- La Brea Carpet
- Nov 22, 2007
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I [28M] can't help but not have any respect for my best friend [29M] after he and his wife [27F] asked me to participate in their fetish
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I already know this won't be well-received and I'll catch a lot of flak, whatever.
I've been friends with my best friend for over 10 years. I was his best man. I love him like a brother. Last month he sat me down, explained he had a cuckold fetish, and asked me if I would be interested in being his wife's bull. He said I would be the 3rd guy his wife would have sex with apart from himself and that the first 2 were just experimenting with the fetish. He said his hope is for me to be the semi-permanent bull going forward.
Needless to say I rejected this immediately. I have been no contact with my friend since then. I've lost all respect for the guy. I don't have anything against cuckolds practicing what they want, but I absolutely do not respect them and now I can't see my best friend as anything other than pathetic.
I'm trying so hard to separate my best friend as a person from his sexual fetishes but all I can think is that this guy gets off on other people loving his wife, and I just feel sickened at the thought of that. I feel like I can't be friends with him anymore because I can't help but see him as a pathetic wimp.
TLDR- Best friend asked me to be the bull for his cuckold fetish. I can't respect him anymore. Is my friendship over?
For the love of God, don't tell him how pathetic you think he is.
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- Bobby Digital
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Is she hot?
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Jun 10, 2018 00:18
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- tactlessbastard
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Godspeed, post
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I mean, someone has to do it.
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Jun 10, 2018 00:40
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- nerd plus rage
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It's a metaphor for something, probably
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quote:My [21M] mother [45F] wants me to see a psychiatrist because she found an explicit manga I bought for a friend as a gift
On my recent trip to Tokyo I also visited Akihabara, it's kind of weeb central with tons of stores where you can buy tons of merch and stuff. Among other things I got some wallscrolls, two dakimakura covers and some of my favorite hentai manga. While I'm not a lolicon myself I have a close friend who is into it so I decided to get him a copy of Geiger Counter, an explicit loli manga which I know he's a fan of.
So I had these things, including the loli manga, stored in my room because my friend's currently out of town for the next four weeks or so. My mother then found them the other day. She claims she was cleaning the house but I suspect she was just snooping ... anyway, she didn't complain about the big titty manga I bought for myself but she was upset about the copy of the Geiger Counter loli manga. It's a bit explicit and I can see why she'd think like that; still I tried explaining to her that it wasn't for me but for a friend and that he had asked me to get it for him (not true but I figured it was better to say that than to tell her it was a gift). I don't even like lolis myself, I'm only into girls of age with big breasts and curves, nonetheless my mother didn't seem to believe me. Now she wants me to see a psychiatrist because she's worried about the loli-stuff.
I think she's being unreasonable, after all it wasn't even for myself. She probably thinks I'm into lolis now (not that there's anything wrong with that, I'm not shaming anybody for this, but some people think it's problematic) when this isn't the case.
How can I successfully convince her so and avoid having to see a psychiatrist for an absolute non-issue?
tl;dr: Mother found an explicit loli manga I got for a friend as a gift on a recent trip to Tokyo. Now she wants me to see a psychiatrist and might suspect that I'm into lolis.
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Jun 10, 2018 00:54
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- QuarkJets
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sterilize the anime havers
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Jun 10, 2018 01:29
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- SpazmasterX
- Jul 13, 2006
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Wrong about everything XIV related
~fartz~
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Asking the important questions.
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Jun 10, 2018 01:34
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- DACK FAYDEN
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Bear Witness
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"No mom you don't understand, I''m just a pedophile ENABLER."
but like also rofl at this being a situation that both exists and was posted on the internet
so really I don't have a point here beyond "lol"
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Jun 10, 2018 01:37
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- VanSandman
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SWAP.AVI EXCHANGER
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I mean, I have a hard time stigmatizing drawn child porno because basically every alternative they could be consuming is worse (and it's hard to force people to get therapy for something that, in their perspective, isn't an issue and that they don't act on)
but like also rofl at this being a situation that both exists and was posted on the internet
so really I don't have a point here beyond "lol"
Child abusers are human waste and nothing of value is gained by allowing the production of any pornographic material that caters to them. It will be used to groom actual human children. This is known.
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Jun 10, 2018 01:49
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- QuarkJets
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Just gently caress her since you don't respect him anymore god drat this is real easy.
Yeah isn't that the whole point of the fetish anyway? Dude is like 9/10ths of the way there without even realizing it, he's just letting his own hang-ups get in the way at that point (also possible he's just not attracted to her)
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Jun 10, 2018 01:53
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- Pick
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Child abusers are human waste and nothing of value is gained by allowing the production of any pornographic material that caters to them. It will be used to groom actual human children. This is known.
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Jun 10, 2018 01:55
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- La Brea Carpet
- Nov 22, 2007
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I have no mouth and I must post
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My [33F] wife [33F] is getting into astrology and tarot, and it's putting a strain on our relationship.
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We've been married for 10 years and have overcome a good many issues, but this one is annoying and has proven hard to communicate about, so I thought I'd ask for advice.
For the last few months, she's been getting very interested in astrology, horoscopes, tarot readings, etc. I'm not even very opposed to it: I don't believe it has supernatural knowledge or powers, but I do believe it has a very strong placebo effect, and IMO time spent introspecting about your own and others personality and actions (even within a make-believe framework) is never too poorly spent. Plus, this stuff is so vague, it seems more useful for actually uncovering what you want to believe anyway than revealing new knowledge. I don't mind it at all on those terms.
We actually have had several conversations about it where I thought she was basically on the same page. I was under the impression she mostly agreed with me, but was also really into the history and (for lack of a better word) philosophy of it, and perhaps giving it some vague credence (since she is definitely not a philosophical materialist (neither am I.)). Whatever, she's enjoying it and not hurting anyone.
Or, so I thought. Recently, however, she's started bringing it up in nearly every social gathering with friends. Frankly, I find this embarrassing. Our circle of friends is not the type who normally give this stuff much credence. Once or twice isn't bad, but it's become a constant topic and I think our friends are noticing.
Worse, she's talking about it with our kids (3 & 6) as if it were true. I don't mind adults using whatever mental tools they find useful and fun, but I feel there is an obligation to set kids up a bit more... analytically.
I tried to talk with her about it, but she is resistant. I once made the mistake of rudely pooh-poohing it in front of her friends, which (perhaps fairly) upset her, and now she is very sensitive and guarded to the topic.
Worse, though, she actually "pulled rank" on me. You see, she has a Ph.D. (in one of the humanities) from a prestigious university, wheras I have a lowly bachelors degree and work in a technical field. She basically said that the fact that I didn't believe in something has no bearing on it's truth and that there's more to the world than I am admitting, and that I'm not qualified to tell her what to believe. Which I don't actually dispute, as facts, but (a) mysticism as an actual source of truth IS in fact bullshit and (B) drat if it doesn't sting for her to (basically) try to end an argument by claiming to be smarter than me.
So now it's this hugely sensitive topic that we keep hurting eachother's feelings over, meanwhile I'm frequently embarrassed and uncomfortable with some of the stuff she's teaching the kids.
Any ideas on how to approach this?
TL;DR: Wife is getting very into mystical stuff. I don't mind a ton, but feel like I get shut down when I try to communicate about the ways in which it is bothering me.
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Jun 10, 2018 01:59
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- QuarkJets
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lol @ trying to browbeat someone using an unrelated PhD
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Jun 10, 2018 02:08
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- tactlessbastard
- Feb 4, 2001
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Godspeed, post
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I mean, I have a hard time stigmatizing drawn child porno because basically every alternative they could be consuming is worse
A bullet.
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Jun 10, 2018 02:11
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- Ride The Gravitron
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by FactsAreUseless
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My [33F] wife [33F] is getting into astrology and tarot, and it's putting a strain on our relationship.
Ask your best friend to gently caress your wife
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Jun 10, 2018 02:12
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- La Brea Carpet
- Nov 22, 2007
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I have no mouth and I must post
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Bartleby the Sexnormal.
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- andrew smash
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I [28M] can't help but not have any respect for my best friend [29M] after he and his wife [27F] asked me to participate in their fetish
For the love of God, don't tell him how pathetic you think he is.
Nah definitely tell him
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Jun 10, 2018 02:50
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- tactlessbastard
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Godspeed, post
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What, you want to see him crank one out?
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Jun 10, 2018 03:09
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- thin blue whine
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For the love of God, don't tell him how pathetic you think he is.
he's going to get crushed emotionally and extremely erect at the same time
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Jun 10, 2018 03:10
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- Malachite_Dragon
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Do not drag your best friend into your weird sex fetishes. This should not even be an issue.
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[Toronto, Canada] Severely obese employee has been causing issues at my business. She told us it was medical, just found out she's a feeder. Help? (self.legaladvice)
submitted 3 days ago by FeederFeedback to r/legaladvice
quote:Alright, so I know this is really bizarre and to be truthful I am totally stumped on my rights / what I can do as an employer in this case.
I run an event planning business. I have 15 employees and rent a small office space in a building with 4 other offices in related fields. Each business owner bought the building in 2005 as joint owners because our businesses intended to work together from the start and it's been wildly successful.
In 2010 I hired a woman we'll name Sarah. Sarah is a perfectly nice human being, and for years of her employment there was no issues. Full disclosure, Sarah has never been a small woman (I would estimate her weight around 230lbs when I hired her) but that was never an issue until 2016.
At the end of 2013 Sarah went through a bad divorce, and so when she met a nice guy in 2014 we were all very happy for her. She's always been a really private person, but she couldn't help herself talking about him around the office, and by the middle of 2015 they got married.
Around early 2016 was when Sarah began experiencing what she told me was health issues diagnosed by a Doctor. She began to absolutely balloon in weight over time. I never pushed further both because her health insurance isn't through my company insurance (it's through her new husband) and because my employee's health issues are none of my business. I assumed she had a thyroid disorder personally, because my mother had something similar happen at a similar age to Sarah.
Sarah keeps putting on weight, and putting on weight. Our office has stairs that lead to the main door and when Sarah could no longer properly use the stairs I paid for an elevator upgrade from our business only (we have a vintage building that had a scary older elevator) to accommodate her in 2016. I also purchased her a chair for her weight rating, a desk with more space, and have also at times been very lenient on our sick leave policy for her because I was still under the impression this was a medical issue and she'd been such a good employee for years. As a good employer I wanted to make accommodations for what I THOUGHT was an embarrassing medical issue. She did request the elevator be updated and the chair, but I offered the desk and a few extra paid days off when she said she was feeling ill.
Now is the part where this gets kind of bonkers, and a good time to mention I'm a part of our local kink community. None of my employees know this, as for my reputation locally me and my husband keep it very private. I was browsing Fetlife and came across a profile and INSTANTLY recognized Sarah. Her and her husband have a profile with MANY pictures going back to 2016 chronicling their "feeder" journey.
Sarah doesn't have a medical condition. So now I'm furious. I've spent about $9200 dollars in accommodations (elevator update, chair, desk) and another $300 in paid time off for this woman thinking she was ill, and she had done this on purpose and lied to me.
What can I do? Can I fire Sarah? I don't even want to look at her right now. If I fire her, can she file a disability complaint? Can I report this as fraud? Do I sue her?
We do have a company lawyer, however he is one vacation for the next two weeks. His partner said he may be able to look at this for me, however he is swamped and said he might not be able to get to it before our usual lawyer would be back. This is why I'm coming here, as at this point I'm considering even putting her on paid leave if I have to so I don't have to pretend like nothing is wrong for two weeks.
[Ontario] Update to Feeder Employee. (self.legaladvice)
submitted 15 hours ago * by FeederFeedback
quote:Edit: I've received a few messages and read a few BOLA comments saying I should out Sarah, even by doing it secretly. That is absolutely out of the question. Please stop messaging and commenting to that effect.
Hey everyone, I really didn't expect to have an update so soon, but my husband found something new last night and I just spent 2 1/2 hours on a skype call with my lawyer (while he's on vacation, bless his heart) so here we are. I'd also like to thank everyone who left comments in my last thread and helped me come around to waiting for my lawyer (even if it didn't go that way in the end). The majority of you were really kind and informative.
Also my last post was at risk for doxxing according to mods, so I'm going to be much more vague with this one on locations / website data. Mods, if you want something else changed please let me know.
So, onto this weekend's events. Lots of people were saying my best bet at this point would be gathering together the evidence of sick days lining up with photoshoots, so I brought all my work files home and started to go at it. Eventually I got too emotionally tired and started crying, and so my husband took over to do some of the match up work for me (he was already aware of what was going on, as he was present when I found Sarah and her husband's pictures online). While I had taken a bunch of screen shots I really had avoided looking at the actual pictures out of a mix of awkwardness / anger, and fixated on the dates listed more. However, at one point my husband called me over and asked me to look at a particular set.
Because of our field, my office has a large store room where we keep items used for set up. One of her picture sets had been taken in this store room over the weekend and had a title somewhere along the lines of "Naughty Work" (but not that). To give a bit of an idea of how this was even possible, my building doesn't have key locks we have a code pad system. My employees all have the codes, and it's not uncommon for any of my employees to visit the office on a weekend to do extra work or even just grab something they forgot to take home. All of that data is saved however, so I then pulled the keypad records from our server and sure enough, her code was used the day before the album was posted.
At this point I'm ashamed to say I lost it pretty hard and started screaming at the screen. It took a few hours for me to calm down, and then I called my lawyer on his personal cellphone which he said is allowable in an emergency. He picked up, I gave him a short run down and he told me to give him a half hour to finish lunch and then he'd call me right away.
I laid everything out for him (he tactfully avoided asking me how I found this profile aside from "did someone send this to you, did you have reason to look for it, or did you find it accidentally?" which was nice of him) and then asked him what we could do. My lawyer has said we have absolute cause to fire her without worrying about a rebuttal of this being because of her "condition" / weight gain, and that the best thing will be to have security at the door Monday waiting for her with everything at her desk boxed up and a formal letter of her termination.
He then suggested something I hadn't even thought about, which was needing that store room professionally cleaned (they used a plastic sheet but still...) and how to recover the cost of that from Sarah, as well as sending off a take down request for the album as my company logo is visible in at least two portions of it. He did tell me any of the accommodations I gave her without asking for a letter of disability were on me and not pursuable. At this point I'll probably just get the cost of cleaning that store room professionally, and getting rid of Sarah, which is fine with me.
My lawyer said he will be reaching out to a friend or two for help, as he's never faced anything quite like this. I told him that I could believe that, and that I was sorry to have to bring this to him. He joked that it was going to be one hell of a case study someday, and that if I need him for anything else related to this before he's back to give him a call.
As for me, I'm going to take 3 days off work after letting Sarah go to process my hurt feelings like some of you suggested. Then I'm going to have to install a full camera system in my office space, start building a new set of HR policies and look for someone to fill Sarah's position.
Again, thank you all for the advice you gave me even though I didn't end up needing it.
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- Malachite_Dragon
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Jesus christ. At least it has a happy ending.
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- LadyPictureShow
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Success!
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I forget if this was posted in this thread (I might have just read it when I was using ‘buffet’ as a search term):
Me [25F] with my friend/fellow PhD program student [26M.] Paid him to cat sit for two weeks, he ate all expensive my food, literally $250-$350 worth of food.
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I feel ridiculous posting this, and partially think it's my fault, but here we go.
I was away for two weeks (one week was spring break, one week for a conference overseas) and had someone from my program who was staying over break cat sit my place. I paid him $20/visit and told him to visit once every two days, which was pretty fair, I thought. I'm not super close to this guy, but we're casual friends.
I told him that if he wanted to hang out at my place and do homework, that's fine. And I told him he could treat it like it was his place as long as he didn't go in my bedroom, and that he could use my food, cook, etc. My thought was, he lives like a 20-minute drive away, I may as well make it worth his time. Plus he's constantly complaining about his neighobor downstairs in his appartment, who is always playing war video games and the landlord won't do anything about it.
Got back, cat is alive. But when the next day I went to make dinner... hooolllly poo poo. The freezer is loving cleaned out.
To explain, I was raised in a family that tended to bulk buy when there were deals and freeze for a later date, and I have a taste for luxury. So when I left, I had half a dozen T-Bone steaks individually packed, a lamb leg, a frozen duck, two bags of those giant crab legs, a frozen filet of wild caught salmon... And in the fridge I had (unopened) gourmet cheeses my sister had sent to me specialty for my birthday, that I know was expensive as gently caress, and I also had on the counter two bottles of wine that cost $30/piece. This is food that is very special to me and I eat from it maybe twice a month as a morale booster.
I'm trying to do mental math, but the steaks were probably $60-$70, the lamb $15, the duck, more than $10, the crab legs were $18/piece, the salmon wasn't the worst at maybe $25, I know the cheeses were at least $50, plus the wine. Also it's not as huge as a deal, but also a bag of pistachios are half gone.
It's like this guy literally went through my stuff, determined what was the most expensive, and ate it. OK there's still a pack of bacon unopened in my fridge!
How do I handle this? Am I at fault here for suggesting he could eat stuff? Is he at fault for really, really taking advantage of my offer? What should I do?
TLDR: Cat sitter ate all my gourmet food.
General consensus is: he probably stole all the food from her freezer. Though there is one idiot that chose ‘this is my hill to die on’ by vehemently arguing that he’d eat that much in that amount of time.
drat, I used to watch my friends’ son during summer months to make a little extra scratch when I was doing my PhD, but ‘make yourself at home/help yourself to food’ amounted to some of whatever I cooked him for lunch (he’d flip out if I didn’t eat with him), and the occasional piece of fruit or glass of juice.
On the other hand, don’t leave gourmet food unguarded around a PhD student. Or really any free food.
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Jun 10, 2018 16:51
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- Apprentice Dick
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Well, they're probably struggling for money.
$350k just doesn't pay the bills like it used to.
Also - who earns $200k a year working from home and only whenever he feels like it? Her husband's a drug dealer, isn't he?
Ahem, an artisanal drug dealer to rich kids. Not your garden variety heroin and crack, please show some respect.
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Jun 10, 2018 17:02
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- Ride The Gravitron
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Ahem, an artisanal drug dealer to rich kids. Not your garden variety heroin and crack, please show some respect.
Craft Weed
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- DACK FAYDEN
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Bear Witness
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Child abusers are human waste and nothing of value is gained by allowing the production of any pornographic material that caters to them. It will be used to groom actual human children. This is known.
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Jun 10, 2018 17:15
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- Pick
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nah that's contact marketing af
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- InediblePenguin
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I'm strong. And a giant penguin. Please don't eat me. No, really. Don't try.
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pedos show cartoon kiddy porn to real kids to plant sexual ideas in their heads and give them child-accessible cartoon demonstrations that kids having sex with adults is fun and good. i'm not googling it for you while i'm on my workplace wifi
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pedos show cartoon kiddy porn to real kids to plant sexual ideas in their heads and give them child-accessible cartoon demonstrations that kids having sex with adults is fun and good. i'm not googling it for you while i'm on my workplace wifi
yeah I've seen articles about it also, most of which were written by the assaulted. i don't really want to look it up on my home, or any, wifi
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