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It would be unusual for someone to run up 3 grand on a divorce before serving papers I would think. Other poster is right; he got into some trouble and is trying to hide it. Maybe he had a foreign love child from before they met that will be moving in with them, just like the one in that David Sedaris Christmas letter.
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I (21M) just told my girlfriend (21F) that I hooked up with another girl while we were broken up.quote:My girlfriend and I dated for 6 months and then she broke up with me. I asked her to get back together with me and she said no. About two months later I had a one night stand with a random girl I met when I was nearly blacked out at a bar after all of my friends left me. Half way through that I immediately started regretting it and went to sleep, as I realized what I was doing was hosed up and not like me at all. For the next couple of days I didn’t leave my bed and felt depressed and like a poo poo human. They were together for 6 months, "the break" lasted 4 months  .Like, I somewhat get the flawed logic when people are young and dumb and have zero communication skills so one thinks "going on a break" is going give them some space to think about it and then BAM the SO sleeps with somebody else the very next day. But 4 months? Seriously?
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Mar 26, 2018 15:58
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Palpek posted:I (21M) just told my girlfriend (21F) that I hooked up with another girl while we were broken up. They are both dumb. Him for telling her and her for caring. But she is totally on the wrong here.
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Mar 26, 2018 16:01
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Every "on a break" story we get in here provokes a "this is like that Friends storyline, but even dumber" reaction in me It was 2 months into their 4-month hiatus from a 6-month relationship, and they weren't even calling it a "break", they were calling it a breakup It's not too unbelievable that she'd be sad to hear about it I guess but she does need to get over it
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Mar 26, 2018 16:15
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Palpek posted:I (21M) just told my girlfriend (21F) that I hooked up with another girl while we were broken up. He doesn't even call it a break. They broke up. He cheated on her when he was single, that doesn't make sense. He never had to tell her in the first place.
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Mar 26, 2018 16:19
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Rubellavator posted:He doesn't even call it a break. They broke up. He cheated on her when he was single, that doesn't make sense. He never had to tell her in the first place. In that case he didn't cheat at all
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Mar 26, 2018 16:20
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Rubellavator posted:He doesn't even call it a break. They broke up. He cheated on her when he was single, that doesn't make sense. He never had to tell her in the first place.
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Mar 26, 2018 16:23
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He is dumb as poo poo and I’ll bet anything the girlfriend got railed by a whole bunch of dudes while they were broken up. Hell, that might’ve been the reason she dumped his rear end the first time around anyway
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Mar 26, 2018 16:25
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Mar 26, 2018 16:36
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Clark Nova posted:He is dumb as poo poo and I’ll bet anything the girlfriend got railed by a whole bunch of dudes while they were broken up. Hell, that might’ve been the reason she dumped his rear end the first time around anyway Doubtful. But imagine how this weepy illogical person responds to other relationship challenges (hint: probaby not very well).
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Mar 26, 2018 16:46
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Fair enough, I suppose it is equally likely she dumped him for screwing up her McDonalds order and spent four months sulking.
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Mar 26, 2018 17:17
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 My sister (20F) went through my (28F) bathroom cupboards and brought up what she found at family dinner quote:My husband and I invited some family over for dinner on Friday night to celebrate us finishing renovations on our new house. We invited both of our parents, my sister, his 4 siblings, and 2 of his siblings’ spouses. Once everyone was there, we gave a tour, but decided not to show off our master bathroom. We have another bathroom more in the center of the house, nearer to the dining room, for people to use and there’s some private stuff in the master that we didn’t want to be showing off- antidepressants, medications, pregnancy tests (we’ve been trying for a baby but don’t want to announce it quite yet). After we showed everyone around, we went to the dining room, and everyone sat down to eat.
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Mar 26, 2018 17:20
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:
 What the goddamn hell is wrong with your dipshit sister?
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Mar 26, 2018 17:22
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Admiral Ray posted:
yep that seems like pretty immediate grounds to cut her out of their lives may not preclude reconciliation in like... a decade, but I don't know if people really age out of that level of fuckheadedness
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Mar 26, 2018 17:24
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Apologise to his parents for the drama, tell your parents that your little sister is spying sociopath and how hosed up it is to go through somebody's private medicine cabinet and reveal it at a dinner table. Apologise that you're keeping stuff from them, but that it's just normal to do so and you were going to talk about it when you were ready (even if you weren't). Never talk to your sister again until she comes grovelling for forgiveness. I guess?
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Mar 26, 2018 17:24
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Putting it all on the sister and apologizing to the parents just means they're going to find someone else to dig through the OP's trash for them
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Mar 26, 2018 17:26
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Who the gently caress would even think to do that.
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Mar 26, 2018 17:29
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One weird trick to make a sibling cut you out of your life forever and get all the inheritance money for yourself.
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Mar 26, 2018 17:30
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Putting it all on the sister and apologizing to the parents just means they're going to find someone else to dig through the OP's trash for them I think it's a weird take to assume her parents pressured her sister to look through their medication and make a scene about it. Why not report back to her handlers privately in that case? It's much more likely she is just a nosy and insensitive piece of poo poo to be honest.
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Mar 26, 2018 17:31
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ArbitraryC posted:Who the gently caress would even think to do that. Someone who knows their parents are equally vituperative assholes.
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Mar 26, 2018 17:31
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Man, I'm really glad that my sister and siblings-in-law are all so drama-averse Sometimes the r/r thread really makes you appreciate what you've got #mindfulness #blessed
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Mar 26, 2018 17:32
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Jeza posted:I think it's a weird take to assume her parents pressured her sister to look through their medication and make a scene about it. Why not report back to her handlers privately in that case? It's much more likely she is just a nosy and insensitive piece of poo poo to be honest. I don't think they expressly gave the sister marching orders for what parts of the house to hit while they kept the OP distracted, but it's crystal clear from the post that they're the ones who instilled her with the values that it's good to go rooting through your family's poo poo for gossip and wicked to have any kind of privacy whatsoever
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Mar 26, 2018 17:33
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Admiral Ray posted:
quote:got my parents upset because we had been hiding things from them, and she’d been heroic to bring it into the light. Just look who raised her.
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Mar 26, 2018 17:34
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Uh his parents also agreed with hers, both sets of parents are assholes.
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Mar 26, 2018 17:34
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Barudak posted:Uh his parents also agreed with hers, both sets of parents are assholes. Boomers are an extremely entitled generation
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Mar 26, 2018 17:35
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Get pregnant and then don't tell the parents they have a grandkid. Also cut the sister out entirely
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Mar 26, 2018 17:36
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Eh. I think the methodology of how the information was obtained probably sinks into the background upon finding out your daughter may be hiding a pregnancy, depression and a presumably quite seriously ill husband all at once. Especially once the younger sister sets the tone as "this is all stuff they have been deliberately hiding from you". I think with a cooler head and some thought, most people would come to see that what happened was wrong even if they felt like they deserved the knowledge. I mean, they also raised the seemingly normal older sister too.
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Mar 26, 2018 17:37
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All of that poo poo's something I'd pretty much expect to be in a late-twenties married couples' drug cabinet. Depression and hypertension are, like, the most commonly treated ailments there are; married people typically have sex and sex can make babies. They're burning their relationship down over the least juicy hot goss imaginable, which really says something about how imperative it is to keep anything actually important or alarming from them.
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Mar 26, 2018 17:39
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:married people typically have sex and sex can make babies. Get the gently caress out of here
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Palpek posted:I (21M) just told my girlfriend (21F) that I hooked up with another girl while we were broken up. This dude is a sad sack of poo poo, but not because he had that one night stand. I'm not exactly the one night stand kinda dude either but goddamn dude you spent 2 days in bed because you slept with someone 2 months after your gf dumped you and didn't want to get back together. I could see the gf being somewhat upset that he took this long to tell her (though that info isn't exactly her business) but just get over it and move on, gently caress. A Wizard of Goatse posted:
I love how the family took the sisters side in all of this. The things they were hiding aren't even major things you need to announce to your family... Antidepressants - Depression is fairly personal and if she's got a handle on things in terms of treating it then there's no need to tell your family if you don't want to. This is the biggest one to hide though I guess... Blood Pressure - Totally a personal medical thing, unless the guy had a hospitalization around this then there's no need to announce he has a prescription. Pregnancy Tests - What the hell is the point of sharing that you're trying? My parents know that my wife and I want to have kids fairly soon and that's it, they'll know when it's actually happening but not before. OH MY you psychos are just hiding so much, we just don't know who you are anymore! That sister needs to have a serious talking to about boundaries and getting into other peoples poo poo and the family all needs to calm the gently caress down. If I were OP I'd want an apology from all parties involved.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:My sister (20F) went through my (28F) bathroom cupboards and brought up what she found at family dinner well both their parents and sister have now opened up their medicin cabinets for this couple, look around and ask at their leisure. "dad? whats is this pill? viagara? what mom why do you need ointments for your downstairs lady cabinet?" if they get upset they can just say they are being heroic datajugend fucked around with this message at 17:47 on Mar 26, 2018 |
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Mar 26, 2018 17:44
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I'd also like to bring up the fact that not immediately announcing a pregnancy after a positive piss test is definitively not hiding a pregnancy
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Mar 26, 2018 17:48
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datajugend posted:well both their parents and sister have now opened up their medicin cabinets for this couple, look around and ask at their leisure. "dad? whats is this pill? viagara? what mom why do you need ointments for your downstairs lady cabinet?" This is vengeance but I don’t think I’d ever want to actually know about any of that poo poo.
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Mar 26, 2018 17:49
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Maybe the one night stand guy and his on again of again girlfriend were both virgins, and that's why it's so shocking to them both.
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tactlessbastard posted:I'd also like to bring up the fact that not immediately announcing a pregnancy after a positive piss test is definitively not hiding a pregnancy Maybe I missed it, but there wasn't even a positive piss test. They just had some tests in the cabinet to use.
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Jeza posted:Eh. I think the methodology of how the information was obtained probably sinks into the background upon finding out your daughter may be hiding a pregnancy, depression and a presumably quite seriously ill husband all at once. Especially once the younger sister sets the tone as "this is all stuff they have been deliberately hiding from you". Also very often one of the children manages to escape the bad influence of the parents thanks to independently getting help/meeting the right people/by sheer survival skills they were born with and not because the parents couldn't have been that bad as they only hosed up the other child.
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Clark Nova posted:This is vengeance but I don’t think I’d ever want to actually know about any of that poo poo. hey it isnt easy being a hero
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Mar 26, 2018 18:00
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A lot of people wait to announce because miscarriages are so common
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Mar 26, 2018 18:01
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Maybe they're both really obviously depressed and closed off and that was the only way to get them to talk about it. Or the dumb sister has a savior complex. Why the gently caress is high blood pressure something that needed discussing
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I seriously wonder if the sis is a sociopath or is it an upbringing thing. Mainly to know if she will ever look back and realize that what she did was terrible or if her brain just doesn't process this poo poo at all.
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