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Ghost Leviathan posted:Is this why all the 'entry-level' jobs ask for 5 years experience? Nah, that’s just a trick to make people accept lower pay than they’re worth.
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Jul 3, 2018 13:50
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quote:But I also can’t help but look at him going to work sometimes and thinking I did everything “right”, he did everything “wrong”, why does he still get to win?!? Because he cheated. 
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Jul 3, 2018 13:54
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Milotic posted:I [24F] work my butt off to achieve what I want in life and feel like I’m coming up short. My husband [27M] seems to get through life with nothing but luck and a good poker face and it is making me bitter and jealous and I hate it. Have you tried being a white male? Many people find it helps.
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Brother Entropy posted:actually this dovetails nicely with the whole 'people in medical fields are attracted to broken messes' bit that's come up earlier if she is a nurse; she's mad that he's not the helpless idiot she spent years of their relationship assuming he was nah, he sounds he IS incompetent but is confident enough to be good at hiding it. He may or may not continue to get away with it, plenty do. She needs to decide if she's happy being with someone who is willing to gently caress everyone else over for their own benefit, which is more or less what he's doing by being an incompetent manager/person with authority over a bunch of hapless minions who probably hate him
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Fatkraken posted:nah, he sounds he IS incompetent but is confident enough to be good at hiding it. He may or may not continue to get away with it, plenty do. She needs to decide if she's happy being with someone who is willing to gently caress everyone else over for their own benefit, which is more or less what he's doing by being an incompetent manager/person with authority over a bunch of hapless minions who probably hate him you are reading a lot into this story
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Milotic posted:I [24F] work my butt off to achieve what I want in life and feel like I’m coming up short. My husband [27M] seems to get through life with nothing but luck and a good poker face and it is making me bitter and jealous and I hate it. Save for some details this could be about me  That poor guys has a rough married life ahead of him, that resentment doesn’t go away easily.
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Jul 3, 2018 14:02
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Project a little harder, fatkraken, I think there's people at the back of the room who still can't see it
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Jul 3, 2018 14:09
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Maybe she just can't comprehend that for most people, life is not a carefully orchestrated plan that must be written out in advance with diagrams. To be honest the story has the whiff of bullshit to me anyway because of the way she denigrates him throughout as if he's literally Forrest Gump in a way that is difficult to credit. Did he actually join the military because Humvees are cool or was that a joke and she's a humourless automaton? Did he really go to job fairs for the "free food", or was that just a joke and he was, you know, going to job fairs to look for a job maybe??
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Fatkraken posted:nah, he sounds he IS incompetent but is confident enough to be good at hiding it. He may or may not continue to get away with it, plenty do. She needs to decide if she's happy being with someone who is willing to gently caress everyone else over for their own benefit, which is more or less what he's doing by being an incompetent manager/person with authority over a bunch of hapless minions who probably hate him who hurt you
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Jul 3, 2018 14:19
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I think you get tax breaks for hiring veterans so there's that, too. Or maybe the guy trying to fill the position was in the army, too. Reminds me of the OP who was losing her mind about how fake her husband was after he demonstrated the ability to socialize with strangers and excel at his job.
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Jul 3, 2018 14:20
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Milotic posted:I love ones like these: I know people like this and they all got sold down the river by their parents/society into the "6+ years at uni + 5+ years extreme hard work = lifetime of easy street" and it loving blows because that's not at all how it works out unless you become a surgeon then people wonder why young folks are taking massive breaks or simply not going to university like buhhhh where's our workforce going whaaat
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Jul 3, 2018 14:23
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TheScott2K posted:As a mediocre STEMlord, thank loving God for interpersonal skills being so much more important than remembering how to do eigenvalues and poo poo.  from your lips to Gods ears
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Jul 3, 2018 14:24
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Billy can pass the Professional Engineer's exam with his eyes closed and can recite the wall thicknesses of both Schedule 80 and Schedule 40 pipe. Joey knows what the Hose Parts Guy's favorite baseball team is. Joey > Billy
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Jul 3, 2018 14:27
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Milotic posted:I love ones like these: quote:I braced myself for the inevitable crash and burn. It never happened. He did everything wrong and he got promoted!! I asked him a couple months in how he was possibly getting by at work, and he told me he just kinda pretends he knows what he is talking about. He. Got. Promoted. 
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Jul 3, 2018 14:30
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Help! My husband has made us financially secure and he doesn't seem to have any delusions about his own excellence!
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Jul 3, 2018 14:31
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TheScott2K posted:Billy can pass the Professional Engineer's exam with his eyes closed and can recite the wall thicknesses of both Schedule 80 and Schedule 40 pipe. Joey knows what the Hose Parts Guy's favorite baseball team is. Hose Parts Guy probably asked, at one point in the interview, if they liked baseball and Joey picked up on subtle context clues like the framed Derek Jeter jersey on the wall, the baseball signed by ARod in a case on the desk next to the baseball cards and said 'I love baseball! Think the Yankees are going to win a pennant this year?' Billy probably said 'baseball is for children' Billy is right, but being right doesn't pay the bills.
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Jul 3, 2018 14:35
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This one is just goofy. Is it racist if I[20F white] post a picture of me posing with a gorilla statue? quote:Using a throwaway for so many reasons.
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Jul 3, 2018 14:43
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Does anyone have a link/the text of the story where the woman dressed like a technicolor version of the old man from the Six Flags commercials, and her boyfriend was mad about it? I've been wanting to read that one again, definitely one of the all-time classics from this thread.
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Jul 3, 2018 14:44
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The Lone Badger posted:Have you tried being a white male? Many people find it helps. Yes, and it is completely true that social skills matter most to career success. Admittedly, I do really hate people who lie about their competencies, But at the end of the day I would rather work with someone who is not quite as competent and it was a pleasure to be around then someone who is competent and loving pisses me off all day
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Jul 3, 2018 14:47
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Double post, but what in the gently caress is this?! Girl [18F] I helped 2 years ago had her reasons to not be grateful to me [37M], and is now regretful quote:I'll voluntarily stay vague on some elements for anonymity purposes. E: Since it seems hard to parse, the story is a 35 y/o man reported/helped a 16 year old girl that was the victim of some sort of abuse. While talking to the police, the 35 y/o's two girlfriends showed up, and they were 16 y/o and 18 y/o, same age as the victim. The perpetrators were the same age as the OP, so the victim freaked out upon seeing that dynamic and called him a monster. LadyPictureShow fucked around with this message at 16:32 on Jul 3, 2018 |
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abigserve posted:I know people like this and they all got sold down the river by their parents/society into the "6+ years at uni + 5+ years extreme hard work = lifetime of easy street" and it loving blows because that's not at all how it works out unless you become a surgeon Also extremely true, so I totally understand their grief because they could have been having a happier time the whole time and focused on the actual skills that mattered and they got sidetracked by people who simply want to employ and exploit them. bububububbu owned
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Brother Entropy posted:actually this dovetails nicely with the whole 'people in medical fields are attracted to broken messes' bit that's come up earlier if she is a nurse; she's mad that he's not the helpless idiot she spent years of their relationship assuming he was The fact that the one sentence where she seemed to actually like him was the one where she called him an idiot has me thinking this was probably it, yeah She signed up to be the smart competent one goddammit, and being outperformed is making her insecure
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loquacius posted:The fact that the one sentence where she seemed to actually like him was the one where she called him an idiot has me thinking this was probably it, yeah She's learning everything she was ever taught about success was a lie. welp 
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Milotic posted:I love ones like these: Is her name Diane and is she married to a Labrador?
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LadyPictureShow posted:Double post, but what in the gently caress is this?! I guess it takes a pedophile to catch a pedophile. Ick.
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JfishPirate posted:Does anyone have a link/the text of the story where the woman dressed like a technicolor version of the old man from the Six Flags commercials, and her boyfriend was mad about it? I've been wanting to read that one again, definitely one of the all-time classics from this thread. I don't have a link, but if it's the same one I am remembering the BF wasn't made about it. She dressed like a clown for years until one day she asked his opinion on her style and he said something like "I don't care for it, but you do you" and she got mad that he doesn't support her 100%.
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Malachite_Dragon posted:Project a little harder, fatkraken, I think there's people at the back of the room who still can't see it eh, I was just taking her word that he really did lie a TON on his resume and is actually loving up at his job, she does seem to be massively invested in the idea of him as a failure and that is a terrible relationship dynamic. She definitely likes him helpless and child like and finds it threatening when he does well, but whether other aspects of her frustration are because he's genuinely cheating and lying or because she just has a chip on her shoulder is impossible to discern with only her word to go on.
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That wife's mouth is puckered from the sour grapes. She was invested in the idea that she was the smart and responsible one in their relationship, and then he had to go and make triple her income. This is going to bother her until they divorce, and she meets some burnout that she can lord over.
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Fatkraken posted:eh, I was just taking her word that he really did lie a TON on his resume and is actually loving up at his job, she does seem to be massively invested in the idea of him as a failure and that is a terrible relationship dynamic. She definitely likes him helpless and child like and finds it threatening when he does well, but whether other aspects of her frustration are because he's genuinely cheating and lying or because she just has a chip on her shoulder is impossible to discern with only her word to go on. Never ever trust the OP of a relationships post.
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LadyPictureShow posted:Double post, but what in the gently caress is this?! No reactions to this one? Felt like the paedo with a heart of gold was surefire threadbait. I guess the writing is p hard to parse.
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Fatkraken posted:because he's genuinely cheating and lying or because she just has a chip on her shoulder is impossible to discern with only her word to go on. A STEMlord told me that I was “cheating” because I told him to get in the habit of writing down, on the back of their business card, how he met someone (professionally) and 2-3 things he noticed/remembered about their conversation. Setting aside that it’s a good way to train yourself to actually listen and care about what people have to say, it’s apparently a great apostasy to teach yourself to do this. Charlie will always land sunny side up.
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Jeza posted:No reactions to this one? Felt like the paedo with a heart of gold was surefire threadbait. I guess the writing is p hard to parse. He's immature though, so that means it's not weird he's dating children.
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Milotic posted:I [24F] work my butt off to achieve what I want in life and feel like I’m coming up short. My husband [27M] seems to get through life with nothing but luck and a good poker face and it is making me bitter and jealous and I hate it. Holy poo poo it's like Frank Grimes and Homer Simpson got married
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blugu64 posted:A STEMlord told me that I was “cheating” because I told him to get in the habit of writing down, on the back of their business card, how he met someone (professionally) and 2-3 things he noticed/remembered about their conversation. I love it when my co-workers complain about how promotions are all about "politics." Like, congratulations, you cracked the code! You figured it out! Gonna start being someone people like? Generally the answer is "no, I'm going to keep being an unpleasant poo poo who thinks he's House MD whose genius justifies all of my bullshit"
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blugu64 posted:A STEMlord told me that I was “cheating” because I told him to get in the habit of writing down, on the back of their business card, how he met someone (professionally) and 2-3 things he noticed/remembered about their conversation. This is how I'm picturing Charlie, but even more personable: https://youtu.be/AFDU_R6ShmI
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r/relationships: I don't know if gorillas in general are currently off limits
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LadyPictureShow posted:Double post, but what in the gently caress is this?! Try as I might, this is a situation where I just cannot wrap my head around WTF
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salesmen are annoying as gently caress, let's not pretend they're cool
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Drive-Thru Salad Bar posted:Holy poo poo it's like Frank Grimes and Homer Simpson got married Has no one said Just World Fallacy yet?
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