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Hellblazer187 posted:My boyfriend successfully arranged his life so that he can live it the way he wants and is living the loving dream holy poo poo, am I wrong for thinking he's less of an adult?
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Aug 26, 2018 22:45
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Taima posted:I don't want to be that dude but I am having a hard time believing that any of this poo poo is real. I think it's just you 1) I can assure you that crazy conspiracy people exist, whole families of them exist even, and the kind of people who like that movie are crazy conspiracy people 2) Statistically speaking, children get a hold of guns all the time in even seemingly implausible circumstances, even when the gun is properly holstered (which this one was not). And the dude being unremorseful is not surprising in the least. 3) This one might be bullshit in the way that you describe (even if the motivation you wrote makes no sense at all) but it sounds more like a classic story of one partner being ready to settle down and disappointed that the other isn't ready for that yet. It's totally normal and doesn't really paint either of them in a bad light, she just wants something different from life than he does right now and that's okay
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Aug 26, 2018 22:55
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Haifisch posted:You see, he skateboards sometimes, which is Forbidden. Skateboarding is not a crime.
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Aug 26, 2018 22:56
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Anne Whateley posted:Nah she's right about this part ArbitraryC posted:I dunno about this. We all had parents right? How often do you recall them just chilling with people 5 days a week? OP is from a less dense area where people settle down sooner to raise families so the idea that there's someone pushin 30 that has an excess of leisure time to smoke weed and skateboard in the park with their friends every other day prolly comes across to her as arrested development. She's notably asking if she's being weird about it, not like recanting stories of their fights or such it's just unusual to her and that's not really that surprising. The problem with both of these characterizations is that she doesn't have kids, doesn't seem to want to have kids immediately, and none of her objections revolve around kids. The one time she describes what he should be doing instead is when she brought up professional dinners. I think she's just boring  Personally I don't really just "hang out" with my friends anymore, but I kinda wish I did. I do just "hang out" with my wife, of course; that's called marriage. e: Upon reread she does compare him to her friends back home who have kids, but she doesn't seem to view it as a negative that she herself does not. She's older than him, too.
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Aug 26, 2018 22:59
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some two year olds can't figure out "please don't eat dirt" lol
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Aug 26, 2018 23:00
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loquacius posted:The problem with both of these characterizations is that she doesn't have kids, doesn't seem to want to have kids immediately, and none of her objections revolve around kids. The one time she describes what he should be doing instead is when she brought up professional dinners. I think she's just boring
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Aug 26, 2018 23:11
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Haifisch posted:The whole thing just feels like she's uncomfortable with the culture differences between NYC and suburban Michigan, and can't think of a better way to describe it than "boyfriend hangs out with friends a lot, sometimes drinks beer on their porch, also none of his friends has set up their own 1.5 kids/1 dog/picket fence fiefdom yet". I could parse it this way, sure. It's way easier to apply your mental biases to other people than yourself, too, in general. man how much money would it take to actually legally erect an outdoor picket fence anywhere in Brooklyn
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Aug 26, 2018 23:14
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also, barudak:
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Aug 26, 2018 23:14
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loquacius posted:The problem with both of these characterizations is that she doesn't have kids, doesn't seem to want to have kids immediately, and none of her objections revolve around kids. The one time she describes what he should be doing instead is when she brought up professional dinners. I think she's just boring I guess I just sorta characterize it on my own experience. When I hang out with friends I'm mostly just looking to chit chat and unwind, in 2018 this is often through games as some of my longest and best friends don't live near me anymore. This is regularly interpreted as manchild behavior on these very forums so I don't find it too surprising that she'd be iffy about him just getting stoned and chilling with his friends on the porch every other day.
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Aug 26, 2018 23:26
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So that entire family's favorite movie was The Fourth Kind, but none of them were curious enough to research it for even a minute? The first page of Google results bring up all the lawsuits that were filed against Universal for them pretending that any of that poo poo was real. I Googled it because I ain't never heard of it but boy it looks bad. ETA: Not that I doubt the story, there's a helluva lot of incurious idiots out there. Depressio111117 fucked around with this message at 23:50 on Aug 26, 2018 |
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Aug 26, 2018 23:47
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PetraCore posted:Two year olds are basically less airborne parrots. Does a parrot have impulse control? No. I rest my case. https://youtu.be/jN4aeH83RSA Now imagine that parrot is holding a gun. 
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Aug 27, 2018 00:21
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Ligament posted:some two year olds can't figure out "please don't eat dirt" lol All. All two year olds. poo poo most would probably dig their hand down for a second helping of dirt just to be sure they didn't like it. Whoever compared them to parrots was spot on except parrots probably have a more finely tuned survival instinct.
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Aug 27, 2018 00:28
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I mean little Sally would probably try to listen real hard while mommy explains that guns are bad and never to touch them but that's not going to last.
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Aug 27, 2018 00:29
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Depressio111117 posted:So that entire family's favorite movie was The Fourth Kind, but none of them were curious enough to research it for even a minute? The first page of Google results bring up all the lawsuits that were filed against Universal for them pretending that any of that poo poo was real. Some people identify intensely with their favorite film. Insulting someone's favorite movie is a good way to provoke them into hating you.
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Aug 27, 2018 00:33
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Barudak posted:For anyone saying they cant keep a good partner home depot has a sale going on right now on nylon rope Nylon rope, or at least the cheap kind, does not make a good sex rope I just wanted to point this out. Stay safe and don't get hurt
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Aug 27, 2018 00:40
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SniperWoreConverse posted:Nylon rope, or at least the cheap kind, does not make a good sex rope I just wanted to point this out. Stay safe and don't get hurt True, if you make it at all tight it quickly cuts off circulation and is irritable. Use the softer ropes to kidnap people. Namaste.
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Aug 27, 2018 00:43
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I knew a girl who believed wholeheartedly that The Fourth Kind was real until I sent her those articles about the lawsuit. She also fully believed that The Hills Have Eyes is true, and that nuclear mutants wander our deserts to this day. I was never able to talk her out of that one.
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Aug 27, 2018 00:48
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coronatae posted:I knew a girl who believed wholeheartedly that The Fourth Kind was real until I sent her those articles about the lawsuit. She also fully believed that The Hills Have Eyes is true, and that nuclear mutants wander our deserts to this day. I was never able to talk her out of that one. You can't convince me that Wrong Turn is fiction. It is an exact depiction of how I imagine the American south.
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Aug 27, 2018 01:22
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I [26F] am getting fed up with my husband [29F] when it comes to meal planningquote:Hi, I will try to keep this as short as possible. So. I am responsible for 100% of the cooking in this relationship. When we started dating 6 years ago, the most challenging thing he could make was ramen noodles. He has no knack for cooking and that is a-okay with me. I do not mind at all that I cook all of the time. I enjoy cooking and feel good when others appreciate my food. I think I'm pretty good at it, too. 
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Aug 27, 2018 01:23
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quote:I really felt blue putting that stuff back on the shelf Awww boo hoo I'm so blue I'm gonna have to go home and loving MURDER MY HUSBAND
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Aug 27, 2018 01:56
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If you show conspiracy fuckos some lawsuits about the veracity of a movie, they'll just take it as proof that the Illuminati/Jews/Trilateral Commission are trying to suppress the truth.
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Aug 27, 2018 02:09
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:You can't convince me that Wrong Turn is fiction. It is an exact depiction of how I imagine the American south. That one's apocryphal; broadly true but that sequence of events didn't literally happen.
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Aug 27, 2018 02:12
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The more I read, the more this becomes.quote:[–]NekoNina [score hidden] 10 hours ago quote:[–]Trillbillie [S] 65 points 1 day ago 
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Aug 27, 2018 02:12
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yeah uh wow I started that one out against OP and switched around to being against her husband the more I read because goddamn she led with "I ask what he wants to eat and he doesn't seem to care which makes me mad" and we ended up with actual psychological abuse and neglect
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Aug 27, 2018 02:24
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loquacius posted:yeah uh wow I started that one out against OP and switched around to being against her husband the more I read because goddamn It's going in my buried lede hall of fame
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Aug 27, 2018 02:32
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Khazar-khum posted:Some people identify intensely with their favorite film. Insulting someone's favorite movie is a good way to provoke them into hating you. That's what I love about this forum, nobody ever insults Robot Jox. Keeps me from having to spread any hatred whatsoever.
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Aug 27, 2018 02:35
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Yep another piece of poo poo man taking advantage of a woman. What a loving travesty it is that it's such a common tune. Like the sub-mod said it is infuriating and it's not terribly extreme yet somehow is tremendously awful.
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Aug 27, 2018 02:38
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Jim Barris posted:Yep another piece of poo poo man taking advantage of a woman. What a loving travesty it is that it's such a common tune. Like the sub-mod said it is infuriating and it's not terribly extreme yet somehow is tremendously awful. I mean... women take advantage of men too. They can also take half your stuff in divorce court.
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Aug 27, 2018 02:42
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Salty Josh posted:I mean... women take advantage of men too. They can also take half your stuff in divorce court. Can we skip 40 posts and just have you post your rant about how family court is KILLING FATHERS now?
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Aug 27, 2018 02:44
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loquacius posted:yeah uh wow I started that one out against OP and switched around to being against her husband the more I read because goddamn It's already incredibly annoying even if they're okay with what you decide but it goes well into infuriating when they're both indecisive and picky.
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Aug 27, 2018 02:44
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Jim Barris posted:Yep another piece of poo poo man taking advantage of a woman. What a loving travesty it is that it's such a common tune. Like the sub-mod said it is infuriating and it's not terribly extreme yet somehow is tremendously awful. Like I always say, Kill All Men.
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Aug 27, 2018 02:47
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ZenMasterBullshit posted:Can we skip 40 posts and just have you post your rant about how family court is KILLING FATHERS now? from personal experience I would guess we don't see a solid 50/50 ratio of womanchilds and manchilds not because women are inherently better than men but because my male friends in toxic relationships think their total mooch of a gf is just sort of the expected gender dynamic.
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Aug 27, 2018 02:47
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Salty Josh posted:I mean... women take advantage of men too. They can also take half your stuff in divorce court. (USER WAS BANNED FOR THIS POST)
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Aug 27, 2018 02:51
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ArbitraryC posted:from personal experience I would guess we don't see a solid 50/50 ratio of womanchilds and manchilds not because women are inherently better than men but because my male friends in toxic relationships think their total mooch of a gf is just sort of the expected gender dynamic. *rubs chin* hmmm yes, but did you consider the reason we only seem to see this dynamic is because actually all women are alien ghosts who have "scarlet witch" style powers of manipulating statistics so it only SEEMS like--
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Aug 27, 2018 02:55
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dudeness posted:That's what I love about this forum, nobody ever insults Robot Jox. Keeps me from having to spread any hatred whatsoever. Robot Jox is awful...ly fun. I love movies, I love the background stuff that goes into movies, and when I meet someone who loves a movie that I think is terrible, I don't try to talk them out of liking it. Why the hell does it matter if a family has a favorite movie that you think is poo poo? How does that affect someone in any way? That guy is loving stupid. Now if only someone could teach that to the Star Wars nerds.
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Aug 27, 2018 02:56
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Pick posted:*rubs chin* hmmm yes, but did you consider the reason we only seem to see this dynamic is because actually all women are alien ghosts who have "scarlet witch" style powers of manipulating statistics so it only SEEMS like-- I don't wanna get into a huge derail but I just think this is a thing a lot of guys don't talk about because they're sorta socially raised with the idea that they're supposed to be the provider. I know I was in a relationship or two where I didn't think twice about being the "responsible" one because I was happy they were happy and we were happy together, it's only really on hindsight now that I'm in a LTR with someone who would do just fine without me that it's pretty clear how unequal some of my earlier relations were. I see that sorta dynamic in a lot of my male friends too. It's not something I was really socially ingrained to feel as a red flag.
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Aug 27, 2018 03:03
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ArbitraryC posted:I don't wanna get into a huge derail but I just think this is a thing a lot of guys don't talk about because they're sorta socially raised with the idea that they're supposed to be the provider. I know I was in a relationship or two where I didn't think twice about being the "responsible" one because I was happy they were happy and we were happy together, it's only really on hindsight now that I'm in a LTR with someone who would do just fine without me that it's pretty clear how unequal some of my earlier relations were. I see that sorta dynamic in a lot of my male friends too. It's not something I was really socially ingrained to feel as a red flag. EDIT: Usually. Some women might flip it that way.
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Aug 27, 2018 03:07
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PetraCore posted:Yeah but at the same time a lot of guys think it's fine if they're JUST the provider and their partner is basically a domestic serf, not to mention the guys that get threatened because their partner makes more than them. The dynamic you're describing doesn't lead to 'mooches'.
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Aug 27, 2018 03:14
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Maybe it's the cost of living, but the idea that the man is the only breadwinner is basically extinct here.
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what if the woman you've been married to for 20 years takes half of YOUR stuff it's YOUR stuff! just like her, what's my stuff doing, filing for divorce?? what the gently caress?????
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