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Smirking_Serpent posted:Is it wrong for my [29F] boyfriend [30F] to masturbate to a co-worker [20sF] he has a crush on? This is a testable hypothesis.
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Radio Silence until 3am after work party from girlfriend. My (28m) girlfriend (32f) of three years hosted a murder mystery work event before Christmas and told me she’d be home a little later (she’s usually at our shared home by 6:30). I got drunk texts at 10:15 pm - presumably after the main event, but the party/drinking still going — where she told me she was crying and losing it and I tried to console her. Then I got nothing until 3am when she picked up the phone and said she is still there and sounded incredibly drunk. In addition to her working with a mostly male sales team, her ex-boyfriend also works there. Am I crazy, or should she have texted to tell me she was staying out and that she was ok? Tdlr: Girlfriend out at work party, potentially with ex, until 3am without communication.
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Dec 16, 2018 09:09
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Radio Silence until 3am after work party from girlfriend. I'm glad the comments on this one are reaming him for not picking her up or really being concerned for her safety. What a jackass
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Dec 16, 2018 10:12
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Whyyy would you tell your girlfriend that you jack it to a coworker. “These are private thoughts” so keep them private you dingo.
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Dec 16, 2018 10:13
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Switchback posted:Whyyy would you tell your girlfriend that you jack it to a coworker. “These are private thoughts” so keep them private you dingo. Yeah, like why mention ever? EVER? There is literally not a single good outcome of that
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Dec 16, 2018 10:16
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Switchback posted:Whyyy would you tell your girlfriend that you jack it to a coworker. “These are private thoughts” so keep them private you dingo. So that the threesome proposal doesn't come out of left field, of course.
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Dec 16, 2018 10:17
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Batterypowered7 posted:So that the threesome proposal doesn't come out of left field, of course.
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Dec 16, 2018 10:25
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Xik posted:There is an update to the dude that overheard his fiance say her ex was the best. Going back to this one for a sec... It's kinda a shame that we put so much stock in sex-having skill and so little, relatively, in all the other things that make someone a great person. So her Ex was better at sex, so what, she's with YOU even though you're just Quite Good at sex, that means you're clearly still a better catch overall. Sexing is only a small part of your value as a person. Thinking that you have to literally be the best EVER at sex for a person to want to be with you is kinda a sad situation. Not saying it's the guy's fault for being upset or that the girl wasn't being a douche expressing it semi publicly, it's a society/culture thing and she should have known better. But accepting that it's OK to not be the greatest/richest/fastest/smartest/prettiest person in the world and that you still have inherent value and are worthy of love is kinda and important part of growing up as a person and finding inner peace.
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Dec 16, 2018 10:32
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Fatkraken posted:But accepting that it's OK to not be the greatest/richest/fastest/smartest/prettiest person in the world and that you still have inherent value and are worthy of love is kinda and important part of growing up as a person and finding inner peace. Haha, jokes on you mister! I actually suck all the way down! Just a real dingbat. An absolute emotional cretin.
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Dec 16, 2018 11:00
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darkwasthenight posted:Haha, jokes on you mister! I actually suck all the way down! Just a real dingbat. An absolute emotional cretin. and have you made peace with that fact?
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Dec 16, 2018 11:03
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Fatkraken posted:Going back to this one for a sec... The ex-boyfriend dumped her and the new guy was literally told he was a rebound when they started dating.
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Dec 16, 2018 11:30
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CheesyDog posted:The ex-boyfriend dumped her and the new guy was literally told he was a rebound when they started dating. yeah the trick to being a good rebound is to be a better gently caress than the last guy.
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Dec 16, 2018 11:48
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It's also okay to not be okay with being the backup plan. I spent way too long pining over a girl before I realized she only stayed friends with me because I was the emergency relationship (break glass) in case all her other prospects didn't pan out.
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Dec 16, 2018 11:49
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (F17) aunt (F40) impulse bought a photo booth for $7000 and wants me to run her business which she hasn't planned for yet. Ok this is kind of crazy but I saw an interview in the USPol thread recently of some voter outreach and registration guy having an extended encounter with a lady in a panda who was an Obama Trump voter and was extremely stupid. Anyone else remember this? Same woman? Edit: I tried to find the Twitter thread and apparently "Panda Onesie" is a thing and often nsfw as gently caress. Learn something new every day John Wick of Dogs fucked around with this message at 12:46 on Dec 16, 2018 |
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Dec 16, 2018 12:38
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bubblebee posted:29F, I lost my boyfriend to MGTOW Lol, at least the young MGTOWs remove themselves from the gene pool.
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Dec 16, 2018 14:16
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (F17) aunt (F40) impulse bought a photo booth for $7000 and wants me to run her business which she hasn't planned for yet. She paid $7k for a photo booth with none of the functional pieces? What DID it come with? The curtain?
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Dec 16, 2018 14:23
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I’m convinced this random girl on IG is my boyfriend’s soulmatequote:So....yeah. The title kind of says it all. 
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Dec 16, 2018 14:26
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If you continue to do something while saying "I know its crazy" you objectively dont know that its crazy
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Dec 16, 2018 15:19
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CheesyDog posted:The ex-boyfriend dumped her and the new guy was literally told he was a rebound when they started dating. ah I skimmed that bit, fair play, yeah guy should defo not be with her. In the general case though it still applies
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Dec 16, 2018 15:36
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (F17) aunt (F40) impulse bought a photo booth for $7000 and wants me to run her business which she hasn't planned for yet. Uhhhh, maybe try asking him for help anyway and see what happens? This isn't a fuckin sitcom.
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Dec 16, 2018 15:38
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andrew smash posted:She paid $7k for a photo booth with none of the functional pieces? What DID it come with? The curtain? Yeah, uh, what? You can charge people $7k for wooden boxes now?
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Dec 16, 2018 16:24
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what kinda photobox needs a huge tv and a laptop? the only type i know about are the small ones you can use for passport photos and such
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Dec 16, 2018 16:27
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datajugend posted:what kinda photobox needs a huge tv and a laptop? the only type i know about are the small ones you can use for passport photos and such And a camera and a printer. I want to meet the person who sold it to her because drat they are a hustler
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Dec 16, 2018 16:30
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It's actually just a port-a-john somebody painted purple
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Dec 16, 2018 16:36
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datajugend posted:what kinda photobox needs a huge tv and a laptop? the only type i know about are the small ones you can use for passport photos and such The kind you use for weddings and stuff. I had one at mine and it looked something like this. 
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Dec 16, 2018 17:12
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Forget the photo booth, how do I book that smoke monster in the cool hat?
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Dec 16, 2018 17:21
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Pirate Radar posted:Yeah, uh, what? You can charge people $7k for wooden boxes now? Not people. Soldiers. Barudak posted:I want to meet the person who sold it to her because drat they are a hustler Go to the businesses around any military base and take your pick if you want to meet hustlers.
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Dec 16, 2018 17:51
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i built a photo booth for an event out of a raspberry pi, the official camera module, a monitor from the thrift store and a spare printer that everyone has in a closet somewhere. it used free software and cost about fifty bucks before building the structure. Fatkraken posted:Going back to this one for a sec... people are not logical emotionless robots who think of their relationships in terms of average utility or whatever, you dumbass. "beep boop. my fiancee told others that my dick is small and her ex was a better lover but that i still have many useful features such as being a good listener and making money. my utility quotient is 0.783 while her ex's quotient is only 0.729. conclusion: i have no reason to feel bad. beep boop" also there's a tremendous difference between accepting that someone else in the world has a bigger dick or more money than you, and hearing your partner tell her friends that her ex's dick was bigger and that he was a better lover because of it. jesus christ.
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Dec 16, 2018 17:58
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LadyPictureShow posted:I’m aware of how fuckin crazy this is. I don’t know how to get it out of my head. ASK A THERAPIST
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Dec 16, 2018 18:23
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Switchback posted:Whyyy would you tell your girlfriend that you jack it to a coworker. “These are private thoughts” so keep them private you dingo. There are a lot of folks who seem to confuse the advice of "be honest with your partner" with "go buckwild and give them every nitty gritty detail of your sexual history/porn fantasies/contents of your spank bank". It's okay to keep some poo poo to yourself jfc
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Dec 16, 2018 19:13
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Barudak posted:And a camera and a printer. She got a discount deal with the panda suit included
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Dec 16, 2018 19:14
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Dr. Video Games 0135 posted:There are a lot of folks who seem to confuse the advice of "be honest with your partner" with "go buckwild and give them every nitty gritty detail of your sexual history/porn fantasies/contents of your spank bank". It's okay to keep some poo poo to yourself jfc It doesn't pop up much, but it's always amazing when it does.
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Dec 16, 2018 19:19
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dudeness posted:This is a testable hypothesis. Oh hey, didn't see you there, partner of mine. Just got done fingering myself to Mark from Accounting. Just had like 46 orgasms, it was great, really making me rethink everything, good thing we're totally cool with that or it would be super awkward. Really dodged a bullet on that one. Completely unrelated, I'm going to refer to you as Mark from now on
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Dec 16, 2018 19:36
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Taima posted:Oh hey, didn't see you there, partner of mine. Just got done fingering myself to Mark from Accounting. Just had like 46 orgasms, it was great, really making me rethink everything, good thing we're totally cool with that or it would be super awkward. Really dodged a bullet on that one. Completely unrelated, I'm going to refer to you as Mark from now on Let's open the masturbationship.
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Dec 16, 2018 20:18
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Sagebrush posted:people are not logical emotionless robots who think of their relationships in terms of average utility or whatever, you dumbass. "beep boop. my fiancee told others that my dick is small and her ex was a better lover but that i still have many useful features such as being a good listener and making money. my utility quotient is 0.783 while her ex's quotient is only 0.729. conclusion: i have no reason to feel bad. beep boop" I know this, hence the bolded bit. And I already walked back on the specific situation.
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Dec 16, 2018 21:33
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Doc Hawkins posted:ASK Have you actually talked to a therapist before, and did you find it useful?
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Dec 16, 2018 21:54
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Miserable Maid posted:I'm glad the comments on this one are reaming him for not picking her up or really being concerned for her safety. What a jackass honestly she had prolly already cheated on him at that point in the convo.
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Dec 16, 2018 22:05
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The Ferret King posted:Have you actually talked to a therapist before, and did you find it useful? Yes and yes but you sometimes have to shop around. There are a lot of bad therapists out there.
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Dec 16, 2018 22:17
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Sagebrush posted:people are not logical emotionless robots who think of their relationships in terms of average utility or whatever, you dumbass. "beep boop. my fiancee told others that my dick is small and her ex was a better lover but that i still have many useful features such as being a good listener and making money. my utility quotient is 0.783 while her ex's quotient is only 0.729. conclusion: i have no reason to feel bad. beep boop" Yeah I can totally understand being very hurt and upset, but your relationship completely falling apart just seems... extreme and unhealthy. I'm not even assigning blame to the guy in this specific scenario, the whole point is that society has instilled these hosed up values in him and all the rest of us and I don't like it.
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Dear Prudence posted:Q. My family abandoned me for undermining their racist plot: My family is racist. You probably get that a lot. When I was 15 I overheard my aunt refer to her neighbors as the “n—ers across the street.” She described how they had asked her to house-sit while they were on vacation, and she was planning on hiding drugs in the house and calling 911 so they would be evicted and she wouldn’t have to see them anymore. I also went to school with their daughters and we spent a lot of time together. For weeks I struggled over what to do, when by chance I ended up getting a ride from the woman across the street—she was worried about my riding my bike in the dark. So I spilled everything. The next day she confronted my aunt and unfortunately for me, used my name. I was kicked out of my home. I have spent every holiday for the past 10 years alone. My entire family dropped me and while they maintain some contact, it’s always been pretty clear I am no longer fully welcome. I am angry at my family for being crappy most of all, and at the mother who could’ve simply found another house-sitter or at least considered what might happen to me when she named me. Therapy has not helped. I often question whether I did the right thing at all. I have no family left and feel very alone. Did I choose wrong? How do I move past this?
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