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ArbitraryC posted:Title doesn't seem to match the post at all? Like it implies there are issues but then the only problem he discusses is that he's unwilling to make a firm commitment to her for nebulous reasons. There are so many problems marriage doesn't solve, but it would in fact solve this one. Yeah, weird that the one thing it would actually solve is that people getting on you and your girlfriend about getting married would stop when you actually get married. Based on those families though, that would just bring on the badgering about kids, so maybe you should run anyways? I mean, they don't have to get married, but if it's something they both want, have discussed and she's clearly showing signs she wants to take that step sooner rather than later...what exactly is he waiting on? She's even floating having a long engagement so it's not like he'd be fully locked down for a while still? If something goes sideways while you're engaged you just part ways and depending on the circumstances get the ring back.
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Gumbel2Gumbel posted:What the hell? This is completely wrong. A condom is 98% effective if it's used every time, withdrawal is 76%. Pullout is 96% from planned parenthood itself with "perfect use". Perfect use is basically: actually pull out, don't have sex if you still got gunk up there from last time you came.
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# ? May 24, 2018 21:23 |
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I always wonder about the thread titles in this thread but it's impossible to find those stories. They should really be in the OP.
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# ? May 24, 2018 21:26 |
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If reddit mods see a bunch of clickthroughs they consider it brigading and nuke the story, the links are omitted for that reason you can go to google and type site:reddit.com and paste the article headline and if it's not too recent you'll find it. If that doesn't work go on relationships and paste the same title and it will generally find it. The ones that doesn't work for is recent stories <1 hr old that get nuked, then they don't show up in search or google.
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# ? May 24, 2018 21:28 |
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Gumbel2Gumbel posted:What the hell? This is completely wrong. A condom is 98% effective if it's used every time, withdrawal is 76%. Both things depend on more factors than that. Perfect use failure rate for both tends to be under 5% per year, and typical failure rates are about 20%, where the most common cause of failure by far is "failing to use the method every time". We tell teenagers that pulling out and rhythm method don't work, because they're very tempted to try them (won't have to tell the doctor / pharmacist / drug store cashier that you're having sex) and at the same time they're very likely to screw up, because they don't know their bodies yet. But for adults who are able to assess the risk for themselves, symptothermal methods are a perfectly reasonable option, and pulling out, I guess, is ok if you have a backup plan for dealing with a surprise baby. Or if you're one of those death grip guys who can only come from their own strong fist.
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Ham Sandwiches posted:If reddit mods see a bunch of clickthroughs they consider it brigading and nuke the story, the links are omitted for that reason Woah thanks, didn't even think of that. Found it immediately upon googling.
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# ? May 24, 2018 21:33 |
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ArbitraryC posted:I dated a girl for like 2-3 years that didn't wanna take hormonal stuff for obvious reasons, was allergic to the metals in the non hormonal IUDs, and wasn't a huge fan of condoms. We used em for a while at first for obvious reasons but eventually went with mostly pull out, not even a scare. It's really not difficult, there's only like two rules you gotta follow. Current gf prefers it too, 3ish years in. I for one am glad you gently caress
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Ham Sandwiches posted:If reddit mods see a bunch of clickthroughs they consider it brigading and nuke the story, the links are omitted for that reason Yeah, I’m too lazy to check the OP but this should probably be in there if it isn’t. My(33M) sister(31F) has avoided me for a year and is having a baby shower this weekend. I haven't been invited personally. Should I still bring my family? quote:My younger sister has been in contact with my older sister and other family members but not me due to an incident that occurred over a year ago. I brought my daughter to Maryland to visit her family last summer. We had a good time, and my daughter acted well behaved. My younger sister is big into organic food, non dairy products, and food that isn't generally easily available or affordable where I live. I knew this going in and let my 6 year old daughter know that we will probably be eating different foods but to try and be respectful. Definitely bring the whole clan to a gathering you weren’t invited to.
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fruit on the bottom posted:Yeah, I’m too lazy to check the OP but this should probably be in there if it isn’t. Oh no, a complete chore of a sibling has gone no contact what ever shall I do
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fruit on the bottom posted:
It sounds like this guy won the lottery.
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Me [34M] having issues with people thinking I'm special needsquote:I have been working with special needs people for 8 years. I am one of few male staff in the area. I constantly have case workers and staff from other agencies ask me "where's your staff at?" and some that even baby talk with me. When they learn I'm not a client they get embarrassed and always say "I didn't know." quote:Thank you for the reply. I just wear regular summer clothing. It's hot out so gym shorts and a plain shirt. I could manage to lose 20lbs and smile more but even when i was in shape and happy i was still getting the special needs comments. I know i just need to let it go but it just always pulls me back in.....I will work on myself.
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6 year old still being a bit of a picky eater but at least trying things is fairly ok.
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La Brea Carpet posted:Me [34M] having issues with people thinking I'm special needs Wear a nametag
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Ziv Zulander posted:Wear a nametag If found please call 911
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La Brea Carpet posted:Me [34M] having issues with people thinking I'm special needs That's a real bummer. Would love to see a pic of this dude though. Some people just have faces/bodies that signal "retarded" despite not being so. There's all sorts of "tells" we pick up on, from facial structure, expressions, posture, and clothing. If it's his face he's hosed but maybe there's some other things he could do.
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Captain Yossarian posted:I for one am glad you gently caress It's just funny because people swallowed the information on it like abstinence only sex-ed hook line and sinker and are incredulous it's literally more popular than the pill when birth rates are as low as ever. It's on par with condoms if you're not so stupid you'd probably gently caress up condom use anyways, very popular among our generation, and something we can't really ever discuss because people are so judgey about it.
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Ziv Zulander posted:Wear a nametag
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# ? May 24, 2018 23:33 |
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:And pants. He doesn't need to be formal, but jeans or slacks, or if he insists on wearing shorts then at least wear Khakis not gym shorts. *Walks into group home* *Sees tubby dude in t-shirt and gym shorts at 2PM on a Thursday* *Makes assumption*
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# ? May 24, 2018 23:35 |
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Baronjutter posted:That's a real bummer. Would love to see a pic of this dude though. Some people just have faces/bodies that signal "retarded" despite not being so. There's all sorts of "tells" we pick up on, from facial structure, expressions, posture, and clothing. If it's his face he's hosed but maybe there's some other things he could do. Yeah, the new priest at my wife's church looks like he's got a touch of trisomy but actually doesn't. Just an unfortunate draw in the face department.
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ArbitraryC posted:I dated a girl for like 2-3 years that didn't wanna take hormonal stuff for obvious reasons, was allergic to the metals in the non hormonal IUDs, and wasn't a huge fan of condoms. We used em for a while at first for obvious reasons but eventually went with mostly pull out, not even a scare. It's really not difficult, there's only like two rules you gotta follow. Current gf prefers it too, 3ish years in. This is true.
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# ? May 24, 2018 23:38 |
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I aint rawdogging nobody without two separate clean bills of health and a security deposit
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# ? May 24, 2018 23:46 |
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[M17] was a psychiatrist hitting on me?quote:I was put into the hospital for xanax overdose and I was still under the influence of the drug. A psychiatrist (guy) came into my room and asked me some questions.
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quote:He asked about my sexuality, I said I am gay. He then started asking what kind of porn i watch (hardcore or softcore), he then asked if i masturbate a lot, he asked if i was in a intimate relationship with a guy (in which i wasnt), he then asked if i wanted to be (i said no, but i actually do want to be in one), he then asked what I prefer in a guy (body type, hair, etc.) lol
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EDIT drat my reply was late, this is in reference to BC chat: I take a non hormonal BC pill that's... well, not FDA approved (Saheli) but 12 years in and not a single issue. The only side effects are acne flare ups and zero periods. It sucks but hormonal BC pills are AWFUL for some women and some are also sensitive to the IUD. Hopefully they come up with a male pill that works, so couples can choose or even double-up. Mr. Creakle fucked around with this message at 23:54 on May 24, 2018 |
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La Brea Carpet posted:Me [34M] having issues with people thinking I'm special needs Mr. M
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fruit on the bottom posted:Yeah, I’m too lazy to check the OP but this should probably be in there if it isn’t. The way you can tell someone is really #woke is if a literal 6-year-old asks for girl or boy toys, and their response is to lecture the child as though the child has done something wrong
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# ? May 25, 2018 00:03 |
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Haifisch posted:[M17] was a psychiatrist hitting on me? All perfectly valid questions. Now excuse me, I need to inspect your penis. It's all part of a routine checkup.
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quote:I don't want to drive my family six hours for an awkward event if she doesn't want us there. What do I do here? don't go e: \/\/\/ also good COMRADES fucked around with this message at 00:14 on May 25, 2018 |
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Go, but exclusively to gently caress with her Just poo poo all over everything she does for the entire night
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# ? May 25, 2018 00:12 |
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Barudak posted:I aint rawdogging nobody without two separate clean bills of health and a security deposit But no full body cavity search? Braver than a us marine, you are.
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value-brand cereal posted:But no full body cavity search? Braver than a us marine, you are. I dont know how you make love but that box gets checked off
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La Brea Carpet posted:Me [34M] having issues with people thinking I'm special needs Wear some big boy pants at work, dude. "Should I wear my sweats or track pants today?" - this guy. Lonely Virgil fucked around with this message at 00:35 on May 25, 2018 |
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There's plenty of tubby males in t-shirts & shorts. What's this guy doing that's making everyone think he's challenged?
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LethalGeek posted:There's plenty of tubby males in t-shirts & shorts. What's this guy doing that's making everyone think he's challenged? Going to work in them?
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fruit on the bottom posted:My(33M) sister(31F) has avoided me for a year and is having a baby shower this weekend. I haven't been invited personally. Should I still bring my family? Hey reddit I wasn't invited to an event I don't want to attend anyway should I go? I know who the real special needs person is here.
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# ? May 25, 2018 00:55 |
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Baronjutter posted:That's a real bummer. Would love to see a pic of this dude though. Some people just have faces/bodies that signal "retarded" despite not being so. There's all sorts of "tells" we pick up on, from facial structure, expressions, posture, and clothing. If it's his face he's hosed but maybe there's some other things he could do. I saw a plastic surgery show several years back with a woman who had some kind of problem with her facial nerves which caused people to think she was mentally disabled. I think it was from when she was a baby and her facial muscles just didn't develop correctly as she grew up. She was mentally all there. She got plastic surgery and it pretty much wiped out the appearance of mental disability. I think she got a chin implant and maybe cheek bone implants. I can't loving find it though. They kept saying she has a "syndromic face" but that search term just brings up tons of articles and videos about people with down syndrome getting plastic surgery. Anyway, this guy should get cosmetic surgery since it's so cheap and risk-free!
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# ? May 25, 2018 01:07 |
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La Brea Carpet posted:Me [34M] having issues with people thinking I'm special needs Dudes got a face like Sloth
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# ? May 25, 2018 02:23 |
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Barudak posted:I aint rawdogging nobody without two separate clean bills of health and a security deposit Bring a gun for protection so you can shoot your dick off when it threatens you.
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# ? May 25, 2018 02:25 |
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Today's keyword: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kl_kyhwCDtY​ My (25f) mom (67) is dying. My sister (35f) is dependent on her in every possible way. Other sister (37f) and brother in law (39m) are now talking about how we will all have to take over for mom and take care of our sister. I do not want to do this.Non-Romantic Posted byu/no-thanks-no https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/45fxwk/my_25f_mom_67_is_dying_my_sister_35f_is_dependent/ quote:I will try to be brief. My sister Jen (35f) has been frankly a mess for her whole life. She has gotten exponentially worse since age 18 and literally expects the whole world to revolve around her and cater to her. Unfortunately it often DOES and that's because my mom constantly gave in to her demands. She is also very demanding of my other sister Paula (37) and myself, mostly of our time but also of Paula's money. Jen will whine about how she feels "so bad" about owing Paula and my mom so much money, but apparently she doesn't feel that bad because she hasn't had a job since she was 19. She claims she sends in applications all the time but that it's just really hard to get a job right now. I think that's bullshit. She COULD work SOMEWHERE but she won't apply for anything less than $15/hr despite having no skills. UPDATE: quote:hi everyone! I have a sort-of update that I wanted to share since you all helped me so immensely the last time I posted. Please let me start by saying thank you from the bottom of my heart. I was in a very dark and numb place and you all really helped give me some clarity when I desperately needed it.
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Ham Sandwiches posted:We don’t fight ever. Just have been arguing
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