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My husband (34/m) is about to throw in the towel! I (30/f) can’t allows this to happen!quote:My husband, Mike and I are going through a really hard time.
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 20:37 |
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# ? May 31, 2024 14:19 |
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Mike honestly should have divorced you way back at “lets to into financial debt fo my dui brother” so the fact the story continues is depressing.
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 20:42 |
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Pick posted:Are the olympics happening soon? Or just, like, again Either way the school massively hosed up.
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 20:45 |
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Lol "my husband dislikes that he has to work every waking moment for 8 weeks at a time in the loving mines or something where I wont even send him a flirty text much less respond to him in the few minutes he gets on the surface, and for some reason got even angrier when I suggested leaving my job so he's the only one working????? But I dont WANT to send my grandmother to a facility designed to actually take care of her!!! What can I do????" Please let him go before he loving dies
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 20:51 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:My husband (34/m) is about to throw in the towel! I (30/f) can’t allows this to happen! "We're in crushing debt because I badgered my husband into letting my brother get away with stealing and destroying our vehicle. Now, my husband works sunup to sundown in a harsh environment with no human contact to keep our heads above water. I'm going to quit my job to take care of another relative, and my husband is upset that our already strained finances are going to take another hit while the ten minutes per week that he isn't working and we get to be together are going to evaporate. Please help me convince him to stay without me having to change literally anything at all about my behavior."
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 20:54 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:My husband (34/m) is about to throw in the towel! I (30/f) can’t allows this to happen! comments are great, OP really doubles down on what a saint she is
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 20:57 |
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MrQwerty posted:comments are great, OP really doubles down on what a saint she is My favorite was ‘well, I didn’t think grandma would last this long!’
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:02 |
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How are y'all gonna talk about the comments without posting them. Think of us phoneposters
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:04 |
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Danaru posted:How are y'all gonna talk about the comments without posting them. Think of us phoneposters I gotcha fam. https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/9c851f/my_husband_34m_is_about_to_throw_in_the_towel_i/ Here’s a few: quote:I’d have done same for his family if they need it! quote:I feel like making sure my brother doesn’t end up with felony on his record and my grandmother didn’t end up in hospital home is far more important.
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:08 |
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she doubles down on refusing to even send him a sext text message, literally the least she could do for him while he's in the gulag for two months Jesus christ Mike you are way too loving patient
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:13 |
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Danaru posted:she doubles down on refusing to even send him a sext text message, literally the least she could do for him while he's in the gulag for two months "I am not don't budging on giving Mike sexual attentions, much less any attentions! This will not happen! Tell me how to fix my relationship!"
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:16 |
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Mike is a goddamn saint. Also the OP either speaks english as a second language, or she is intellectually disabled. What a loving mess.
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:21 |
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could be extremely rural
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:26 |
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Maybe, but she specifically doesn't understand grammatic tense which is an extremely common feature of second language speakers. Also, and maybe I'm reaching here, I accept that, but the kind of "family over husband" thing that she's doing is pretty east Asian, where family tends to trump everything. It explains why Mike is at his wit's end and she's like "yeah I know it's hard but that's just how it is".
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:30 |
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So it sounds like Mike's not *leaving her,* but is instead refusing to go back to work on the oil rig/fishing boat/coal mine/whatever loving terrible job he's doing. She's not asking for advice on how to keep him from leaving, but how to get him to go back to this awful, and possibly life threatening, job. He needs to run. This chick gives zero fucks about him and his well-being - psychological and otherwise.
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:30 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:I gotcha fam. You're awesome. Mike is such a saint. If someone stole my car and wrecked it I would help the law come down crazy hard on them. If you're that stupid at 18 your life probably isn't going to turn out all puppies and kittens anyway. Might as well get your first felony before college (lol college who am I kidding.)
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:33 |
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Does she explain why her brother isnt trapped in the mines of grandma, the undying?
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:34 |
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Barudak posted:Does she explain why her brother isnt trapped in the mines of grandma, the undying? From what I could sift from the comments, her mom is taking care of the fuckup brother. She's insistent on taking care on of the grandma because her mom couldn't handle both the brother and the grandma. It's just hosed all around.
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:36 |
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Barudak posted:Does she explain why her brother isnt trapped in the mines of grandma, the undying? She does not, but again, it's very SE Asian. The elder family member goes to live with the family who is best able to take her in. The brother is a total gently caress-up anyways. e: quote:He works in remote harsh area with no contact to civilians. Often working from the moment he is up to the time he go to bed. Um, yeah, he wants to talk to his wife during the 1 hour he gets to be a human being per day. Sorry that this is such a massive burden, to give a flying gently caress about your husband who traded his life away to earn 3x his salary to take care of you and your extended fuckin' family. Meanwhile, all you can do is whine about how hard your life is and how you need to quit working ASAP. Taima fucked around with this message at 21:46 on Sep 2, 2018 |
# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:40 |
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lol she wont even go through the effort of finding like a womens magazine template sext to send to the poor bastard
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:47 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Are they finally going to retire K9 units when drugs are all legalized? I don't know, but are there any statistics on whether or not an officer with a dog partner is as likely to discharge their weapon as an officer with a human partner?
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:48 |
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https://twitter.com/BlondesE/status/1036198924942536705
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:50 |
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tbh I can completely understand being crestfallen at the sudden loss of the 3x normal size bonus paycheck you have to do absolutely nothing for, especially when you were counting on it to basically retire. Dammit Mike you've ruined everything!
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:54 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:Are they finally going to retire K9 units when drugs are all legalized? I had to shoot th suspect, I was backing up a fellow officer and the perp was not complying.
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:55 |
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idk this part doesn't seem so bad, Mike should take her up on itquote:I tried to plead to at least let me do this until end of the year. Then he can leave his job and get something that would allows him to be home everyday even if it means putting my grandmother into a hospital home and me working two jobs.
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:57 |
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Taima posted:She does not, but again, it's very SE Asian. The elder family member goes to live with the family who is best able to take her in. The brother is a total gently caress-up anyways. Is the mom taking care of the brother part of this traditional dynamic? Eventually I think he needs to be cut loose but I realize that's a pretty typical white-American sentiment
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 21:59 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:My [22F] best friend [21F] found out I was sleeping with her little brother, I think she’s going to tell her mom and I don’t know how to explain myself or what to do. What kind of person just casually bangs her best friend's little brother who is also a teenager at age 22? gently caress. I hope she gets arrested.
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 22:04 |
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Anne Whateley posted:idk this part doesn't seem so bad, Mike should take her up on it "If you just keep making yourself miserable for four more months I'll partly undo the bullshit I put you through to no benefit on your part (no I won't)" isn't actually a sweet deal when he can just quit now and tell the OP to go gently caress herself. A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 22:10 on Sep 2, 2018 |
# ? Sep 2, 2018 22:08 |
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QuarkJets posted:Is the mom taking care of the brother part of this traditional dynamic? Eventually I think he needs to be cut loose but I realize that's a pretty typical white-American sentiment If my son was stealing cars and drunkenly crashing them I'd definitely cut him loose. If anything all cultures need to get behind that.
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 22:11 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:My husband (34/m) is about to throw in the towel! I (30/f) can’t allows this to happen! We have found him: the anti-Pete. Just don't let Mike and Pete near each other, they will annihilate r/relationships.
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 23:17 |
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Anne Whateley posted:I don't think she should send nudes, though. Never Send Nudes
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 23:30 |
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quote:I have tried everything I can to make Mike happy this line really gets me. Like she's done literally nothing to make him happy, she's gone against him at every turn and he's sacrificed everything. Even setting aside the whole sexting thing she gives so little of a poo poo about him she doesn't even consistently respond to him in the few hours he has off.
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 23:49 |
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quote:I stopped letting my brother come over. That may doesn’t seems like a big deal, but it was very hard for me to do so. I stopped letting the guy who stole my husband's car come over, and it was SUPER HARD IT WAS SO MUCH TO GIVE UP! And I will totally do this thing I am offering, I'm not trying to hold off until the end of the year just because I think my grandma will die soon and I don't want to put her in a home! Also, I'll take two jobs so we still have no time whatsoever together because I am really good at judging what my husband wants, obviously!
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# ? Sep 2, 2018 23:54 |
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from r/deadbedrooms: Horrible fight last night may have ended my marriage quote:I’ve lurked sub before but I was too afraid to post as the LL one in the relationship.
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# ? Sep 3, 2018 00:20 |
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I too deal with fights with my partner by sleeping it off until morning, but Im in a poly relationship with Jim Beam and Jack Daniels.
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# ? Sep 3, 2018 00:26 |
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Pick posted:there is a simple fix though: get a bracelet that says "WWYD" (meaning "what would you do?") and then whatever it is you think you would do in that situation, the opposite What if you get sued by Marc Summers and Nickelodeon? E: gently caress, a Marc Summers joke was made almost immediately after.
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# ? Sep 3, 2018 00:34 |
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Batterypowered7 posted:What if you get sued by Marc Summers and Nickelodeon? Verily, 'twas the Summers of your discontent.
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# ? Sep 3, 2018 00:37 |
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QuarkJets posted:I don't know, but are there any statistics on whether or not an officer with a dog partner is as likely to discharge their weapon as an officer with a human partner? The K9 cops are the same as the human ones, in terms of rank. They won't go anywhere, because they are too useful in other matters: finding lost kids, taking down suspects (you can't outrun them), locating where the body is buried, and so on. However, stealing and eating a sandwich is a major no-no. A sharp lawyer could get all that dog's drug busts tossed out because it shows the dog is unreliable. I train my own seizure alerting service dogs. Teaching them not to take food is tough, but they eventually get it. Like someone said upthread, the sandwich could have had all kinds of bad things put in it to deliberately hurt or kill the dog. That dog needs refresher training before it really gets hurt.
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# ? Sep 3, 2018 00:38 |
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DACK FAYDEN posted:if you are already married and also your husband is as spineless as hers is it's probably safe to send them to him because he already puts up with so much bullshit what's he gonna do
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# ? Sep 3, 2018 00:47 |
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Please help urgent, I [30f] want to kick out friend [30M] who is visiting because he scared me So what did he do? Place your bets! quote:I have a friend visiting from Europe I’m in America, we are not romantically involved in anyway, I am a Christian and he is a traditional muslim. Today he mentioned one of my iranian friends seeming too westernized, I said people from Iran are all different all are not devout Muslims, some are jewish bahai christian or atheist.
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