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HazCat posted:My favourite thing about the college story is that dad could have just hired him to the family business for a couple of years and then afforded to send him to the mythical family university and everything could have been fine (objectively better, even, since the son would have had time to mourn his mum's death). I took a long break because of, among other things, good ol' depression. When I finally did go back, it was fun because usually the professor and I would be the only married people in the room. So I got to listen to a whole lot of silliness from the little kids. M<y dad was all about Notre Dame. He had shirts, hats, even a commemorative toilet seat from when they were national champions in the 70s. We buried him with a Notre Dame tracksuit.(He wasn't wearing it; it was just with him.) He never went to Notre Dame. He graduated from Rensselaer .
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Play posted:Seriously I know it's popular to bag on America but in this case WHAT THE gently caress IS GOOD ABOUT SENDING A STRAIGHT UP DICK SHOT OF YOUR SON TO SOMEONE YOU JUST MET? but you see it's of the utmost importance that complete strangers be 100% fine with seeing naked child pictures and if you're not then you're just a repressed Puritan. Because you don't like seeing naked child pictures. It makes you a Puritan if you don't like seeing naked child pictures. That's the argument. 
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My [20M] dad [53M] gets mad at me for not going outside, but there's nothing to do outside.Non-Romantic (self.relationships)quote:I'm a 20 year old male. I don't go out much. I like to sit on the couch on my laptop. My dad doesn't like that I sit in the house all day, and has always given me a hard time about it. He tells me, "Go out and get some fresh air. Go out and get some sun." He tells me, "Go sit on the porch." I tried sitting on the porch, but that's boring. Also there are a lot of bugs that fly around on our porch, and I don't like that. I tried going out for a walk in my neighborhood, but I don't think that's much fun. I recently learned how to ride a bike. I wouldn't mind going bike riding, but there's no bike trail or park near me. 
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Caganer posted:My [20M] dad [53M] gets mad at me for not going outside, but there's nothing to do outside.Non-Romantic (self.relationships) This guy is a hoot. quote:I'm currently not employed. I was going to school, but I'm thinking about taking some time off to find my passion quote:I live at home full-time. quote:What are your plans for when your father inevitably kicks you out of the house?
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Future eviction right there unless they intervene. Dad needs to cancel internet service. Dude needs to get a job and meet some girls.
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My (35, M) wife (33, F) has come out as asexual and wants me to accept her for "who she is"...not sure if that's the real issue. I have been married for 10 years. Fantastic marriage, but the last year or so things have gotten bad. We have twin 12 month olds and a 3 year old, so very demanding. She was feeling overwhelmed after the twins, so when they were 2 months old we hired a mother’s helper to come for 4 or 5 hours a day. She essentially takes over while my wife “practices self-care.” (Her words) This involves the gym, manicures, massages, shopping, or just laying out by the pool. When I come home, I’m expected to do everything with the kids because she’s “with them all day.” She started becoming very distant around this time. A few months ago, she decided her body was crushing her self-esteem. She got a $15k “mommy makeover” that included a boob job, tummy tuck, and some lipo. The recovery was pretty intense so her mother came and stayed with us for 6 weeks after that. I was hoping this would help her with the way she feels and our relationship, because she never wants to have sex. I have tried to be understanding. Now, a couple weeks ago, she tells me she’s asexual and doesn’t experience sexual attraction. In our 10 years of marriage that has never even crossed my mind. She has always had a healthy sex drive. Seems like a difficult act to keep up for 10 plus years. I asked her if she wants to go to counseling, if she thinks it post partum depression, etc and she says she just wants me to accept her the way she is. On top of that, we now are paying a full-time nanny so my wife can have “me time” during the day. When I get home, she often goes out with friends or her sister for drinks or dinner. I’m at the end of my rope. I am not buying the asexual thing. She is now contributing nothing to the household, spending money left and right, and gives nothing in return...not even companionship. I tell her I’m unhappy, I feel like she’s a different person, we’re growing apart, etc. she says she wants me to love her for who she is while she “works through” her sexuality. Honestly, I feel used and I even wonder if she’s cheating on me. TLDR: Wife acting weird; came out as asexual and wants me to accept her for it
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My [29F] mother and sister in law [58F, 25F] came to visit us and have filled our house with black magic curses (?) against mequote:So I am gonna keep it short and sweet. English is my second language and I am kind of tired so please bear with me. I have been married to husband [31] for 1 year, together for 3,5. I like the idea of going over to the in-law's house and writing things like "Mallory your bed will become a nest of thorns" and leaving them all over the place because you want them to flee or die or something. Maybe black magic is just leaving post-its around until the object of your hatred gives up and moves
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im imagining that the wife and sister in law look like terry jones in life of brian and come from the same country as papa lazarou
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LadyPictureShow posted:This guy is a hoot. How do you even raise a complete vegetable like that and then turn around and not want vegetables in your house, sitting on your sofa
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (35, M) wife (33, F) has come out as asexual and wants me to accept her for "who she is"...not sure if that's the real issue. Tell her you're demiromantic and therefore only interested in being married to people who have a deep connection with you.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (35, M) wife (33, F) has come out as asexual and wants me to accept her for "who she is"...not sure if that's the real issue. e: or brain tumor I guess ArbitraryC fucked around with this message at 05:45 on Jul 20, 2018 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (35, M) wife (33, F) has come out as asexual and wants me to accept her for "who she is"...not sure if that's the real issue. Maybe shoving out twins broke her genitals and now she just doesn't want to use them anymore.
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Jul 20, 2018 06:16
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Hot take: spending the price of a mid-tier used car on a bunch of plastic surgery is dumb as h**k and agreeing to that inside of your marital union is a sign of extremely bad judgment on the part of both parties, like come on
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It came from r/sex:I asked if she would shave posted:I prefer pussy to be shaved. Not necessarily totally shaved—a little bit above is fine, so long as it is neatly trimmed. It isn’t because of the influence of porn, or that I have some pre-pubescent fetish; it is purely utilitarian. You see, I don't like to get pubic hairs in my mouth when I’m going down on my lady. I find that when I’m eating her out, I have to “part the sea” of hair with my hands, and that takes away from my enjoyment. I want to be able to do other things with my fingers than shielding my mouth/tongue from the hairs.
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Beachcomber posted:Tell her you're demiromantic and therefore only interested in being married to people who have a deep connection with you. This woman sounds like a leech. And the husband sounds like an idiot.
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Admiral Ray posted:It came from r/sex: lol how do people manage to get married without ever bringing up topics like this
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La Brea Carpet posted:I [38F] think my brother in law [43M] is hitting on me? Being that this is Alabama, I believe the culturally responsible answer is to tell the husband the BIL tried show'n you a porno and lets try a threesome
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Admiral Ray posted:It came from r/sex:
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Yeah that story was kinda whatever until "5 months ago", they couldn't have talked sincerely and fixed it in 5 months? Don't marry someone if you can't use your words to resolve conflicts, together.
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The comments on that one are p solid though, like most are saying "maybe she had such a strong response because she feels a lot of porn/social/media pressure over idealness that made her sensitive to any criticism of that area". Gotta wonder where those empathetic opinions are when a dude feels insecure cause he can't get his gf off without some electric jackhammers tho.
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I'm [25 M] beginning to think my fetish is a dealbreaker with my GF. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a little more than 5 years. During our first 4 years of dating we had some amazing ups as well as the occasional downs to our relationship. We were each other’s first boyfriend/ girlfriend, met when we were still teenagers, and did a lot of growing up through our first 4 years of dating each other. Our relationship wasn’t perfect but it was certainly one I could see myself in long term. Though I could see long term potential, I had one hesitation. Could I divulge my darkest secret to this girl? Would she still see me the same if I told her I liked wearing diapers? For most of our relationship, I told myself that suppression of this aspect of my sexuality was necessary in order to make things work. Who could possibly love someone with such a bizarre kink? As the years passed, I grew more aware of the importance of self-love. I’d realized that for years I’d been denying that my fetish is a significant part of my sexuality and in suppressing it, I was not accepting myself. Ultimately, I adopted a “life’s too short” motto and decided that going to my grave having never expressed this aspect of myself wasn’t worth it. I’d decided I was going to tell my girlfriend. The how and when were still in the works but I was at peace with my decision. Fast forward a couple months (very close to our 4 year anniversary) and I have a significant anxiety attack. Everything rushes to the surface and I decide to tell her then and there. Shock, anger, confusion, and disgust shortly follow. She asks how this interest can possibly be sexual and why I hid it for so long. We fought for about a month afterwards and couple’s sex therapy sessions ensued. Thanks to our amazing sex therapist, we actually found some peace and understanding in the matter, notably that this was something I can’t change. A compromise was made that I’m allowed to indulge in my kink but only when she’s not around. I was and still am totally okay with that. Several months ago we moved in with each other. This wasn’t something done on a whim as we talked about the prospect for at least 8 months before our eventual move in date. Rather than being celebratory, the move-in was somber. I could tell something was off with her right away but I wasn’t sure why. We hadn’t had any recent fights over my kink so I brushed that off as a cause of her weird mood. I had asked her multiple times if there was anything bothering her and she shrugged it off. We both attributed these blues to our long work schedules and a general warming-up period needed for two people who previously lived in their own space. As the days went by, I could sense the intimacy slowly slipping from our relationship and us being more snippy at each other. I was worried. Yesterday, we talked and she disclosed to me that she was still having a very difficult time coming to terms with this as my kink. Her main point (which she had iterated in prior conversations) was that she almost feels as if she’s been cheated on (i.e. her feelings of my fetish and the amount of time I withheld it from our relationship = same feelings of being cheated on). I could maybe rationalize her thought process but at the same withholding something such as a life-long kink due to fear of rejection is totally different than an intentional betrayal of trust. We discussed this at length to which she noted that her brain understands that this reasoning is totally illogical but her heart can’t let it go. Essentially, this thought process has created a lot of negative emotion over the past couple months and her desire for me as a sexual partner has waned. She specifically mentioned that as a twenty-something-year-old, she shouldn’t be having thoughts of resentment when it comes to sex, which I totally agree with. Though we don’t have a complete dead bedroom situation, we don’t have a ton of sex either (once a week at most). Even though I have a higher than average libido, I’ve grown use to this regularity and it doesn’t bother me. However, the thought of having a partner who resents my fetish to the point that it’s detracting from their personal attraction to me does. I’m especially worried since I was under the assumption that through months of couples counseling we had made a breakthrough to the point that she was at least generally accepting of my kink. My biggest kicker is what good is all the progress we make if it can all topple down in an instant based these unprompted negative thoughts that pervade my GF’s mind? I introduced this kink into my relationship knowing the risks involved. I knew it could have the potential to be a dealbreaker but I never thought it would be based on our strength as a couple. We still love each other but there comes a time when sunk-cost fallacy starts coming to mind. How much time do I keep investing in something that might be doomed to fail? Any advice on how to proceed in handling this situation is appreciated especially since this is all new to me. TL;DR: GF and I have been in a long term relationship. After dating 4 years, I introduced my fetish with mixed results. 1 year later, any progress I thought we’ve made coming to terms with my kink has been reversed. Any advice on how to proceed with the relationship, if at all?
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God that’s a lot of words for ‘I’m trash with a trash kink.’ I don’t always agree with Pick but when I do it’s about the importance of kinkshaming the poo poo out of these weirdos.
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VanSandman posted:God that’s a lot of words for ‘I’m trash with a trash kink.’ If you are ashamed of your kink you should probably take a long hard think about why you're ashamed of it. I'm guessing 9 times out of 10 it's not because you're a prude, it's because it's loving disgusting, depraved or indicative of some deep-seated issues you need to confront head on. That's my hot take anyway. Thank you for reading, God bless.
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MY KINK whoever taught these clowns the term "self-love" should be liable for the intensive electroshock therapy required to make them unlearn it
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Yeah, uh, if your fetish is a hosed up gross mental illness that interferes with your ability to have a normal relationship and sex life, then it's probably time to consider intensive therapy and not put any of that on your partner who is trying her best to put up with your disgusting garbage. 
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La Brea Carpet posted:I [38F] think my brother in law [43M] is hitting on me? She's just mad he put on a Stormy Daniels joint
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Diaper weirdo could win a gold medal in mental gymnastics for taking the term “self-love” and interpreting it as “jerking off in a diaper while my 5 year relationship disintegrates around me”.
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houstonguy posted:Diaper weirdo could win a gold medal in mental gymnastics for taking the term “self-love” and interpreting it as “jerking off in a diaper while my 5 year relationship disintegrates around me”. Sounds like how high school students interpret the 'self-esteem' that they're bombarded with.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (35, M) wife (33, F) has come out as asexual and wants me to accept her for "who she is"...not sure if that's the real issue. Your wife has post partum depression. Next!
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Techbros. My (19F) boyfriend (19M) is getting made fun of at work because of me. Not sure how to approach this. quote:I've been with my boyfriend for a little more than a year. I love him so so much, he is absolutely one of the greatest people I've ever met. He's so kind and compassionate, extremely smart, and to me, very attractive. Our relationship is strong and we are usually very good at communicating. Well that's not weird and creepy at all...
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Small companies should not exist. If I'm ever back in the US I'm only going to work for companies with hr departments. Did Starbucks lady ever update? Seems like her termination was pretty stupid and I'd think corporate would have something to say. Actually corporate would have been my first step after manager brushed off the harassment.
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In her shoes there is nothing to do. Tell him in no uncertain terms that you're attracted to him whenever if you want, but I wouldn't even bother raising the issue with him. It's insoluble from her end, and potentially it'll just make him feel bad/self-conscious about the bullying. or send a pic of your bf's ten inch schlong to all of them
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Theophany posted:Techbros. Doesn't sound like the boyfriend minds, so there's no problem. They'll get bored of pestering the goon eventually. Also sounds like he should get a haircut.
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Theophany posted:Techbros. That's a lot of words to invest in made-up humblebrag post.
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Tipps posted:That's a lot of words to invest in made-up humblebrag post. The clue is in the part where she says “to me” like six times before even getting to the part where she tells us what he is supposedly being made fun of for. No who actually finds you attractive will ever introduce you as, “my boyfriend, who is very attractive to me.” I’m pretty sure about 60% of the stories that get harvested and posted in here are fake, and Goons will jump on most of the rest to claim they’re fake, whether or not they are, so it’s probably best to just treat them all as real for maximum enjoyment.
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Hellblazer187 posted:Small companies should not exist. If I'm ever back in the US I'm only going to work for companies with hr departments. HR exists to protect the company, not you. What you need is a union.
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Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:I’m pretty sure about 60% of the stories that get harvested and posted in here are fake, and Goons will jump on most of the rest to claim they’re fake, whether or not they are, so it’s probably best to just treat them all as real for maximum enjoyment. I mean there was that one confessional by a redditor that their entire hobby is fake posting stories on r/relationships and that they get at least one story to the frontpage a day. Also that they obsessed about coming up with fake posts so much it was ruining their social life and schooling.
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ArbitraryC posted:On one hand I feel like guys who have a strong enough preference here are always creeps but on the other if OP isn't lying through their teeth it sounds like he'd have been okay with a "no' and was simply trying to express a preference while her response was to just nuke their entire relationship. I think the key is if they would be cool with trimmed. If you just want a trim, you're probably not weird. If you insist you couldn't possssiblllllyyyy interact with a pussy that's slicker than the head of charlie from californication you've at best watched too much porn Theophany posted:Techbros. Is this a small startup or a larger org? Places like Google can be lovely (Hellllooooo Damore!) but if there's something this blatant going on they will take action. Startups on the other hand... even if you get a judgement they might be gone, assetless in 6 months  Hellblazer187 posted:Small companies should not exist. If I'm ever back in the US I'm only going to work for companies with hr departments. Yeah, large companies are poo poo but they will deal with blatant stuff. With small ones you basically have to sue your employer to get relief, which is not a sustainable way to regulate these things. Whisper campaigns suck, but if you sue your employer it'll forever be the first thing someone sees on Google  Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:I’m pretty sure about 60% of the stories that get harvested and posted in here are fake, and Goons will jump on most of the rest to claim they’re fake, whether or not they are, so it’s probably best to just treat them all as real for maximum enjoyment. I'd go so far as to say some may even be planted  Thundercracker posted:I mean there was that one confessional by a redditor that their entire hobby is fake posting stories on r/relationships and that they get at least one story to the frontpage a day. Also that they obsessed about coming up with fake posts so much it was ruining their social life and schooling. was this in the SA confessions thread?
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Ebola Roulette posted:Your wife has post partum depression. Next! I expected the comments to all be ‘she’s cheating dude’, but they were pretty dispersed. This budding slapfight was pretty good though (none are the OP) quote:DrTacoLord Ms. ‘Maniac is a slur’ went on to post some word vomit that proves she doesn’t know how bipolar works.
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