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okay I said I'd drop it and I'll eat a probe if I gotta but this is too good to not post Interested to hear male perspectives re: nudes quote:Hi reddit, throwaway because husband knows I (25F) have reddit. I'm curious to hear people's perspectives, mainly mens, about an issue/question I have. Honest answers are appreciated.
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My [15 F] mom [37 F] is mad because I burned my journal and paintings after I caught her snooping.quote:My mom always snooped in my stuff, reading notes my friends wrote me in school if I brought them home and stuff like that. And she looks through my trash for drawings and paintings I make but don't like enough to keep, because she wants them. She also looks in my art portfolio all the time even though I tell her that's private. Recently I thought my mom might be reading my journal. So to check, I tied a long hair around it and saw that the next week the hair was broken.
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Jun 26, 2018 22:35
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:okay I said I'd drop it and I'll eat a probe if I gotta but this is too good to not post she should probably be taking to her husband about her feelings on this instead of the internet just imo
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Jun 26, 2018 22:37
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Milotic posted:I’m thinking prison or indefinite detention sounds good? Hmm...his behavior changed in a setting where he was held accountable and then he relapsed when back in an environment where he wasn't held accountable. I wonder what the trick is......
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Jun 26, 2018 22:38
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Brother Entropy posted:she should probably be taking to her husband about her feelings on this instead of the internet "No, I'm definitely not carrying around a grudge about my husband's porn habits, why do you ask?" Though, there's an equivalent Goofus and Gallant strip for this kind of husband where Goofus leaves evidence that he's been looking at pornographic photos all over the place, while Gallant just uses Incognito Mode like a conscientious partner
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Jun 26, 2018 22:41
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I’m not a porn addict says daily porn user who is mad if he cannae jerk ‘twa
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Jun 26, 2018 22:43
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Day one of sex ed should be handing everyone a slip of paper that says "CTRL-SHIFT-N" so they can go about their business without giving their parents and eventual live-in partners massive brain problems
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Jun 26, 2018 22:47
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Haifisch posted:My [15 F] mom [37 F] is mad because I burned my journal and paintings after I caught her snooping. Definitely overboard but I can understand the desire to hide (or be rid of) things that are private when people keep snooping. I'd have just burned the diary/journal and kept the art for school and portfolios, what a waste to get rid of all that material.
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Jun 26, 2018 22:47
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If I was the admissions person I'd giver her a spot in the art program FOR burning her artwork. All things are impermanent.
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Jun 26, 2018 23:07
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"I am personally threatened by my wife's obsession with romance novels, which is why I no longer see the point in taking her out on my pirate ship and bending her over the steering wheel"
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Jun 26, 2018 23:11
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Jun 26, 2018 23:12
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cyoa but I think wheel is sexier
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Jun 26, 2018 23:12
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It's called a tiller you jackanapes.
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Jun 26, 2018 23:18
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:okay I said I'd drop it and I'll eat a probe if I gotta but this is too good to not post
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Jun 26, 2018 23:21
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:This is strange to me, like she obviously has made the conflation that you're worried about, but the husband is disappointed and wants pictures. I enjoy naked pictures of someone I'm with because I like them and I like knowing they're thinking of me in a sexy way, it's not driven by scarcity of pictures of naked women that's being temporarily relieved by you. Not empty quoting. This right here.
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Squashing Machine posted:"I am personally threatened by my wife's obsession with romance novels, which is why I no longer see the point in taking her out on my pirate ship and bending her over the steering wheel" The bodices shall remain unripped!
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Jun 26, 2018 23:39
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:Interested to hear male perspectives re: nudes I guess one thing I'd ask is why it's her responsibility to keep her partner horny constantly. Being sexy during sex is enough for me, personally and it sounds drat tiring trying to be sexy every moment of every day. Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:This is strange to me, like she obviously has made the conflation that you're worried about, but the husband is disappointed and wants pictures. I enjoy naked pictures of someone I'm with because I like them and I like knowing they're thinking of me in a sexy way, it's not driven by scarcity of pictures of naked women that's being temporarily relieved by you. I think this is totally reasonable, but it's also reasonable to think about how those pictures will be used later when maybe you don't really want that person thinking of you sexually. Basically, in that moment it makes perfect sense but due to the permanency of digital images it's kind of inadvisable in a lot of situations. Besides, in this case she is obviously using the availability of pictures on the internet as an excuse because she's not really comfortable sending nudes, which is fine. It's also fine for her partner to ask about doing it as long as he's not applying pressure. Someone post something else
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Jun 26, 2018 23:47
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Haifisch posted:My [15 F] mom [37 F] is mad because I burned my journal and paintings after I caught her snooping. This is sad but girl have you heard of boxes with locks on them??
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Jeza posted:This is sad but girl have you heard of boxes with locks on them?? Not really gonna do much except get the mom mad at her even more. This is some narcissistic level of snooping.
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Haifisch posted:My [15 F] mom [37 F] is mad because I burned my journal and paintings after I caught her snooping. quote:And she was even madder about my art portfolio because I was going to use it to submit pieces to competitions and also apply for a summer program. And maybe even use it for college. Just hide the stuff. Don't pick the most destructive possible option.
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Jun 27, 2018 00:10
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Jeza posted:It's an established sociological 'fact' that modern generations are lonelier than previous ones, and not particularly controversial to link that to technology and its effect on romantic/platonic relationships. So I don't see the need for concern trolling or making out like it's projection. It's actually because of neoliberal fracturing of communities, but don't let that stop the Liberal boomer train from training on.
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Jun 27, 2018 00:11
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Wow amazing we know these as facts and it’s only 1 thing!
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My (21F) boyfriend (21M) wants me to get closer to God and I don't think I canquote:This is really me asking about people in relationships with someone of a different faith. I consider myself Agnostic kind of. I go through moments when I believe God is real, and sometimes when I look at the world I can't see this at all. I do think there has to be some higher power, and because I was raised in church and stuff I do pray sometimes, mostly just because I feel like I should just in case.
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Play posted:I guess one thing I'd ask is why it's her responsibility to keep her partner horny constantly. Being sexy during sex is enough for me, personally and it sounds drat tiring trying to be sexy every moment of every day. There are two problems with this thinking: 1) There's no particular reason to think he wants pics to "be kept horny constantly". As I've said, personally this isn't really my scene, but we have testimony from multiple people ITT that the point isn't to see a boobie and get a boner. It's also possible and probably more likely that he saw this tradition they had as a fun little secret between the two of them and is worried that their relationship has deteriorated in some way such that she no longer feels like she wants to do it for him. 2) Any time your partner asks you to do something, especially something you used to do frequently but have stopped for reasons that have gone undiscussed, do you ask why doing the thing in question is "your responsibility," because that seems like a great way to get into a lot of unnecessary fights over basically everything
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Kuros posted:Not really gonna do much except get the mom mad at her even more. This is some narcissistic level of snooping. I dunno. Mom got mad anyway but wouldn't admit to snooping when pressed. Better she get mad at a locked box and you get to keep your stuff but whatever, it's her stuff to burn and she's the best judge of whether it matters for poo poo or not.
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Jun 27, 2018 00:23
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if his wife's pix are just soooooooo sexy, what's the porno for
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:if his wife's pix are just soooooooo sexy, what's the porno for Wife ain't got a dick?
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Jun 27, 2018 00:25
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variety
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:if his wife's pix are just soooooooo sexy, what's the porno for Masturbating, is my guess
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Haifisch posted:My (21F) boyfriend (21M) wants me to get closer to God and I don't think I can Tell him to go gently caress himself and throw up the horns. Hail Satan.
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The man has cheated in his heart. He has set the Snapchat whores on the seven seats of High Hrothgar and cast me down. Never again will he see the cleave of my rear end reflected in an Arby's bathroom mirror in all 12 glorious megapixels
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Haifisch posted:My [15 F] mom [37 F] is mad because I burned my journal and paintings after I caught her snooping. Throw in eavesdropping on phone calls, spying when possible, and finding the stash of unused lunch money I kept in a small box under my bed and immediately jumping to the conclusion that I was prostituting myself, and that was my early teenage years. Impossible to hide from someone that determined when you are at school many hours per day. A lock would most likely just get you screamed at or circumvented. Really the only option is to destroy it. I feel for her. BTW, thanks thread, reading the stories and various derails here has helped me to recognize red flags, grow a backbone, and have healthier relationships in real life. And uh, thanks cautionary trainwrecks of Reddit.
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Haifisch posted:My (21F) boyfriend (21M) wants me to get closer to God and I don't think I can Hot take: these 21-year-olds are not compatible and they should probably get around to figuring that out before getting into a long-distance scenario
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Jun 27, 2018 00:33
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loquacius posted:Hot take: these 21-year-olds are not compatible and they should probably get around to figuring that out before getting into a long-distance scenario religion is a protected class so relationship court may assess a penalty
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Jeza posted:I dunno. Mom got mad anyway but wouldn't admit to snooping when pressed. Better she get mad at a locked box and you get to keep your stuff but whatever, it's her stuff to burn and she's the best judge of whether it matters for poo poo or not. Mom would break the lock most likely.
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Caganer posted:religion is a protected class so relationship court may assess a penalty yeah the mentally disabled can't consent e: meant this one guy. DEMON SCRATCHES? oh my HECK DragQueenofAngmar fucked around with this message at 00:50 on Jun 27, 2018 |
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Jeza posted:This is sad but girl have you heard of boxes with locks on them?? smdh at the fully grown adult who can't get into the kind of lockbox a teenager could buy given unlimited access to it Kid's screwed but at least she's mining that vein for some sweet sweet teenage melodrama, she's gonna have the time of her teens writing mopey poetry about how parents... just don't understand
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Haifisch posted:My (21F) boyfriend (21M) wants me to get closer to God and I don't think I can that's super crazy though because Bible doesn't say poo poo about any of that.
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It was certainly a self destructive path to take but if she forever established with her mom that she's serious about the boundaries she sets, well, that's something some people never learn if this thread is anything to go by.
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