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Baronjutter posted:At my school the boys could choose shop class and the girls home ec. For some reason loving around with a lathe didn't really teach a lot of important life skills, not even lathe safety. EDIT: We got to pick a stuffed animal to make with a kit once we'd mastered the basic sewing stuff and I did an orca and it turned out horrible. It was funny.
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:im so fuckin glad i grew up in a family where cooking was a family activity and everyone did it and enjoyed cooking and teaching recipes to each other, for real Lol I had to learn to cook to feed my younger siblings because my parents were never home. Lil fuckers ate a lot of Mac n cheese there for a while Every thing I know about cooking now is because I had a roommate in college with a huge thing for Giada and we watched a lot of food network.
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PetraCore posted:Do most high schools not have a required Home Ec class? Mine did and that's where I learned to cook. Mine was elective but I took it because I was a little food nerd and wanted to spend school time cooking. But not everyone had to take it.
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I can't seem to convince my husband that cooking is a good life skill to have though. he's like 'why would I bother, who cares, I can eat frozen pizza and if I'm really that hungry I can cook' (he can make grilled cheese, scrambled eggs, and buttered spaghetti on his own, apparently. he's made the latter twice in the 4 years we've been together.) he said he took culinary in high school but uhh I don't know how useful that's been. I'm like, it's good and fun! but he doesn't find cooking interesting and it's too time-consuming and it's not worth the effort. he seems to see food in that basic way of 'I eat, I'm not hungry anymore, I can go back to playing video games now' I can probably put a lot of the lack of knowledge on him growing up in lovely situations and not having people to teach him, but we are in a better place now. I cook for him because I don't want him to die, by the way. and because I love to cook and share my skills, and he likes everything I make for us. but also I want to cry tbh I've always had an interest in cooking and creating stuff in general. I love cooking shows, I love learning new recipes and techniques, I enjoy the prep and process. but it's a basic life skill, it doesn't necessarily have to be enjoyable (cleaning the toilet and doing the dishes sure isn't) for you to do it, but it can be! and it should be! if you try! no one really taught me how to cook, my parents cooked a lot and I liked their food for the most part but I mostly taught myself and learned through books and websites and shows. (no I don't think it's cute or funny that he can't cook, it's really sad) snoo fucked around with this message at 19:11 on Jan 15, 2018 |
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We had ‘home ec’ in jr. high, but it was like ‘thread a needle and sew around the edge of an index card’ ‘these are the different sections you fill in on a check’. We mmmmmmmight have gotten lessons about the kitchen, but for the life of me I don’t remember cooking anything; maybe we made cookies. But it was mostly ‘here’s how you balance a checkbook’ in the days before you could just check your account online. I wonder how many old standard home ec lessons are teetering in obsolete these days? The most important lesson we learned was ‘when you take out the trash, don’t rummage through the bag to huff diapers full of poo poo.’ No idea where I’d be in life now if I hadn’t heard that glorious wisdom.
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# ? Jan 15, 2018 19:10 |
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we made pizza bagels in home ec I still make them sometimes
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# ? Jan 15, 2018 19:11 |
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man I was hoping the baby poo poo huffer story would be enough to head off pages of goons going "if you're not making souffles by age 10 you're a hopeless idiot fucker" / "my parents locked me in a basement and I didn't learn what a frying pan was until age 20" oh well
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girl pants posted:man I was hoping the baby poo poo huffer story would be enough to head off pages of goons going "if you're not making souffles by age 10 you're a hopeless idiot fucker" / "my parents locked me in a basement and I didn't learn what a frying pan was until age 20" We’d much rather talk about ourselves than face that horror.
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:loving rampant helplessness these days Nobody wants to do anything unless theyre an immediate expert at it, and it runs throughout every single walk of life and type of person. This is the reason why engineers refuse to attempt creative endevours and why creative types think mathematics is some sort of arcane, occult language. Once you get past a certain age nobody is willing to learn anymore, and that age is really, extremely young.
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I've seen two distinct classes of helpless 20-somethings: The first comes from being totally spoiled. "I tried to get him to help cook or do the laundry but he'd always say no..." There's a parenting school that says to never push your kids to do anything, never "force" them to do chores, all you can do is encourage them otherwise you're some sort of horrible tiger-mom and if your kids don't like you, even for a second, that's just too traumatic for everyone involved. They tend to be middle class or above. These kids learn no life skills because when they were 7 they said they didn't want to help mom with the laundry and at 13 rolled their eyes and went back into their room when dad asked to cook something together and that's that, asking again would be abuse and it's just so much easier to do it for them anyways. If the kids show interest in these things, sure, but until they show their own interest it's wrong to try to get kids to do something they don't want to do. The second comes from being poor and stressed. Every day mom comes home after working 2 jobs and barely has time to warm up a microwave meal for the kids and she throws the laundry in at the same time in a well rehearsed ritual of critical time saving. Every day is a tense rush and there just isn't time to deal with teaching. Sure it would be a nice help if the kids pitched in more but teaching them requires time and emotional resources, especially if the kids are highly resistant to the idea. The kids learn to take advantage of this situation and use it to get out of most chores and home-tasks. The one time mom tried to teach him laundry he dumped the entire thing of expensive detergent on his 4 year old sister, one time he was asked to help in the kitchen he thought it would be funny to dump the whole thing of salt into the soup. No, just keep the little shits away so there's no expensive or time-wasting gently caress ups.
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If there's one thing you can count on us goons for, it's spending pages talking about basic life skills and talking about kids these days
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Harrow posted:If there's one thing you can count on us goons for, it's spending pages talking about basic life skills and talking about kids these days Thats two things
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gently caress I can't count to two
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fair enough, I guess I've contributed to enough useless derails in my time that I can't really complain. I hate these people: I [30F] am so mad at my husband [31 M] right now. Highly anticipated date night gone wrong. Married about 6 years. quote:submitted 12 hours ago * by luluNova
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You know it's a bad story when the best possible outcome is "maybe he gets off on any poo poo". The best she can hope for is he's just got a generalised scat/diaper fetish and his son's diapers are the nearest convenient source, but that's very much the best of a very bad bunch. At least he's the receiver, I guess. making GBS threads on your kid is definitely worse than making GBS threads on the dishwasher.
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PetraCore posted:Do most high schools not have a required Home Ec class? Mine did and that's where I learned to cook. Home Economics was purely elective at my school district. I'm inclined to agree that it should be mandatory (and should also include personal finance). The lovely thing is that in a lot of school districts, the elementary/primary schools really fail to get a lot of kids up to where they need to be, which leads to middle schools and especially high schools dumping remedial math/English courses on them in a desperate effort to get their state test scores up. Unfortunately those remedial courses take up time that used to be available for electives. Honestly if it wasn't for state and university requirements that kids have at least a couple years of a second language under their belt, I think we'd have seen huge swathes of (poorer) American schools straight up dropping foreign languages altogether.
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Farmer Crack-rear end posted:Home Economics was purely elective at my school district. I'm inclined to agree that it should be mandatory (and should also include personal finance). i can't believe theyve survived even this long considering american conservative opinions re: "speaking 'Murican if you wanna live here"
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Oh my gosh you lot always do this as soon as there’s a cooking related story. Jesus, is this what you do in countries where you don’t have a well developed class system so need to find another reason to look down on people? [Non-Romantic] My [24f] sister [20f] hasn't spoken to me in almost a year. We are meeting with her therapist for the first time on Thursday. quote:u/ramblingkite I guess the parents raised two wimps.
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NO gently caress YOU DAD posted:You know it's a bad story when the best possible outcome is "maybe he gets off on any poo poo". The best she can hope for is he's just got a generalised scat/diaper fetish and his son's diapers are the nearest convenient source, but that's very much the best of a very bad bunch. I was hoping the update would be dad got weird and brokebrained for a bit after the birth of the baby, like that guy that stopped showering after their kid was born. No matter the reason, it’s still beyond the loving pale. That woman might even be less disgusted if she caught her husband dropping a deuce on their baby.
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The worst part about poo poo sniffer is you're not gonna want to leave him alone with the child ever again until well after they're potty trained.
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My [37M] wife [36F] of 10 years is upset and angry because our kids like my cooking more than hersquote:My wife and I have been together for 12 years, married 10. She is a full-time homemaker, taking care of our four kids 8F, 6M, 4F, 2F. Naturally, all the cooking falls to her and that's great because she's a great chef. Both me and my children love her cooking. I (32m) can't really appreciate my girlfriend (29f) of two years famous home cooking. How do I tell her I'd prefer to keep buying my food? quote:I'm a smoker with allergies and a septum injury. I can't taste poo poo unless it's loaded with salt, fat, and sugar. My girlfriend has changed how she cooks and seasons my food but it's not enough.
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Andy Dufresne posted:The worst part about poo poo sniffer is you're not gonna want to leave him alone with the child ever again until well after they're potty trained. If he's got some sexual fetish involving your child you never loving leave him alone with the kid ever again.
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Jeza posted:
lmao this guy is a bitch
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girl pants posted:fair enough, I guess I've contributed to enough useless derails in my time that I can't really complain. dunno why this lady isn't publicly shaming him, dude needs it sounds like that relationship's over anyway
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Jeza posted:My [37M] wife [36F] of 10 years is upset and angry because our kids like my cooking more than hers seriously tho, how can he not recognize this? Khorne fucked around with this message at 20:06 on Jan 15, 2018 |
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poison your kids, that'll show her.
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Andy Dufresne posted:The worst part about poo poo sniffer is you're not gonna want to leave him alone with the child ever again until well after they're potty trained. More like you throw the fucker in jail and never allow him around your child again.
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Khorne posted:Your wife's thought process is messed up by breaking her arm and being unable to function normally. Try not to tank your relationship by being an rear end in a top hat who can't recognize that when real bad things happen it often takes time to get over them. Like when your arm is broken. It takes time to heal. She'll be back to normal in a month or two. People have ups and downs, and this is an arm-break assisted down. It's possible he's understating about how owned his wife has been getting by her kids on the cooking front. They might be like miniature Gordon Ramsays.
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Jeza posted:It's possible he's understating about how owned his wife has been getting by her kids on the cooking front. They might be like miniature Gordon Ramsays. WHAT THE FREAK IS THIS, YOU DUMB DORK? *spits out half-chewed dino nugget*
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Jeza posted:I (32m) can't really appreciate my girlfriend (29f) of two years famous home cooking. How do I tell her I'd prefer to keep buying my food? Notoriously fatless and flavorless tiramisu. I hope his septum injury is from getting punched in the face for being a dingus.
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A friend of mine's kid just went off to college and wash and fold and a service to wash and replace the sheets every x number of days was an option as part of the student housing. Not like off campus, dorms, at a state school.
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Baronjutter posted:I've seen two distinct classes of helpless 20-somethings: I was a variant of this. My mom ran the house the way she wanted and had her way of doing things and preferred that the rest of us not get in the way. Every once in a while I'd ask to do something, but my job was to get good grades and be a kid, and as long as I was doing well in school that was what mattered. In college I had to learn how to cook and do laundry, although even that wasn't until third year since cooking equipment wasn't allowed in the dorms and the basement laundry machines were ancient and people stole clothes out of them. A girlfriend in high school had already taught me how to do dishes and I'd do those at her house sometimes to help out. It worked out okay. My house can get messy but nothing extreme. I'm a very good cook and a slow laundry folder. I'm going to involve my children in chores at an early age but that's partly because getting by on a single working parent's salary is not as easy these days and frankly we could use the help around the house. Edit: We had home ec in middle school but the recipes were fairly complicated and we only worked in groups so that only served to mystify cooking for me. I liked sewing, though.
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Three Olives posted:A friend of mine's kid just went off to college and wash and fold and a service to wash and replace the sheets every x number of days was an option as part of the student housing. Not like off campus, dorms, at a state school. I find this very, very hard to believe outside of an Ivy League or other rich exclusive private school.
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My[15F] moms[45F] food is down right disgusting, how can I break it to her?quote:My moms cooking is just down right gross. Only she likes it, my dads way too passive to say anything so he ends up either choking it down or having a hot dog or sandwich. mmmmmm moist tepid dawgs
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:More like you throw the fucker in jail and never allow him around your child again. I hope she saved that camera footage for the custody hearings.
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Yeah, I'm not arguing in this guy's defense, I just don't see how you keep him from getting shared custody.
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Andy Dufresne posted:Yeah, I'm not arguing in this guy's defense, I just don't see how you keep him from getting shared custody. This seems to be my solution for everything these days, but there's always
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Andy Dufresne posted:Yeah, I'm not arguing in this guy's defense, I just don't see how you keep him from getting shared custody. Dude, any lawyer in America could get her a protective restraining order and full custody ASAP.
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tactlessbastard posted:I hope that was something he chose for himself because that would be a hilariously irresponsible thing for a teacher to assign. I had to do this as a freshman in college for biology lab , and the professor said flat out ‘Every year, someone in one of my classes finds out their parents are not their parents, so if you’re concerned about this, there’s an alternate lab, see me about it’. Even as a teenage idiot, I thought ‘man, that’s potentially soul-destroying, you’d think they’d do something more innocuous for lab’.
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Jeza posted:I (32m) can't really appreciate my girlfriend (29f) of two years famous home cooking. How do I tell her I'd prefer to keep buying my food?
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