blarzgh posted:

Mordor She Wrote posted:

We can't help that it's funny that he's English

PHIZ KALIFA posted:

your voting history is public knowledge and everyone hates the choices you make.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I've been sleeping with a TA [24M] from one of my classes. I [19F] want to end the FWB relationship but he doesn't.

So this year, I am in a pretty large intro CS class. Large intro classes are usually mostly taught by TAs (teaching assistants) from the grad school, which is how I met "Ian", who is a second-year grad student.

Ian is a very attractive guy and I was pretty much crushing on him after the first week of class. I know a lot of girls & guys who felt the same way so he basically became joke. We would all tease each other and say stuff like, "Oooo, I think he just made eye contact with you." It was all fun and games; I never thought that he would actually have a thing for me.

I'm really guilty since even though I was doing pretty well in the class, I often stopped by after class to ask him for help. He was super sweet and charming, which made me like him even more. We got pretty comfortable with each other and I would say after a month, we were friends.

Then there was one day in September where I was at a local cafe studying when I saw that Ian walked in. At first I was going to try and avoid him, but then he saw me and waved and we exchanged a few words. He took the table next to mine. But, we started chatting some more and he just ended up moving to sit across from me. We probably talked for like three hours and neither of us got any work done. It was around 8pm when he mentioned that he was really hungry and asked if I'd eaten anything yet, which I clearly had not. So he asked me if I wanted to go grab a bite with him at the place next door, which at the time, I thought was a wonderful idea (b/c I was infatuated). So we ate dinner and I could tell he was low-key flirting with me. I think I asked him if he knew all the girls were in love with him and he laughed and said, "are you in love with me too?" and I said "no, you're gross." Then he pouted and acted all sad so I said, "Okay maybe a little bit." And I think that was the beginning of our FWB relationship. He was going to drop me off at my building, but then asked if I wanted to go watch a movie with him. It was like 10pm, but me feeling bold, agreed. We kissed in the movie theater then somehow ended up back at his place where we had sex.

It wasn't weird the next morning, but it was definitely weird the next class. Somehow, I managed to look past it and we kept seeing each other. It's been about a month now and we probably sleep together 2-3 times a week. I haven't told anyone except for my best friend who isn't in the class. She was super against it, but me being all infatuated at the time, reassured her that it was all okay. But it's been a month now and me and her had another long talk about it and I totally feel the severity of it all. She mentioned that it could get me and him into serious trouble, which I agree with but hadn't thought that much about before. Also, I was hit with the realization that I was catching feelings. I spend the weekend mulling over it and decided that I was going to call it quits. So I went over to his place, told him how I'd felt and all of my worries and insecurities about the whole thing. He asked me if the only reason was that I was afraid I would get in trouble and I said pretty much. And then he spend like five minutes assuring me that nothing would happen and that no one would find out and even if they did, he can't get into any trouble because he's a teaching assistant and can just switch to teaching another class. Idk where he's pulling his facts from, but I seriously doubt him. Then he started telling me how much he liked spending time with me and really wants to "see where we go." Since I still have some raging feelings for him, him telling me how he felt made me all weak and I couldn't stand my ground. Then he started kissing me and I gave up on pushing.

The thing is, I don't want to end the relationship, but I think I have to. I'm super conflicted as of right now. Would it work out if we kept seeing each other? If not, how can I be more curt with him next time?

TL;DR: The TA for one of my intro classes and I really clicked. We started sleeping with each other, but I want to end it after thinking about all the repercussions (and I am also catching feelings). He does not and assures that everything will be fine. I am conflicted.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I've been sleeping with a TA [24M] from one of my classes. I [19F] want to end the FWB relationship but he doesn't.

So this year, I am in a pretty large intro CS class. Large intro classes are usually mostly taught by TAs (teaching assistants) from the grad school, which is how I met "Ian", who is a second-year grad student.

El_Elegante posted:

He means party registration. It varies by state but to vote in some primaries you have to have identified your party registration to the state. The actual votes on your ballot are secret.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I've been sleeping with a TA [24M] from one of my classes. I [19F] want to end the FWB relationship but he doesn't.

So this year, I am in a pretty large intro CS class. Large intro classes are usually mostly taught by TAs (teaching assistants) from the grad school, which is how I met "Ian", who is a second-year grad student.

Ian is a very attractive guy and I was pretty much crushing on him after the first week of class. I know a lot of girls & guys who felt the same way so he basically became joke. We would all tease each other and say stuff like, "Oooo, I think he just made eye contact with you." It was all fun and games; I never thought that he would actually have a thing for me.

I'm really guilty since even though I was doing pretty well in the class, I often stopped by after class to ask him for help. He was super sweet and charming, which made me like him even more. We got pretty comfortable with each other and I would say after a month, we were friends.

Then there was one day in September where I was at a local cafe studying when I saw that Ian walked in. At first I was going to try and avoid him, but then he saw me and waved and we exchanged a few words. He took the table next to mine. But, we started chatting some more and he just ended up moving to sit across from me. We probably talked for like three hours and neither of us got any work done. It was around 8pm when he mentioned that he was really hungry and asked if I'd eaten anything yet, which I clearly had not. So he asked me if I wanted to go grab a bite with him at the place next door, which at the time, I thought was a wonderful idea (b/c I was infatuated). So we ate dinner and I could tell he was low-key flirting with me. I think I asked him if he knew all the girls were in love with him and he laughed and said, "are you in love with me too?" and I said "no, you're gross." Then he pouted and acted all sad so I said, "Okay maybe a little bit." And I think that was the beginning of our FWB relationship. He was going to drop me off at my building, but then asked if I wanted to go watch a movie with him. It was like 10pm, but me feeling bold, agreed. We kissed in the movie theater then somehow ended up back at his place where we had sex.

It wasn't weird the next morning, but it was definitely weird the next class. Somehow, I managed to look past it and we kept seeing each other. It's been about a month now and we probably sleep together 2-3 times a week. I haven't told anyone except for my best friend who isn't in the class. She was super against it, but me being all infatuated at the time, reassured her that it was all okay. But it's been a month now and me and her had another long talk about it and I totally feel the severity of it all. She mentioned that it could get me and him into serious trouble, which I agree with but hadn't thought that much about before. Also, I was hit with the realization that I was catching feelings. I spend the weekend mulling over it and decided that I was going to call it quits. So I went over to his place, told him how I'd felt and all of my worries and insecurities about the whole thing. He asked me if the only reason was that I was afraid I would get in trouble and I said pretty much. And then he spend like five minutes assuring me that nothing would happen and that no one would find out and even if they did, he can't get into any trouble because he's a teaching assistant and can just switch to teaching another class. Idk where he's pulling his facts from, but I seriously doubt him. Then he started telling me how much he liked spending time with me and really wants to "see where we go." Since I still have some raging feelings for him, him telling me how he felt made me all weak and I couldn't stand my ground. Then he started kissing me and I gave up on pushing.

The thing is, I don't want to end the relationship, but I think I have to. I'm super conflicted as of right now. Would it work out if we kept seeing each other? If not, how can I be more curt with him next time?

TL;DR: The TA for one of my intro classes and I really clicked. We started sleeping with each other, but I want to end it after thinking about all the repercussions (and I am also catching feelings). He does not and assures that everything will be fine. I am conflicted.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My (23f) boyfriend (29m) starts and escalates feuds with our neighbors.

My boyfriend has a temper, and it extends to situations beyond just the neighbors but this is the best concrete example I can give for this problem. He gets very worked up and agitated by small offenses of others, which is one thing, but he is also not shy about expressing it which is embarrassing at times. Examples include calling out a lady who had a full cart of groceries in the “express lane,” road rage/tailgating/flipping drivers off, and other small things like this.

A neighbor at our old place didn’t pick up after his dogs, and my boyfriend began by trying to talk to him about it, but when that didn’t stop he picked up the poop and flung it on the guys porch and on the guys motorcycle. We have since moved but not after a lot of awkward tension with our neighbors. Now at our new place he has started another feud. A guy down the street walks his dog off leash, and he again tried to tell him to stop before things escalated, but I will mention that when he said he “talked” to them the tone is most likely aggressive/confrontational, and this most recent time with the off leash guy my boyfriend was a little drunk when they talked. I don’t think he’s being as amicable as he thinks he is. Anyways the guy was walking his dog again off leash and my boyfriend confronted him and yelled. He says he’s going to print a stack of leash laws for our city and throw them on his porch (notice a trend)

I am a non-confrontational person and understand not everyone is this way, and its not that these neighbors aren’t in the wrong, I think my boyfriend is correct their behavior is stupid. Its just his reaction and emotional response to me is over the top. He was in a furious mood all morning, snapping at me and being crabby because of the fight with the neighbor. I also feel really awkward walking around knowing theres a feud going on and dont know whether I’m supposed to act cold to this guy as well. I tel him I support him because I don't want to catch any of the heat and feel like its my job as his gf. But I don’t understand why he can’t just let this stuff go? Am I being unfair and his reactions are within normal and acceptable? I need some perspective.

TL;DR Boyfriend gets very angry when neighbors act in a way he doesn’t like and responds in way I think is over the top and gets very worked up and agitated over it. Don’t know whether I should continue to keep my mouth shut or try to curb this for the sake of peace in the neighborhood

Edit: forgot to say we’ve been together a bit over a year. Also in response to a couple of comments he has never turned this anger against me in this same aggressive way, and for some reason our arguments or every day things I do that annoy him don’t trigger his temper the same way strangers do, but I will be on high alert for signs of him turning on me as others suggest.

fspades posted:

Hold on, what?? You don't have secret ballots? That is extremely open to abuse, how the hell that survived to year 2018?

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My (23f) boyfriend (29m) starts and escalates feuds with our neighbors.

fspades posted:

Oh that makes more sense, though I think it's still saner for party registration info to be internal to parties and not be public at all, to prevent things like this.

My Linux Rig posted:

idk angry dudes are legit terrible but the two examples this lady gave makes me wish he was my neighbor

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

It's right there on the voter card in states like Maryland, but uh any information the Democratic party knows anyone who wants to is gonna know within minutes.

MarcusSA posted:

My only real take away from this is that I love the term "catching feelings". Like lol having feelings for someone is just so wrong.

I dunno but if they like each other I kinda don't see the issue

Xenocides posted:

Yeah, he is an rear end in a top hat but he seems to use his powers for good instead of evil.

fspades posted:

Oh that makes more sense, though I think it's still saner for party registration info to be internal to parties and not be public at all, to prevent things like this.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

there's been a whole thing on Twitter in the last couple weeks of definitely real and sincere accounts telling Texas Democrats to post pictures of themselves with their filled ballots "to stop the ballot machines from miscounting your vote" and I can only assume there's a pogrom acomin

fspades posted:

Hold on, what?? You don't have secret ballots? That is extremely open to abuse, how the hell that survived to year 2018?

Khazar-khum posted:

I still call BS because I can't believe there's an entire building in NYC that's Republican.

Khazar-khum posted:

There's a book that has to be placed outside the Polling Place where the poll workers mark off who has & hasn't voted. That list shows your name, address, and party affiliation. As you can probably imagine, people watch these lists and start calling to see if you need a ride to the polls, etc. This is legal, at least in California.

But they can't ask for ID because that's 'racist'.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

there's been a whole thing on Twitter in the last couple weeks of definitely real and sincere accounts telling Texas Democrats to post pictures of themselves with their filled ballots "to stop the ballot machines from miscounting your vote" and I can only assume there's a pogrom acomin

je1 healthcare posted:

More specifically, they can't ask for non-required forms of ID after registering, because it might turn away legitimate voters. Republican superpacs have already been caught planting "Remember to present your drivers license at the polling place!" billboards in heavily-minority neighborhoods. It's a seemingly innocuous request, except in states when drivers licenses aren't required to vote and the signs only serve to mislead legitimate voters into thinking that they can't vote without one. This is by design.

Voter ID laws in particular are considered "racist" because they demand a specific type of government-sanctioned photo ID that poor people/minorities are least likely to possess, despite them already being registered voters and having proven themselves by presenting a birth certificate and other documents at the time of registration. The purpose is to stop 'voter fraud', but voter fraud is already super-rare and voter ID laws can only stop one specific form of voter fraud. Specifically, in-person voter fraud. Virtually nobody commits voter fraud by physically going to a polling place, claiming to be someone else on the voter roll, praying that the person didn't already vote, cast one vote, and then getting back in line to do it again.

Anyway, California poll workers can request (non-photo) IDs from first-time voters

therobit posted:

Ballot selfies taken during in person voting in Texas are illegal, although no criminal penalty is written into the law. They can apparently get you kicked out of the polling station which I would guess is why someone is encouraging Democrats to do it.

Pick posted:

We need closed ballot so our husbands don't beat us when we vote for children to have food

therobit posted:

Ballot selfies taken during in person voting in Texas are illegal, although no criminal penalty is written into the law. They can apparently get you kicked out of the polling station which I would guess is why someone is encouraging Democrats to do it.

Pick posted:

We need closed ballot so our husbands don't beat us when we vote for children to have food

fspades posted:

Hold on, what?? You don't have secret ballots? That is extremely open to abuse, how the hell that survived to year 2018?

Pick posted:

We need closed ballot so our husbands don't beat us when we vote for children to have food

Pick posted:

We need closed ballot so our husbands don't beat us when we vote for children to have food

Ziv Zulander posted:

Cats are disloyal assholes, that's part of the appeal

Khazar-khum posted:

The laws must have changed, because when I worked the polls we could never, ever, ask for ID. Period.

People can and do vote in the wrong precinct. When that happens they're given a provisional ballot. Those are counted along with the mailed ballots. There was one Persian family in our precinct that had to vote like that. The old man was very nice; he just liked being able to vote without fear.