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tetrapyloctomy posted:I did, in post-overnight haze of neglect regarding "who knows what about my life." We have a two-month old, and she is tenure-track faculty. She's breastfeeding, so no matter what proportion of baby-raising burden I shoulder, there will always be a second-shift effect for her. And no, no other signs of symptoms of post-partum depression, just the stressors of first-time parenting manifesting in dismissal of the need to take care of things other than Ein Scheissmonster. Obviously the kid comes first, but we can't put everything else on hold or they'll be an utter catastrophe by the time he's in school. I don't know you or really anything about you besides your two posts on an interior decorating thread, but something that helped me in a similar situation was sorta coming to terms with the fact that the demands on our time greatly outstripped the time and energy we had available. So, being zen with the idea that in order to keep up with laundry/dishes/eating/sleeping you'd have to let some things drop. The trees outside are a little overgrown and shaggy, and I haven't cleaned the guest bathroom in weeks. And that's OK. The kids are alive, happy, and healthy and we're keeping up with stuff at work. The other stuff gets deprioritized.
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canyoneer posted:I don't know you or really anything about you besides your two posts on an interior decorating thread, but something that helped me in a similar situation was sorta coming to terms with the fact that the demands on our time greatly outstripped the time and energy we had available. So, being zen with the idea that in order to keep up with laundry/dishes/eating/sleeping you'd have to let some things drop. Yeah, I'm working on it. =) At least we have the luxury of being able to toss money at some problems to make them go away, but even that still takes time, and I doubt anyone ENJOYS dealing with contractors. Edit: Though I am going a little batty from the, like, four terrible songs programmed into the Fisher Price swing. They're so bad. tetrapyloctomy fucked around with this message at 22:54 on Mar 13, 2018 |
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Mar 13, 2018 22:46
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People like to scoff at them but look into the rockabye albums, they saved my sanity. They’re all chimes and bells like you get from typical lullaby toys, but they’re covers of <insert the band that most captures your nostalgia>, so it’s calming for baby and good for naps but you can still enjoy it on account of its all your favorite ear worms and you can hear them right through the docile remix. And they have a surprising range of genres covered, pretty much something for everyone.
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Mar 13, 2018 23:02
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Get all the Yo Gabba Gabba dvds and cds. It's also ok to like, not provide entertainment 24/7.
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Mar 13, 2018 23:37
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We don't even use the thing super-often, but my brain latches onto repetitive patterns. (I had to shut off a white noise machine yesterday because I caught the pattern and it drove me crazy.) I'll look into the alternatives, for sure, he really seems to like music.
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tetrapyloctomy posted:I did, in post-overnight haze of neglect regarding "who knows what about my life." We have a two-month old, and she is tenure-track faculty. She's breastfeeding, so no matter what proportion of baby-raising burden I shoulder, there will always be a second-shift effect for her. And no, no other signs of symptoms of post-partum depression, just the stressors of first-time parenting manifesting in dismissal of the need to take care of things other than Ein Scheissmonster. Obviously the kid comes first, but we can't put everything else on hold or they'll be an utter catastrophe by the time he's in school. Sup having-a-two-month old buddy. I'm in a very different situation as my wife is staying at home, but I hear you on time demands and trying to be there to help as much as you can but not really being able to do nearly as much as you might both like due to the breastfeeding. Again, if you want help share pics and explain what you don't like about your current interior design situation. As for my guesses, I had little to go on other than what seemed like a very irrational response from your partner, which usually speaks to bigger issues (in this case it was the extra stressor of the newborn while being in a stressful work situation, rather than maybe relationship stuff.) Curious as to why you think the suggestion of a partner feeling distant, alienated, or just lonely is an absurd possibility? Dudes are usually oblivious af to this.
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Mar 14, 2018 04:10
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Two months? How much sleep is she getting at night? I moved in to help my cousin with her baby, and she fought me on every chore more involved than dishes or laundry for the first three months.
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Mar 14, 2018 04:44
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 Get used to the above colors. In about six months your house will be covered in the those colors which will last until your last kid gets to be about four or five. Just sayin' And congrats--kids really are the meaning of life.
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Mar 14, 2018 05:05
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Speaking as a breastfeeding mother of a six-month-old whose husband is addicted to craigslist MCM end tables and doesn’t remember to take out the trash: make sure that you’re doing the chores first. My husband loves to start important but low-priority tasks like fixing a door track on the pantry or replacing the eroded seal on the back window frame, but doesn’t notice the dishes piling up or the pink mildew growing in the tub or the complete lack of breakfast foods, so I either have to manage all the scheduling and initiative for the chores while trying not to nag, do them myself during the eighteen minutes a day my kid doesn’t need me, or just smell the trash all day while he charts out a new floor plan for the living room. Give her midmorning naps. The hours of 0800-1000 contain the most precious, blessed potential for sleep. She needs it bad.
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This must be a sub-category of man blindness. Husband cashes out a savings bond, wow free money!! He insisted on upgrading our window blinds, meanwhile our storage room still needs shelves... You're both right, and you both need to compromise. Don't take up her brainspace with non-urgent things, just do them efficiently and she'll notice later. Baby is too little to interfere right now so just bring babby out to the porch to witness you re-aligning step stones while waifu naps.
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GEMorris posted:Sup having-a-two-month old buddy... For the time being, in any case, I'm sticking to patching some issues in the house. Mainly literal patching -- some drywall issues, some painting touch-up, etc. But trust me, I'll be hitting the thread up for some other stuff hopefully soon-ish. I'd like to tackle our attic space in the next year. elise the great posted:Speaking as a breastfeeding mother of a six-month-old whose husband is addicted to craigslist MCM end tables and doesn’t remember to take out the trash: make sure that you’re doing the chores first ... peanut posted:This must be a sub-category of man blindness. Husband cashes out a savings bond, wow free money!! He insisted on upgrading our window blinds, meanwhile our storage room still needs shelves... HycoCam posted:timg]http://cdn.fcglcdn.com/brainbees/images/products/438x531/288a.jpg[/timg] Sorry for the prolonged derail, everyone. It's nice to vocalize and talk through the stuff and hear from other parents.
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I’m always happy to see input here from people with different life experience to me (mostly parents) as it gives me additional context when making decisions which will eventually affect the next owner. As mentioned earlier I’m of the “gently caress the resale” mindset when it comes to compromising on my own wants and needs, but if I can accommodate others in small ways then why not? It’s why I have a bath in the new downstairs bathroom despite having not used one for my entire adult life and no plans to start.
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Jaded Burnout posted:I’m always happy to see input here from people with different life experience to me (mostly parents) as it gives me additional context when making decisions which will eventually affect the next owner. The first renovation to this place was supposed to be to remodel the common bathroom on the second floor to have a nice ... well, I was going to say "nice tub" but really the whole thing is on the ugly side of bland. But then the master bathroom shower leaked, and then the basement started to take on water, and then a tree fell on the sunroom three weeks before the wedding ... and here we are five years later with the same ugly bathroom. But at least the nursery looks okay!  I lugged our basement mini-fridge up there so it'd be easier for my wife to put her pumped mild somewhere, but since a small bedside cooler with an ice pack seems to work just fine I guess I wasted some energy there. We need some curtain tie-backs (and to move some of these books we're accumulating onto the shelf), but I'm happy with how things turned out. The windows were a bitch to get restored properly, and left me on the fence as to whether I'm going to keep the old windows in the rest of the house or do full-frame replacements.
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Mar 14, 2018 13:32
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We have this same glider!
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Mar 14, 2018 15:19
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Just get a maid for a one-time cleaning if you’re that far behind and there’s “no way” to catch up. Fix the poo poo that needs fixing and then hire someone to clean it all up after.
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Mar 14, 2018 15:59
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tetrapyloctomy posted:Little dude is finally showing some personality, which is nice. Newborns are cute, but I like the greater interaction. My wife is quasi stay-at-home (she can do most of her work from home), which I think is worse in a way: she can't escape work because there are no set hours, and there's always a distraction no matter how much we try to minimize them. I don't find your question regarding alienation absurd, just a specific and large jump from the prior hypotheses. Full disclosure that I've only had to raise a puppy, but has she had a legit whole day off to herself yet? That one day my friend watched my puppy saved my sanity after months of running around socializing and training classes.
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Seconding the intermittent maid service. I almost cried when I saw my wonderful clean house, all without having to sacrifice yet MORE sleep.
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PRADA SLUT posted:Just get a maid for a one-time cleaning if you’re that far behind and there’s “no way” to catch up. Fix the poo poo that needs fixing and then hire someone to clean it all up after. elise the great posted:Seconding the intermittent maid service. I almost cried when I saw my wonderful clean house, all without having to sacrifice yet MORE sleep. cheese eats mouse posted:Full disclosure that I've only had to raise a puppy, but has she had a legit whole day off to herself yet? That one day my friend watched my puppy saved my sanity after months of running around socializing and training classes. EAT FASTER!!!!!! posted:We have this same glider!
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Mar 14, 2018 19:13
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Pumping is miserable... why is she pumping if she works from home? Meet me in the Pregnancy Megathread.
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Also: Rule 34, but for wall words. https://www.decoist.com/2013-01-07/door-decals/
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peanut posted:Also: Rule 34, but for wall words. Words on fridges, perfect
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hexwren posted:stealing this from another thread because HOLY poo poo   Someone likes really ugly fonts.
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Youth Decay posted:
Looking through the pictures without having heard of the place I assumed it must be a mall, and that was part of the food court. But apparently it's an expensive restaurant in a hotel that just wants to look like a cheap mall food court? I don't understand design. 
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peanut posted:Pumping is miserable... why is she pumping if she works from home? Meet me in the Pregnancy Megathread. Some days she still needs to go to campus for meetings or for classes, so the kid still gets bottle-fed fairly often. (And this gives her the option to hand him off to me for a while to go out, etc.)
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Facebook Aunt posted:Looking through the pictures without having heard of the place I assumed it must be a mall, and that was part of the food court. But apparently it's an expensive restaurant in a hotel that just wants to look like a cheap mall food court? I don't understand design. The building itself is incredibly tacky-looking; I commute past it on my way home, and I can't even find a picture online that does justice to how shiny and cheap it looks in the real world. It's like a skyscraper made of translucent contact paper.
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peanut posted:Also: Rule 34, but for wall words. I'm extremely bothered by the LCD font having differently-shaped segments for each character
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Mar 15, 2018 09:40
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sup yall who's ready for a loving banger??? https://www.estately.com/listings/info/450-w-grixdale
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deep web creep posted:sup yall who's ready for a loving banger??? ... jesus.
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deep web creep posted:sup yall who's ready for a loving banger??? I'm so traumatized by tech heavy areas of NC that I see 550k for something that's not a shotgun and just think "I'll take six of em"
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Mar 16, 2018 02:58
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deep web creep posted:sup yall who's ready for a loving banger???
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Mar 16, 2018 03:20
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I'm the M hand towel jammed between two oven doors. I'm also the entire house as the physical manifestation of the last thought Liberace had as he lay dying.
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Mar 16, 2018 03:52
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Is it for sale because all of those statuettes came to life and murdered the previous owners?
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Mar 16, 2018 04:45
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Holy nuts that's a heckuva house! I can't even guess at the layout, every wing is different but equally confusing.
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peanut posted:Holy nuts that's a heckuva house! I can't even guess at the layout, every wing is different but equally confusing. This room is very...progressive.
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Mar 16, 2018 05:43
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Korova Milk Bar & Senior Center
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Mar 16, 2018 05:58
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It's amazing how every image in that gallery is somehow twice as insane as the last one.peanut posted:Korova Milk Bar & Senior Center hah
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Freaquency posted:Is it for sale because all of those statuettes came to life and murdered the previous owners? Oh yeah, there's definitely a curse here. All the contents are included with the house. Even the car. All this could be yours. Every bit of it.  I imagine the car is staying because it costs $666/mile to fuel the thing, making it too expensive to move.  Host your own MtG game nights.  Groovy.  Why a single bed? Was this a child's room?
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I am the complete lack of any form of consistency throughout the house. Brick! No wait, stone! No, shingles! Square windows! No wait, round windows! I love white! No, green is my favorite color! Oh I know, 70s green and brown! Perfect! How about make it look like an old people's home! I just came back from the UK and I'm feeling inspired, put carpet in the bathroom! You know what I love? Wood paneling! Actually, glass and mirrors is JUST my style. Black and white is so in right now! Earthen tones! Let's make our basement look like the saddest outdoor café! The entire house was decorated by an ADD squirrel on a caffeine rush. Collateral Damage fucked around with this message at 09:22 on Mar 16, 2018 |
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Facebook Aunt posted:
It looks like a coffin. But if you open the grave, there is no body...
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Collateral Damage posted:I just came back from the UK and I'm feeling inspired, put carpet in the bathroom! With bonus plastic sheet to catch the piss
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