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ArbitraryC posted:So would a super lopsided prenup actually hold up? I feel like we've seen similar stories where it didn't. If it's lopsided like "protect pre-existing assets and their growth, protect retirement savings, protect inherited assets during the marriage" then it will probably hold up if you aren't trying to actively hide things in them. If it's lopsided like what that guy described, hell no. Khorne fucked around with this message at 21:42 on Feb 16, 2018 |
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Sloth Life posted:So, do we believe that Wifey said "oh no honey, please go ahead and bed the stranger you brought home" ? I believe that he was drunk and parsed something she said that way, I do not believe that's actually what she said and certainly not what she meant Ham Sandwiches posted:Like it 100% sounds they shouldn't have been married, dude was absolutely serious about wanting a poly bride and she said she was on board with it and then it turns out she wasn't and now the narrative is that he's suddenly a dick for being serious about it in the first place. Again, having a threesome was not a thing he did loving a rando on the couch because of something his wife mumbled while half asleep is the thing he did
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Feb 16, 2018 21:34
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I mean, I can understand how frustrating it is when someone expects you to be psychic and realise what they said is not what they actually think or feel. Don't loving play mind games people, be honest. On the other hand, I really don't buy the story babes telling.
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Feb 16, 2018 21:35
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Power Khan posted:In addition to giving away the furniture like the others suggested, the dude should have shat on a plate, placed it in the middle of the livingroom and planted the charm on top. This is all too high effort stuff folks it reveals that you really do care. The guy should come over and just be hit with an air of such crushing indifference that it makes him question why there is some dude in the apartment chilling and relaxing and it makes the woman question her very world views in that moment in time. Let *her* stutter and try to explain to her date, don't make it easy for her to write you off as a nutcase which you will deffo come across as if you poo poo on a plate and leave it out for them to find. You have to get in their minds.
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Feb 16, 2018 21:36
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Sloth Life posted:So, do we believe that Wifey said "oh no honey, please go ahead and bed the stranger you brought home" ? I suspect he heard what he wanted to hear and ignored what he didn't want to hear. quote:Now, polygamy was something I've always thought about, and I'm not going to pretend that over the past 5 years I haven't fantasized about loving someone other than my wife, so when the chance presented itself to me, I'll admit I may have been a bit too enthusiastic.
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Feb 16, 2018 21:37
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loquacius posted:Again, having a threesome was not a thing he did She spent 5 years of her life married to a poly dude who wanted threesomes for the marriage to come crashing down when, 5 years later, he decided to act on her suggestion to bring a lady to their place and do a threesome  Again, the dude is an idiot, but I don't quite understand why the lady went through this rigamarole when the dude was fairly clear from the getgo, like, laid it out the he was serious and that he wanted to act on it. And sorry but being in bed with all the crap turned off after the dude returns with another person and not even being willing to talk about it, is probably, not a good way to express "i've changed my mind" It genuinely seems like she felt bad that she couldn't be ok with doing the thing she said she would be ok with and told him to do it that night, as a sort of decision that would move things forward to the obvious conclusion. Ham Sandwiches fucked around with this message at 21:40 on Feb 16, 2018 |
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Ham Sandwiches posted:She spent 5 years of her life married to a poly dude who wanted threesomes for the marriage to come crashing down when, 5 years later, he decided to act on her suggestion to bring a lady to their place and do a threesome I keep saying this: you can be mad at her for lying or changing her mind about the threesome or whatever, but under absolutely no circumstances should he have gone out and hosed the girl without her. That's not what they'd discussed, it's not what he'd asked for, and he deserves whatever he gets for doing it. Like, I could keep quoting my own post here but I don't wanna do that
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Feb 16, 2018 21:40
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The part where he says he found an attractive enough girl who was a "bit sloppy" makes me think this guy is kind of a creep. Also the part where she was still on the couch in the morning is pretty hilarious.
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Feb 16, 2018 21:41
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Ham Sandwiches posted:And sorry but being in bed with all the crap turned off after the dude returns with another person and not even being willing to talk about it, is probably, not a good way to express "i've changed my mind" It's not a good way to do that but it's a pretty fuckin' obvious way to do it.
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Feb 16, 2018 21:41
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loquacius posted:I keep saying this: you can be mad at her for lying or changing her mind about the threesome or whatever, but under absolutely no circumstances should he have gone out and hosed the girl without her. That's not what they'd discussed, it's not what he'd asked for, and he deserves whatever he gets for doing it. Yeah I'm not really disagreeing with what you're saying, I'm just bewildered about the whole story really. In terms of the permission thing, she did explicitly tell him to do it, from her hiding spot under the sheets. quote:She kissed me and said she was tired, that I could go on without her and she'd just rather sleep.
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Feb 16, 2018 21:42
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I mean I don't think it's an accurate retelling of the story to call him a "poly dude" when he's had a single sexual encounter with a person other than his wife in 5 years. It's kind of interesting to me that "threesomes are a requirement for my relationship guy" couldn't move that ball forward for 5 years. I wonder if there's a lot more to his wife's side.
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Feb 16, 2018 21:44
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On the other hand, that dude is now free to pursue all the threesomes he could ever want! Yay!
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Feb 16, 2018 21:48
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The wife was super passive aggressive - yet entirely obvious- at every step and he was deliberately misreading and misinterpreting her
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Feb 16, 2018 21:50
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Why would you marry someone that wants threesomes if you don't want to participate in threesomes  Congrats on the 5 year long con to see if he'd grow out of it, apparently not, RIP those years for both parties
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Feb 16, 2018 21:51
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My (25/m) girlfriend (25/f) says she wants to sleep with other girlsquote:We've been together about 6 months, I was a virgin before her. She brings up wanting an open relationship sometimes but I always tell her I am not cool with it. She told me she is bisexual and it's hard for her and she wants to sleep with other women. I agreed to do a threesome with her. But she keeps saying she's concerned I'll get jealous of the other woman, that I wont want to do threesomes as often as her, or I will cum too fast (I was a virgin before her). The greatest trick a cheater can pull is convincing their partner that opening the relationship isn't cheating.
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Feb 16, 2018 21:53
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blarzgh posted:Look, I'm really sorry about this... Laws vary by state, but requirements may include both parties needing to be represented by separate counsel, various waiting periods, and etc. Also, child support generally cannot be negotiated in a prenup. Alimony certainly can though, and barring exceptional circumstances, as long as all the statutory requirements are met courts will enforce prenups. sincx fucked around with this message at 21:59 on Feb 16, 2018 |
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Feb 16, 2018 21:56
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Ham Sandwiches posted:Why would you marry someone that wants threesomes if you don't want to participate in threesomes It sounds more like she wanted to try but then realized she couldn't go through with it to me. Realizing you're incompatible and ending the relationship is the best possible outcome.
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Feb 16, 2018 21:57
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Inescapable Duck posted:Plan 9: Go to the moon and get drunk. Uh, no. Plan 9 is to reanimate the corpses of Earthlings for reasons.
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Feb 16, 2018 21:58
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Doggles posted:My (25/m) girlfriend (25/f) says she wants to sleep with other girls "Well we COULD have threesomes, but I'm afraid your pathetic weiner would cum too quickly and you'd get jealous of how I'm ignoring you completely so you should probably just give up on that and let me gently caress ladies whenever I want without you"
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Feb 16, 2018 21:59
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blarzgh posted:Look, I'm really sorry about this... ya know you're sorry but i'm a big fan of the "listen to actions not words" school of thought  yes, many states have legislation specifically on premarital agreements and specify what is / isn't allowable and some may allow different degrees of "lopsidedness". but all contracts require consideration, this is a basic concept that applies to all contracts (a subset of which include pre-marital agreements) barring specific legislation allowing for one sided (no consideration) pre marital agreements, what i said in my original post stands. i'm extremely confident no court would hold a contract written in a person's non native language, demanded to be signed immediately, without access to independent counsel to evaluate would be upheld tldr: premarital agreements are contracts and you are not actually sorry
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Feb 16, 2018 22:02
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girl pants posted:It sounds more like she wanted to try but then realized she couldn't go through with it to me. Realizing you're incompatible and ending the relationship is the best possible outcome. yeah. even if wife was being unclear in her communication husband pretty clearly set out to get his dick wet that night one way or another and showed a shocking lack of regard for his wife's feelings or even basic loyalty to her, if he couldn't bother clarifying whether or not she was ok with him nailing a drunk bar hookup on the couch i mean, me personally, if my wife texts me and asks me to pick up chicken breasts for dinner i text her back and clarify the amount she wants. communication is important, especially if you're about to have extramarital sex
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Galaxy Brain posted:What does "consideration" mean here? consideration means you get something out of the deal. for example, if leonard j crabs signs a contract he will provide you 1 hour of legal love in a court of your choice, both parties get a benefit. leonard gets money for pickled eggs and you get legal help.
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Feb 16, 2018 22:04
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sincx posted:Yeah. Prenups are generally enforceable if they were created per statute. yes, and admittedly i'm muddling consideration in the "getting something" sense and consideration in the "ability to have a legal professional not owned by your redpilled manchild husband review the documents"
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Feb 16, 2018 22:05
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Doggles posted:My (25/m) girlfriend (25/f) says she wants to sleep with other girls lmao what a loving loser.
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Also it kind of sounds like he was out super late- much more so than expected, by his own accord- and didn’t keep her updated. Like, even if you’re down for it, eventually you want to go to bed. And yeah, dragging some sloppy drunk chick home at 4 in the morning after ghosting your wife isn’t a great look. It didn’t sound like he really did anything to get his wife involved, and was like “welp, your loss!!”.
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Alternate theory: She actually was willing to try a threesome but he was out past god knows what hour and she fell asleep, and when awoken just didn't even know what the hell was going on and mumbled something and happy Valentines so she could go back to sleep. Then woke up to find some very "sloppy" woman on her couch with some brand new cum stains. Or woke up to hear loving she had no idea about. Got the gently caress out of there.
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BadSamaritan posted:Also it kind of sounds like he was out super late- much more so than expected, by his own accord- and didn’t keep her updated. Like, even if you’re down for it, eventually you want to go to bed. Can you imagine how terrible the threesome would have been if they actually went through with it?
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Feb 16, 2018 22:07
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Torn over whether I (M/45) should reveal that I've done porn to GF (F/45).quote:I (M/45) am torn over whether I should reveal to my partner (F/45) of four years that I've done porn. We are without doubt into the "real" relationship, and although it's still relatively early, there is a growing awareness that this could be the best relationship of our lives. It's wonderful in all respects: it's supportive, it's exciting, the sex is phenomenal, and we really like each other. We have become trusted friends. We often speak about a distant future together, and she has said to me "This is it for me, I don't think I could ever be with anyone else."
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Feb 16, 2018 22:07
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Vargatron posted:He has it strung upside down. That’s just how mandolinists string their planq when hitting the mean streets to engage in mandolin battles for street cred. Coohoolin can back me up on this.
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Feb 16, 2018 22:07
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boner confessor posted:yeah. even if wife was being unclear in her communication husband pretty clearly set out to get his dick wet that night one way or another and showed a shocking lack of regard for his wife's feelings or even basic loyalty to her, if he couldn't bother clarifying whether or not she was ok with him nailing a drunk bar hookup on the couch Well you see relationships are legal documents so if the wife agrees to do something she's legally obligated to not change her mind or get all mad about it I mean she already said yes GOSH
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It was a poorly planned threesome from the get go, why did he have to go hunting through bars when they could've used a dating app and looked together?
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BadSamaritan posted:Also it kind of sounds like he was out super late- much more so than expected, by his own accord- and didn’t keep her updated. Like, even if you’re down for it, eventually you want to go to bed. He asked her to come with him to pick the girl and she said no, you do it, I'll be waiting for you when you get home, and they don't text in general but this time he did text her that he was on the way, and got no response, and the hint that he was supposed to understand is that she took the time to put stuff away (candles etc) instead of just going to bed, which meant she wasn't actually still on board with it, but she didn't want to deal with any of the weirdness that comes with changing your mind halfway through something like that and what do you know there's another person here now so you get what we had here a fuckin
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dudeness posted:It was a poorly planned threesome from the get go, why did he have to go hunting through bars when they could've used a dating app and looked together? he didnt actually want a 3some he wanted to bang another broad
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dudeness posted:It was a poorly planned threesome from the get go, why did he have to go hunting through bars when they could've used a dating app and looked together? because he's a stubborn idiot who really wants to rules lawyer his way into loving another woman without technically cheating on his wife, and his execution was so hasty that he ended up cheating so obviously he left the other woman passed out in the living room for his wife to discover when she woke up
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girl pants posted:It sounds more like she wanted to try but then realized she couldn't go through with it to me. Realizing you're incompatible and ending the relationship is the best possible outcome. Also if they had a good sex life and he didn't bring it up for 5 years, she probably thought the threesomes were more of a bucket list item than an absolute requirement. Since, you know, they were happy for 5 years without one.
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big trivia FAIL posted:he didnt actually want a 3some he wanted to bang another broad She probably would have just fallen asleep too early or gotten jealous of the other girl, so clearly he should have been allowed to just gently caress other women on his own that's right, this is what they call a "crossover post" it is very witty
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Ham Sandwiches posted:He asked her to come with him to pick the girl and she said no, you do it, I'll be waiting for you when you get home, and they don't text in general but this time he did text her that he was on the way, and got no response, and the hint that he was supposed to understand is that she took the time to put stuff away (candles etc) instead of just going to bed, which meant she wasn't actually still on board with it, but she didn't want to deal with any of the weirdness that comes with changing your mind halfway through something like that and what do you know there's another person here now so you get what we had here yeah it's definitely the person who didn't gently caress a stranger who is to blame here
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girl pants posted:Well you see relationships are legal documents so if the wife agrees to do something she's legally obligated to not change her mind or get all mad about it I mean she already said yes GOSH this isn't england relationships are at will - they can be terminated without cause or for no reason at all ("it's not you it's me")
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How could me ruining my life have happened to me??
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boner confessor posted:yeah it's definitely the person who didn't gently caress a stranger who is to blame here In this case, yes, I think they are, 100%, for marrying a person that was clear they wanted to gently caress a stranger, and then bringing it up of your own volition and telling that person "hey that thing you wanted, it's been 5 years now, so that's cool with me, let's do it" and then suddenly turning into a corncob and saying nothing past that point, is actually pretty crappy to both people involved, sincerely
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