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Niece (15F) threatening to call CPS because she and her father (35M) got into a fight about her Youtube videos; me, aunt, (28F) trying to help calm waters. This all happened a few nights ago and our family is pretty rocked by all this. My niece Ella makes ASMR videos and seems to put a lot of effort into them. I honestly don't know anything about video production or editing or creating followers so I won't pretend to know, but I do know that this is her hobby and she has fun with it. I also do know what ASMR is and she has shown me some of her videos (all tame stuff.) My brother is a little bit older but pretty technologically behind. He know Youtube has videos. That's about it. The other night, Ella was in the middle of filming one of her videos which was an ASMR makeup video. Her dad walked in on this and saw her getting really close to her camera, in a sort of low tank top, whispering and wearing more makeup than usual. That was all he needed to know, apparently. He interrupted her filming, got in her face, started yelling at her about doing inappropriate things online, slammed his fist down on her table, breaking a lot of her makeup (like eyeshadows and blush), asking her repeatedly who she was talking to, do you know what kind of perverts and creeps are out there, and during this whole time, Ella is trying to explain (and failing) what ASMR is. She says, "dad, you are overreacting, get the gently caress out of my face" at which point, her dad shoves/smacks her shoulder pretty hard and tells her to never speak to him like that. Oh, and this is all being filmed. Basically, long story short, Ella realizes later in the evening that this was all recorded and when her dad came into her room to talk after calming down, she put her hand up and said "If you come into my room again or say anything to me ever again, I'm going to put this online and let everyone know what a jerk you are, and I'm going to call CPS and I'll have proof you hurt me." He tried to apologize and tell her to calm down but by this point she is screaming and stomping her foot, saying the same thing "I'm going to post this online and call CPS! Don't talk to me ever again!" Ella and I are closer than she is to her dad so her dad called me and told me everything that happened, hopefully so I can reason with her. She hasn't picked up any of my calls or texts. My brother is freaking out and I am also worried about her. This was Sunday night and it's now Tuesday night, and she is just stone-silent towards him, unresponsive with me. Is there really anything we can do? Her dad wants to apologize and talk to her (as I've explained to him how loving stupid he was for rushing to conclusions and hurting her feelings like that, also pushing her). He has been fighting with her more often lately and I have suggested counseling for them more than once. This is obviously the tipping point for them. Can I do anything? Can I coach my brother right now on anything, if she does decide to open up? TLDR: Niece makes ASMR videos, her dad walked in on her making one and thought she was doing something sexual or inappropriate, lost his poo poo, pushed her, argued with her, all the while, she was still recording. She now refuses to talk to him and when he tries, she threatens to call CPS and also post this fighting video online. What can I do to help?
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a youtube celeb who's generous and actually has enough social awareness to realize it's not something you wanna lead with in the dating scene might as well be a unicorn
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Nov 14, 2018 04:10
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My [M30] family hit my fiance's car [F30] and didn't say a thing to her, I did to them and now it's turning ridiculous. My fiance and I went to visit my family an hour away for my niece's birthday. My brother in law went to get the cake from Publix and hit my fiance's car causing a small scratch (nothing serious that we want compensation for). I was waiting for my brother in law to tell her but he didn't so by the end of the night I had to tell her herself. When we get to the car she was upset that he didn't tell her anything. I called him and told him hey can you call my fiance and just like apologize or something, just to show regret and all. He goes all angry at me that since we are getting married it is technically my car and that he already told "us" by telling me. I told him that is not the same, she bought the car before we got together and also she is its sole driver. My brother in law is all upset about how I made him do it and my fiance is calling me a bad fiance for not listening to her when she said not say a thing. I wanted for my family to just say hey we're sorry didn't mean to as in show some f'ing regret about this whole thing. Did I do something wrong here? I understand she doesn't want to ruin the dynamic between them but jesus man you hit her drat car, least you can do is say sorry to the owner. tl;dr Brother in law hit my fiance's car, didn't apologize, I made him, fiance is upset with me.
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Nov 14, 2018 04:11
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:wait forget about that other one lol quote:We're in our mid-twenties in a big city known for night life, so forgoing that is a big deal because there's really not that much other stuff to do here besides going to restaurants and bars. jfc I know Redditors are all dumber than a box of rocks but sometimes the reality of it just hits you A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 04:29 on Nov 14, 2018 |
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Nov 14, 2018 04:26
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LabyaMynora posted:Let's assume for a moment that the claim really says "age discrimination." Would a lawyer really put that together for the guy? Could a lawyer face penalties for putting something together like that - like, from the Bar or whatever? as a rule of thumb, you can always find a lawyer somewhere scummy/dumb enough to file drat near anything, but it would be really hard, and while its not super likely the bar would get involved, its technically possible. More likely would be sanctions (money penalty) against the plaintiff.
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Nov 14, 2018 05:02
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Niece (15F) threatening to call CPS because she and her father (35M) got into a fight about her Youtube videos; me, aunt, (28F) trying to help calm waters. but aren't these for people to jack off to??
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Nov 14, 2018 05:06
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it sounds more like the lawyer didn't file poo poo and just coached the guy/drafted a scary letter, the latter of which probably still isn't super ethical but nobody's gonna give a poo poo
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Nov 14, 2018 05:11
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blarzgh posted:but aren't these for people to jack off to?? Ostensibly, no. Realistically, yes
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Nov 14, 2018 05:19
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Roommate (30sM) of 3 years says he's 'feeling rapey', what to do? Swat this loving loser and if the cops don't kill him do it yourself.
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Nov 14, 2018 05:25
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blarzgh posted:but aren't these for people to jack off to?? not all are but in this situation it absolutely is j/o fodder for pedophiles, even if the 15 year old herself isn't aware of it
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Nov 14, 2018 05:26
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Roommate (30sM) of 3 years says he's 'feeling rapey', what to do? He's gonna end up wearing her skin if she doesn't book it out of there.
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Nov 14, 2018 05:27
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blarzgh posted:but aren't these for people to jack off to?? bell jar posted:Ostensibly, no. Realistically, yes Brother Entropy posted:not all are but in this situation it absolutely is j/o fodder for pedophiles, even if the 15 year old herself isn't aware of it Welp, there are a few ASMR recordings in my meditation app for sleep time relaxation. They don't do whatever they are supposed to do for me, but it never occurred to me that it was a sexual thing....
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Nov 14, 2018 05:42
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Xik posted:Welp, there are a few ASMR recordings in my meditation app for sleep time relaxation. They don't do whatever they are supposed to do for me, but it never occurred to me that it was a sexual thing.... do you also have this in your mediation queue https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6doTovKpPcA
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Nov 14, 2018 05:48
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:do you also have this in your mediation queue Amazing. 
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Nov 14, 2018 05:54
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:do you also have this in your mediation queue No sound!!!??
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Nov 14, 2018 05:55
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:do you also have this in your mediation queue I'm probably on some kind of list now and I still don't understand asmr.
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Nov 14, 2018 05:57
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Beachcomber posted:I'm probably on some kind of list now and I still don't understand asmr. It's about pretending to have friends.
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Nov 14, 2018 06:03
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Xik posted:Amazing. Goddamnit. The Velveteen Rabbit? They couldn’t leave that one alone?
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Nov 14, 2018 06:29
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LabyaMynora posted:Why the gently caress are they calling their 2 year old daughter by her middle name instead of her first name? Why didn't they just make her middle name her first name if that's what they were going to call her?
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Nov 14, 2018 06:41
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:do you also have this in your mediation queue what this is what people get  to?
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Nov 14, 2018 06:51
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When I see people who call their baby by their middle name, it's almost always been because they named their kid after someone but wanted to call their kid something else. I guess it's more of an honor to get the kid named after you if it's their first name, I dunno.
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Nov 14, 2018 08:19
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I've got a brother where they were calling him by his middle name even before he was born. His first name's a bit dumb while his middle name is common. I don't get it either.
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Nov 14, 2018 10:37
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Me (33M) - Finance (31F); Pregnancy causing huge issues and I am on the verge of a break down.quote:Looking for advice or maybe just a place to vent. I was in the grocery store today and caught myself about to have a panic attack and start crying. Just looking for some words of encouragement or advice as needed. But what are they going to name the baby?!
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Nov 14, 2018 11:04
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quote:has a 6 year old and we chatted for about 2 weeks before meeting up for the first time. To make this a bit shorter we fell head over heels for each other. We hung out about for 2-3 weekends then I eventually met her daughter who I love to death. Then started going to her place for Thurs-Sun then coming back to come to work. Fast forward a month or so and since I work in IT I was allowed to be a full time remote worker so I moved in. Everything has been doing well, alot of fun and memories trips together and our family unit is pretty strong. She has a pretty checkered past, used to be a stripper, dated older guys like 45+ and was on/off again with her ex husband for about 10 years. I was the first different guy for her, smart, nerdy, funny, sweet, affectionate etc everything that she wanted. Fast forward another month and we talking about getting engaged and even having a kid. I need a  that expands to infinity
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Nov 14, 2018 12:52
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Midnight Voyager posted:When I see people who call their baby by their middle name, it's almost always been because they named their kid after someone but wanted to call their kid something else. I guess it's more of an honor to get the kid named after you if it's their first name, I dunno. Most people I've known who go by their middle name do so because they hate their first name.
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Nov 14, 2018 13:35
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tactlessbastard posted:I need a
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Nov 14, 2018 13:59
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He works in IT.
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Nov 14, 2018 14:05
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Midnight Voyager posted:When I see people who call their baby by their middle name, it's almost always been because they named their kid after someone but wanted to call their kid something else. I guess it's more of an honor to get the kid named after you if it's their first name, I dunno. My parents did this to me. It's a minor inconvenience. I've given them plenty of poo poo for it over the years, but I'm too lazy to actually change it now. The middle name thing used to make it really easy to sniff out telemarketers, but now they're all obvious robots.
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Nov 14, 2018 14:25
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My stepdad insists on calling my son by his initials because it was his idea - his initials rhyme with our last name and my moron stepdad thinks is the funniest thing ever - despite the fact that he's almost 7 and nobody else calls him that. He thinks my son's nickname is "a girl's name" (it's gender neutral I guess but I know more boys that use it than girls). He's in his 70s and I don't want to get into a fight with a MAGA dickhole on Chantix so I'm just gonna let it go until he dies
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Nov 14, 2018 14:32
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I guess I shouldn't express naming opinions after I let my wife name a girl Agatha.
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Nov 14, 2018 14:35
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MightyJoe36 posted:Most people I've known who go by their middle name do so because they hate their first name. It is just basic sense to keep enemies from learning your truename, and thus gaining power over you
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Nov 14, 2018 14:38
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tactlessbastard posted:I guess I shouldn't express naming opinions after I let my wife name a girl Agatha. I'm pretty sure that's a real name so you can continue to dunk on Jynesys or whatever
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Nov 14, 2018 14:51
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tactlessbastard posted:I guess I shouldn't express naming opinions after I let my wife name a girl Agatha. What are you complaining about, that's an awesome name!
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Nov 14, 2018 15:07
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LabyaMynora posted:poo poo, Monster Energy drinks alone will probably cause afib. A Monster is same caffeine as a cup of coffee. It's really not a big deal unless you're drinking 6 cans a day or something.
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Nov 14, 2018 15:43
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Slightly old-fashioned names don't even register except among the most pedantic compared to the monstrosities middle class white people come up with.
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Nov 14, 2018 15:46
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When we got to start picking names I had to explain to my wife that with her new last name that starts with an "S", first names that end with "Ess" sound are all pretty much off the table because they end up running together and sounding like some weird european sports car.
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Nov 14, 2018 16:02
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Yeah it blows
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Nov 14, 2018 16:06
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And theres lots of reasons to go with middle names, i.e. we've agreed in advance that our next boy will take wife's maiden name as their first name and will go by their middle name. Also naming a kid is a goddamn sudoku puzzle of names you like and your partner hates, names that are easy to make fun of, names your partner likes and you hate, and especially names of people you hate. Its a great way to make a register of people you don't like lol.
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Nov 14, 2018 16:08
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MightyJoe36 posted:Most people I've known who go by their middle name do so because they hate their first name. That's why I do it. I grew to hate it in J.R. high/HS because to differentiate me from another girl with the same name my classmates put the suffix -Guy onto my name. She got no suffix or -girl added to hers, because I was 'less feminine'.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:What are you complaining about, that's an awesome name! I don't mind it but we get a lot of weird looks about it.
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