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feedmegin posted:Statistically, half of people are wrong, actually. Not necessarily, that would be true if we were talking about the median intelligence 
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feedmegin posted:Statistically, half of people are wrong, actually. And we know which half RoboRodent is in 
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Apr 6, 2018 18:32
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Blade Runner posted:Also she's a loving garbage idiot for her immediate reaction to a gift she didn't like was to just have a god drat mental breakdown I think, maybe, theres more to this story that we know. She wouldnt act like a crazy person for no reason at all, this suggests to me a long standing pattern of emotional abuse by the boyfriend and this was just the tipping point for her. The poor GF should probably start documenting his abuses and get in touch with the authorities, if she hasnt already.
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Apr 6, 2018 18:32
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On the one hand she appears to be a spoiled ingrate. On the other, he's a man. Therefore: murder.
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Apr 6, 2018 18:33
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Could I get a comment link, I'm curious what the response was and Reddit search isn't turning anything up Oddly enough searching r/r for "Simpsons joke" returns no results at all 
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Apr 6, 2018 18:34
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:it's the simpsons, I haven't even seen that episode and I'm pretty sure if you've spent like ten years in America you're at least aware of it through cultural osmosis. Pretty rough joke to play on a recently defrosted cavewoman from an 80s fish-out-of-water comedy though I mean, I haven't heard it. I don't like the Simpsons. It sounds like something that must have been very specific. From context, I assume it's the thing where your spouse gets you a gift tht's really just for you but taken to a ridiculous extreme? That's a thing without referencing the Simpsons.
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Apr 6, 2018 18:34
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Dunning Krugerrand posted:My (31f) husband (37m) of 3 years bought me a bowling ball for my bday (I guess its a Simpsons joke). I was so mad, I didn't realize it was a set up for a very thoughtful gift. Now we are both not speaking, what do I do? Many people don't enjoy being pranked, hosed with, or having their expectations undermined. In general I would say like, play with people's emotions at your peril, pranksters.
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Apr 6, 2018 18:35
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loquacius posted:Could I get a comment link, I'm curious what the response was and Reddit search isn't turning anything up if you put site:reddit.com and then paste in the title you can find it. she's defensive as all hell in the comments lmao
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Apr 6, 2018 18:35
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loquacius posted:Could I get a comment link, I'm curious what the response was and Reddit search isn't turning anything up Reddit rips into her, she makes a handful of snotty rebuttals then peaces, the usual https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/85cddw/my_31f_husband_37m_of_3_years_bought_me_a_bowling/
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Apr 6, 2018 18:35
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Midnight Voyager posted:I mean, I haven't heard it. I don't like the Simpsons. It sounds like something that must have been very specific. From context, I assume it's the thing where your spouse gets you a gift tht's really just for you but taken to a ridiculous extreme? That's a thing without referencing the Simpsons. it's an episode where Homer gets Marge a bowling ball that he wanted for her birthday. I watched the episode and am aware of the concept of a "Simpsons gift" but I don't think I would have caught the reference right away
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Apr 6, 2018 18:36
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Midnight Voyager posted:I mean, I haven't heard it. I don't like the Simpsons. It sounds like something that must have been very specific. From context, I assume it's the thing where your spouse gets you a gift tht's really just for you but taken to a ridiculous extreme? That's a thing without referencing the Simpsons. Yes, it is this exact joke about the phenomenon of boob husband gives thoughtless gift, taken to absurd extreme. You got it and you never even met the guy.
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Apr 6, 2018 18:37
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Hellblazer187 posted:All those stupid tests they make you take in school came back and said I'm super smart. My life is a loving wasteland, so I think probably those tests were wrong and actually I'm stupid because a smart person wouldn't have my poo poo life. Made me feel good when I got the printouts to bring home though. Because none of those tests ever look for emotional intelligence. I.e. the useful form of intelligence.
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Apr 6, 2018 18:37
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The part that got me was the he specifically said it was her first present and it was in the middle of a fancy dinner date. It feels pretty obvious whether or not she got the reference that it was meant to be a joke before a grand reveal. That not even a full loving vacation is enough to make her get over the offense of receiving a gag gift is really telling.
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Apr 6, 2018 18:38
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the people who crow about their emotional intelligence are exactly as right about themselves and their place in the world as the guys who crow about their IQ
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Apr 6, 2018 18:39
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Midnight Voyager posted:I mean, I haven't heard it. I don't like the Simpsons. It sounds like something that must have been very specific. From context, I assume it's the thing where your spouse gets you a gift tht's really just for you but taken to a ridiculous extreme? That's a thing without referencing the Simpsons. it was a season 1 episode where Marge almost cheats on Homer to my memory Prime Simpsons (meaning seasons 1-8) has one Marge-almost-cheats episode, two Homer-almost-cheats episodes, and like six Homer-and-Marge-almost-get-a-divorce episodes
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Apr 6, 2018 18:39
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Don’t flip out over a bad gift, it’s just a gift. I’ve gotten some bad fuckibg gifts and I dont care.
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Apr 6, 2018 18:40
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So I'm going to put some words in the mouth of the parties to see if that helps explain my distaste for pranks Dude: "Hey, wouldn't it be funny if your husband was a garbage idiot that didn't know how to give gifts, like seriously thought you wanted a bowling ball, but this is your husband and you're married and you can look forward to this kind of poo poo for the rest of your life" Lady: "no, that would suck, this is unpleasant and not what I wanted to imagine on the rare birthday where you could actually be here" Dude: "Well I wanted to impress you by how funny I am while also kinda subtly implying that you should be grateful that I'm not that idiot and instead kiss my rear end for being the guy who bought you a trip to Hawaii, you see how much better that is than a bowling ball?" Like that's one step above the PUA *points to door* bullshit
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Apr 6, 2018 18:40
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ArbitraryC posted:The part that got me was the he specifically said it was her first present and it was in the middle of a fancy dinner date. It feels pretty obvious whether or not she got the reference that it was meant to be a joke before a grand reveal. she seems to know she was wrong in the post (see: "rightly offended"; the part where she blames it on the wine) but chooses to believe that offense was less grievous than the giving of a joke gift, probably for pride reasons
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Apr 6, 2018 18:41
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girl pants posted:i think he's trying to prove some point by posting extremely bad opinions using social justice-y language Yeah, I figured. Ham Sandwiches posted:It's an accurate statement. Crazy is a catchall for "this person thinks differently than I do" and it's the most overused and meaningless thing. And, much like calling a post fake, it tends to nuke all other conversation and turns it into a whether you think the person is or is not crazy debate, which is a circular and pretty worthless debate to have. The reference point in question is one of the few things this thread has unilaterally agreed on being 'crazy.' There is nothing sane about those rambling blog posts. You normally put more effort in than this, dude.
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She doesn’t mention him belonging to a bowling league, which is the only thing that could make the gift *not* seem like a very droll, absurdist joke
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Apr 6, 2018 18:41
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my dad routinely gives out actual Homer bowling ball grade gifts with no joke or actually good present forthcoming, it'll be, like, a secondhand book on his interests or his politics that we'd chew an arm off to escape having to sit through but has been on his Amazon wishlist for a while. We say thanks and put them on a shelf and never read them, because we're not histrionic infants
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Apr 6, 2018 18:42
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Theophany posted:Yeah, I figured. I'm not trolling you by having a different opinion, please get over yourself. It's fine if people unilaterally agree that someone is a witch, that doesn't make it so. The 'crazy' label stops all examination of whether the person had valid complaints and to what extent they were legitimate. I think that's mega unfortunate. Referring to the Youtube shooter, it would be cool to see more discussion around that person's motives without dismissing them as crazy, given that many people shared her grievances while not employing her methods. 
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Apr 6, 2018 18:43
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Ham Sandwiches posted:So I'm going to put some words in the mouth of the parties to see if that helps explain my distaste for pranks he told her in advance that it was only the first present and that's after he bought her a new dress and took her out to a fancy romantic restaurant, which in a lot of people's books would already be a great series of birthday gifts.
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Apr 6, 2018 18:44
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Ham Sandwiches posted:So I'm going to put some words in the mouth of the parties to see if that helps explain my distaste for pranks I agree, ugh gross. Agreeing with Ham.
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Apr 6, 2018 18:45
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ArbitraryC posted:he told her in advance that it was only the first present and that's after he bought her a new dress and took her out to a fancy romantic restaurant, which in a lot of people's books would already be a great series of birthday gifts. It's cool to take really special moments, like someone's birthday, where they are happy and enjoying themselves, and dangle horrible possibilities in front of them. "What if her husband was really an idiot?" It's the best time for her to start considering that thing, during that nice evening. It's a great time for a prank. He could have gone with "I have cancer" and then when she started crying been like "Actually, I don't, and aren't you happy - now you'll appreciate the days with me even more!"
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Ham Sandwiches posted:So I'm going to put some words in the mouth of the parties to see if that helps explain my distaste for pranks hmmmm yes, somehow when you describe a completely different situation things seem different, how about that???? Oh no, wait, what actually happened is that he already gave her an expensive gift, had taken her out for an expensive dinner, and made it very clear that the gag gift was the first of several, then she started screaming and insulting him over it, you loving idiot She's garbage and you're a retard
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Apr 6, 2018 18:46
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Just try to give a good gift. If you get a bad gift, accept it with grace.
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Pick posted:Just try to give a good gift. If you get a bad gift, accept it with grace. a trip to Hawaii is a pretty good gift
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Apr 6, 2018 18:47
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Ah yes, telling someone who loves you that you are going to die and telling someone that one of the many birthday gifts they are receiving kind of sucks, the same thing according to local forums idiot Ham Sandwiches
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Apr 6, 2018 18:48
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Blade Runner posted:hmmmm yes, somehow when you describe a completely different situation things seem different, how about that???? Yeah like he upset her to the point that she went from enjoying herself to being visibly angry and venting that anger. That's not a show. On her birthday this lady got angry to the point of getting enraged during the nice dinner and subsequently acting on it. You seem to assume it was unwarranted, I'm looking at it from the perspective of - this person got to that point on their birthday, clearly it sucked for them, and presumably they should been allowed to enjoy birthday. So the clever joke undermined her enjoyment of the dinner and made her question her relationship with her husband. I'd say: prank well done! This had a great outcome for both parties and I'm glad he's such a good jokester that he can read the room so well to deliver such comedy that enhances things for both parties.
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My husband (27M) of 2 years refuses to add me (26F) on social media.quote:submitted 4 days ago * by cornydogqueen i'm going to f5 this lady's account until she updates
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If you're a dick about getting presents, even bad ones, you will eventually 'win' because the people around you will just stop bothering to try to do nice things for you, so they will never misguidedly attempt doing a suboptimally nice thing for you ever again
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Apr 6, 2018 18:49
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Ham Sandwiches posted:It's cool to take really special moments, like someone's birthday, where they are happy and enjoying themselves, and dangle horrible possibilities in front of them. Right but that's not really how it would have gone down with any non spoiled brat. He already clearly put a lot of thought and effort into her birthday and she already knew another gift was coming. She didn't get the reference so the joke fell flat, but he immediately explained anyways and if she had just been a normal person rather than going from 0 to verbal abuse in a split second, she could have gone "oh I guess that is kind of funny" and they could have moved on to the real gift. It wasn't like he was negging her or something, it was a joke gift they both could have laughed at because he had a real one waiting already and even told her so before the gag.
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Apr 6, 2018 18:51
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Ham Sandwiches posted:Yeah like he upset her to the point that she went from enjoying herself to being visibly angry and venting that anger. That's not a show. On her birthday this lady got angry to the point of getting enraged during the nice dinner and subsequently acting on it. You seem to assume it was unwarranted, I'm looking at it from the perspective of - this person got to that point on their birthday, clearly it sucked for them, and presumably they should been allowed to enjoy birthday. I know I'm the idiot for responding to a Ham Sandwiches contrarian post, but she blamed it on the wine, dude. She's basically admitting herself that it was not warranted. The only reason she was still mad at time of posting was that she had managed to convince herself that giving a gag gift is worse than yelling at someone in public while they're trying to do something nice for you
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Apr 6, 2018 18:52
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:If you're a dick about getting presents, even bad ones, you will eventually 'win' because the people around you will just stop bothering to try to do nice things for you, so they will never misguidedly attempt doing a suboptimally nice thing for you ever again i'm not trying to say this lady isn't a trash garbage idiot because she is, but i would rather get no gift than a gift that indicates that the giver doesn't have the slightest clue about me or what i would like.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:If you're a dick about getting presents, even bad ones, you will eventually 'win' because the people around you will just stop bothering to try to do nice things for you, so they will never misguidedly attempt doing a suboptimally nice thing for you ever again Hugh! You’ve realized it, at last!
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Ham Sandwiches posted:Yeah like he upset her to the point that she went from enjoying herself to being visibly angry and venting that anger. That's not a show. On her birthday this lady got angry to the point of getting enraged during the nice dinner and subsequently acting on it. You seem to assume it was unwarranted, I'm looking at it from the perspective of - this person got to that point on their birthday, clearly it sucked for them, and presumably they should been allowed to enjoy birthday. Like, no, if you are that much of a loving whiny idiot, I hate you by default and am glad your birthday and relationship are ruined
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girl pants posted:i'm not trying to say this lady isn't a trash garbage idiot because she is, but i would rather get no gift than a gift that indicates that the giver doesn't have the slightest clue about me or what i would like. Give nice gifts, treat gifts like they’re nice even if they aren’t. Gifting isn’t hard and it weirds me out it gives people issues.
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girl pants posted:i'm not trying to say this lady isn't a trash garbage idiot because she is, but i would rather get no gift than a gift that indicates that the giver doesn't have the slightest clue about me or what i would like. He already got her a bunch of poo poo, though Like he got her an expensive new dress and took her out for an expensive dinner, at the point that you are complaining about also getting a harmless gag gift on top of a bunch of other nice things, you can gently caress yourself
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ArbitraryC posted:Right but that's not really how it would have gone down with any non spoiled brat. He already clearly put a lot of thought and effort into her birthday and she already knew another gift was coming. She didn't get the reference so the joke fell flat, but he immediately explained anyways and if she had just been a normal person rather than going from 0 to verbal abuse in a split second, she could have gone "oh I guess that is kind of funny" and they could have moved on to the real gift. I look at it as "She got so offended that she went all the way from enjoying herself to having a bad time on her birthday, and no matter how ridiculous you think that is, most people don't enjoy being pissed off on their birthday." If some people really don't like pranks or being screwed with, that's the way they are. This lady clearly did not appreciate it. So, this was something the dude chose to do, it screwed up the evening for both people, it was monstrously dumb, and it was completely due to his decision to do it. If something really is a deal breaker for someone, like farting in an intimate moment or something, and that moment is truly gone / vibe is truly dead, then that's not something you can wave a wand and recapture. I suspect that lady was angry because she went from enjoying herself to being angry / disappointed and ending up in a fight on her birthday, which most people would describe as a bad time.
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