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Adar
Jul 27, 2001
Spoiler: dude doesn’t care about the contest at all

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Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.

Universe Master posted:

He won't win, fat people are at a disadvantage in eating contests. The fat restricts stomach expansion, which is why really skinny people are always winning those hot dog challenges and the like.

One of those funny things but it's true. Basically any physical contest nowadays is always dominated by freaks who've massively overspecialised their bodies for it.

Ziv Zulander
Mar 24, 2017

ZZ for short


Ghost Leviathan posted:

Basically any physical contest nowadays is always dominated by freaks who've massively overspecialised their bodies for it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mfqxRvcleAc

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

There's an episode of Man Vs Food that has this (absolutely 100% staged) scene where he went to this burrito place that had a challenge where you have to finish a comically-large 5-pound burrito in an hour, and the other people in the restaurant started yelling for him to do the challenge

and he was like "oh no, I'm doing a different challenge today, but my friend Joey Chestnut can probably manage this one" and Joey Chestnut came in as a guest star and ate the 5-pound burrito in like three minutes. The usual time limit, again, is an hour.

In closing yeah what Ghost Leviathan said

Hughlander
May 11, 2005

Known Lecher posted:

That’s a nice one for “spot the deeply buried lede”.

Racing to hook up with his ex-gf that he’s still pining for when they tried an “open relationship”

I also like that doing the math the love of the life was a high school crush. (30 now 6 with her, 10 with ex)

Cassius Belli
May 22, 2010

horny is prohibited

Molly's a beast; she's probably barely even full after that one. Here she is eating twice that much in steaks and sides, twenty minutes flat.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WUU58hzPiXc

Theophany
Jul 22, 2014

SUCCHIAMI IL MIO CAZZO DA DIETRO, RANA RAGAZZO



2022 FIA Formula 1 WDC

Yond Cassius posted:

Molly's a beast; she's probably barely even full after that one. Here she is eating twice that much in steaks and sides, twenty minutes flat.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WUU58hzPiXc

I want to say I'm grossed out by that level of gluttony, but it's the eating with the hands and shovelling it that grosses me out the most.

Like I can't watch any Man vs Food that is a heat based challenge because seeing all the snot and tears is :barf:

Absurd Alhazred
Mar 27, 2010

by Athanatos
Me [30 M/] with my GF [29/F] of 7 mos. She is too close to her ex and I want to end it.

quote:

About 7 months ago I started dating “Katie” who has two kids from a previous marriage (6F and 4F). She was high school sweethearts with “Ryan” and they had been together since like the 6th grade. They married in the 12th grade and then divorced at 25. It was one of those divorces where they were both happy to end it. They separated before the 2nd child was born and I think signed divorce papers only weeks before the actual birth. Yet, they are very close and try to do things as a family – they celebrate holidays together, they do family ‘vacations’ together and spend a lot of time together. The kids like having their family together which is great, but it leaves me (and Ryan’s girlfriend) feeling really uneasy.

Katie and I met through friends. She works for the local schools and I am in the early stages of a career in an emerging area of dentistry. I work longer-than-normal hours, so we took our dating very slow. I didn't meet the kids until about the 4th month and didn't regularly spend time with the family until about a month after that. In the 2 months where we've all been together I notice really big problems.

Katie and Ryan are raising a family and with the exception of sex, they don’t really ever spend time apart. Ryan brought his GF on a date – unbeknownst to his girlfriend (or me) we were going on a “group date”. We went to a restaurant and all had very stilted conversation. Ryan not having enough money to cover both their meals began to panic and I ended up taking care of everyone.

On my birthday, which I wanted to celebrate in another way, Katie insisted we have a public dinner at a restaurant and again her ex-husband and his girlfriend arrived (and again, I wound-up paying. Long story). It was there that Ryan's GF and I shared some of our anxieties.

Ryan is a nice guy, but he’s a bit of a goof. He’s genuine but can’t get out of his own way. He's the kind of guy who goes to bed saying he’ll work hard tomorrow but forgets to set an alarm. He decides on a new career path only to somehow miss the on-ramp entirely. He’s usually unemployed or on the verge of being fired and when that happens – it’s like biweekly at this point – he comes running to Katie whom he expects to fix everything. He’s even asked her to call his boss to ask for his job back (it didn’t work). Ryan's GF is a professional woman looking for the opposite in a man and I think they're very happy in some respects. In others, I know Ryan's GF feels exactly as I feel.

Katie is open about Ryan’s foibles, which are human, but we’re at the point where she and Ryan appear to be in a toxic relationship and neither side is willing to admit it. Ryan’s GF is a really sweet woman who has the patience of saint. She confided in me that she thought the arrangement was weird. At first she was happy to date a guy whose ex-wife wasn’t caustic or mean, and she could have a good relationship with, but she was now finding their arrangement to be peculiar. We never do anything as individual couples, everything has to be done as a group. All events are to be celebrated together (even if the kids aren’t around) and the arrangements cannot be changed.

Ryan finds Katie to be annoying, picky and an elitist. He gets easily annoyed with her and they can bicker and both say they’re spending too much time together. I totally understanding having joint holidays and doing a Thanksgiving together as a family, but it’s that every holiday is expected to be together; every event, social gathering and potential vacation. If we were to be married, we don’t spend any holidays with my family or Katie’s family, it’s with Ryan so the kids can have “a normal life.” Both Katie and Ryan come from divorce, so I think what they think “normal” is happens to be based on a misconception of normal.

We both knew going in that they had kids and were close – neither Ryan’s GF nor I have any illusions about that. We knew it meant putting the kids first and working together, but this has gotten a bit odd. There is no time where they aren’t doing things together. Ryan and his GF were going to take a getaway together and asked Katie and I to go. It was upon my insistence that we not go – a fact that Ryan’s GF recognized and later thanked me for.

We took a long time to get to know each other and moved really, really slowly. That was 7 months of time invested and over-all I feel like there were just too many things that were omitted. I feel like any relationship we have will always be secondary to her and Ryan’s relationship and that no matter what I (or Ryan’s GF) do, we won’t be the most important people in our romantic relationships.

I don’t think Ryan and Katie are physically cheating and it’s clear neither could ever be together and have a functional, happy, relationship. They are too different, have different goals and objectives in life and really don’t want the same things; but, it’s also like they still haven’t figured out that they’re no longer married.

I’m at the end of my tolerance. I’ve been very gentle with my questions and reminders, I’ve calmly talked about things and tried to get her to speak about how she envisions things in the future. She casually mentioned a trip to Hawaii – a place I enjoy going and she would love to visit- but I’ll be damned to have her ex-husband and his GF along for the ride (and on my dime). I am at the point where I really only feel that the best course of action is to end the relationship.

That said, I’ve never dated a woman with kids; I don’t know what it entails and I’m worried that I’m missing key things that I could do to help solve some issues or that maybe I am the one with misplaced expectations. I feel very bad about the whole situation and accept that I haven’t been the best communicator, but also feel that I probably can’t do much to fix this.

How should I handle this? Is this the "new" normal of divorce and I need to have better expectations?

tl;dr I feel like my girlfriend is still in a relationship with her ex. We can't do anything without them and it's to the point that I feel like a third wheel on dates. I can't seem to make a break-through communicating with her so I feel like ending it. But, do I have the wrong expectations about these types of relationships?

Most of the commenters are telling him to break it off, about half of them are telling him that he and Ryan's girlfriend should date and leave these two to their codependent post-marriage.

DeadMansSuspenders
Jan 10, 2012

I wanna be your left hand man

Yikes, I forgot about the lightning speed of this thread.

ArbitraryC posted:


I [23 F]resent my fiance [25 M] and his career. I feel as if he took everything from me.
"Basically he's in the Navy. Not even the US Navy where they make you work your rear end off and don't care about you, but the Canadian one. "

Had to quote this massive slam on the Canadian Navy because one of my friends is in the navy and this made me laugh pretty hard.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

Husband(31M) is uncompromising and it’s draining me (29F)
Ah yes, the trend of "everything is great and perfect, except for this ONE thing" continues.

Milotic posted:

My [24f] coworker [32m] shows me pictures of his baby everyday - am I stuck doing this forever?

Over 80% of my colleagues are women. They tell me about their children or other things that don't really interest me daily. But it is important to them so I participate in the conversation like a normal human being, idiot.

LadyPictureShow posted:

My [19F] very religious mom [49F] found my nudes and showed my dad [52M]. My life is so ruined. How can I fix this relationship? Please help :(

"...interrogation that came out of nowhere where the policeman claimed he would slap me with a shoe if I didn’t talk."
God drat I am glad I live where I live. What the gently caress is any of this.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I went to get my papers, and on the way back I heard her saying "but he looked at my story, why wouldn't he of at least said happy birthday? It's all I wanted. I've been looking forward to this day just for that!"

The only thing I wanted for my birthday is validation from my ex :qq:

DeadMansSuspenders
Jan 10, 2012

I wanna be your left hand man

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Me [30 M/] with my GF [29/F] of 7 mos. She is too close to her ex and I want to end it.


Most of the commenters are telling him to break it off, about half of them are telling him that he and Ryan's girlfriend should date and leave these two to their codependent post-marriage.

Clearly the best option is to stay the course buddy. Keep paying for group meals and supporting two kids.

Absurd Alhazred
Mar 27, 2010

by Athanatos

DeadMansSuspenders posted:

Clearly the best option is to stay the course buddy. Keep paying for group meals and supporting two kids.

Stealth open marriage with one of the outside parties providing the sugar. That's some racket these two have going on there.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

In seven months too. Ryan may suck at jobs but he moves fast to get this idiot to foot the bill. Nearly got him to pay for an entire vacation too.

Admiralty Flag
Jun 7, 2007

to ride eternal, shiny and chrome

THUNDERDOME LOSER 2022

Absurd Alhazred posted:

Me [30 M/] with my GF [29/F] of 7 mos. She is too close to her ex and I want to end it.


Most of the commenters are telling him to break it off, about half of them are telling him that he and Ryan's girlfriend should date and leave these two to their codependent post-marriage.

TBH I first thought that he should hook up with GF, but that’s just a meet cute from a bad movie. What sort of woman would be attracted to Ryan? We can probably excuse Katie b/c it was a high school hookup, but he sounds like a complete doofus.

Stories like this scare the gently caress out of me in a strange way. I’ve tried to do the right thing regarding my ex wife at every turn when it comes to my daughter, which sometimes has been very difficult. (I think I have room for a gauge in my tongue from biting it so much.) But she’s no dummy, and even if she hadn’t grown up hearing terrible things about me constantly, listening to her mother try to yell at me and accuse me of horrors on the phone, etc., she’d still know that we can’t stand each other. Plus she was just old enough when I moved out that she has an impression of how toxic things were in person.

If she has kids and then breaks up with/divorces her partner/spouse, is she going to try to have an abnormally close relationship with her ex because she feels her parents’ relationship was bad for her growing up? She’s never voiced such a concern clearly, but yay another bad parenting opportunity to pointlessly worry about.

Absurd Alhazred
Mar 27, 2010

by Athanatos

Nonvalueadded User posted:

TBH I first thought that he should hook up with GF, but that’s just a meet cute from a bad movie. What sort of woman would be attracted to Ryan? We can probably excuse Katie b/c it was a high school hookup, but he sounds like a complete doofus.

Stories like this scare the gently caress out of me in a strange way. I’ve tried to do the right thing regarding my ex wife at every turn when it comes to my daughter, which sometimes has been very difficult. (I think I have room for a gauge in my tongue from biting it so much.) But she’s no dummy, and even if she hadn’t grown up hearing terrible things about me constantly, listening to her mother try to yell at me and accuse me of horrors on the phone, etc., she’d still know that we can’t stand each other. Plus she was just old enough when I moved out that she has an impression of how toxic things were in person.

If she has kids and then breaks up with/divorces her partner/spouse, is she going to try to have an abnormally close relationship with her ex because she feels her parents’ relationship was bad for her growing up? She’s never voiced such a concern clearly, but yay another bad parenting opportunity to pointlessly worry about.

Don't worry, she'll probably gently caress up in ways you can't even imagine, and still blame you. :geno:

Mister Olympus
Oct 31, 2011

Buzzard, Who Steals From Dead Bodies
https://twitter.com/0lspicykeychain/status/1033361828292771840?s=19

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009


this was loving incredible, pro-click for all readers of this thread

ArbitraryC
Jan 28, 2009
Pick a number, any number
Pillbug

Declyn, loving lol. Amazing read even if you have to do it through twitter images.

ass cobra
May 28, 2004

by Azathoth

:stare:

goethe.cx
Apr 23, 2014



this woman has brain damage

e: lol i have no idea what my new av is about but at least it's not a corncob

LadyPictureShow
Nov 18, 2005

Success!




‘Once and a lifetime’

dads friend steve
Dec 24, 2004

Barudak posted:

This may sound cold but at 21 you are way too young to waste time on someone who lacks the tools to be happy and faces a false dillemma created by their upbringing.

Now, once youre 40, divorced, and your spirit animal is Pall Malls youll be ready to help someone make a no-win decision of lifelong regret with confidence.

This is from 30 or so pages ago, but Barudak you are one of my favorite posters

Hellblazer187
Oct 12, 2003

How hard is it for my FRIENDS to give my sixty thousand dollars you CUNTS!!!!!

If they took that 15k and used it as a deposit on a house, they'd both be a lot happier. Much better to have a house for life than to be a Kardashian for a day.

Taima
Dec 31, 2006

tfw you're peeing next to someone in the lineup and they don't know
Is it just me or did the message stream end in the middle of it? I can't find the resolution, just an image that clearly has more text but there isn't a followup.

ArbitraryC
Jan 28, 2009
Pick a number, any number
Pillbug

Taima posted:

Is it just me or did the message stream end in the middle of it? I can't find the resolution, just an image that clearly has more text but there isn't a followup.

I think it was mostly focused on the OP and they quoted the followup a bit but didn't want to keep going.

Taima
Dec 31, 2006

tfw you're peeing next to someone in the lineup and they don't know
Fair enough. It's still totally amazing.

blugu64
Jul 17, 2006

Do you realize that fluoridation is the most monstrously conceived and dangerous communist plot we have ever had to face?
who donates to that gofundme? really

Bored
Jul 26, 2007

Dude, ix-nay on the oice-vay.

This is amazing. "Over several years, we managed to save up 15k. You assholes can't even just randomly drop 1.5k as a wedding gift? gently caress all y'all!"

How does anyone think this is acceptable?

dads friend steve posted:

This is from 30 or so pages ago, but Barudak you are one of my favorite posters

He really does have a way with words.

burial
Sep 13, 2002

actually, that won't be necessary.

Holy poo poo. This was beautiful and I am grateful as hell for the find. I can probably screenshot the images or something if there are people out there for whom twitter doesn’t work. It’s worth it.

IAmThatIs
Nov 17, 2014

Wasteland Style

burial posted:

Holy poo poo. This was beautiful and I am grateful as hell for the find. I can probably screenshot the images or something if there are people out there for whom twitter doesn’t work. It’s worth it.

Yes please

Kommienzuspadt
Apr 28, 2004

U like it

I dated a woman for 18 months who probably would have done this at our wedding if I hadn't broken up with her first

Milotic
Mar 4, 2009

9CL apologist
Slippery Tilde
I [35M] think I just found out my wife [33F] has been keeping a big secret.

quote:

u/TheRealJackReynolds
My wife and I have been together for almost three years. Our backstory is long and convoluted, but she means everything to me and, while I still sometimes worry she'll leave me for someone smarter, she shows me how much she cares about me every chance she gets.

She has a five-year-old from a previous relationship. Shortly after we first met, she was left full guardianship over her "niece," who is the coolest fourteen-year-old ever. I love these kids.

My wife got pregnant early on. It was an accident, but we were both very happy. I've always wanted a family. And now we could add something that was both of ours to the one we had.

Unfortunately, she lost the baby with two months to spare. That was in September.

She has been my loving rock through this whole thing. We lost the baby on a Tuesday. So, she set up standing Tuesday check-ins (she studied psychology for a while), and we talked about it to death (pun only slightly intended). I told her that I figured it was my fault. She never said it was, but never said it wasn't.

Let me back up a second. My wife is the best communicator I've ever met. Any issue she has, it's discussed and resolved. Seriously, I haven't once gone to bed angry. And she's never hurt me with her words. She chooses them very carefully.

Which brings me to this morning. She left for work around 6, so I decided to browse Reddit. We both have accounts. She rarely checks hers and I'm not using a throwaway because I'll be talking to her about this as soon as she's home. I just want some advice beforehand.

I had answered a question about listening being a high priority skill in communication. My wife taught me that. Listen while someone's talking and then formulate a response once they're done. It eliminates interruption and stuttering.

Anyway, I mentioned something about the loss of our baby and how we've been trying for another since.

Apparently, my buddy who works with her decided to create an account so he could annoy the hell out of me 24/7. He mentions something about it being difficult for us to conceive because of PCOS. I ask him what that means, but he goes silent. So, I look it up.

It means my wife probably can't carry a pregnancy to term. She never told me this.

Now, neither of them are answering their phones. They're probably in surgery, which means the radio silence could go on for HOURS.

All of this happened just now and I'm freaking out. Why the gently caress wouldn't she tell me this? There has been so much opportunity. I don't understand.

I think I'm in shock, because I'm kind of numb right now. I have no idea what I'm supposed to feel. But I know myself well enough to know this state won't last. I'm going to get really mad. Like, break something mad. I think I want to send the kids out somewhere. She doesn't get off until 11pm, so I'm just gonna sit here and stew the whole time.

But, here's the thing. I adore this woman. She means the world to me. But...this sucks. Lying is something I already hate. But she also lead me to believe it was my fault we lost the baby. She allowed me to kill myself a little more every time a test came back negative. Every time she'd tell me she was menstruating. It was my fault. I wasn't a man. I couldn't do what I was biologically wired to. What was I good for?

And now I'm starting to feel angry. Please help. I don't know what to do.

Tl;Dr: wife and I lost a baby back in September. Been trying since and nothing. I think it's my fault until I accidentally find out she has issues that would make carrying a child to term almost impossible. She never told me. Don't know what to do.

Kommienzuspadt
Apr 28, 2004

U like it

Milotic posted:

I [35M] think I just found out my wife [33F] has been keeping a big secret.

Wow this dude is loving crazy. How does he even know his wife has PCOS? Either way you can still definitely have kids with PCOS, and it's not something he has a right to be angry about, wtf

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

👁️🔥👁️👁️👁️BE NOT👄AFRAID👁️👁️👁️🔥👁️

Yeah sounds like he's blaming her for his internalized issues about his own virility.

Scathach
Apr 4, 2011

You know that thing where you sleep on your arm funny and when you wake up it's all numb? Yeah that's my whole world right now.


Honestly $15K for a wedding seems like a huge, stupid amount, especially if that's your entire life savings in one go. If they went the DIY way they could have probably had an amazingly stellar wedding for $10K and had $5K for a nice honeymoon.

E: also "waaaahhhh can't have a baby" man up there is a moron. Who cares? Adopt a kid. Foster some kids. Have a fulfilling life without having kids around. Your stupid genetics probably suck anyway.

Scathach fucked around with this message at 22:12 on Aug 25, 2018

ArbitraryC
Jan 28, 2009
Pick a number, any number
Pillbug

PetraCore posted:

Yeah sounds like he's blaming her for his internalized issues about his own virility.

Sounds to me like he's mad because in the aftermath he blamed himself and she never tried to reassure him over it while also neglecting to mention she had an outstanding medical issue that made having more kids difficult for her.

ArbitraryC
Jan 28, 2009
Pick a number, any number
Pillbug

Scathach posted:

E: also "waaaahhhh can't have a baby" man up there is a moron. Who cares? Adopt a kid. Foster some kids. Have a fulfilling life without having kids around. Your stupid genetics probably suck anyway.

I dunno if you're dating someone who wants to have their own bio kids and that might be feasible, it's generally the right thing to tell them.

burial
Sep 13, 2002

actually, that won't be necessary.

IAmThatIs posted:

Yes please

Original story:











Partial update by the person that originally shared this:







If there’s more after that, I couldn’t find it.

e: Should those be TIMG? I’m on a phone. They look fine to me.

burial fucked around with this message at 22:23 on Aug 25, 2018

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

👁️🔥👁️👁️👁️BE NOT👄AFRAID👁️👁️👁️🔥👁️

ArbitraryC posted:

Sounds to me like he's mad because in the aftermath he blamed himself and she never tried to reassure him over it while also neglecting to mention she had an outstanding medical issue that made having more kids difficult for her.
I dunno, maybe she thought she was reassuring him. The emotional impact of stuff doesn't always match what's actually said. He doesn't FEEL like she reassured him enough, but he doesn't say how much of this he was leaving internalized and how much was communicated. If she has PCOS and his friend didn't just gently caress up and mix her up with someone else, she should have mentioned it when they were actively trying to conceive just bc it's a factor, but honestly she probably feels really lovely about it and might have been worried he'd blame her.

I'm not saying he's wrong for being upset, I'm saying this is a really emotional topic for both of them and it should probably be talked over once he's not in the middle of reeling over it.

ArbitraryC
Jan 28, 2009
Pick a number, any number
Pillbug

quote:

I told her that I figured it was my fault. She never said it was, but never said it wasn't.
I mean he could be lying but this sounds like a p solid opportunity to mention you have a medical issue that could cause complications with pregnancy. Sounds like she just left him hanging.

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ArbitraryC
Jan 28, 2009
Pick a number, any number
Pillbug
Like it sorta reminds me of that one story where we saw a couple failing to conceive for like a year and the dude was so certain it was his wife's fault that they went through every possible option to enhance her fertility without ever addressing it might be on his end, turned out he was sterile and the OP was understandably livid.

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