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My mom [54F] won’t let my brother [14M] grow up and I’m worried he’s gonna lack basic skillsquote:I am the oldest of two kids. I am a 20 year old female and my brother is 14. I grew up babysitting him a lot due to the 7 year age gap. A lot of the times this would annoy me during my teen years during summer when I wanted to hang with friends but was stuck watching my brother because my parents were working. But still, my brother was pretty young so even I was kind of nervous to leave him on his own.
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You think that's bad, I sent star trek stickers out to goons and you would not BELIEVE how many people can't format an address. have you people never gotten a mail before?! ontario, honk-on-weak loukestershire, circle straß 3498 suite ə care of: poopington dundershire 298423 (zip code) IOWA Pick fucked around with this message at 05:27 on Aug 1, 2018 |
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luxury handset posted:the leasing agency may have failed to notify her of the HOA but it applies to the owner of the unit, regardless, and she will be responsible for any fines that may arise (because her landlord will extract them from her) For what it's worth the lease actually had all of the contact details for the HOA, the OP's argument is that because the landlord didn't check the "check here for HOA" box next to all of the HOA info she should be able to claim the lease doesn't say anything about a HOA. Regardless, the landlord definitely did not disclose the HOA regulations and has admitted that they weren't aware of them when the lease was signed, so best case scenario the OP has a decent argument for breaking the lease early due to material omissions. Again, though, there's no scenario where the OP just gets free run of HOA property.
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luxury handset posted:the leasing agency may have failed to notify her of the HOA but it applies to the owner of the unit, regardless, and she will be responsible for any fines that may arise (because her landlord will extract them from her) I'm no law expert but this doesn't feel right. If you were on the hook for HOA you never even had the chance to agree to because they weren't part of any formal contract you signed then there'd be nothing stopping shady places from just adding a ridiculous "the next person to buy property here has to pay infinity dollars as an HOA fee". Obviously that's an extreme example but fine's for having your dog pee in your own yard also come across to me as something no one would reasonably expect and should have to be disclosed in the contract. Whether or not it's worth actually fighting over is a different question entirely, but that just feels way too exploitable to be explicitly legal.
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ArbitraryC posted:I'm no law expert but this doesn't feel right. If you were on the hook for HOA you never even had the chance to agree to because they weren't part of any formal contract you signed then there'd be nothing stopping shady places from just adding a ridiculous "the next person to buy property here has to pay infinity dollars as an HOA fee". Obviously that's an extreme example but fine's for having your dog pee in your own yard also come across to me as something no one would reasonably expect and should have to be disclosed in the contract. much like the speed limit in gta4
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Pick posted:You think that's bad, I sent star trek stickers out to goons and you would not BELIEVE how many people can't format an address. have you people never gotten a mail before?! How exactly did they get their address wrong, it feels so obvious I can't even guess what you'd gently caress up.
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you quoted the example of ways people gently caress it up??
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It would have to go to court to be settled, and the side with the best lawyer would prevail. it's a hosed up situation; the contract as executed doesn't bind the tenant to the HOA, there was no due diligence about informing the tenant of the rules of the HOA (this is likely to be decisive, you can't collect if you never told the person they might be liable for something), and the HOA owned amenities should be available to the OP because they signed a lease in response to an advertisement that mentioned them as benefits and didn't disclose the HOA details. OP acted in good faith; the leasing agent was negligent; and the HOA might be able to collect from the leasing agent, but has no legal relationship with the OP.
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ArbitraryC posted:fine's for having your dog pee in your own yard Except it's not her yard, or even her landlord's yard. A condo HOA is different from a neighborhood HOA in that it actually owns all of the commons areas, which typically includes everything beyond the 4 walls of each unit (except maybe a patio.) Even if the paperwork is hosed up enough that the tenant has no legal relationship or obligations to the HOA, the landlord can't grant them the right to let their dog pee on someone else's lawn.
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Barudak posted:Wait there are classes to take to be a drag queen? Is there a Drag-Sensei? Is there a kid doing a bunch of chores for a neighborhood janitor like cleaning out an old VHS collection of To Wong Foo Thanks for Everything, Love Julie Newmar tapes not realizing its training him to be the best around? "my son is a second degree bedazzle pink belt!" :bigtran:
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ArbitraryC posted:I'm no law expert but this doesn't feel right. If you were on the hook for HOA you never even had the chance to agree to because they weren't part of any formal contract you signed then there'd be nothing stopping shady places from just adding a ridiculous "the next person to buy property here has to pay infinity dollars as an HOA fee". Obviously that's an extreme example but fine's for having your dog pee in your own yard also come across to me as something no one would reasonably expect and should have to be disclosed in the contract. as a rentier your rights are pretty much dick all and if your landlord forgets to tell you that you're in an HOA then the joke is on you when you get a notice about violating the bylaws taped to your door. ignorance is no excuse and the person you need to be complaining to is also the person who can choose to evict you if you raise too much of a fuss about it the renter does not have a yard. the HOA owns the yard which is why they can tell the renter to stop letting their dog piss on it Straight White Shark posted:Regardless, the landlord definitely did not disclose the HOA regulations and has admitted that they weren't aware of them when the lease was signed, so best case scenario the OP has a decent argument for breaking the lease early due to material omissions. yeah the only recourse here is to lawyer up, which few renters can afford to do on a whim (it is easier to just break the lease and eat any penalties) Mr. Fall Down Terror fucked around with this message at 05:55 on Aug 1, 2018 |
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Anne Whateley posted:you quoted the example of ways people gently caress it up?? mllaneza posted:It would have to go to court to be settled, and the side with the best lawyer would prevail. it's a hosed up situation; the contract as executed doesn't bind the tenant to the HOA, there was no due diligence about informing the tenant of the rules of the HOA (this is likely to be decisive, you can't collect if you never told the person they might be liable for something), and the HOA owned amenities should be available to the OP because they signed a lease in response to an advertisement that mentioned them as benefits and didn't disclose the HOA details.
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mllaneza posted:OP acted in good faith; the leasing agent was negligent; and the HOA might be able to collect from the leasing agent, but has no legal relationship with the OP. yeah but also almost certainly there's a clause in the lease that allows the landlord to pass any unexpected fees or expenses etc. on to the renter
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Midnight Voyager posted:Yeah, progressive politics are real regressive. Wait what? some of the real chuds have switched from calling leftism "progressive" to "regressive" because words don't mean anything any more and "regressive" is clearly a more negative sounding term and pee pee doo doo lieberals bad.
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luxury handset posted:as a rentier your rights are pretty much dick all and if your landlord forgets to tell you that you're in an HOA then the joke is on you when you get a notice about violating the bylaws taped to your door. ignorance is no excuse and the person you need to be complaining to is also the person who can choose to evict you if you raise too much of a fuss about it Reddit lawyers seem p mixed, feels like the general consensus is OP can do w/e and the fines will go to the person who leased it to them but they'll probably end up wasting a lot of time/money fighting it. i dunno, it seems just obviously wrong to me that it'd even be an issue in the first place. They advertised one thing, didn't mention any caveats in the contract, and then changed the rules to something the person obviously wouldn't have agreed to initially. Isn't that basically fraud? Feels like whoever rented to OP is the one who should be on the hook.
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Sagebrush posted:some of the real chuds have switched from calling leftism "progressive" to "regressive" because words don't mean anything any more and "regressive" is clearly a more negative sounding term and pee pee doo doo lieberals bad. well there are some regressive sounding policies among the wokest of the woke internet warriors, our forums themselves had some people pretty against interracial dating from weird leftist viewpoints. Back when they were around al cowens/sabel had a p solid screencap of DnD goons saying incredibly racist things about asians to justify why it wasn't okay for white people to date them. ArbitraryC fucked around with this message at 06:19 on Aug 1, 2018 |
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ArbitraryC posted:i dunno, it seems just obviously wrong to me that it'd even be an issue in the first place. They advertised one thing, didn't mention any caveats in the contract, and then changed the rules to something the person obviously wouldn't have agreed to initially. Isn't that basically fraud? Feels like whoever rented to OP is the one who should be on the hook. the person who rented to OP is on the hook but the thing about piss is it trickles downhill this is totally a fuckup on the landlord's part but if your landlord is having a bad time w/r/t your housing situation then by default, you are also having a bad time. especially if your behavior is causing your landlord penalties and fees. that is absolutely a fast road to eviction town
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luxury handset posted:the person who rented to OP is on the hook but the thing about piss is it trickles downhill drat right. But the side with the best lawyer still comes out ahead.
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This HOA chat, fuuuuuuuck Pick, please safe us, say something horrible!
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Such Fun posted:This HOA chat, fuuuuuuuck pick, probably posted:My mom used to beat me for being on my period; this is why men are incapable of love
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Bored posted:"my son is a second degree bedazzle pink belt!" :bigtran: One Piece was right about the island queendom of martial artist drag queens.
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LadyPictureShow posted:My mom [54F] won’t let my brother [14M] grow up and I’m worried he’s gonna lack basic skills I was surprised that the dad's actually in the picture. Mom should get a dog or something to get her dependence fix. Edit: Another possible buried lede on that, the family's Asian. Might be a case of a Little Emperor where the family expects he will always have a women to do these things for him, then are surprised when he turns out to be a helpless manbaby that women don't want anything to do with. Ghost Leviathan fucked around with this message at 08:02 on Aug 1, 2018 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:My mom [54F] won’t let my brother [14M] grow up and I’m worried he’s gonna lack basic skills I mean the mom sounds like an issue in some regards but I gotta wonder if this kid just has developmental disabilities of his own and that's in part why he gets babied so hard. No one taught me how to close a bag with a band it's just something you should pick up naturally when you take em off. The puberty learning curve is a concern too but again, i was raised by a single mom and she didn't teach me how to shave or tie a tie, I just figured it out on my own/with the internet. Like life lessons and more conceptual development you basically need someone experienced and caring to teach you but there's p much zero reason to be stumped on basic "how do I" poo poo as a teen who uses computers when there are countless youtube videos for anything you need help on. How to seal a bag of chips or cook a bag of ramen is not something that really needs direct training.
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ArbitraryC posted:I mean the mom sounds like an issue in some regards but I gotta wonder if this kid just has developmental disabilities of his own and that's in part why he gets babied so hard. No one taught me how to close a bag with a band it's just something you should pick up naturally when you take em off. The puberty learning curve is a concern too but again, i was raised by a single mom and she didn't teach me how to shave or tie a tie, I just figured it out on my own/with the internet. It's really hard to tell at times. Sufficiently lovely parenting can be almost indistinguishable from learning disabilities, and can massively impact the severity of disorders like autism.
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Bored posted:"my son is a second degree bedazzle pink belt!" :bigtran: I’m imagining it as something out of Modelland. Intoxibellas all over the place. Thigh-High Boot Camp. Hell yeah.
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Sorry for the lack of line breaks. There’s a comment by op which I’ve included separately Wife (40f) wants me (40m) to go NC with family members or divorce quote:u/whatstrue123 Comment quote:DM and I are cordial. The only lingering problem is my wife said we have no room in our lives for people that disrespect us, wife or our marriage. She has said that if daughter has a problem with wife maybe we need to go NC with her too. That’s where I really started drawing the line. I mean my daughter is not wanting much to do with me for my past actions fighting with her about not spending more time with me. I have apologized for this behavior. But I’m not giving up on our relationship. I think the new wife has been reading reddit comments too much and now think it’s ok to go no contact at the drop of a hat. Sometimes you have to put up with stuff.
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Have I gone crazy? (F23) (m30)quote:u/whatshappeninggggh Innocent, or hiding a dark secret - you the jury must decide?
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My boyfriend says I’m too horny for himquote:u/snowwhite6666 Huh, I wonder what that’s about? quote:Is it possible that your bf has a lot on his mind? Is there something that's bothering him or stressing out? quote:I appreciate this. I didn’t think of it like that. We are pretty happy I think... the only thing that Has bothered him recently was me getting a new job. He was annoyed by the fact I now make double than what he does (I did not point this out... I don’t care about money) but he seemed mad about it and thinks women shouldn’t be making more than men (he wishes he lived in the 50’s pretty much) maybe this is what is bothering him... other than that we don’t argue and he is seemingly a happy person but I will inquire about his feelings more Oh, that’s probably it.
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Someone please explain Jordan Peterson to me. Is he a dick? Genius? Sometimes ok? Had some good ideas? What's all the fuss?
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Alan_Shore posted:Someone please explain Jordan Peterson to me. Is he a dick? Genius? Sometimes ok? Had some good ideas? What's all the fuss? MRA garbage masquerading as intelligent thought. Don't waste time on it.
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He's Alt-Right and just smart enough not to openly call himself alt-right and dodge direct questions about some of his more awful beliefs. Apparently some of his purely academic papers are fairly good but all of his opinion piece is stuff like 'Women and men can't work together because women will make the men too horny to work and tank productivity.' His misogyny is more notable than his racism but he's got plenty of both. He's also put out some boilerplate self help stuff like 'clean up your own life before you worry about others' which people who already like him hail as revolutionary.
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the alt right clings to him and elevates him because he is couched in academia and therefore can offer them a veneer of intellectualism over their reactionary ideas he also sounds like kermit the frog and is also a weirdo who eats only meat but says uh chicken makes him dizzy, which considering he also has weird ideology about the loss of masculinity in modern culture or whatever, I don't know how he squares that circle lol
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Mr. Lobe posted:the alt right clings to him and elevates him because he is couched in academia and therefore can offer them a veneer of intellectualism over their reactionary ideas Obviously chicken is a feminine meat that robs him of his masculinity, thus leaving him weak
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Penguissimo posted:Obviously chicken is a feminine meat that robs him of his masculinity, thus leaving him weak Let's check with noted crazy person and government employee Jim Harbaugh: quote:Former Michigan (and current UCLA) quarterback Wilton Speight tells a story to sum it up nicely. Early in his Michigan tenure, Harbaugh pulled Speight aside and told him not to eat chicken, a protein that is considered fairly safe by nutritionists. When Speight asked why, Harbaugh said, “because it’s a nervous bird.”
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Hellblazer187 posted:What if I run for president and my entire platform is I'm going to nuke the reddit servers? Are you running on the No Fun Allowed platform?
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Pick posted:none of those ivy league dorks are ever actually that smart. oooooo a top 1% law school. who loving cares, there are so many goddamn bozos in those schools it's wild. It doesn't take brains to get in to a top 1% law school. Only connections and lots of money.
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Helpless 14 y/o brother updatequote:Hey all. I know it's quite early for an update post, but quite a bit has happened since my original post. I got a slew of comments that inspired me to take action as I was receiving them. I just want to clear up some things before I go on (if you just want the update, you can skip this part): Pretty constructive/boring it seems, but good on her
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Ghost Leviathan posted:I was surprised that the dad's actually in the picture. Mom should get a dog or something to get her dependence fix. Reading the thing, she said ‘parents’ and by the time I got to ‘doesn’t know how to shave’ I was like ‘huh, the dad must have died or- oh.’ My boss is first-gen Taiwanese American, and her stories about how inept her younger brother, nearly in his forties, can be about things even now are ridiculous. E: oh hey, a sorta happy update! LadyPictureShow fucked around with this message at 13:20 on Aug 1, 2018 |
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Alan_Shore posted:Someone please explain Jordan Peterson to me. Is he a dick? Genius? Sometimes ok? Had some good ideas? What's all the fuss? This right here is everything you need to know about his books, it was made by a fan of his:
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Lol virgin’s prison
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