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Doggles posted:Please refrain from any negative comments about my double-posting. it's really sad that this girl got taken advantage of by a predator and feels guilty about it 
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Doggles posted:I [34m] do not want cable anymore. My live in GF [30f] thinks Im being cheap. Is mad. I hate to say it but I kind of side with him, shared expenses are shared expenses and luxuries are luxuries. She needs to pay for the cable or give it up.
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My [25f] boyfriend [28m] of one year frequently comes home with significant unexplained injuries that he doesn’t want to talk about.quote:I don’t want to make him seem like a terrible person or anything. Brian is incredibly sweet, very kind both to me and others, and very gentle. But this is a really weird thing and I don’t know what to think about it. Fight club or secret agent?
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SirSamVimes posted:it's really sad that this girl got taken advantage of by a predator and feels guilty about it I think we are going a bit far with sexual predator and being taken advantage of since she is an adult and willfully participated in the sex.
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Doggles posted:I [34m] do not want cable anymore. My live in GF [30f] thinks Im being cheap. Is mad. It really annoys me when someone calls you cheap for wanting to eliminate a pointless expense. Cheap is avoiding necessary expenses, buying inferior quality products to "save" a dollar, inconveniencing your family for no good reason, or denying someone something that's important to them. Cheap isn't trying to remain solvent. Cheap isn't eliminating a $113/mo tv bill that comes on top of streaming services you actually use. Khorne fucked around with this message at 22:51 on Feb 19, 2018 |
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Doggles posted:I [34m] do not want cable anymore. My live in GF [30f] thinks Im being cheap. Is mad. He's not wrong but his way of going about it is, well, less than ideal. In an ideal world the moment he learned his gf had cable he would have  ed and moved on to find someone else. Something like this is a fundamental incompatibility that he should not tolerate.
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Three Olives posted:I think we are going a bit far with sexual predator and being taken advantage of since she is an adult and willfully participated in the sex. He’s probably been grooming her for a few years. She’s 19 now he probably “waited” for her to turn 18. Dudes a predator.
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Feb 19, 2018 22:59
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Jesus gently caress $173 a month just for Cable??
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Baronjutter posted:Jesus gently caress $173 a month just for TV?? That sounds like internet cable and phone ultimate packages around here.
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Feb 19, 2018 23:00
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paying 173/mo for cable in 2018 is in fact, stupid.
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Baronjutter posted:Jesus gently caress $173 a month just for TV??
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Baronjutter posted:Jesus gently caress $173 a month just for Cable?? Probably started off as one of those "99/month" deals for X months with free* HBO, showtime, etc. Now that the promo period is over, she's getting charged for those premium channels and her bill is outrageous.
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Baronjutter posted:Jesus gently caress $173 a month just for Cable?? We were paying $200 a month for internet/cable without any special packages, when I found out I was like are you loving kidding me and had AT&T gigabit fiber and TV installed for like $100 a month.
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My (32F) Husband (33M) is resentful because I keep the house clean? Am I missing something? We’ve been married for two years. I have three kids from a previous marriage (9, 6, 4) and we had a baby together two weeks ago. Before my husband and I met, my parents bought the house we live in now as a real estate investment. It’s small, but pretty and in a nice neighborhood. After I divorced my ex, they offered it to me and my three kids (rent free) so I could get back on my feet. I’m a clean person anyway, but especially because I was living in a place my parents own, I was careful to put a LOT of effort in the upkeep of the house, yard etc. My husband is VERY messy and I knew that from the get go. His car and the room he was staying in when we met we’re both covered in trash, dirty laundry, etc. But he was a bachelor, he works long hours and just doesn’t find cleaning to be particularly important. While that’s not particularly attractive, it didn’t bother me that much. It does now that we live together, of course, but I’ve learned to accept it. I can’t force him to think having a clean house is important, but it’s important to me so I just keep up with it myself. When I got pregnant with our newest baby, I was put on bedrest pretty quickly and could only do the bare minimum. By the time I had the baby a couple weeks ago, the house and all the outside areas were completely trashed.  I started working on it a couple days after coming home from the hospital and while I still have some big projects to do, things are clean and functional again on the inside of the house. I guess I assumed that this would make my husband happy. I haven’t asked for his help at all. He works until late at night so I stay up to wait for him and spend an hour or so with him when he gets home. I spend a lot of time with the kids and take great care of our baby. But instead, he’s gotten sullen and resentful. He thinks I’m being “manic” because I tidy up several times throughout the day. He thinks I should just let messes happen and then do one big clean at the end of the day. I explained that I don’t do that because it’s more work and I feel much less stressed during the day when things stay clean-ish. I don’t expect it to be perfect, of course. We have four kids. But I do make sure dirty dishes go in the dishwasher and I wipe up spills as they happen, straighten the living room periodically if no one is in there, etc. Yesterday, my husband was off work and by the end of the day he was angry and confrontational with me about this. I honestly don’t understand. He says I wasn’t spending time with anyone... but our house is very small with a nice, open layout. It’s almost impossible to NOT interact. I wasn’t closed up in a room, just tidying up every once in a while and hanging out with the kids. He went on to say that there’s not one place in our home that he feels comfortable in. He said that about a year ago, so I made our enclosed back patio into a sort of “man cave” for him. I bought a heavy bag he wanted and hung it back there along with a bunch of football signage and memorabilia. Got some comfy, manly furniture for it. Set up his hand saw and all his tools in one corner. Now, that whole patio is so covered in trash/dirt/wood scraps/ etc etc. that you can’t even get onto it. So what am I supposed to do? He doesn’t have a spot that’s “his”... so I made one for him... but he didn’t take care of it and now it’s unusable to anyone. Our house is only two bedrooms, it’s not like I can just make him another one. And why is it a big deal to him that I like a clean house and make the effort to keep it that way? He’s constantly trying to talk me out of feeling that way and I just don’t understand. I don’t give him a hard time or ask him to help. I just clean up his messes along with everyone else’s, so what’s the problem? I’m not asking him to care. So why is it an issue for him that I do? Further than that, it does suck that he sees absolutely no value in how I spend my days at home. But I can’t change that, so oh well. Still, I want to understand why he’s so resentful about it. I’m not willing (or maybe even capable) not to keep things clean. How can I fix this? No jury would convict her...
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It's cool how using the transitive property you can determine that in response to calling someone cheap if they call paying for cable stupid, and you pay for cable, they called you stupid in a roundabout way
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Three Olives posted:I think we are going a bit far with sexual predator and being taken advantage of since she is an adult and willfully participated in the sex. quote:19F who had sex with 31M quote:So it started out as a church mentor relationship quote:he unexpectedly kissed me when we were alone in his house quote:I tried to pull away a few times, and set boundaries but failed
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We're paying about $50 a month for internet and I freaked out a little at the suggestion of getting netflix. "But honey, you can eventually find a low quality stream, or hunt for and spend a few hours downloading a torrent for FREE!!! We're already paying for internet!" but she got it and netflix isn't expensive and it's convenient and makes me feel legal. That's my cable payment couples story.
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Galaxy Brain posted:My (32F) Husband (33M) is resentful because I keep the house clean? Am I missing something? quote:And why is it a big deal to him that I like a clean house and make the effort to keep it that way? He’s constantly trying to talk me out of feeling that way and I just don’t understand. I don’t give him a hard time or ask him to help. I just clean up his messes along with everyone else’s, so what’s the problem? I’m not asking him to care. So why is it an issue for him that I do? He's a slovenly sack of poo poo and your cleaning makes him face that fact.
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [25f] boyfriend [28m] of one year frequently comes home with significant unexplained injuries that he doesn’t want to talk about. CIA/extreme secret BDSM club.
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Ham Sandwiches posted:It's cool how using the transitive property you can determine that in response to calling someone cheap if they call paying for cable stupid, and you pay for cable, they called you stupid in a roundabout way In a roundabout way sort of but not really. There is a literal difference between saying that a certain thing is stupid and that people who participate in that thing are stupid. Plenty of non stupid people do stupid things, we all do really
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [25f] boyfriend [28m] of one year frequently comes home with significant unexplained injuries that he doesn’t want to talk about. Congrats on dating Batman! 
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [25f] boyfriend [28m] of one year frequently comes home with significant unexplained injuries that he doesn’t want to talk about. Secret carnival worker. By day he's an IRS employee, but at night he's the NASCAR bedecked miller high-life swilling red-haired son of a bitch whose tilt a whirl once launched a child clear into another county.
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Galaxy Brain posted:My (32F) Husband (33M) is resentful because I keep the house clean? Am I missing something? Divorce, move out, when the alimony checks stop coming, have the cops do a welfare check, find him crushed to death beneath his own mess like a loving Collyer brother.
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Baronjutter posted:Jesus gently caress $173 a month just for Cable?? Nah, that's completely normal for a TV/internet package in America's hosed up market. My girlfriend's mom has DSL and satellite TV through AT&T and pays like $150/month for all the channels.
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Baronjutter posted:We're paying about $50 a month for internet and I freaked out a little at the suggestion of getting netflix. "But honey, you can eventually find a low quality stream, or hunt for and spend a few hours downloading a torrent for FREE!!! We're already paying for internet!" but she got it and netflix isn't expensive and it's convenient and makes me feel legal. That's my cable payment couples story. Do guys just have a joint account? We wouldn't even discuss something like Netflix, if he wanted it he would just get it and pay for it himself. Hell, he could show up with a new car tomorrow and I wouldn't care.
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My boyfriend [M,27] thinks that my [F,26] personal travel fund should be used toward couple expensesquote:So, a little back story. When I was a senior in college (22), I wanted to gift myself a backpacking trip to Europe as a graduation gift. Because of this, I started saving up my extra cash and storing it in my "Travel Fund." Unfortunately, the timing didn't work out and I was never able to go on my trip. Top comment: quote:Pop on over to r/travel and they'll set you up with all the nice places you can go to enjoy yourself as a newly single lady once you've dropped this jerk.
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Three Olives posted:Do guys just have a joint account? We wouldn't even discuss something like Netflix, if he wanted it he would just get it and pay for it himself. Hell, he could show up with a new car tomorrow and I wouldn't care. what if it had a backup camera
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Three Olives posted:Do guys just have a joint account? We wouldn't even discuss something like Netflix, if he wanted it he would just get it and pay for it himself. Hell, he could show up with a new car tomorrow and I wouldn't care. We just talk about pretty much all expenses. It's only $10 a month but all those little "just X a month" charges can really add up.
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i pay ~$185 for cable + internet. Preferred Cable package - $85 HBO - $20 Sports Package - $10 2 boxes - $10 Internet - $50 then taxes and fees. that's not really ~*outrageous*~. I could probably cut it down by 30 bucks if i got rid of the sports package and reduced down to the standard cable package, but then by the time i subscribe to disney's streaming service or whatever so my child can rot his brain on doc mcstuffins that's less appealing big trivia FAIL fucked around with this message at 23:38 on Feb 19, 2018 |
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My (20F) boyfriend (20M) of three weeks deleted the majority of my old photos.quote:I've never been one to post photos on social media, but I've always kept collections in separate Dropbox accounts. Of course, this included pictures I've taken with my exes and such. delete him by 
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rear end cobra posted:My (20F) boyfriend (20M) of three weeks deleted the majority of my old photos. She might be able to undelete some of them if she works quickly. After the , of course.
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Barudak posted:Secret carnival worker. By day he's an IRS employee, but at night he's the NASCAR bedecked miller high-life swilling red-haired son of a bitch whose tilt a whirl once launched a child clear into another county. In his defense, the county line was only 300 yards away.
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Baronjutter posted:Jesus gently caress $173 a month just for Cable?? Of course that OP found the worst possible way to go 'uh, hey, we're getting ripped off here' to his GF. big trivia FAIL posted:i pay ~$185 for cable + internet.
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Doggles posted:Please refrain from any negative comments about my double-posting.
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PetraCore posted:Uuuh, given the ages did he start when she was underage? Does that count as getting molested? I'm p sure it does. Isn’t this a similar set of circumstances that led to the ‘Zombaby’ thread years back? Older dude takes a young, naive girl under his wing as a ‘religious mentor’?
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rear end cobra posted:My (20F) boyfriend (20M) of three weeks deleted the majority of my old photos. Is it not incredibly normal to have some memorabilia from old relationships? Like has this dude never dated anyone else before or something
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Gluten Freeman posted:My boyfriend [M,27] thinks that my [F,26] personal travel fund should be used toward couple expenses Is this in the US? I have to assume it is; where else would a wopping 1.2 paid vacation weeks a year be seen as amazing? Oh yeah and also she should start taking 52 weeks per year of vacation from her idiot boyfriend.
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Heavy neutrino posted:Is this in the US? I have to assume it is; where else would a wopping 1.2 paid vacation weeks a year be seen as amazing?
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