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Haifisch posted:Apparently, I'm [25F] an evil witch because of the way I'm raising my daughter [8F]. It's putting a strain on a lot of relationships and I could use some help. I was raised like that. My parents would play Intellevision games while holding me on their laps as an infant. When I got older I'd often "navigate" by being the one with the cheat book, or whatever. I don't think I've ever actually played a Resident Evil game myself, my dad would play while I'd navigate because I was terrified of zombies and hated the controls. My SNES was already open on Christmas morning, and the first switch palace done in Super Mario World because my parents had to "test" it. I have a Legend of Zelda tattoo, not just because I'm a gaming nerd, but because of all the great memories I have of having a shared hobby with my parents we all loved. The day my dad died, after being so sick for so long, I woke up to the sound of him playing one of his PTO-like games for the first time in 6 months. It was such a familiar sound. It's one of my last memories of him and I can't imagine wanting it to have been anything else. But I guess since I got bullied because it was the 90s and not 2018 when everyone's grandma is playing Candy Crush and everyone has a console in their house. that those happy memories and bonding was all actually a horrible thing to put me through. I seriously think these people are just really, really jealous of the OP's relationship with her daughter and ex. Edit: Jesus, I just saw the child's name, that's my birthname, even spelled the right way.
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Samuel L. Hacksaw posted:you might just be ugly too. i'm not ugly, i'm just fat Play posted:I can't stand when I have to act like a parent to my girlfriend because that's not what I signed up for. Even unfeigned dependency is lame and people need to get their poo poo together because I want a fun and competent fuckpartner; if I wanted a child to take care of I would've just had one seriously. i don't want ACTUAL children, let alone manchildren
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Jun 22, 2018 18:46
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Araenna posted:Edit: Jesus, I just saw the child's name, that's my birthname, even spelled the right way. The call is coming from inside the house to the Nintendo Power Tip Line
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Barudak posted:The call is coming from inside the house to the Nintendo Power Tip Line my parents got divorced because my dad saw the phone bill and assumed it was a sex line my mom was calling. ha ha jokes on me im actually just really bad at zombies ate my neighbors
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Jun 22, 2018 18:49
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Nonvalueadded User posted:I find food in the north of Italy to be more subtle and tasty, and not as fatty, as food from the south, but regardless the best place in the world to eat amazing truffle-laden food is Florence. And I hate Florence in every other way. I really regret reading this, The Most Boring Story Ever Told, and i still don’t know who the woman was.
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Jun 22, 2018 18:55
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the username tried to warn u 
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Jun 22, 2018 19:03
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in remote Australian research stations it's common for frogs to get into the toilet systems, cuz toilet bowls are GREAT acoustics. anyway using the toilet with more than 1 frog/toad in it? thats a illegal party toilet, australia rules.
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Jun 22, 2018 19:09
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Behold, the teenage psyche! Did I ruin any chance of friendship with my ex by hating his new girlfriend? quote:I [F17] made a post last night about my ex of a year [M20] and wanting to reach out. I tried and he’s blocked me. Choice OP replies from the comments: quote:-Thank you. I’ve never been so in love and it hasn’t changed and I hate them both Scientific proof that a 16 year old getting dumped by a 19 year old causes irreversible brain damage. Were any of you guys that broke-brained in HS?
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Jun 22, 2018 19:22
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Araenna posted:Edit: Jesus, I just saw the child's name, that's my birthname, even spelled the right way.
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Jun 22, 2018 19:23
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My Husband (M31) wants me (F27) to stop giving rides to co-workers.quote:So to get right down to it. I work at a retail store, part-time, closing shift to get out of the house from time to time and to get extra pocket money. I used to stay at home full-time with our son (M5) but I found that I was becoming a recluse and it made my social anxiety 10x worse. I have been working at the store I'm at for almost 2 years now. Your husband is bludgeoning you with stories of his ex so much you could probably have him arrested on battery charges. He's punishing your helping others based on the actions of a completely different person.
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Jun 22, 2018 19:23
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LadyPictureShow posted:Behold, the teenage psyche! She was probably broke in the first place.
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Jun 22, 2018 19:24
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Dienes posted:My Husband (M31) wants me (F27) to stop giving rides to co-workers. 
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Jun 22, 2018 19:31
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Dienes posted:My Husband (M31) wants me (F27) to stop giving rides to co-workers. Bang Tim, break your lovely husband’s brain even further. But seriously, the husband sounds like a total controlling douche. Don’t date or marry someone that constantly brings up what their ex did to them as a reason for their attitude toward something.
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Jun 22, 2018 19:37
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I'm pretty sure I knew that talking about your ex all the time was a red-flag behavior when I was like 20, how has this guy not picked up on that at 31
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Jun 22, 2018 19:43
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he's a man, so his feelings about her are based in Reason and Strong Intellectual Concepts and are therefore fine and don't need to be addressed in any way, duh
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Jun 22, 2018 19:50
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:he's a man, so his feelings about her are based in Reason and Strong Intellectual Concepts and are therefore fine and don't need to be addressed in any way, duh Lol
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Jun 22, 2018 19:54
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It's cool how the 31 year old dude is some cartoon mustache twirling villain using LOGIC and CONTROL and MANIPULATION and not some dude that got cheated on and it left him hosed up afterward That dude sucks for sure but he just seems like some unhappy person trying to fix the previous problem in a futile way, to me
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Jun 22, 2018 19:56
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Dienes posted:My Husband (M31) wants me (F27) to stop giving rides to co-workers. Your husband is an rear end in a top hat, so don't worry too much about people thinking it. Seriously, she said the kid's apartment is literally on the way home and he can't afford to take an uber home. Tell him to eat poo poo or divorce you over it
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Dienes posted:My Husband (M31) wants me (F27) to stop giving rides to co-workers. Your husband is a huge piece of poo poo and you need to get a divorce.  and don't look back.
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Jun 22, 2018 20:03
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Always take the most drastic path out of your current predicament no matter how innocuous seeming.
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Jun 22, 2018 20:06
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Admiral Ray posted:Your husband is a huge piece of poo poo and you need to get a divorce. This is maaayyyybe a bit much. I would say have a serious talk with him and lay down the law, that you're not going to stop helping people in a harmless way due to his insecurities. He doesn't get to dictate things about that part of your life. If he can't accept that then sure
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Ham Sandwiches posted:It's cool how the 31 year old dude is some cartoon mustache twirling villain using LOGIC and CONTROL and MANIPULATION and not some dude that got cheated on and it left him hosed up afterward Part of being a mature adult in a relationship is recognizing your baggage for what it is and trying to change yourself to be healthy rather than blame or become possessive of who you're dating. It doesn't matter how tragic your past is. If you are hosed up from the past to the degree of this man, you're too hosed to be in a relationship and need either therapy or at least serious introspection. You can never "please" people like this because the problem comes from their own insecurity, not what their SO is actually doing, so the leash becomes tighter and tighter with no trust built up through the process. The OP is still being controlled and manipulated hth
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Jun 22, 2018 20:22
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extra row of teeth posted:Part of being a mature adult in a relationship is recognizing your baggage for what it is and trying to change yourself to be healthy rather than blame or become possessive of who you're dating. It doesn't matter how tragic your past is. If you are hosed up from the past to the degree of this man, you're too hosed to be in a relationship and need either therapy or at least serious introspection. You can never "please" people like this because the problem comes from their own insecurity, not what their SO is actually doing, so the leash becomes tighter and tighter with no trust built up through the process.
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Jun 22, 2018 20:25
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Admiral Ray posted:Always take the most drastic path out of your current predicament no matter how innocuous seeming. This is the Internet, 90% of what we do ITT is tell people to end their relationships based on one paragraph containing three data points
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loquacius posted:This is the Internet, 90% of what we do ITT is tell people to end their relationships based on one paragraph containing three data points To be fair 90% of the time, that's exactly what the OP should do. Not in this particular case (I think a Come to Jesus talk from the OP and if needed, marriage counseling) could salvage it. But r/r is a parade of domestic abuse, dumb teens/college kids, and psychotic families.
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Anyone remember that guy with the Twin Flame kid she was chasing romantically?quote:I messaged the Other Guy my wife was chasing and she found out (35m and 37f)
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Dienes posted:My Husband (M31) wants me (F27) to stop giving rides to co-workers. Wow honey, I wish you knew me back when I was a reasonable person, too bad I'll never be that ever again. Ever.
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From legal advice but holy poo poo.... Pretend everything is bold. My now EX fiancée makes a lot more money than me and comes from a good amount of family money. I'm 23, hes 29 and his parents wanted me to sign a prenup before our wedding in 3 months. His parents have bought us a house, car and are offering to pay off all my student loans once we are married so it doesn't weigh on their son. I have had lawyers look over the prenup and they basically said that its not the most fair thing ever but its fine. Basically it says that in the event of a divorce initiated by my fiancée he gets whatever he made, I get whatever money I made and I get spousal support from him in the amount of 25% of my salary at the time (great ). However, in a divorce initiated by me NO MATTER THE CIRCUMSTANCE (ex my fiancée could cheat etc and I could divorce him but id be at fault in the prenup) I do not get spousal support and I do not get custody AT ALL of the child we are adopting through a surrogate. normally prenups cant cover future kids BUT since we have started the process and are waiting just on the childs birth, my lawyers say its fair game. He is completely controlled by his parents. I forgot to add that I asked them to take the custody out and they said theyre willing to take the custody portion out if they can add the following instead: if I initiate divorce I ALSO OWE HIS PARENTS FOR HALF OF EVRYTHING THEYVE BOUGHT US, that means I owe them 2-3 million dollars. WTF. if I don't sign, I basically enter a legal battle for the kids custody with my fiancé and his parents which I cant win as they have more money and the parents run a legal firm. I feel stuck, in the past hour since ive posted my fiancé has made clear he will not marry me without the prenup. so my options are to sign, not sign and fight for custody or literally just give up. I FORGOT TO MENTION THE CHILD IS BIOLOGICALLY HIS. we agreed the first kid would use his sperm and the second would use mine. So this is my situation. I refused the prenup in its current form. his parents cancelled our wedding. they are currently taking me to family court to take me off the childs custody papers claiming that the kid is his (true biologically). I was petitioning to adopt the child as I cant do that before birth, he is due to be born in the next 3 months and I don't know what to do. My lawyers are telling me we can fight this but is there a point? They have more money and we don't have anything in writing other than me petitioning to adopt the child that is his. I'm from Canada. Moved to NYC to live with my fiancé. I have a work visa and am a Canadian citizen.
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Disappear lady, just ghost that guy. e: may be a dude.
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extra row of teeth posted:To be fair 90% of the time, that's exactly what the OP should do. I honestly think this is an individual-counseling thing. The therapist basically needs to get him to draw a distinction between her and his ex and IANAT but I don't think she really needs to be there to go "yeah, that's right, I'm not her" to make that concept click
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I like these two posts together, like Galen's theory of opposites. One man hosed too much, one man fucks too little. Me [26 F] with my Husband [28M] 2 years (together 6): He's been with literally every woman we know. quote:tl;dr: My husband was a huge player, and his friends mostly started dating the girls he got with and left. I met him through my own friends, and even they had slept with him! Now, basically our entire friendship circle is made up of his ex-partners. Some of them were at our wedding, we're now going to their weddings. I want to throw up. Wrongly accused husband of infidelity. Turns out he was hiding his erectile dysfunction instead. FML. (36M 33F 12 years) quote:Pretty much what the title says. We've been together for 12 years and married for 8. I noticed that my husband's sex drive has been non-existent for the past few months, which was very bothersome considering we went from sex multiple times a week to no sex at all within a week. He also put a password on his phone and began guarding both his phone and his computer a lot more. He would be type and click furiously while the screen was pointed away from me but the second I'd walk up next to him, he'd switch to Netflix or something like that. I also noticed that he became much less physically affectionate with me. To me, everything pointed to infidelity. I've never been cheated on before (to my knowledge) so I could have been overparanoid but I don't think it was illogical to assume that something shady was going on behind my back?
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tater_salad posted:From legal advice but holy poo poo.... Don't get involved with rich people, they are all generally broke brained in some awful way.
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Dienes posted:Me [26 F] with my Husband [28M] 2 years (together 6): He's been with literally every woman we know. He has a "thing" for virgins? Gross leave him on that point alone. Also I think there's something to her insecure feeling that he'll leave if she stops measuring up looks- and sex-wise. It's impossible to tell from this information alone whether those insecurities are real but when it comes to men being shitheads I'll always err on the side of "yes he's a shithead" Dienes posted:Wrongly accused husband of infidelity. Turns out he was hiding his erectile dysfunction instead. FML. (36M 33F 12 years) What do? durrrrrr. Pretty drat obvious, apologize for jumping to conclusions. If he's not an rear end in a top hat he'll understand that his suspicious behavior is what caused this misunderstanding. He was the one trying to hide something from his partner and while that's understandable it's also reasonable to think his behavior might indicate something worse Or she could just because lol he dick don't work
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Dienes posted:I like these two posts together, like Galen's theory of opposites. One man hosed too much, one man fucks too little. So uh did she just find out about this or what? I'm unclear w/r/t the exact timing of the revelation here (lol at "he's doting on me more since I lost weight but that just makes me worry he's going to leave me for our married friends")
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Barudak posted:The call is coming from inside the house to the Nintendo Power Tip Line Oh god I called that too many times. gently caress Your Website posted:How many different ways are there to spell Goku anyway 孫 悟空
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My close friend (25F) confessed to me (30F) and threaten self harm if I am romantically involved with another guy.quote:Ok so one of my closest friend is in this sticky situation right now. I offered to help post her story in /r/Relationship as she does not reddit. Because I know /r/Relationships can offer her so much more than myself. Anyway for the sake of convenience, I will post from a first party perspective.
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Ew the amount of people in the thread about the wife giving a kid rides saying it's her fault for lying and making him even more paranoid, or that because of his abandonment issues that he is just setting reasonable boundaries to keep himself from getting hurt again is loving disgusting.
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Araenna posted:Ew the amount of people in the thread about the wife giving a kid rides saying it's her fault for lying and making him even more paranoid, or that because of his abandonment issues that he is just setting reasonable boundaries to keep himself from getting hurt again is loving disgusting. This one comment was super dumb: quote:As far as I can tell the only demand the dude made was that she stop giving Tim a ride. ‘Quit dropping off your financially struggling co-worker, think about your husband! How dare you cause him emotional distress!’ I’m wondering if the husband knows about Tim’s financial situation or if he’s ever met him? Nah, who am I kidding, he’d probably double-down even harder. One of my summer gigs in college, I’d drive the hostess home if we both worked dinner shift. Her parents were a little concerned because she was out a little later than she usually got home and kept getting out of a car. I went and introduced myself one time to prove yes, I’m a co-worker, she’s running a little later because she sticks around while I finish scrubbing down the kitchen equipment. I just thought it wasn’t safe for a fifteen year old to walk home alone at night.
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Ham Sandwiches posted:It's cool how the 31 year old dude is some cartoon mustache twirling villain using LOGIC and CONTROL and MANIPULATION and not some dude that got cheated on and it left him hosed up afterward Now this is the kind of trolling I like to see. Subtle, nuanced. Draws you in to a 2-3 post back and forth. Solid work Ham!
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My (23M) girlfriend (22F) claims she knows Edward Norton and is extremely upset. Wow, I can't believe I'm actually finally having to post here! Woohoo! I'll get straight to it: I have been with my girlfriend 'Jennifer' for a year. She is my best friend and we get on unbelievably well, and the relationship is healthier and happier than any either of us have had in our lives so far. She's so chilled out and funny, and I've never seen her angry or unreasonably upset. But the strangest thing happened last night that has left me really confused and I'm hoping to gain some insight/objectivity through this sub. It's going to sound really bizarre because, well, it is. But basically my best friend 'Fred' had some friends over at his house: me, our other best friend and his girlfriend, our friend and Jennifer. It's the usual group we hang out with, and my girlfriend gets on with my friends well. Basically, we were all sitting in the kitchen at the table drinking and smoking, and we get to the topic of actors. We're just talking about actors we like and dislike and laughing; it's light, harmless conversation. Then Fred starts talking about the actor Edward Norton, and says that he heard that he was a dick. Jennifer sits up straight and frowns intensely, then starts angrily interrogating Fred, saying "you don't even know him? I just don't understand why you would make such a stupid assumption like that about someone you don't even loving know?" to which Fred laughs uncomfortably. All of us were holding our breath sort of waiting for her to break 'character' and say she was just joking around, but she looks seriously fuming. Our other friend changes the subject to something else in an attempt to break the tension, and Jennifer storms out. I follow her out and she's putting her jacket on, her eyes filled with tears. I ask her what the hell is going on and she looks at me and says–and this is verbatim (etched in my mind forever)–"maybe consider that Edward Norton is closer to you than you think". She told me to leave her alone and went home. We live in New Zealand. Which is a bit far from Los Angeles. She has no connections to LA or anywhere outside NZ to my knowledge. I don't understand how she could possibly know Edward Norton. I know objectively it looks like she's absolutely insane, but she has shown no signs of irrational thinking and no odd behaviour for the whole time I've known her. I've met her friends and family and know a lot about her past, and this is extremely out of character. Since last night I've tried to text and call her; I texted her straight up saying "how the hell do you know Edward Norton?" and she replied with "lol", but nothing since then. I'm friends with her brother and called him to ask about it, and he was seriously confused as well and frankly sounded kind of disturbed. Can anybody hazard a guess as to what is going on? What can I do? She's completely shutting me out and I don't know what's going on. tl;dr Girlfriend of one year freaked out about my friend making a comment about Edward Norton and is ignoring me after claiming to know him
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