guess in America it's considered normal these days that murder is totally legitimate in all cases of self-defence, but proportional self-defence is a thing and going Punisher style on somebody incapacitated is hosed up. Even if you want to totally excuse that by invoking "red mist", recalling your actions and then explicitly being happy about them casts you in a creepy light imo. That goes too for showing a complete emotional 180 in front of you, pretending to be upset when inwardly being happy. Even if you believe every step is justified, it will still affect how you see a person in the future, and obviously that's what this person is wrestling with. Being able to defend yourself is empowering, inflicting injury on somebody no longer resisting is something else. 
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Jan 11, 2018 01:51
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Barudak posted:But machines already do your job? TayTweets was my wake up call.
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Jan 11, 2018 01:53
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I feel like that whole Thea post is actually Arrow fanfiction. Like that guy is saying Thea Queen who has retired from crime fighting but can still easily kick anyone's rear end, but doesn't know her past.
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Jan 11, 2018 01:57
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Jeza posted:I mean, it's a little disturbing if he comes back and finds his girlfriend trying to gouge the eyes out of some dude who "looks like mincemeat" and she relishes the memory of it. No way that isn't altering your perception of somebody. I guess in America it's considered normal these days that murder is totally legitimate in all cases of self-defence, but proportional self-defence is a thing and going Punisher style on somebody incapacitated is hosed up. Even if you want to totally excuse that by invoking "red mist", recalling your actions and then explicitly being happy about them casts you in a creepy light imo. That goes too for showing a complete emotional 180 in front of you, pretending to be upset when inwardly being happy. *watches 6 police officers beat a minority they are arresting with nightsticks, cramming plungers up their rear end, slamming them on the hood of the car etc* "Yeah I guess if the police have to come get you, they're bringing an rear end whooping with them" *watches a girl in a dress and heels fight off a sexual predator* "WHOA WHOA young lady did you even notice the moment this became assault? That poor man"
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Jan 11, 2018 01:58
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I just believe it's not right to use systemic imbalances in power to justify individual actions. I don't believe in the application of excessive force being justified for anyone, nor do I think that enjoying applying it is a particularly pleasant emotional response.
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Jan 11, 2018 02:04
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It's almost as if trying to find ways to be content about it after the fact might be a common coping mechanism for confronting a narrow escape from calamity and also one's own capacity for violence
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spite house posted:It's almost as if trying to find ways to be content about it after the fact might be a common coping mechanism for confronting a narrow escape from calamity and also one's own capacity for violence I'll have to take your word for it. I'm not aware of it as a common coping mechanism. But even so, his reaction is equally valid. If she had left and returned to find him punching an inert assailant into mincemeat and having to pull him off, then later having him confide in her that he thought of it often and enjoyed it, and now felt guilty but couldn't see him in the same way as before, I think that would be a reasonable response. As you mention, witnessing somebody's capacity for violence may be something that is traumatic enough to cause coping mechanisms.
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Jan 11, 2018 02:19
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She probably feels like she prevented that guy from taking advantage of another woman ever again. I'd be proud as gently caress too, gently caress that guy and gently caress her shithead boyfriend for trying to spin it like she's a villain and a rapist is a sympathetic figure after.
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Jan 11, 2018 02:24
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Jeza posted:I just believe it's not right to use systemic imbalances in power to justify individual actions. I don't believe in the application of excessive force being justified for anyone, nor do I think that enjoying applying it is a particularly pleasant emotional response. I didn't know that places outside of America had people able to robotically judge their situation and thoughtfully consider their responses while being assaulted and process the adrenaline/coping afterwards.
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Jan 11, 2018 02:26
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I like how in the park beating story both these idiots get invited to a park where they need to walk a minor 10 minutes instead of driving right up to the door of the building and didn't wear appropriate footwear or jackets for the cold and act like the person who's birthday it was who wanted to eat at a nice park restaurant is a thoughtless idiot.
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Jeza posted:I just believe it's not right to use systemic imbalances in power to justify individual actions. I don't believe in the application of excessive force being justified for anyone, nor do I think that enjoying applying it is a particularly pleasant emotional response. won't someone think of the rapists
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Jan 11, 2018 02:37
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Barudak posted:Its so important they actually coach you how to do it in self defense classes actually they tell you to say you're too "emotional" to talk now and get a lawyer, then refuse any future meetings without said lawyer. then again they also say to stop hitting/shooting the person once they're on the ground incapacitated
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Midnight Voyager posted:I didn't know that places outside of America had people able to robotically judge their situation and thoughtfully consider their responses while being assaulted and process the adrenaline/coping afterwards. I was talking about most people's reaction to the post here, not asking people being assaulted to clinically assess their situation. I don't give two shits if the rapist died in the attempt because she had a gun, or if she punched him and he hit his head on the bench and died. But I disagree to the contention that smooshing up the face of somebody apparently long since overpowered makes you 'badass'.
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Anony Mouse posted:Myself and gf of 1 year (23M/F): I watched her beat the poo poo out of a man who wanted to hurt her and stay happy about it. I just can’t look at her the same since Yeah, if I suddenly had the knowledge that if someone attacks me without provocation I could easily turn them into mincemeat, and that someone had just attacked me without provocation and I turned them into mincemeat I'd be pretty loving happy with myself. gently caress yeah girl. Amazons are hot. Doesn't sound like he's the abusive type, but I doubt he ever will be either.
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Jeza posted:I was talking about most people's reaction to the post here, not asking people being assaulted to clinically assess their situation. I don't give two shits if the rapist died in the attempt because she had a gun, or if she punched him and he hit his head on the bench and died. But I disagree to the contention that smooshing up the face of somebody apparently long since overpowered makes you 'badass'. At some point the event transitioned from a girl defending herself from a rapist (badass) to violently assaulting a rapist (not badass, but still a good thing). But nobody who matters really cares where the former ended and the latter began because he absolutely deserved it. But yeah, kicking a prone dude in the head may or may not be warranted, but it's not something to be proud of.
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Actually, if you find yourself in a situation not of your own making, fighting off a person that is both sexually assaulting you and has been convicted of opportunistic sexual assault in the past, you can and should feel proud for emerging from that situation unscathed, and that's about the extent of it I don't understand where the "beating up prone people is bad" stuff even comes from, defending yourself is not some Robocop like "THE THREAT HAS PASSED CITIZEN" action, and the law gives a crapload of a leeway for that reason In California, specifically, there's something called No Duty To Retreat which means you don't have to defend yourself until you can flee, you can defend yourself until you no longer feel in danger for your life. It's weird, you have "I murdered someone in my house" zimmerman and then you have "Ah that was 2 punches over the line, sorry it's no longer defense but assault" standard that is being thrown around here
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Counterpoint: the end of Death Proof
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Problems [32M] with my GF [33F] of just under a year who just informed me she's part of an MLM programquote:Hi everyone! 
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Jan 11, 2018 03:39
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Help with unusual employee request (self.AskHR)quote:Location: CT, USA
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maskenfreiheit posted:Help with unusual employee request (self.AskHR) Smile and tell them Deepak brings his own 'unique perspective' to the company.
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"Deepak if your work doesn't improve I'm afraid I won't be able to vouch for your entry into the FuckClub" a real conversation that's about to happen somewhere
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