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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Yeah I don't really see the issue either. Some people avoid gluten who probably don't have to - who cares? You have a group of friends. One has a pink hat. They wear the hat everywhere you go together. They make sure to remind you all that they're wearing the pink hat. Every time you go to dinner, they make sure to ask the waiter if they noticed their pink hat. They nix restaurant options because (in case you forgot) they have to be able to wear their pink hat. They make sure everything the friend group does caters to the pink hat, and they act like an rear end in a top hat when people don't. They talk about their pink hat all the time. They have no personality - no reason for anyone to pay attention to them - instead they have their pink hat. That person is annoying. You have another friend who also has a pink hat, but not because they need a crutch where their personality used to be, but because the doctor told them to have it. They only put it on when they need to. They don't draw attention to it when they feel like no one's paying attention to them. That person is not annoying. The problem is that when Friend #1 dominates the public space with their annoying behavior, it makes people less tolerant and understanding of Friend #2. It also incentivizes more dumb people to act like Friend #1, which exacerbates the negative stigma.
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I am 100% okay with any friend making any request of any restaurant. (Vetoing is a different story but yeah.) This does not bother me and in fact anyone should feel willing to order whatever it is they want. I think your characterization is pretty unfair - not everyone who tries odd dietary changes instantly makes that their only personality. Have you actually met this irritating straw person you describe? I have not, though I've met vegans who are like that because they believe there is a moral high ground - I've never seen someone denounce gluten as evil.
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girl pants posted:I [25 F] am growing tired of my[28 M] boyfriend of 4.5 years' picky eating. Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I am 100% okay with any friend making any request of any restaurant. (Vetoing is a different story but yeah.) This does not bother me and in fact anyone should feel willing to order whatever it is they want.
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I see it mostly in dudes, and I think it might be some association that being vegetarian is feminine, eating tons of red meat is manly. If you don't eat enough meat you'll turn into a beta soy boy! If their friends or partner don't eat meat then maybe that means they'll have to eat less meat them selves, or have to cook separate meals? I think some people also assume that if someone is changing their diet for ethical reasons than that person obviously must be judging them and thinking they're better, and that's something insecure people can get enraged over. So other people being vegetarian means they're trying to emasculate society and think they're better than meat eaters, and if you're an insecure little dude incapable of self reflection this will just get channeled into anger.
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just lol if you're not pretending to have cancer so that people make you fresh juices and pity you edit: i also pretend to need kidney dialysis for the time off work edit2: the real life pro tip is that if you want people to do things for you but they wouldn't normally do those things, you can use lies! navier-stoked fucked around with this message at 17:43 on Jan 22, 2018 |
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ReadingZucchini posted:just lol if you're not pretending to have cancer so that people make you fresh juices and pity you lifehack: lie about having cancer, people will bring you juice and you can smoke a lot of  the downside is that if you really want to commit you have to remove your own toenailsMy LDR four month girlfriend [21] has told me [22] she is short on money to buy tea to detox herself for her upcoming job interview. Should I send her money? quote:submitted 1 year ago * by qsmith2000
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yeah ok i'll keep my only slightly picky and extremely-not-abusive husband at this point
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ReadingZucchini posted:just lol if you're not pretending to have cancer so that people make you fresh juices and pity you
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I am 100% okay with any friend making any request of any restaurant. (Vetoing is a different story but yeah.) This does not bother me and in fact anyone should feel willing to order whatever it is they want. I think your characterization is pretty unfair - not everyone who tries odd dietary changes instantly makes that their only personality. Have you actually met this irritating straw person you describe? I have not, though I've met vegans who are like that because they believe there is a moral high ground - I've never seen someone denounce gluten as evil. Friend #1 is all over Portland, Oregon and it is a pain in the dick to plan events for them. They are very nearly alway GF AND vegan with a side of food allegies and they will make sure you know about it. I mostly just don't invite these people anymore except when there is some social reason that means snubbing them will have negative consequences. When that happens they are annoying as poo poo. I also have friend #2 and I will either adjust my menue or have an alternate option for them because they are respectful and often bring thier own food and don't make a big deal out of it. It is pretty clear that they don't have an allergy or celiac but they are commited to the Glutten Free Vegan lifstyle necause they believe it has some woo health benefits. They do not draw attention to this and undetstand it is hard caterinf to a bunch of dietary restrictions fpr a bunch of different people.
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flick my Mr. Bean posted:This is what I was thinking too. Even if she realized she's gay, that doesn't mean she doesn't care for her husband. Hell, she may feel bad for him. I can't say for sure because I'm not in the situation but I think if I came out as gay, I'd probably try to make sure my wife gets whatever the hell she wants out of our marriage/divorce. Yes but his wife, her family and many of her friends/associates are all lawyers and theyre 95% scumbags. He has every reason to be concerned.
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Barudak posted:Race mixing is a surprisingly effective method of eliminating allergies lmao where's the evidence for that? couldn't find anything on pubmed.
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therobit posted:(((Lawyers))) Yea, we dont have a completely hosed up justice and civil settlement system in the US that attracts complete sociopaths to continue propagating it, no I must be an anti semite. gently caress off.
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Meme Emulator posted:Yea, we dont have a completely hosed up justice and civil settlement system in the US that attracts complete sociopaths to continue propagating it, no I must be an anti semite. gently caress off. Hrrrrm yes it must be the (((lawyers))) causing this instead of the complex web of legislation and a system of government that is designed to preserve power for those in power and the hijacking of the legislative process by corporations.
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therobit posted:Hrrrrm yes it must be the (((lawyers))) causing this instead of the complex web of legislation and a system of government that is designed to preserve power for those in power and the hijacking of the legislative process by corporations. (((corporations)))
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I think your characterization is pretty unfair - not everyone who tries odd dietary changes instantly makes that their only personality. Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Have you actually met this irritating straw person you describe? I have not, though I've met vegans who are like that because they believe there is a moral high ground - I've never seen someone denounce gluten as evil.
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Even if you think somebody is being a jerk you should still accomodate their retarded food allergies just in case it actually seriously harms them! It's not for you to decide whether or not their allergies are "real" and if they end up in the hospital for a week because you gave them regular Pepsi instead of diet you're gonna feel like a huge butt! Me [28F] with my husband [31M]: He left refuses to come back quote:submitted 1 month ago by pinaybanana Honey, he was never sick, it was always meth
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I don't see why you have to lie to get gluten free stuff. "May I have this without gluten" is a fine restaurant request and doesn't imply you have celiac at all. You are in fact allowed to ask for anything you want at the restaurant and, generally, they'll say yes because they want to cook food that you like. I also thinking blowing off work and still getting paid by saying you have to get dialysis is good, as the employer-employee relationship is fundamentally adversarial and it's you should be fighting for every scrap of leeway, as they will. You have a strange view of "the rules" which don't exist and you're hurting yourself with your well-meaning ethical rules here. My post was clearly about the efficacy of lying about a severe medical illness to get people to behave how you want them to. Please consider a hot take that is actually about the quoted post tia. navier-stoked fucked around with this message at 19:34 on Jan 22, 2018 |
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girl pants posted:Even if you think somebody is being a jerk you should still accomodate their retarded food allergies just in case it actually seriously harms them! It's not for you to decide whether or not their allergies are "real" and if they end up in the hospital for a week because you gave them regular Pepsi instead of diet you're gonna feel like a huge butt! You are 28 with no kids, let methulese go. Hell since hes a meth head he probably wont show up to court and youll get everything.
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girl pants posted:Even if you think somebody is being a jerk you should still accomodate their retarded food allergies just in case it actually seriously harms them! It's not for you to decide whether or not their allergies are "real" and if they end up in the hospital for a week because you gave them regular Pepsi instead of diet you're gonna feel like a huge butt! drat, how good and inaccessible to her is that movie theater popcorn that she stuck with him?
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Together five years and she didn’t immediately nope out about big conspiracy theories and his lack of trust in banks?! That’s some heavy denial if she believes he has Morgellons over the fact he’s repeatedly picking at his skin when he does meth. (Though, thanks thread, I was trying to remember the name of the ‘made up illness’ recently, but was blanking because ‘fibromyalgia’ kept popping into my head) But when the guy’s own parents are telling you to run, you should loving listen.
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The instant she started describing his symptoms I wbispered "meth" to myself Working in social services I feel like I've basically met this dude with ten different faces
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girl pants posted:given that she (according to the tl;dr) still thinks he left because he had some sort of Mystery Illness which he felt unsupported during, I'm going to guess that she probably doesn't realize that you can just... buy popcorn. remember, she's a skeptic and remains unconvinced on Morgellons
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girl pants posted:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fY1Pl1zGowc
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Mocking Bird posted:The instant she started describing his symptoms I wbispered "meth" to myself The Meth-head Has a Thousand Faces was a ground breaking book in the comparative study of meths
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Mocking Bird posted:The instant she started describing his symptoms I wbispered "meth" to myself lol, me too then the next paragraph came along and i laughed but like, in a sad way
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I am 100% okay with any friend making any request of any restaurant. (Vetoing is a different story but yeah.) This does not bother me and in fact anyone should feel willing to order whatever it is they want. I think your characterization is pretty unfair - not everyone who tries odd dietary changes instantly makes that their only personality. Have you actually met this irritating straw person you describe? I have not, though I've met vegans who are like that because they believe there is a moral high ground - I've never seen someone denounce gluten as evil. NPR had a freakanomics piece with a Doctor who is finding that actual rates of celiac are much higher in the US than previously thought, but he can't get funding or social traction because its been such an obnoxious fad. Even the show's producer thought she had Celiac, but it turns out she didn't. She was spending like $1,200/month on groceries. http://freakonomics.com/podcast/demonization-gluten/
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Mocking Bird posted:The instant she started describing his symptoms I wbispered "meth" to myself Not to mention how she just casually mentions the ‘former heroin addiction’ and that he couldn’t promise her to stop doing meth.
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therobit posted:Hrrrrm yes it must be the (((lawyers))) causing this instead of the complex web of legislation and a system of government that is designed to preserve power for those in power and the hijacking of the legislative process by corporations. The Police arent the cause of many of these problems either, but they're still a part of the problem
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girl pants posted:Actually that's sort of depressing. Try this instead I don't even understand how this couple has been dating for 4 loving years when the dude is stupidly picky and his girlfriend is really into food. How does that even work? How did they get past the first month of dating?  Dude is a goddamn child and deserves his girlfriend very blatantly loving with his stupid rear end. What kind of idiot dislikes lettuce and tomato on his burger and orders a plain burger with cheese? Literally 4 years old.
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Iceberg Lettuce on anything loving sucks. It's the worst vegetable. Absolutely flavorless and all it does is make things soggy.
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Unless you're celiac or just trying to lose weight going "gluten free" is 100% useless. Initially there was some research pointing towards gluten maybe causing IBS symptoms for some people, but the very doctor who did the study that launched the gluten-free craze ended up rescinding his theory after he did some more in depth studies that showed eliminating gluten had no effect on non-celiacs with IBS. What he did find though is that gluten is simply one of many sources of short chain carbs that some people's guts have problems dealing with, which resulted in the FODMAP diet, which is now an actually tested and effective way of helping some people with digestive problems. The idea is to follow the diet strictly for a month or so and then slowly reintroduce things and see how you feel. It's really helped me and hasn't been at all a problem to follow (and I lost about 40 pounds). My main things are gluten, garlic, onion, and dairy (but seem ok with harder cheeses and baking that has dairy in it). I tried some good properly made sourdough breads but that didn't work out either. There's so much decent gluten-free poo poo these days it's really not a problem. Also we're not spending any extra money, I don't know how someone is spending 1,200 a month on groceries because they're celiac. I've got a couple legit celiac friends and very little about their lives have changed, but I guess it depends on where you live. I've found avoiding garlic and onion a lot harder than gluten, and even then I need to eat really garlicy poo poo straight for a few days for it to gently caress me up. But there's plenty of reasons to avoid gluten even if you aren't celiac. Maybe they're doing a FODMAP thing, maybe they're just trying to lose weight by cutting it out, maybe a doctor told them they're borderline and to try eliminating it for a month and see how they feel.
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I'm always confusing the two. I think it's because the fake one has "fibers", and Fibromyalgia is a fairly new disease, in terms of hearing about it.
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Al Borland Corp. posted:Iceberg Lettuce on anything loving sucks. It's the worst vegetable. Absolutely flavorless and all it does is make things soggy. Picky eater insane guy heavily implies he orders a burger without lettuce and tomato or other comically bland foods off the kid's menu every single time, even when he's at some high-end artisan restaurant with his foodie girlfriend. So that means he's disgusted when faced with a burger that has romaine, arugula, spinach, or any leafy green too.
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Lawrence Gilchrist posted:remember, she's a skeptic and remains unconvinced on Morgellons my husband is staying up all night picking at his many lesions and he lost 50 pounds without exercise. it's either Morgellons or some other mystery illness.  then I found out he was doing meth!
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Beachcomber posted:I'm always confusing the two. I think it's because the fake one has "fibers", and Fibromyalgia is a fairly new disease, in terms of hearing about it. I think of "Morgellons" as the geocities website that came to life. Edit: can't read.
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