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girl pants: Sep 21, 2006; I feel a great disturbance in my pants

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My [30F] husband [30 M] wants to move to Texas but I do not. What to do?

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u/throwawaytexas12345

My husband got a job offer for double his salary in Texas. He wants to move there for the money but I do not. He will NOT budge. We both make a comfortable amount and split everything 50-50 (rent, utilities, ect.)

To be completely upfront, I am anti-trump, pro-immigration, anti-gun, pro-choice, pro-gay rights, atheist, and a vegan. I grew up in a liberal state and in a very liberal city. These values are extremely important to me. The idea of moving to a state where the majority voted for trump and hold values that are the opposite of mine scares me. I don't want to feel like the odd person out or be attacked for the fact that I'm alt-left in an alt-right state. I feel like as a women, I wouldn't want to live in a state that is so anti-birth control and pro-life.

My husband doesn't care about how I feel. All he sees is the money. I know if I'll move there I'll become depressed surrounded by people I protested against.

I don't know whether I'm overreacting. I've never been to Texas before but I never hear good things about it. Help. What to do. Why won't my husband see my view on Texas.

tl;dr: Husband wants to move to texas but I do not. what to do?

I'm a raging socialist and even I want to tell her to gently caress off

girl pants fucked around with this message at 06:30 on May 23, 2018

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# ? May 25, 2024 03:47

Veni Vidi Ameche!: Nov 2, 2017; by Fluffdaddy

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Are we still doing, �Dad gay, so what?� I mean, it�s OK if we�re not, I just want to know.

# ? May 23, 2018 06:30

Big Bowie Bonanza: Dec 30, 2007; please tell me where i can date this cute boy

this isn't from /r/relationships but it may as well be. holy. loving. poo poo.

gamers and gamer relationships are retarded

https://www.reddit.com/r/MUD/comments/8lglur/rant_avalon/

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Hey there...

So I've made posts here occasionally concerning Avalon, in the past. I was a loyal player for nigh on ten years, and this post is basically the story of how I lost my faith in the realm, and more specifically, the admins running it. I'll refrain from using their real names here and just go by their deity names.

For the last 5ish years, I took a more serious turn in life by choosing to go and live with the admins who were, at the time, living in Portugal. I was fresh out of high school and I had never met any of them in person, though I had known Genesis online, intimately, since I had turned seventeen. My parents didn't trust him at all because they thought he was a paedophile who basically preyed on me and turned me gay - but that's a story for another time.

I travelled alone, out of the country, and in doing so (though I didn't realise it at the time), gave up any future plans for continuing my education...

Looking back now, years later, I realise that this was the first of many bad choices I made in life. When I arrived, I had the surprise of finding out both the admins were hardcore drug addicts who had been hooked on fentanyl for three years straight as well as ritalin/adderall, nicotine, and a bunch of other pills and narcotics I never bothered to remember for many years even before that. They practically owned their own pharmacy.

I also happened to arrive at a time that Avalon was nearing the end of its lifespan, and that meant very little to no income. (I was of course never told this before leaving America - the complete opposite, actually.) It's also worth pointing out that they have never had to get a real job their entire lives. The prospect of doing so often turns them violent (which, sadly, I was at the receiving end for most of those outbursts). Their philosophy was that anyone who got a "real" job was a wageslave who could have done better but reaped the consequences of their poor life choices. Sadly, not all of us are given their own gaming company on a platter during their teenage years.

Anyway, moving on. No income = no college. I also couldn't get a job in a foreign country since I didn't speak the language, and the admins for some reason hate America, so that was out of the picture. They said, "We haven't even touched the game for three years... That's why it's doing so poorly. But after three months of effort, we can get it back up to speed and live carefree forever!" This was a sweet lie they told themselves more times than I care to count. These deadlines would pass by time and time again, and Avalon would usually end up worse off than it had been before. The only saving grace that kept us afloat was the implementation of trinkets at extortionate prices. This was necessary in order to make up for the potential loss of subscribers since they made the game free to play. They knew just how to take advantage of those select few players who were "big spenders" to buy their most expensive trinkets. These usually cost thousands of dollars, and they were more often than not, pay-to-win type trinkets that gave players clear advantages in PvP. Anyone who had real skill and managed to beat up or kill these "big spenders" would be zapped for endangering their source of income.

This change, while bringing in a lot of new players who had previously avoided Avalon due to the subscription requirement, ended up driving off a lot of the older playerbase. These newer players knew nothing of the old Avalon ways, before trinkets, so it's not like they knew any better. Any older players that stuck around and persevered through this were soon driven off for other reasons, like playing the game in ways the admins didn't like, or getting upset when trinket-buyers would beat them up due to some unfair advantage. This included most of the active pantheon at the time and a large number of their followers who were left without any replacement or direction as a result.

So the months dragged on... Soon enough, Avalon is a ghost town. "Why isn't it making any MONEY?" they cried, as the game now imploded in on itself due to the thousands of bugs players had filed over the past few months while they were busying counting bills.

I probably have these sequence of events mixed up a bit. I have a hard time remembering it all because it seemed like my life was at a standstill, and I was merely existing, waiting for the dark ages to be over. On the bright side, I lost a lot of weight due to starving myself most days.

A few notable events happened during this era... Salvador returned and ended up spurring all the fighters into action. He garnered the attention of the admins because of this, and they decided to host a Gem Quest so that Salvador could win and join the pantheon, thus helping with whatever projects needed working on at the time. Regardless of the reasons, the events and all the activity during this time was quite fun.

More bugs arised left and right as they half-arsedly implemented new backend systems to all the skills and god knows what else until they managed to drive Salvador (Elmaethor in his deity form) off as well. They said he was too "simple" to handle the tasks that required anything other than donkey work, but it was probably because they were destroying the game further and they needed someone to blame for all this (other than themselves). They never kept me in the financial loop, so I can't say for certain.

For most of this time, I had been playing as my mortal 24/7, doing my best to help drive history forward. I was a top-tier fighter, a city baron, guildmaster, PR aide, etc. - I had, for the most part, a positive impact. Not that they really noticed.

Eventually, they had no choice but to turn to RL friends for financial help. Getting a real job was still out of the picture for them. So they decided rather abruptly that they would move to London. I had mixed feelings about this - I wanted to go back to the US... But they said no. At least I would be back in an English-speaking country, I thought.

As someone who had only travelled internationally a few times, I did not know the regulations very well. So when we arrived at the border to London, I ended up getting pulled aside - I didn't have a UK or EU passport like they did to be let in so easily. I was interrogated rigorously over every little detail of my past and future plans. I slept overnight in the prison area the airport. In the end, they decided to deport me for a few reasons: 1) I had overstayed my visa in Portugal and therefore was trusted not to overstay in London, 2) I had no cash on me, and 3) I said I would be working while I was there (referring to Avalon).

So I was sent back to Portugal who in turn put me in prison for a few days before sending me back across the Pacific where I stayed with my mother for a bit to recuperate. Genesis and Cornelius' response to that whole scenario was, "That sucks... well, see ya!" And thus my involvement with Avalon ended... until next year when I caught up with Genesis again.

In order to make money, they had apparently sold ownership of Avalon that year. 45% ownership went to him and Cornelius, and 10% ownership to some investor (hence the new income). They were using this income towards completing the new Avalon web client (which still hasn't been finished to this day, and probably never will). I thought it was a huge mistake on his part, but whatever, it's his company to do with as he wishes. The actual hierarchy of Avalon now is pretty much Cornelius as the owner and Genesis the sub-owner who thinks he's the real owner. Cornelius' parents pay for most of their living expenses which is why Genesis basically lets Cornelius do whatever he wants to the game. I should mention that the overpriced trinkets and autocure-fireflies were all Cornelius' idea.

So, Genesis offers to come to the US and settle down somewhere on the west coast. I figure I'd give it another shot since from what he told me, everything was looking great again. He told me he was clean, no longer an addict or a smoker, and he was so responsible now with all his newfound money. I was very pleased.

...Long story short, he comes to the US and ends up blowing out all his cash in less than a month. He had lied to me about being clean and having quit smoking, and instead of us settling down somewhere like he had originally promised, he ended up buying a ticket back to London overnight while we were staying at a hotel... without telling me... until two hours before the flight. His ultimatum was "come with me or go home". I had burned bridges with my old job, and my mother was extremely displeased that I had left to give Genesis a second chance again, so it wasn't a very alluring prospect. I told Genesis I wouldn't be let past the border, just like last time, but he said I wasn't prepared last time. This time I could get past because I knew the process and what not to say... he just had to know for sure whether or not I could get into London. *fume*

I was deported, again. This time we had gone through Iceland on the way there, so I hopped off on the deportation flight back and stayed in Reykjavik for a few weeks until we sorted accommodation in Berlin where his brother lived. Little did I know that Berlin was his favourite spot for heroin! So I end up going through this entire Portugal-era process again, this time in Berlin (which should have been an interesting new and fun experience), but I was left by myself for the most part as Genesis lived his junkie-brain lifestyle. I asked myself daily why I had let myself fall into this trap again, but I didn't have any answer aside from blaming myself. I couldn't bring myself to ask my family for help and give them the satisfaction of saying they had been right all along... so I attempted suicide and downed a fistful of pills in the hope that that would be the end of it... Evidently, I didn't take a big enough dosage, because I woke up the next day feeling very groggy and depressed.

When the money had almost run out again and his brother had come back to take over the flat in Berlin, we were truly faced with the possibility of homelessness and living on the streets. So Genesis did what he normally does in these situations, and got violent. I was the punching bag for his physical frustrations, and then afterwards he abandoned me to the streets while he spent the last of his money to book a flight back to London where his flat awaited him.

I, on the other hand, was left with no other choice than to contact my (already poor and financially struggling) family and ask for help. I had a bed in a hostel some nights, and others it couldn't be afforded; until finally I had contact with the US Embassy and sorted out emergency services for a flight back to America.

Genesis, during this time, had told me that all of it was my own fault for choosing to travel with him outside the US, and he had no responsibility to help me.

*takes a deep breath*

Needless to say, I've cut all ties with Avalon, Genesis, and Cornelius. I just landed a new "real" job, and I have both short and long-term goals to make up for the past 4-5 years of mistakes I've made.

If you've made it this far, then thank you for listening to my rant. I just really needed to get it out of my system. It was cathartic.

Now I'll just wait (im)patiently for the release of Starmourn which I'm sure will be amazing.

# ? May 23, 2018 06:39

Nightgull: Jan 22, 2018; TOTALLY NOT A CONSERVATIVE
or a fucking nazi

girl pants posted:

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My [30F] husband [30 M] wants to move to Texas but I do not. What to do?

I'm a raging socialist and even I want to tell her to gently caress off

Texas is an amazing place full of really neat weirdos who have super lovely political views. It�s also home to the best of two uniquely American cuisines (southern bbq and tex-mex). And if they�re moving to a major city, there will be more than enough limousine liberals to make her feel like she�s in the hashtag resistance. That lady should suck it up and use the money her husband will be making to turn an almost purple state just a little more blue.

# ? May 23, 2018 06:42

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Big Bowie Bonanza posted:

this isn't from /r/relationships but it may as well be. holy. loving. poo poo.

gamers and gamer relationships are retarded

https://www.reddit.com/r/MUD/comments/8lglur/rant_avalon/

Drugs or mental illness?

# ? May 23, 2018 06:46

girl pants: Sep 21, 2006; I feel a great disturbance in my pants

Nightgull posted:

That lady should suck it up and use the money her husband will be making to turn an almost purple state just a little more blue.

She won't because she read on the internet that everybody south of the Mason-Dixon line is Yosemite Sam and she has no interest in finding out whether or not that's actually true.

# ? May 23, 2018 06:49

Nightgull: Jan 22, 2018; TOTALLY NOT A CONSERVATIVE
or a fucking nazi

Big Bowie Bonanza posted:

this isn't from /r/relationships but it may as well be. holy. loving. poo poo.

gamers and gamer relationships are retarded

https://www.reddit.com/r/MUD/comments/8lglur/rant_avalon/

Wait wait. Is that the MUD Avalon???

Oh my god it is.

# ? May 23, 2018 06:50

Bogus Adventure: Jan 11, 2017; More like "Bulges Adventure"

Nightgull posted:

Wait wait. Is that the MUD Avalon???

Oh my god it is.

As a former MUD addict in college, I'd just like to point out that MUDs are garbage and I'm a garbage person for playing it. Good grief, though. That story is absolutely disgusting.

# ? May 23, 2018 07:05

Modus Pwnens: Dec 29, 2004

I wonder if Northern Lights is still running...

# ? May 23, 2018 07:08

Bogus Adventure: Jan 11, 2017; More like "Bulges Adventure"

I looked up the MUD I was addicted to and it's still running, so...maybe?

# ? May 23, 2018 07:11

LethalGeek: Nov 4, 2009

Dienes posted:

Agree. I can't recall a single time in this massive thread where asking for an open relationship wasn't an indicator of another problem. Like, it would always be something like "I cheated, can we have an open relationship so it doesn't 'count' as cheating?" or "I really want to cheat and scoped out a partner but want permission to sleep with them (also if you say no I'm still going to sleep with them.)"

I've met a lot of the women who have opened their relationship past day 1 and yeaaaaaaah. At this point when I learn this fact I hear Picard shout Red Alert in my head and start looking for "ok who's idea and what was the real reason?" because it's almost always there. Now that I think about it even I started shying away from open married women some time ago and never noticed.

# ? May 23, 2018 07:15

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

My [25f] boyfriend [35m] wants someone to record us in the bedroom.

This is my first time posting and I hope this is the right place. Thank you in advance for reading. I'll try to include the relevant details.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Overall, it's been a great relationship. To get right to it, we trust each other enough that we have recorded videos and taken pictures of us having sex. It's not all the time, and it is fun and sort of exciting for both of us to have those to look at later. However, he's expressed a couple times that he would like to have someone else be there to be the camera man to get better angles and get "closer to the action".

At first I thought he was joking, and I said I don't think I have any friends that would do that. He then said he had a friend who might do it and he "could probably talk her into it". I told him I didn't know. He brought it up again a month or so later and asked if we did this how would I like it to go. I said I haven't thought about it and I need to think. He hasn't brought it up in a couple weeks since.

Besides the issue of deciding if I'm comfortable with that at all, what's really bothering me is this friend. He didn't mention who she was or how he knew her, and I didn't ask. I just can't stop thinking about it. I can't imagine in what context he would think he could ask a friend to do this. I know I'm a jealous person, but am I overreacting here or would it be reasonable for me to ask him who she is and all these questions even if I say no to us actually doing it? I don't believe he's cheating on me. It just feels inappropriate, maybe, to have a friend in that context. What do you all think? Should I just try to let this go?

TL;DR: my boyfriend thinks he can convince a female friend of his to record us having sex. I feel jealous over who this girl is. Overreacting?

# ? May 23, 2018 08:11

corn on the cop: Oct 12, 2012; Break what must be broken, once for all, that's all, and take the suffering on oneself.

â Corey Dostoyevsky

My (22f) fianc� (21m) has serious self esteem issues about the size of his penis and it�s affecting our relationship

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We�ve been together for over 5 years and this has always been an issue but I feel it�s getting worse. I can tell it�s truly affected him terribly his entire life and was very sympathetic in the beginning because I also had some body issues my entire life.

I don�t have much of a sexual past so there�s no issue there, but I do work a medical job and he has a huge problem with that as I frequently see people (men) naked. I�ve tried to explain to him over and over how different things are when you�re in healthcare and have to see everything. Nothing is from a sexual standpoint nor do we discuss/compare size. He refuses to understand this and thinks I�m lying and that any person would look at another penis and instantly compare it to their partners.

I�m also a very non-visual person (like a lot of women), I don�t really get turned on just by the sight of a male body. He�s the opposite (like most men) and is extremely/obsessively visual. He also doesn�t fully believe me when I tell him I�m not visual. I�ve never betrayed his trust, we have a healthy sex life, and I�ve never said anything about his size other than positive things that I 100% stand by.

I�ve reached a point where I�m so sick of hearing about it that I don�t know what to do or if it�s fixable. We argue about it almost weekly and it�s the same thing every time. I got a degree to do what I do and most people really respect my job. I flat out said I will not be changing my career and although I�m empathetic, enough is enough. I believe there is nothing I can do to ease his mind so I stopped trying.

He recognizes that he has a huge issue with this and it gets in the way of normal daily life. There are even way more issues that I won�t list here because it would take forever. But he refuses to do anything about it even though it�s starting to take over our relationship. He says �what is there to do? Nothing�. I personally don�t know what besides counseling which he seems pretty closed off to. I would love to hear if anyone has experienced something similar or if there are men out there who feel the same.

I�d also like to state that he has a pretty averagely sized penis which is why this also pisses me off because I�m VERY content with it and I kind of feel like that�s all that should matter...but I guess it doesn�t work that way.

TL;DR- fianc� is insecure about this size of his (average) penis and let�s those insecurities take over. We constantly argue because I work in a medical job and see men naked and he feels I spend my time comparing sizes. Not sure what to do to help him and reaching the end of my rope.

# ? May 23, 2018 10:19

Incoherence: May 22, 2004; POYO AND TEAR

Nightgull posted:

Texas is an amazing place full of really neat weirdos who have super lovely political views. It�s also home to the best of two uniquely American cuisines (southern bbq and tex-mex). And if they�re moving to a major city, there will be more than enough limousine liberals to make her feel like she�s in the hashtag resistance. That lady should suck it up and use the money her husband will be making to turn an almost purple state just a little more blue.

Yeah, it depends a lot on where they're moving to. Austin is raging-liberal, and the other major cities have fairly blue cores (with deep-red suburbs so maybe don't go there). If they're moving to a smaller town, then yeah, MAGA hats and gun racks everywhere.

# ? May 23, 2018 10:21

pidan: Nov 6, 2012

corn on the cop posted:

My (22f) fiancé (21m) has serious self esteem issues about the size of his penis and it’s affecting our relationship

When she leaves this idiot, he'll think it's because she's finished comparing and found him wanting.

# ? May 23, 2018 10:25

Zulily Zoetrope: Jun 1, 2011; Muldoon

corn on the cop posted:

My (22f) fianc� (21m) has serious self esteem issues about the size of his penis and it�s affecting our relationship

I mean, if he actually has a small dick that's one thing, but I can only imagine the slurry of issues that would cause an average-dicked guy to lash out like this.

# ? May 23, 2018 10:27

CheesyDog: Jul 4, 2007; by FactsAreUseless

I insulted my partner and I don�t know if he�ll get over it. (self.sex)

submitted 20 hours ago by Bugcatch

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My partner (m23) and I (f19) have been together four months. I�m very attracted to him and we get along most of the time. He has a very low sex drive and mine is lower than average but higher than his. We also both have very physically and emotionally demanding jobs and work opposite schedules. This isn�t overly important except to say we have sex 1-3 times a week and the sex is fine, not great.

Since we met he has never fingered me or performed oral on me. We have sex when he wants and it finishes when he�s finished. If I initiate I get shut down immediately. These two things have put a massive hit on my self esteem. He says eating pussy is a �chore� however expects sex to start with a blow job every single time. I love giving blow jobs so it�s not that I mind I just hate the one sidedness.

A few days ago we were both running on a few hours sleep and got into a silly argument over the laundry or something. It progressed into an argument about everything. I eventually ended up spitting out that he doesn�t care about my pleasure at all and he just uses me as a flesh light. He basically clammed up and wouldn�t talk for a while.

We�ve had several conversations about our sex life before and I�ve told him ive never orgasmed from penetration and I need clitoral stimulation and he still doesn�t do it. We discussed buying a vibrator and even went as far as to order it but he canceled the order and didn�t tell me until I was going to email to complain it never came. There�s a few other things I�ve requested that he�s unwilling to do but I do respect his limits. Basically I�m saying he was aware I needed more before I said this.

After we didn�t have sex for about three days and I think I really got in his head. He wouldn�t even touch me. I didn�t insult his sexual abilities at all but I think he took it that way.

Anyway today I tried to initiate sex and he was reluctant but then he basically jumped on me. He ate me out first and then later while having sex he used a vibrator on me. The sex itself was amazing too. He said at the end it took a lot of effort for him and I told him how much I enjoyed it and even thanked him lol.

So I don�t know if he took it to heart and realised my frustration or if he�s just insulted and wanted to prove me wrong. Can anyone provide an outsiders perspective? I feel guilty for saying it but maybe he finally heard me.

# ? May 23, 2018 10:51

feedmegin: Jul 30, 2008

Modus Pwnens posted:

I wonder if Northern Lights is still running...

Sup fellow Northern Lights player (like, 20 years ago). I used to run my own AberMUD for a little while in college.

# ? May 23, 2018 10:56

M_Sinistrari: Sep 5, 2008; Do you like scary movies?

Incoherence posted:

Yeah, it depends a lot on where they're moving to. Austin is raging-liberal, and the other major cities have fairly blue cores (with deep-red suburbs so maybe don't go there). If they're moving to a smaller town, then yeah, MAGA hats and gun racks everywhere.

My first thought reading the post was that lady never heard of Austin. My staunch dyed in the wool Democrat future in-laws (they voted Mondale) live in Austin and like it a lot. Even if that lady ends up in one of the more conservative areas, wouldn't she be interested in getting to know people outside her bubble and potentially getting them to consider her views/perspective?

Eh, who am I kidding, everyone wants to think the worst of everyone not inside their bubble anymore.

# ? May 23, 2018 10:58

School Nickname: Apr 23, 2010; *fffffff-fffaaaaaaarrrtt*

corn on the cop posted:

My (22f) fiancé (21m) has serious self esteem issues about the size of his penis and it’s affecting our relationship

He's reading too much of that incel propaganda where the average dick is like 9" and he just can't compete with Chad Thundercock. Most of that propaganda is designed to turn idiots into seething manchildren, conditioned to hate women.

# ? May 23, 2018 11:11

corn on the cop: Oct 12, 2012; Break what must be broken, once for all, that's all, and take the suffering on oneself.

â Corey Dostoyevsky

My boyfriend [29M] absolutely HATES the idea of me [21F] wanting to go to the bar with my friends if he can't go

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My boyfriend Jake and I have been together for a year now. We actually met in a dive bar in our town last year.

When I first met Jake I wasn't even 21 yet, but I had a fake ID and I had already been going to bars downtown for years. He brought me around the dive bar scene and I really enjoy it. There's a lot of little bars on a strip in our town it's nice. Much chiller and I've met so many good people and made lots of friends with people in my town. I have no interest in going out to crazy bars and clubs downtown. Jake was pretty wild when I met him. He was drinking every night, doing drugs, selling drugs, and just was all over the place. I always was a party girl though too so we just clicked and soon fell in love. That will never ever be a question to me, he loves me like crazy, and we have always trusted each other.

Jake and I had a fun rear end first year together. Recently he got himself a really good job. He stopped selling and he doesn't go out and drink on week days anymore. He strictly wants to go out on Friday and Saturdays and that be it. Which is totally fine, I respect it and I'm so proud of him for becoming so responsible. The problem we have been having lately though is that, he doesn't want me going out at all on week days either. I am in school and waitress and so after working at night I like to stop by my favorite local bar with a couple co workers and friends and get a beer or so. And Jake isn't having it anymore. He tells me that he can't be with me if I want to continue living like how we used to. Which is not the case at all, I don't want to go on benders like we used to and do the drugs like we used to. But when I do not work the next morning I would like to go get a beer with some friends at the bar down the road. He tells me I'm irresponsible for wanting to do that during the week anymore and accuses me of being out doing drugs too, which I don't when I'm not with him. He's became so insecure but I think it's because we've never went through this. It was always me and Jake for the past year together, it's not like us to go out without each other at all. So I try to respect his wishes when he asks me to just come home after work and what not. I get it's probably frustrating he's at home sleeping trying to better himself so we can have a nice life together and I'm at the bar. I try so hard to understand what he's feeling and see the situation from his eyes.. But I'm not out going crazy. I'm not at clubs. I'm at a dive bar 2 minutes from his house with a whole bar filled with people that know him. If I was out of control in any way he would know about it in seconds. I'm not being irresponsible and I only try to go out for drinks one night during the week. Any other time I'm at his place with him, we spend every second together when we're not working. It's honestly even a little bit of time to get out with my friends, I don't have much friend time where he isn't there. I try to explain this all to him but he doesn't want to hear it. He's stubborn. I just wanted the opinion of people who don't first hand know us. Do you think I'm wrong? How do I make this not such an argument between us. We are so good together we never fight, but this has been really getting to both of us.

TLDR; My boyfriend and I used to go out and drink/party all the time.. now he has a good job and doesn't even let me go get 1 beer with a friend if he isn't going.

# ? May 23, 2018 11:23

Darkrenown: Jul 18, 2012; please give me anything to talk about besides the fact that democrats are allowing millions of americans to be evicted from their homes

Illegal party toilet man is a saint for not immediately suplexing his GF into the poo poo pool and then any of his other friends he could reach.

Rubellavator posted:

I want him to go scorched earth on this poo poo like that one dude who cut all contact and ratted out all of his friends to the cops after they pulled a lovely prank on him. I wish I could remember that story better because it rocked.

I think you mean the guy whose friends drugged his burger because he was a straight edge. Some of them went to jail then apparently the gf of one of them tased him and burgled his home, then reported him for rape. Got very :stare:

if true.

value-brand cereal posted:

Brazilians ITT, please weigh in. What is this? Because as an american, this looks like spinelessness. But maybe italian menfolks are into this.

Am I missing an Italian/Brazilian joke? :confused:

# ? May 23, 2018 12:37

Serephina: Nov 8, 2005; 恐竜戦隊
ジュウレンジャー

Yea, as much as calling stuff fake in this thread is frowned upon, even the source material was kinda over the top. It was basically a fabricated revenge/gun ownership fantasy.

Edit: and while we're at it, there's a *lot* of stuff in /r/r that's clearly fake. A fairly prolific writer (who's since moved on, or changed his style) was fairly easy to note, since his gag was basically gender-swapped hot button topics. Same writing style, fake-name-generation, etc. It's easy to get caught by it, since most of /r/r's material is rightly just inane daily friction belonging to the young, with the few pieces by middle aged people with actual horribly boring concerns. Little of that is worth reading, much less reposting here (or upvoting I guess), so the SA forum self-selects all the juicy, but often fake, stuff.

Serephina fucked around with this message at 12:52 on May 23, 2018

# ? May 23, 2018 12:45

Bubblyblubber: Nov 17, 2014

Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:

Are we still doing, “Dad gay, so what?” I mean, it’s OK if we’re not, I just want to know.

Dad gay, niece splat?

# ? May 23, 2018 12:55

Nightgull: Jan 22, 2018; TOTALLY NOT A CONSERVATIVE
or a fucking nazi

I enjoy how the details keep getting more insane but nobody is dropping a link. Wait. I don�t actually enjoy that at all!!

# ? May 23, 2018 13:08

La Brea Carpet: Nov 22, 2007; I have no mouth and I must post

My [26F] partner [34M] got into a fist-fight with his brother at a family gathering

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My partner, who I'll call John, and I have been together for a few years now, and he's the most kind-hearted, intelligent man I have ever met; but he also struggles with PTSD. Normally, we're able to handle this. Sometimes it's night terrors, some days are just blah- but we've managed to handle everything healthily. But today something he did concerned me, could it have been PTSD related? Or just that he was fed-up?

We just celebrated purchasing a house together (yay!) and invited both of our families over. There were about 20 people milling about during dinner, including his brothers. John grew up with two brothers, one younger and one older. We'll call his younger brother Todd and his older brother Pat. Pat and John are very close-- Todd and John aren't. I don't know what the differences are, but Todd rarely ever comes around, even when we invite him over. Todd wound up getting drunk tonight, against John's wishes (he doesn't drink and asked the guests to not bring alcohol), and Todd sounded off throughout dinner. John was getting noticeably irritable, and I suggested that he and I start cleaning up while everyone finished their food.

John and I began cleaning and Todd followed us out to the patio where John's grill is. John is extremely passionate about grilling (I know that sounds silly but it's one of his hobbies) and asked Todd to be careful around his equipment. Long story short, Todd ended up getting sick on John's grill. John lost his temper and yelled at Todd, telling him to get inside-- and during this, Todd made some nonsensical comment about John's prior military background. John hauled off and hit him.

It caught me off guard, John is the least violent person I know-- he's always able to keep his temper under control, but I tried to intervene. It went on for a few more moments until Pat rushed out and pulled John off of Todd. Pat took Todd home and it's been a few hours since it happened, everyone left and now it's just John and I at home.

John cleaned up his grill, asked me to give him some time to cool off and came in to apologize a while later. I told him not to apologize to me, I asked him why he felt the need to resort to getting into a fist-fight with his brother-- and I've never seen him look at me with that expression before. He looked so wounded that I would ask something like that. Was I in the wrong for asking that? Should I just have let it go and pretend that it didn't happen? I'm just really conflicted. What should I do now? I just want the best for him and the best for us. Sorry for the wall of text, I'm just kind of shaken up and flustered right now. Thanks all for reading

tl;dr: Partner beat the living daylights out of his drunk brother at family party, advice needed

Would grill with that husband. He did nothing wrong.

# ? May 23, 2018 13:53

Theophany: Jul 22, 2014; SUCCHIAMI IL MIO CAZZO DA DIETRO, RANA RAGAZZO

2022 FIA Formula 1 WDC

I guess the brother learned that you can't bust the Krust.

# ? May 23, 2018 13:57

La Brea Carpet: Nov 22, 2007; I have no mouth and I must post

Me [16M] with my lady [41F] I'm unsure what is going on in this "relationship"

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First of all. I'd like to tell everyone I am 16 of legal age in the UK, not that it matters anyway. I have also never slept with her. I am posting here for advice/opinions really. My friends think my relationship with her is weird and have started to bully me for it. Ik it's not full on bullying, but it's getting tiresome. All I'm really here for is to ask is my relationship with this person weird? How weird?

I've known this lady for 3 years now. Her name is Jan and she is pretty attractive. I met her when I was 13, but at the time I didn't really have the complex relationship we've formed now. I met her once coming home during the summer, she was in her driveway gardening and collapsed because of the heat. I was going to call an ambulance but she asked me to go inside to get her water instead which I did. That was the first time we met and from then onward I would say hi to her on my way home from school and sometimes visit her during the summer when school was closed because she doesn't have any family other than dogs.

Anyway so this carried on a lot. And it felt like we had kinda a friendship going. But then as you can imagine things kinda got confusing in my head because she was attractive and i had hormones. I never made a move on her but I was really infatuated by her and would go out of my way to do nice things for her. Examples would be doing chores around the house for her or walking her to places. I'd even gone out for meals with her, which she paid for. She would buy me gifts, some of which were expensive and she'd let me stay over till late sometimes and we'd just talk for hours and hours.

Now that I'm 16 I've realized there has got to be something going on. I don't think we're just friends unless she's genuinely just lonely and enjoys my company. She's a widow so it could be likely and she doesn't have any kids. But part of me thinks we might be dating because I turned 16 2 weeks ago and the day after my birthday when I visited her she handed me a present and kissed me on the cheek. I've considered maybe she just meant it in a motherly way? Maybe i'm thinking too much into this?

Only 2 of my friends knew about her up until now, but 1 of them told everyone else and they keep calling me weird for it and trying to shame me for it. I know it's not really usual, but I never thought I was weird. Literally now my entire friend group is saying I'm dating a granny or whatever, which isn't the case. Unless maybe we are dating and I just don't know it yet? I've never dated before I don't really know what it is like.

I asked Jan what she thought of me to try and get a better picture of what is going on between us. All she said was that I am handsome and she was lucky to have me. That just confused me even more because she basically said she finds me attractive. When she said she's lucky to have me is that implying I belong to her??? I'm confused.

Is this relationship weird? I'm confused as hell. Help pls.

TL;DR - I think I might be dating this lady, but I am confused and unsure. I could really use advice/opinions.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hdW4ilQnYvI

# ? May 23, 2018 14:28

Barudak: May 7, 2007

The only correct punishment for puking on a grill is to be put into a full portapotty and rolled down a hull.

# ? May 23, 2018 14:29

Hellblazer187: Oct 12, 2003

La Brea Carpet posted:

My [26F] partner [34M] got into a fist-fight with his brother at a family gathering

Would grill with that husband. He did nothing wrong.

Same. I dunno, I feel like some people deserve hitting sometimes, and brother Todd certainly sounds like he was one of those people in one of those times.

# ? May 23, 2018 14:31

Danaru: Jun 5, 2012; 何 ??

Todd:
Brings booze when explicitly told not to
poo poo talks during the family dinner
Continues to poo poo talk people who told him to go away
Pukes on John's grill
Purposely triggers John's PTSD

John:
Delivers the most well deserved whoopin' ever

John's partner:
"WHY DID YOU HAVE TO RESORT TO VUH-VUH-VUH-VIOLEEEEEENCE :qq:

so Grillman can find someone better

# ? May 23, 2018 14:33

Barudak: May 7, 2007

im gonna channel 16 year old me for that boys advice: gently caress her or its weird

# ? May 23, 2018 14:33

Barudak: May 7, 2007

La Brea Carpet posted:

My [26F] partner [34M] got into a fist-fight with his brother at a family gathering

Would grill with that husband. He did nothing wrong.

Its like �The Slap� except its good.

# ? May 23, 2018 14:35

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Darkrenown posted:

Illegal party toilet man is a saint for not immediately suplexing his GF into the poo poo pool and then any of his other friends he could reach.

I think you mean the guy whose friends drugged his burger because he was a straight edge. Some of them went to jail then apparently the gf of one of them tased him and burgled his home, then reported him for rape. Got very if true.

Am I missing an Italian/Brazilian joke?

Saint is not the appropriate term. Maybe "spineless weakling."

# ? May 23, 2018 14:49

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

On the one hand grill man's brother had it coming. I don't Jane am issue with tjay party once things had escalated there.

On the other hand, how can you have a barbecue without alcohol? If a fire is lit, a beer you must equip.

# ? May 23, 2018 14:52

Dienes: Nov 4, 2009; dee
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dee doot doot; College Slice

CheesyDog posted:

I insulted my partner and I don’t know if he’ll get over it. (self.sex)

submitted 20 hours ago by Bugcatch

Good Lord. I'm laughing at this macho man complaining holding a vibrator is too much effort. Get out, woman!

# ? May 23, 2018 14:53

girl pants: Sep 21, 2006; I feel a great disturbance in my pants

I [28f] am pretty convinced I have “supernatural” experiences regularly. My fiancé [29m] who I’ve been with for 5 years makes fun of me for believing in what I feel I see and and experience.

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u/Pranfem

So on my honor I swear this isn’t a troll job or some attempt to inflame a debate about ghosts and aliens. In fact I’m not even going to go into details about my experiences because it’s my fiancé’s reaction (and my reaction to his reaction) are what are important. I’m not even 100% convinced but if I were to put a statistic on it, I’d say 75% chance that the events I experience on a near weekly basis are real, physical, in this world experiences.

The issue is with my fiancé, who for the most part is a great guy. We have other issues of course but for the most part we do a great job of working things out. He’s very attentive, sweet, faithful and funny.

This is our “big one” that we can’t seem to find common ground on. For example I’ll have one of my encounters and they are truly terrifying (think a very intense nightmare that you can’t escape) and I will return and be screaming crying, covered in sweat and sometimes be so affected that I’ll throw up. At first my fiancé was very concerned for me but as we got deeper into the relationship and I felt comfortable saying it was more than nightmares, at first he was skeptical and that grew into very cruel derision. He’s explained to me that he feels at best I’m having intense dreams at worst my active imagination is running away from itself. Even worse than that is when he told me that “you’re gunning for attention because your dad was such a jerk” as if I’m still an overly dramatic teen with Trichotillomania. Whats even worse lately is he has starred using derisive “cartoonish” phrases like “did Maz Kanata show up we our bedside last night?” As I’m in a sweating, hyperventilating near panic attack.

I don’t care if he doesn’t believe me, most people won’t. But I care that he doesn’t respect me so there a very hard line to walk here.

My questions are these; how do I accept that my fiancé doesn’t accept a major facet of my life?

And: how do I get him to respect my reality and not be derisive?

tl;dr: I have regular supernatural expereinces and my fiancé doesn’t believe me. It’s fine if it were a respectful disagreement but he takes disbelief into derision and making fun of me. How do we resolve this?

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Animatethis
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11m

You need to go to a medical doctor. Your therapist is insane for not telling you this.

quote:

Pranfem
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9m

I tend to avoid doctors because of fat shaming. I promise thier advice would be “lose weight.”

Sigh.

# ? May 23, 2018 15:01

Meme Emulator: Oct 4, 2000

La Brea Carpet posted:

Me [16M] with my lady [41F] I'm unsure what is going on in this "relationship"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hdW4ilQnYvI

I like how everyone immediately calls this woman a pedophile when she hasnt even touched him and is probably just being nice to a neighbor

# ? May 23, 2018 15:01

Barudak: May 7, 2007

girl pants posted:

I [28f] am pretty convinced I have “supernatural” experiences regularly. My fiancé [29m] who I’ve been with for 5 years makes fun of me for believing in what I feel I see and and experience.

Sigh.

Thin privilege is not being haunted by supernatural specters

# ? May 23, 2018 15:05

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# ? May 25, 2024 03:47

The Lone Badger: Sep 24, 2007

value-brand cereal posted:

Me [25 F] with my 21[F] super Catholic friend, her fiance [29M] is gay and hiding itNon-Romantic
Posted byu/duty-of-care
;

n.b. Emma is also gay.

# ? May 23, 2018 15:06

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