snergle posted:

dont children die constantly at disney world? because its built on a swamp full of alligators and kids dont read signs that say dont go over there alligators will eat you. and parents dont gaf

andrew smash posted:

It only happened once in recent memory that I know of, it caused a huge stink and gave rise to twitter's hottest take ever

andrew smash posted:

It only happened once in recent memory that I know of, it caused a huge stink and gave rise to twitter's hottest take ever

LadyPictureShow posted:

What was that hot take?

-All the dumb moms posting pics saying 'My kid was splashing in the water that day too!'

or

-Why let your kid get snatched by a gator at Disney World 'it's not like he's going to remember it!'

andrew smash posted:

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AfricanBootyShine posted:

The family involved got about 1000x the empathy and attention that other high profile deaths were getting at the time, so the pushback was pretty drastic. Standard twitter poo poo.

AfricanBootyShine posted:

The family involved got about 1000x the empathy and attention that other high profile deaths were getting at the time, so the pushback was pretty drastic. Standard twitter poo poo.

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I'm (21F) desperate for advice on an older man i'm seeing, (35 M) of 5 months. Is he taking advantage of my naivety?

To give you guys some context, we both go to the same school. He's a grad student, but not teaching or anything so it doesn't violate any rules. I'm a junior and we graduate the same year. We met last year in the second semester and didn't talk much over the summer as he went back to his home state across the country. We met up for coffee once school started, and he initiated the romantic aspect again. We're both artists. He's Mexican and i'm white. (relevant to some cultural boundaries.)

I'll try to keep this as short as possible but there's a lot on my mind, so sorry in advance for the length. I care for him deeply. I would say i'm falling in love with him. I do a lot for him. When he wakes up in the morning and takes a shower, I have breakfast and coffee ready, I do the dishes, backrubs, dinners, ect. Tons of crazy intense sex. He's very reciprocal in the sense of acts of service to one another and physical aspects, but he's not at all verbal. He doesn't tell me i'm beautiful, how he cares about me, ect. Which isn't a dealbreaker, it just adds to the uncertainty of the situation.

​Last year before I left for the summer, I told him how I felt. How much he meant to me and that I wanted to be with him, that I would wait for him over the summer. He said some things that really hurt. It was a long time ago but a few of the things he said are still with me. He broke up with his last girlfriend a few months prior, and he brought her up, saying he thought she was "the one." And that it was hard to transition into something serious again. Basically the gist of it is that he has feelings for me but he's not ready for a relationship. He did mention it could change, but at the moment he was not ready for anything more serious. He also said he didn't think we would be compatible for a relationship, but I think his reasons were kinda bullshit. I felt like there was more he didn't want to tell me, so he wouldn't hurt my feelings. I wanted to move on, so I cut off contact for the summer.

​I am an insecure person, so the next part is on me, and I realize he's done nothing wrong in this aspect, but it's still hurtful. I saw on his instagram stories him hanging out with a beautiful Mexican woman, going on fun adventures, concerts, ect. all summer. It sucked. One of the reasons he gave me for us not being compatible was that we didn't do much besides cook and watch movies, but it's unfair, because we're in a very small town in northern U.S., there's basically nothing to do, and on top of that we're both committed to our work and can't see each other until late usually anyways. He told me they were just friends, it was just hard to believe. She's so beautiful and they did so much together. This.. is a really silly thing. But it bothers me nonetheless. He doesn't really like my instagram pictures, but I see him liking and commenting on beautiful womens pictures all the time. He may just have a lot of girl friends, but, it's a seed for insecurity. I feel like me being white is a downfall. He's subtly demeaning to white people, and I can't blame him with the political climate, but I won't get into that. It just makes me feel small. I'm just a stupid young white girl, how could I ever compare to the women he knows at home? He has said he hasn't had sex with anyone else all summer. But I still feel like i'm a placeholder. I'm who he has sex with and cuddles when he's lonely, but he could never be serious with someone like me. And if that's true, how could he initiate a romantic relationship again knowing my feelings, knowing i'm going to get hurt again? Is he just using me as a warm body?

​However, things have been great since I've been seeing him. We've had a lot of fun. When I first started seeing him again, I thought it could just be sex or something, and I wouldn't get attached again, but obviously I did. We haven't talked about those issues, though. I've wanted to, but he has a large project he's been working on constantly, and I want to wait until he finishes it because he's so stressed with it, and I don't want to add to it.

​Am I stupid for going back to him after all this? Is it just a lost cause? Would it be worth it to become more serious even if he somehow came around, or should I just drop it? I plan on telling him after his work is done that I can't keep seeing him if there's no way we can work towards something more serious, but even if he wants to, is it worth it after all that?

​It's very hard for me to leave a man once I reach a certain point of attachment, and I've long since reached that with him. Any encouragement or advice on leaving would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much for reading.

TL;DR : I've been seeing an older man for a few months who's got commitment issues; am I stupid for staying?

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am I stupid for staying?

tatterhood posted:

I'm (21F) desperate for advice on an older man i'm seeing, (35 M) of 5 months. Is he taking advantage of my naivety?

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​I am an insecure person,

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​It's very hard for me to leave a man once I reach a certain point of attachment,

Pick posted:

yes. every time its going to be "yes".

Haifisch posted:

Dude knows exactly what he's doing.

Sagebrush posted:

There's a joke college professors sometimes tell:

Q: what's the difference between a high school senior and a college freshman?

A: two months.

andrew smash posted:

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tl;dr: I like to walk for relaxation, and most recently, my husband has started to walk more due to health problems. This causes him to become paranoid and think I am trying to compete with him for x amount of steps. In reality, I do not care, but he still tries to control the amount of steps I get in a day, so he can have more steps then me. Why? I do not know.

So, a little background information to start with that will make sense in a second

I've been married to my husband for 25 years, so I've gotten used to his habits overtime, but I feel like every year they get progressively worse. We have two children (10M & 18M) together. I've always liked to walk ever since I was young and now I (try) to walk around my neighborhood whenever I can (3x a week). My husband has recently, within the last month or so, started walking a lot more and we both use a FitBit to record the amount of steps we've walked. This is where the tension arises.

To start off with, my husband has a few health problems that has made him a lot more health-conscious. His primary doctor told him he needs to lose 40 pounds to maintain a healthy BMI, thus making him want to walk more and get at least 20k steps each day.

The problem is he thinks I am trying to be competitive. For example, I'll walk for an hour during the afternoon and come back usually, However, he'll want to walk with me, but he also likes to talk while we walk. Not to sound harsh or anything, but I am not interested in talking to anyone while I walk. I love listening to the beat of the music while walking and now walking feels like a chore, not a means of relaxation. It doesn't end there though. If he isn't in the mood to walk with me and I want to go walking, he'll tell me to only do x amount of laps. This took me back the first time because who focuses on the amount of laps they're doing? To not piss him off, I did said amount of laps, and came back (about a 20 minute walk.) The thing is he'll go walking after I've finished and stay out as long as he wants (I'm talking an hour, come back for a small break and then walk another hour). That really pissed me the gently caress off. To control how much I've walked, he will tell me that "I'm walking too long" or "I've been out too long." This is becoming too much for me to handle. I don't want an aspect of life that I enjoy to be controlled and monitored like a hawk.

He is also constantly asking what how many steps by FitBit says. I was honest once and said "18k" because I had worked that day and went for a walk to blow off some steam. He went ballistic. "Why are you making this a competition?!," "How did you walk more steps then me?!" (the hypocrisy I swear..), & my favorite, "You know what? I'm going outside for a little while." (which then he come home and report to me that he achieved 20k). Quite frankly, I don't care how many steps he's got in for the day. I walk for pure enjoyment and the constant check-ins are going to make me blow over.

He's gone so far to where if we are walking together, he'll tell me to go back to the house. Excuse me? I kept on walking because I'm not going to let anybody have that kind of control over me. Of course, he tried to guilt trip me and say that my kids feel lonely without me. None of my children have attachment issues, so I'm pretty sure that was another means of control.

Sometimes, if he feels as if I've walked too long already (I have a job that requires me to be on my feet a lot), then he will use the classic, "we don't spend enough time together" line and I feel guilt tripped, therefore I just give up and don't end up walking.

Honestly, I am at my breaking point. I have tried talking to him about it, but it only makes things worse. I feel like I can't do much without being monitored and that sucks! I just really do not know what do about this. Any solution or piece of advice is helpful at this point!

Sorry if this post was all over the place! I'm just really fed up. All replies are appreciated!

Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:

He told her he was still hung up on his ex, that he wasn’t ready for a relationship, that she and he weren’t compatible, anyway, and then spent the the summer sharing photos of himself frolicking on the beach with hot babes. He’s also racist against a group she is a member of. She picked up right where she left off with him, with no changes in that situation. Even from her own, almost certainly romanticized, version, this guy has been very clear about what this relationship is. This is 90% on her.

Still sever.


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I thought the answer would be something like, “8-15 years.”

Pick posted:

I would walk 500 miles, and I would walk 500 more, just to be the man who terrorized my wife and made her life a ceaseless barrage of criticism and pain

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

this made me sad, because up until "life" it works in the rhythm and it worked to sing along

Fatkraken posted:

replacing "ceaseless barrage of criticism and pain" with "chore" fixes the cadence but kinda misses the nuance of the situation

dudeness posted:

He's just trying to get to the finish line of "mid life crisis" before her.

He's gonna end up being one of those fuckin' jacked grey haired dudes you see at the gym with popped out veins over every inch of his body. with a room filled with unused fitness gear

dick wizard posted:

I was unfriended on FB by a woman I went to high school with because I took my family to Disneyland and said I couldn't imagine being there without my kids and she had a mini-meltdown because her and her husband went without kids like two weeks prior. Here's the kicker, she has two Disney aged kids that they intentionally left with her parents so they could go without the hassle of giving their kids a lifelong memory. Like.. what type of loving awful parent goes to Disneyland and leaves their five year old at home?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

buying my (27f) first home, seeking advice navigating finances and cohabitation with boyfriend (36m) - too many secrets - his weird dynamics with a close friend - financial slave/master situation.

Do I just move into my own home without him and break up?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

buying my (27f) first home, seeking advice navigating finances and cohabitation with boyfriend (36m) - too many secrets - his weird dynamics with a close friend - financial slave/master situation.

Incoherence posted:

I can't say I've ever heard of a findom relationship between two middle-aged men before.

dick wizard posted:

I was unfriended on FB by a woman I went to high school with because I took my family to Disneyland and said I couldn't imagine being there without my kids and she had a mini-meltdown because her and her husband went without kids like two weeks prior. Here's the kicker, she has two Disney aged kids that they intentionally left with her parents so they could go without the hassle of giving their kids a lifelong memory. Like.. what type of loving awful parent goes to Disneyland and leaves their five year old at home?