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Does it have to be an actual waltz, or do you just mean a formal dance? Or are you only looking for songs with the right meter for a true waltz?
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Just anything that's slow, romantic and danceable.
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Jul 9, 2018 18:28
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Maybe just gently remind brides of the divorce rate in order to lower their expectations...?
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Jul 9, 2018 18:54
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I've done more wedding planning at work today than actual work. I fought with 2 vendors, my parents, and the tux company. I also made some minor changes to the seating chart but the Maitre D' is the most easy going person on the planet and he made this entire experience so much easier. 4 days left and counting. I should've taken this whole week off instead of just two days.
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Jul 10, 2018 19:53
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I want to make some changes to my contract with the florist. Our wedding is January 2019. Did I gently caress up?
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Jul 12, 2018 00:50
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Shnooks posted:I want to make some changes to my contract with the florist. Our wedding is January 2019. Did I gently caress up? Really depends what the changes are. But you’re probably fine.
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Jul 12, 2018 01:45
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Invalid Octopus posted:Really depends what the changes are. But you’re probably fine. We're adding more tables and in return getting rid of one or two things
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Jul 12, 2018 02:13
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I would be surprised if the florist was unwilling to accommodate those changes, especially this far out.
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Jul 12, 2018 06:20
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I think the main point of the contract is to let them know volume of business for that season and intent to order. They might not let you cancel outright, but should let you redo anything up until maybe 90 days out. They would be crazy to burn the bridge over a change. Likely they haven't even planted the flowers you've ordered yet. Most plants take 60-80 days to flower from seed, give or take.
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Jul 13, 2018 02:20
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Chernabog posted:Now, on to my question. In my country it is customary to hold a waltz for the bride and groom, then for the bride and her father, one for the groom and his mother and finally one for everyone at the party. I already have a song for me and the bride but I need to pick one for my mom and I and one for everyone. Can anybody recommend some songs? I want something classic-ish but not cliche (neither something too modern nor something like "Fly me to the moon"). "Come Away With Me" by Norah Jones is the one I play if people request it. Looks like you have some picked out, but in case you want to shift around your choices, this is a total daddy/daughter waltz: "I Loved Her First" by Heartland Hope this helps? I don't have my music in front of me but those both come to mind.
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Jul 16, 2018 19:25
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We picked "This guy's in love with you" for us and she picked a song for her. She suggested some Celine Dion song I can't remember for everyone. That only leaves the one for me so I'll check out your suggestion. Thanks.
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Jul 16, 2018 20:21
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Chernabog posted:We picked "This guy's in love with you" for us and she picked a song for her. She suggested some Celine Dion song I can't remember for everyone. That only leaves the one for me so I'll check out your suggestion. Of course. If you need solid hip hop recommendations that’s more in my wheelhouse.
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Jul 16, 2018 20:44
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Shnooks posted:We're adding more tables and in return getting rid of one or two things You’re fine. Check your contract to make sure nothing lovely will happen but I would be shocked if they didn’t accommodate changes that common this far out.
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Jul 17, 2018 04:23
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Some of our slow songs were Somewhere Over the Rainbow by Israel Kamakawiwoʻole, All Is Full of Love by Björk, and I Dig Love by George Harrison. We had some pretty weird music though.
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Jul 17, 2018 10:16
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Final song of the night was “Last Call” by Ol’ Dirty Bastard
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Jul 18, 2018 18:26
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19 o'clock posted:Of course. Sure, have at it. For the last song I'm leaning towards Summertime by Morcheeba but maybe it is too slow.
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Jul 18, 2018 18:45
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I'm getting married in a non-traditional venue (a brewery - having the whole day there) and I am struggling to know how the day moves from a to b and so on. I figure that you employ a reliable friend to usher people outside for photos or whilst the chairs are switched around, but what about stuff like putting out a dessert table? I've only been to a few weddings and they've all been super bog-standard and traditional so venue staff have done all of that stuff that usually just appears and I'm not sure where to start. I'm also not sure what the timeline should look like - we have the venue for 1.5 days and will have someone coming in the morning to dress it then back the next day to take everything down. I've seen a few different timelines but they seem to vary quite a lot. I was thinking 2pm arrivals for a 3pm ceremony, food around 5pm until 6ish, then... socialising/dancing and intermittent speeches/toasts from then until end of play around 11:30pm. But I also want to do a couple of brewery tours of what I assume will be 30ish people. What would your ideal day look like using these vague times as a guide? I'm part of a friendship group that isn't really into marriage on the whole so I don't have many people to bounce this sort of thing off. Any input greatly appreciated!
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Jul 18, 2018 18:53
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A practical wedding, which is one of my favorite wedding related blogs because it's low on bullshit, recently posted a list of example timelines that you might find useful as a starting point. As far as fitting tours in, I suspect you can do that whenever you want, just think about the mood you want people to be in for that / how many drinks in you want people to be. I'd probably do it during a longer-than-usual cocktail hour because it would be easy to send groups off during a super casual part of the day without anyone feeling like they might be missing something.
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Jul 18, 2018 19:57
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Bollock Monkey posted:I'm getting married in a non-traditional venue (a brewery - having the whole day there) and I am struggling to know how the day moves from a to b and so on. I figure that you employ a reliable friend to usher people outside for photos or whilst the chairs are switched around, but what about stuff like putting out a dessert table? I've only been to a few weddings and they've all been super bog-standard and traditional so venue staff have done all of that stuff that usually just appears and I'm not sure where to start. Is there anyone at the brewery you could talk to about this? I'm getting married in 10 days!!! I spent the whole morning dealing with bullshit and I am so excited for the bullshit to be over and the good poo poo to start! Today the wedding coordinator told me she ordered 20 extra chairs and "she'd see if she could change it". We're charged by the chair and my florist has been paid to do a certain number of rows, plus I don't want a bunch of empty seats at the ceremony, so had to be a little "hell no" about that one. We had one cousin un-RSVP, then re-RSVP under the condition of bringing her dog, and then found a dog sitter and was able to unconditionally re-RSVP. I heard about this all fifth-hand over the course of like an hour. And apparently our officiant needs a little more direction than anticipated in terms of the ceremony script so I have that to work on. And I have seven letters to write to the women in the bridal party and the one guy from my side. But hey, nearly there!
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Jul 18, 2018 21:23
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Also I am really liking the Knot's wedding timeline planner: https://www.theknot.com/wedding-timeline. It tells you what things you should know and you put in the times and it organizes it for you.
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Jul 18, 2018 22:04
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Was at a wedding this weekend, the officiant spoke the bride's name incorrectly the whole time, and it was extremely painful. Her name is not a weird name, her name is Christina and the officiant kept saying Christine That poo poo better not happen at my wedding or there will be death. MF_James fucked around with this message at 22:10 on Jul 18, 2018 |
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Jul 18, 2018 22:08
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Newbie question (I'm engaged and not terribly far into planning), how do most (non-religious) people pick their officiants? Correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems like you're obligated to get the official marriage license from a judge in a court house, and then the person doing the talking at your wedding can be anyone you like. E: also it's really easy to become ordained as a priest online, maybe all the people whose weddings are officiated by friends have had those friends get ordained?
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Jul 18, 2018 23:17
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legendof posted:Newbie question (I'm engaged and not terribly far into planning), how do most (non-religious) people pick their officiants? Correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems like you're obligated to get the official marriage license from a judge in a court house, and then the person doing the talking at your wedding can be anyone you like. Yes, my one friend got ordained and officiated like 3 other people's weddings, I was going to have my oldest brother officiate our wedding, but he can't make it 
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Jul 18, 2018 23:33
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We’re going with a judge that my fiancé used to work with. If that wasn’t the case, I’d go with a Unitarian, since there aren’t really any belief requirements there. Lots of people go with friends these days, and some states apparently allow a self-unifying ceremony?
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Jul 19, 2018 01:15
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legendof posted:Newbie question (I'm engaged and not terribly far into planning), how do most (non-religious) people pick their officiants? Correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems like you're obligated to get the official marriage license from a judge in a court house, and then the person doing the talking at your wedding can be anyone you like. Basically this, although the marriage license may come from your county clerk instead of a judge. Depends on where you are. Then you, your officiant, and your witnesses sign it and send it off for the actual certificate in most places.
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Jul 19, 2018 09:12
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Chernabog posted:Sure, have at it. Really for weddings I play lots of 90’s/00’s popular hip hop like Biggie, Ja Rule, Fat Joe, etc. The past few weeks I’ve had some aggressive weddings that wanted explicit Cardi B tracks which was a bit awkward, but it was after 10:30 so I figured with the bride’s blessing it’s all good. The J Rabbit remix of Tequila gets a good response for the switheroo factor. Similar to the Teddybears remix of Stayin Alive. Pretty cross-generational but up to date.
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Jul 21, 2018 04:45
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 I forgot to put a space for names for people who decline. Ughhh...
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Jul 21, 2018 20:14
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Did you number the RSVPs?
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Jul 21, 2018 20:19
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silvergoose posted:Did you number the RSVPs? No because I’m a moron
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Jul 21, 2018 21:07
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Looks like it’s all positive confirmation on this one. If things are looking slim send out an email/text/call those who you can’t account for and fill it out that way.
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Jul 21, 2018 21:38
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:No because I’m a moron  sorry hopefully everyone else puts names down so you don't have to chase anyone down?
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Jul 21, 2018 23:20
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silvergoose posted:
Hopefully! I knew I would mess up something hahaha
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Jul 22, 2018 00:10
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:Hopefully! I knew I would mess up something hahaha Literally everyone messes *something* up with this damned mess.
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Jul 22, 2018 01:34
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Just make it a goon meet if you have extra space.
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Jul 22, 2018 04:09
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19 o'clock posted:Just make it a goon meet if you have extra space. Perfect! :chefkiss:
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Jul 22, 2018 12:37
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Engagement ring question: I'm shopping around right now and checked a few chain stores in the local mall. Looked at Michael Hill (gf loves a particular ring style from there, but diamond selection was poor), People's (cheapish - could not believe there was a Disney-branded selection of engagement rings) as well as De Beers and Tiffany's. De Beers and Tiffany's definitely had the best shopping experience, but the rings were way on the pricier side. I looked online at James Allen and found similar settings with diamonds twice the size for a real similar cost. Which leads me to the following questions: 1. Anyone have experience shopping online with the likes of James Allen? Loved the ability to really get a diamond fitting my budget and selection criteria 2. The mark-up at Tiffany's - is it purely brand image? Or is there something else I'm missing quality-wise? 3. Does the brand make much of a difference? The gf is fairly good with money, and I believe would be happier with me putting the difference towards a down-payment on a house (as well as freeing up money for the proposal - trying to book a catamaran in the Mediterranean for our upcoming vacation). But if there's one area I don't want to appear cheap it's while asking her hand in marriage, and if every girl dreams of a Tiffany proposal then I'd re-evaluate things
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Jul 23, 2018 20:30
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19 o'clock posted:Really for weddings I play lots of 90’s/00’s popular hip hop like Biggie, Ja Rule, Fat Joe, etc. The past few weeks I’ve had some aggressive weddings that wanted explicit Cardi B tracks which was a bit awkward, but it was after 10:30 so I figured with the bride’s blessing it’s all good. TY, I'll check those out. I've got another question. Does anybody know of a cheap electronic invitation service? Something where people can RSVP online and I can see who has confirmed. I'm making a few printed invitations for the close relatives and non-tech minded people but I want something more convenient for the rest of the guests.
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Jul 23, 2018 21:13
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Chernabog posted:TY, I'll check those out. Do you not have an account at the knot yet? It's got everything you need and everything you didn't know you needed.
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Jul 23, 2018 21:51
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Cart posted:2. The mark-up at Tiffany's - is it purely brand image? Yes quote:3. Does the brand make much of a difference? The gf is fairly good with money, and I believe would be happier with me putting the difference towards a down-payment on a house You know your GF better than we do. If that's what you think, you're probably right. Personally, I went with a local jeweler, picked out something that looked like my GF would like, it turned out to be well under the budget I had in mind, so I bought it. She liked it. But again, you know your GF, we don't. What do you think she wants? Have you talked with her about it? Not saying to get the cheapest ring on the market, she's going to have to wear it, so it should be something she likes, but it's also not something either of you will think about much after the engagement.
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I went ring shopping with the lady to the local jewellery exchange and let her pick out her own ring. It's not super romantic but at least we knew she'd love the one piece of jewelry that she'll have to wear for the rest of her life.
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