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MarcusSA
Sep 23, 2007

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for not letting my wife name our kid after her childhood dog?

Edit: Since it was deemed relevant by many (and my wife isn’t on Reddit anyway) it’s Lulu.

FFX was p. awesome.

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Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

AITA for asking for my money back after my friend sold me unmedicated weed gummies?

I received a text yesterday from my friend, asking if I want to buy some homemade medicated* gummies for $5/gummy. Normally I’d laugh my rear end to the dispensary and pick up a pack of watermelon smokies for $23, but she’s fallen on really hard times after losing her job due to chronic illness and then her husband surprising her with divorce papers right after. So I said what the heck, why not. Support a friend, get good product (and hers are usually great), so why not? I said I’d go for 10 gummies for $100.

When I got to her place to pick them up, she brought the bag out and I looked over the product. They looked good, just like all her others. I paid her the money and headed back home to try them.

My first clue that something was off was that they didn’t taste like weed oil at all. But I pushed that aside and happily popped another in my mouth and waited for the fun.

Except the party never came. After an hour and a half, I didn’t feel the slightest difference. I thought to myself, maybe it’s because my tolerance is so high. So I tried 3 more and waited another hour and a half. Nada.

I texted my friend and asked what the dose was for each gummy. That’s when she broke the news that they’re “unmedicated testers”. I said “wait a minute... you sold me unmedicated tester gummies for $100?” She replied with “oh sorry I probably should have mentioned that. But to be fair you never asked so it’s just miscommunication lol”. I replied “miscommunication my rear end, I tried to do you a solid by paying way too much for these to begin with but now I’m finding out they’re not even medicated and you just didn’t bother to tell me while gladly accepting my money? That’s not miscommunication, that’s fraud and I want my money back.” She said “sorry I already spent it on groceries and I can’t afford to pay you back.”

So basically I’m out $100. I feel bad because I know she’s been really struggling, but she swindled me and I feel like she’s using her bad circumstances as an excuse. I’m getting a lot of poo poo from mutual friends saying how bad a place she’s in right now and how we should be supporting her as she’s trying to get back on her feet, but I’d have happily floated her some cash if she’d just asked. And I have no legal options for obvious reasons. I’m really upset and may be losing several friends because of this.

AITA for getting angry and asking for my money back even though I know she can’t afford it?

EDITTED* she asked if I wanted to buy gummies, she never said they were medicated. I just thought it was a given.

a commenter had to point out to OP that they overpaid twice as much for duds

dudeness
Mar 5, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
Fallen Rib
Why would you tell them you're the video maker though?

Now you have to go into a Shitness Protection Program.

Play
Apr 25, 2006

Strong stroll for a mangy stray

MarcusSA posted:

No gently caress that people who don't pick up their dogs poo poo are terrible people nearly as bad as smokers who throw their butts on the ground when they are done. Nuke her lease who cares.

wrong, the world should be covered in poo poo so that it looks and smells like what it is

Rubellavator
Aug 16, 2007

13Pandora13 posted:

You are completely missing the point. Immigrant women being forced into sexual slavery in the US is such a well-known thing it was a major plot point of an incredibly well known/well regarded/massively watched series in 2003.

Yeah but then there's also poo poo like this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HzJpD4B4ETY

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender
Entire company blacklisted from restaurant delivery

quote:

This is not a huge matter, but it has sparked a lot of conversation at work and everyone is curious at how legit this is.

About 6 months ago a pizzeria blacklisted our entire 350+ employee company from ordering from their restaurant for delivery. This was following a single new employee having an issue with the restaurant overcharging him and refusing to refund. He gave them a negative review on Yelp and the owner called him and threatened him to take it down, asking where he lived, etc. Classic hothead crazy restaurant owner stuff.

After that not a single person calling for delivery to our company receives service. The person taking the orders says the manager won't let them place an order for our location anymore. Further, if you've ever ordered to our location and you call for delivery elsewhere you are also blacklisted. In other words, when they pull your phone number up for the order, if you have our workplace address in the system you are part of the blacklist.​

I know that restaurant owners have certain powers to refuse service, but this seems so arbitrary and broad that it is totally insane. I mean, the restaurant is really punishing themselves because they are losing a significant chunk of business- many of our employees order here on Fridays religiously for decades. Also, there is no recourse i would actually want to pursue, because who wants to force a restaurant to make your food. Wouldn't trust the quality.

I'm more interested in what this means and if they even have a right to do something so arbitrary. Thanks!

DeadMansSuspenders
Jan 10, 2012

I wanna be your left hand man

Haifisch posted:

AITA for drinking out of my coworker's "World's Greatest Dad Mug"?

Lol you should know it's mine because of the caption! I am the world's greatest dad!

Play
Apr 25, 2006

Strong stroll for a mangy stray

Haifisch posted:

Entire company blacklisted from restaurant delivery

Am I missing something? They won't give refunds, the owner stalks bad yelp reviewers, why the hell would you want to endorse this business with your hard earned money after learning of all of that

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Play posted:

Am I missing something? They won't give refunds, the owner stalks bad yelp reviewers, why the hell would you want to endorse this business with your hard earned money after learning of all of that

Imprisoned by the good pizza

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

WIBTA for telling my roommate I don't like the guy she's dating, cause he's into Loli porn?

So my roommate has just been on a date with this guy, and she seems really happy, so i'm glad for her.

She told me all about this amazing art he draws and how talented he is, so i asked her if i could see his art one day since it sounded really interesting.

Well today she showed me, the first red flag for me was when she went into Devianart.

The first thing i saw was a page filled with very vulgar furry art. (He was really talented tho).

it was very cringy to look at, but i just went along and told her how amazing i thought the art was and how talented he was.

She said i could look at the page myself sometime if i wanted to check more of his art out, so i did.

He had some art where you had to be 18+ to view, so i logged in and viewed it.

It was basically furry porn, Scooby doo porn (yes ik), my little brony porn and then loli.

He had a bunch of drawings of a mother and daughter (the daughter looked about 7 years old) that laid in bed while they were naked and the mother was touching her. It was disturbing and gross to look at.

My roomate is a lot older than me and i dont really think she's into internet culture. So i dont think she even saw those drawings or knows what a furry or Brony is.

She seems so happy for this guy, but i just can't get over the stuff i saw he made.

She's only been my roomate for about 1,5 month, so its prob not something i should interfere in.

So would i be the rear end in a top hat to tell her about how i feel about the guy she's dating. Or should i just keep my mouth shut?

DeadMansSuspenders
Jan 10, 2012

I wanna be your left hand man

Why are people surprised that businesses can refuse service?

Barudak posted:

Imprisoned by the good pizza

Truth.

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender

Smirking_Serpent posted:

WIBTA for telling my roommate I don't like the guy she's dating, cause he's into Loli porn?
Reddit never changes.

:reddit: posted:

That's an unhealthy way to look at sexual kinks. So because someone is into rape play that means they actually want to rape someone?

quote:

It objectifies fake children. Just because it's weird as crap, doesn't make it any worse than some of other fetish drawings. Vore creeps me out on so many levels, but again, it's just a drawing, so who am I to judge?

quote:

I look at drawn bestiality. I have never and will never sexually touch or think about a live animal. It's art, it's not real

quote:

It's a lot more complicated than it seems and I think the repulsion from people outside of the anime community is often misguided.

Within the community there's like a huge meme/joke about it too.

If you're interested in why I can give some more details about why it shouldn't be taken at glance value.

I'm not particularly against or for it either way. This topic has come up a lot recently and a lot of the times the people sound akin to when net neutrality was voted on by people who didn't understand it.

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

extremely cool that we have wise moderate centrists when it comes to child porn.

Anne Whateley
Feb 11, 2007
:unsmith: i like nice words
we literally Just had someone make that argument itt about incest

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

AITA for expecting my wife to pursue a career that pays well?

When I met my wife, she was pursuing a career as a stand-up comedian. She was constantly going to open mics, writing, and doing shows. She was given a highly sought after but unpaid position at our city's biggest comedy club opening for the touring headlining comic. At the time she was making 2-3k year with comedy and had no other income other than child support from an ex. She wasn't making much money but was ambitious and we loved each other, and my 60k job was enough to get us by so we got married. After that she cut back on her writing/performing and took time to be 'happy.' After a year or so of this I asked her if she really wanted to be a comedian, she said yes, and I proposed a 6 month period to get her comedy career back on track and on a trajectory to make a full time adult income. If that didn't work, she would pursue another more predictably successful career. She agreed and kept track of hours spent on comedy. It was 14hrs/week during that period and she hadn't achieved the needed success so comedy was turned into a hobby and do a new career it was.

​She wanted to go to school to become an on-air radio personality. I shot it down b/c its another profession where there are a handful of people making enough to pay a mortgage and endless people trying to get that job and making no money. She gave me a lot of flak for this. She wanted to respond to a craigslist ad for a 26k receptionist job, but as a very intelligent woman with a BA in journalism, I knew she was capable of establishing herself in a career that would eventually pay at least 50k and set that as a minimum salary for careers to consider. She says that that is insane, and that no reasonable person would ever put an actual number, especially one so ludicrously high on an expected salary from their spouse and that before we were married, I never let her know I would have this expectation.

​I now make much more $, so money isn't really the issue, I just didn't sign up for a sugar daddy situation and expect my wife to achieve her professional potential. AITA?

Xik
Mar 10, 2011

Dinosaur Gum

quote:

akin to when net neutrality was voted on by people who didn't understand it.

CP being similar to net neutrality is a sizzling hot new take. Not sure about the mental gymnastics required to make that ginormous leap.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for expecting my wife to pursue a career that pays well?

You married a woman living on child support and comedy club money, have you considered in fact you are the colossal moron?

PancakeTransmission
May 27, 2007

You gotta improvise, Lisa: cloves, Tom Collins mix, frozen pie crust...


Plaster Town Cop

Haifisch posted:

AITA for drinking out of my coworker's "World's Greatest Dad Mug"?

The coworker should buy him his own mug "<Company's> Biggest rear end in a top hat" with an unflattering photo of him on it. Now he has his own mug! Problem solved

kdrudy
Sep 19, 2009

Henrik Zetterberg posted:

gently caress Rudy.

Hey now

Pirate Radar
Apr 18, 2008

You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!
The most recent Classic Prudie is a pretty good one

quote:

Q. Possible Cousin Marriage: Over 20 years ago I had an affair with a married woman who became pregnant with my child. She reconciled with her husband and they raised the boy as their own. I have not had any contact with my biological son, at the husband’s request. No one in my family knows I have a secret son. Two weeks ago I found out my niece (my sister’s daughter) is engaged, and the groom to be is none other than my biological son! Prudie, I am livid that my son’s mother and her husband did not stop this relationship in its early stages. “No, Bobby, you can’t date that girl because she’s your biological cousin” is all it would have taken. I contacted the woman and she swore she didn’t know our son was marrying my niece since my niece has a different last name. I asked her what she planned to do to stop the wedding and she said she’s doing nothing! Our son doesn’t know anything, and according to her, cousin marriage is harmless! Prudie, how do I bring this up with my niece and her parents? I have never had any contact with my son, and I don’t think I should approach him about it. He doesn’t know his father is not his biological father. I don’t want my niece to live in incest because of my past mistake. Please help.

A: This is an opportunity to repeat my frequent reassurance to fathers: Dads, a statistically significant percentage of you actually have sired the children you think are yours. There’s no reason to doubt the mother of the groom when she says she didn’t realize the bride was related to you, especially if there’s been no big family gathering to celebrate the impending nuptials. You think you have a simple, easy way for the mother of the groom to stop the romance by saying, “Bobby, your father is not your father, and your fiancée is your cousin!” But if you think this through, explaining all this will entirely upend his family, and now yours, and at this late date in the wedding planning you can understand that the parents want to stick with their original plan to keep quiet about Bobby’s biology. I do think that people are entitled to know their origins and keeping these secrets has the potential for blowing up, as you are now seeing. But as it stands only three people know you’re the biological father of the boy, and while it may take all your will power, I think it should remain that way. Cousin marriage is common in much of the world and I think the remaining laws against it in this country should be repealed. Yes, there is an elevated risk of passing on genetic disorders, but it absolute terms it is very small. Two young people are in love and planning to make a life together. I think you should let that be.

tactlessbastard
Feb 4, 2001

Godspeed, post
Fun Shoe

Anne Whateley posted:

we literally Just had someone make that argument itt about incest

He missed the part about it being incest instead of teenager poo poo and almost immediately recanted. What more could you ask for?

E: and for the record tell the roommate whatever, you need to call the cops

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

AITA for telling my husband to stop buying his dead wife the same presents he buys me?

This is actually a really weird situation I'm currently in. My husband and his wife had an amazing relationship.

They had an accident which killed his wife, but my husband survived. This happened years ago. I understand that it was a very traumatic experience for him.

We've been married for 7 years and we have a 5 yo daughter together. We have an amazing relationship. He has this habit of buying me expensive presents. An year after being with him, I discovered that his wife and I shared the same name. I asked him about it and he told me that it was not one of the reasons he was attracted to me.

After we moved in together, he converted our backyard store room into her memorial. It has her pictures and other stuff belonging to her. And everything he buys for me, he buys for her. Literally everything. He got me new ring for Valentine's day. It looked amazing. And guess who else he bought that for?

Even my daughter is asking me who that lady in our backyard is. I don't how she knows, but children are very smart and she keeps pestering me about it.

I just cant help feeling that I'm just a replacement. If she were alive, I'd never be here. I just feel like her doppleganger.

And we got into a big fight about this. I told him that this cannot continue and I feel really insecure. But he refuses to understand. He told me that he loves me and I'm the woman he chose to be with and I should never feel insecure about someone who passed away.

I just cannot understand his argument. AITA?

tactlessbastard
Feb 4, 2001

Godspeed, post
Fun Shoe

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA For Making An Exception To Our Lost And Found Policy?


Now he's pouting around

gently caress him

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA For Making An Exception To Our Lost And Found Policy?

So I tell her this and the policy is clear. Still, she gets all weepy, and maybe it's pregnancy hormones, maybe it's more.

and gently caress you, too

Xik
Mar 10, 2011

Dinosaur Gum
Me (M34) and fiancee (F27), I am in the process of calling a halt to our wedding as she has asked for an "open" relationship.

quote:

Alright folks where to start, this one is tough to type and the paws are shaking as I'm doing it. As it says in the title, me and my fiancee (ex?) are 34 and 27 respectively, have been together for nearly four years overall and are a year engaged. I'll be totally honest here, just before we got engaged she had an emotional affair with a bloke that she worked with (I only found out because one of her friend's BF contacted me and said that he overheard the friendgroup discussing it). I confronted her at the time, and after a good bit of arguing and hassle, we came to an agreement to let it go. I'll be totally honest in saying that I'm still slightly in the process of getting over that particular incident, and it discoloured my view of her. I manned up, moved on and proposed (which I had planned on doing anyway). This is just to give an overall context here and indeed to let it be known that there has been issues in the past.

Fast forward to recent time. We are due married in November (travelling abroad for it with family), and back around october she started acting a bit odd. Distant, not herself, away with the fairies. Even stopped having sex, which was very strange. I put it down to stress around organising the wedding, and the fact that we had moved flat. Forward to Christmas time, and now things are coming to a head. I confronted her straight up, and she set out that she was sorry, has just been stressed. I was very considerate, and tried to help her through it.

However, it basically continued on ebbing and flowing throughout the next two months, up to yesterday. I arrived in from work last night, and she says that she wants to talk. The vibe was bad guys, I could tell. We sat down and she set out that she had been reading, and that she wasn't having second thoughts about the marriage, but the 'nature' of our relationship. At this rate I was getting a bit agitated, and demanded that she come out with what the bloody hell she meant. Basically, a few of her friends had back in October (the times matched up) conveyed to her the idea of an "open relationship"...........basically they stay with their blokes and have one night stands on nights out if they fancy. I'll be honest, the idea made me ill. I said this to her, and she asked to be heard out. Pulled out some online blog post by a blogger who had a husband and live-in boyfriend........I got half way through and told her enough of this nonsense. I wouldn't consider myself old-fashioned, but a wife or fiancee bonking other men will never be in fashion, not in my world anyway. We got into a fight, and in the end she was begging me to give it a chance and that nothing is set in stone. I basically said that I needed some headspace, and that I'd spend the weekend at my mates. It was quick after that, and I left without a fuss. I'm typing this on my mates laptop, and am in a bad mental way atm. I am seriously considering calling the whole thing off, both relationship and wedding. I suppose if anyone has been in a similar place I could do with some advice

TLDR; Me (34m) and fiancee (27f), she asked for open relationship and I am fuming.

In this one she doesn't even want an open relationship, just wants to gently caress other dudes.

Grape
Nov 16, 2017

Happily shilling for China!

Rubellavator posted:

Yeah but then there's also poo poo like this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HzJpD4B4ETY

Oh the "Wire" huh? I suppose you think that's a cultural touchstone I should have heard of?
Well I raise you a forgotten Owen Wilson gem with 33% on RT my friend. :smuggo:

Xik
Mar 10, 2011

Dinosaur Gum
There was an update to the poop sock gf. To the goon trying to make sense of it and suggested she cleaned them, you were wrong I'm afraid, she literally throws them out each time.

UPDATE: I (28) think my girlfriend (26) has been using my gym socks to wipe after going to the bathroom.

quote:

I've had a lot of time to think about what happened yesterday. I've also read through a lot of the comments. Thank you to everyone who gave me advice on what to do. There's been A LOT of development and a few requests to follow up, so here it goes. It's whatever at this point.

We had been texting off and on all evening. As promised, I agreed not to bring it up in person. When I got home after work her car was in the driveway and her sister's car was there as well. I was a little nervous not knowing what I might be walking into, but overall I just wanted to get whatever was going to happen over with. When I walked in it was clear so did she. Her sister was helping her pack up her things. I didn't know what to say, but I never expected this. I honestly thought everything was going to be okay when I got home. Her sister just looked at me and didn't say anything.

I walked by her sister and went into the bedroom where my girlfriend was. She didn't say anything either. She didn't even look at me. If she was going to leave I at least wanted us to have a discussion about it. Everything I had read in the comments about buying a bidet and OCD lead me to believe there might be more to all of this than I had considered. I started to talk and she just threw down the hangars of clothes and screamed at me. "YOU PUT THIS ONLINE? I TOLD YOU TO NOT TALK ABOUT IT!" Her sister ran into the room and told me to just leave until they were gone. She then accused me of cheating. WHAT? This whole thing has been crazy and I feel like I had dealt with a lot up to this point but man that was it. I snapped.

I told her sister I had never cheated. Not once. I would never cheat on her. Enough was enough, so I told her sister the reason she was there was because earlier I had found out my girlfriend had been going to the bathroom and wiping herself with my socks. Everything went silent. Like, no one said a word. Out of nowhere they both start crying. Her sister stared yelling at me and told me I shouldn't be talking about things I don't understand. When I asked her what in the world she was talking about she just kept on yelling at me and shouted back that it was normal and that I need to mind my own business.
  • Her sister knows about it. (She did not know I posted on Reddit about it)
  • Her sister thinks it's normal.
  • I need to mind my own business? They're MY SOCKS!

I stood there all kinds of messed up so I just left. I went to a buddy's house and stayed the night. I also called off work today. I went home and all her stuff is gone. I didn't text her back. I think I'm done.

To clarify a few things: She insisted on doing laundry to keep my suspicion of her not having many socks at rest. She told me last night through text she always throws away the socks and never washed them. She reaffirmed it's not a fetish. She won't try a bidet because she doesn't want poop water splashing on her. I can't keep up with the comments. I'm pooped. (I'm trying to find humor in this because I'm really upset :(

So yeah.

Edit: (a sentence) Her sister did not previously know I posted about it on Reddit. I'm sure they both do now.

cumshitter
Sep 27, 2005

by Fluffdaddy

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA For Making An Exception To Our Lost And Found Policy?

For context: So at work we have a policy, if something is in the lost and found for longer than a month than the person who found the item can keep it. I'd say a solid 90% of the time the lost and found is client stuff, but there is the odd occasion an employee's item gets in there. I'm the IT guy and I have someone who works under me.

We have a receptionist who was on mat leave and took 8 weeks off. During this time the guy who works under me found a power bank (Anker PowerCore 2680) which is not a cheap one either ($65). He was giddy about finding it and was all about it. So I said, sure if no one shows up to claim it in a month you can have it.

Well no one does, so I let him have it. Then 3 weeks later the receptionist returns from mat leave. She asks about the power bank and says she was looking for it and couldn't find it. Gave the right model and all that and showed me the Amazon receipt so I knew it was legit. Thing is though, I told the employee he could have it. So I tell her this and the policy is clear. Still, she gets all weepy, and maybe it's pregnancy hormones, maybe it's more. I guess I felt bad so I told her I would see what I could do.

I tell all of this to my employee and he is furious. He tells me he waited the month and followed the rules, and tells me that the power bank is his. I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place, but I ultimately decide that since she was the original owner and she couldn't claim it earlier due to being out of the office, I make an exception and take back the power bank and give it to her.

Now he's pouting around. I understand it sucks. He didn't do anything wrong and this has never happened. I'm going to amend the policy with HR to better define that if it's an employee item then it goes back to the original owner. So we won't have a squabble like this. Still, I have caught myself asking myself if I was the rear end in a top hat here. This was a lose-lose situation in my opinion regardless as someone was going to walk away dissapointed.

He found it while covering or snooping around the reception desk. Tell the thief to give it back.

Like where the hell else is the receptionist going to keep her poo poo? This guy is a dunce.

Entorwellian
Jun 30, 2006

Northern Flicker
Anna's Hummingbird

Sorry, but the people have spoken.



Haifisch posted:

AITA for drinking out of my coworker's "World's Greatest Dad Mug"?

I'm on the OP's side. It sounds like a kick rear end mug and he should follow it up by giving the co-worker a replacement mug with the co-workers' picture on it titled "Worlds biggest bitch"

tactlessbastard
Feb 4, 2001

Godspeed, post
Fun Shoe

Xik posted:

Me (M34) and fiancee (F27), I am in the process of calling a halt to our wedding as she has asked for an "open" relationship.

. Pulled out some online blog post by a blogger who had a husband and live-in boyfriend........I

I really hope it was that moonbat who violated every single increasingly lax boundary her husband put up to the point he was building a cuck shack in the back yard.

This one : https://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3876651&pagenumber=1&perpage=40

tactlessbastard fucked around with this message at 04:35 on Mar 2, 2019

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

Changing my username to cuck shack

tactlessbastard
Feb 4, 2001

Godspeed, post
Fun Shoe

Smirking_Serpent posted:

Changing my username to cuck shack

do it you coward

the holy poopacy
May 16, 2009

hey! check this out
Fun Shoe
The cuck shack is a little old place where

I can get together

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Xik posted:

Me (M34) and fiancee (F27), I am in the process of calling a halt to our wedding as she has asked for an "open" relationship.


In this one she doesn't even want an open relationship, just wants to gently caress other dudes.

I mean the relationship is open in the same way a heart valve is open, the pumping can only go in one direction

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender
My [27F] boyfriend [30M] took my phone yesterday

quote:

My boyfriend only uses his phone for calls and texting (he isn't on social media)- he just doesn't understand why so many people are so "attached" to their devices. He doesn't like it when I'm on my phone too much and out of respect I rarely use it when he's around (and never when we're spending time together whether we're out or at home).

Yesterday afternoon I was texting with my sister (who lives in another state) while he was getting ready for work. When he was about to leave I asked him to wait a second so I could say goodbye and give him a kiss but I was finishing my text as I said it, which apparently bothered him. He came to me and turned my face to give me a kiss and as he did it he grabbed my phone. He was smiling and said (in a normal/calm tone) "you're wasting time on this loving thing."I thought he was kidding because of his tone and the way he held it up so I couldn't reach it. He was laughing and walked out the door with it while I was walking after him asking for it back. He said I could live without it for a few hours and got into his car and took off. I wanted to yell but making a scene isn't a good look in front of the neighbors.

So, I waited, assuming he'd bring it back but that didn't happen until he got home at 3AM. I was pretty angry and told him it wasn't okay to take my phone (that's in my name and I pay for) and leave me without any way to call 911 in case of an emergency. Considering he's in law enforcement I thought he would care about my safety but apparently not. He didn't care that I was mad and brushed me off, he said it ended up being busier than he expected and he didn't have time to come back. His stance is nothing happened, I'm fine, he meant to bring it back but couldn't and I should care more about his intentions. I don't think he should have taken it in the first place.

I'm not trying to blow this out of proportion but I am not okay with him taking my phone. Do I need to drop it for now? If I should talk to him again- How do I (tactfully) discuss this to make him understand it can't happen again? I want him to take me seriously and not to laugh because he thinks it's funny that I'm mad. I feel strongly about his actions yesterday and I don't take it lightly that I was left without a phone all night.

tl;dr: My boyfriend took my phone with him to work yesterday evening as a "punishment" for being on it too much. He intended to bring it back but had a busier night than expected and ended up keeping it all night. He doesn't understand why I'm angry and he's acting like I'm purposely trying to drag this out and blow it out of proportion.
ACAB.

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

I'm (F20) living off food stamps while my partner (M29) gets to spend without much worry. We live together.

Hi everyone. I will start off by saying that I hold a full time job and take any hours I get. My partner has a full time job that pays him well over twice as much as I make, and he gets regular handouts from his parents.

Everything I earn goes towards paying my share of our rent. What little may be leftover is used for public transportation and necessities. I have no money left for food and therefore rely entirely on food stamps to eat. I want to save money, but I can't. I'm getting nowhere and I know my living situation is unsustainable.

My partner, however, enjoys his comfortable life in the city with a somewhat spacious apartment. He isn't rich but can spend several hundred at a time if he wants. He convinced me to move somewhere larger than I was prepared to because he sincerely thought I would be fine. He, after all, was fine when he moved out at 18. But he also had many roommates and rent was significantly cheaper. I should have been smarter about moving, but I was 18 at the time and had no real idea how much living on my own would actually cost. I also trusted him that we would work things out between us financially.

I don't blame him for my position but as you might imagine it's causing me distress when I often skip meals to have enough food in a month while he is perfectly fine. I have talked to him about it before but he thinks I should start taking out loans and go from there. I don't want to live in debt.

My ideal situation would be either him paying more for our rent so I can begin to save, us moving into a smaller place here, or a cheaper place in the subarbs. He does not want to change his current lifestyle.

TL;DR My partner of 3 years is well off while I'm working for rent and struggling for food, all while we live under the same roof. What should I do?

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Hrm, should I be concerned that my boyfriend who is statistically 300% more likely to domestically abuse me than the average man has shown me initial behavoirs of domestic abusers and made no attempt to disguise it?

Baronjutter
Dec 31, 2007

"Tiny Trains"

Don't marry cops, don't date cops, don't befriend cops, don't talk to cops. Only through solidarity can we stamp out the pig gene.

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender
gently caress the police, but not literally.

LadyPictureShow
Nov 18, 2005

Success!



AITA for continuing a relationship under the false pretense of marriage?

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I am in my mid-fifties approaching retirement and recently went through a devastating divorce. I lost my house, half of the savings and fortunately no alimony payments. My wife was a working professional and towards the end, it felt like marriage was more about frugal living than love. We had been married for 32 years and had two wonderful children, both of which are girls. I wouldn’t trade away my relationship with them for anything, truly my pride and joy. They are ages 26 and 29, three years apart.

However, I can’t depend on my limited family to deal with the crippling isolation after work. My wife and I were not social in the sense that I do not have a strong network to jump back into things. In any case at my age, the dating world has changed a lot compared to when I met my ex-wife. It seems that you have a couple of sites that are appropriate for your maturity that lead to date after date of noncommittal garbage. After several months of dating people my age to no avail, I signed up for a sugar daddy dating service.

For someone my age, I take great care of myself and go to the gym regularly. I was able to start a relationship with a 19-year-old that seems to have come from a rough background. I am a little worried about some of the shadier people from her past. But who am I to say anything? I have two kids. I care for her deeply and provide for her needs as she does for me. We have had this arrangement for about half a year and things have gotten more serious, we have started talking about marriage. I can’t help but feel guilty when I hear her talk about how she sees a future with me.

When she talks about marriage, my mind always goes back to thinking about how we met on a sugar daddy dating service and the rigid gender role implications. I’ve made a spreadsheet and if I work for an extra half decade or so, I could realistically maintain the relationship until I die. I just don’t have the self-control to tell her I have no interest in that level of commitment again. Partially, I am worried that she would not get along with the small remaining family that I have left.

Essentially, I am dating a younger girl as I am approaching retirement. She wants to get married. I plan on continuing this relationship for as long as possible with the intent of never getting married. I do not plan on communicating this to her. Love, dating and relationships seem to be morally ambiguous, am I an rear end in a top hat for treating my girlfriend the same way people my age have treated me in the dating world?

Edit: I am not dating her out of revenge, rather this is a question aimed at dating ethics.

E: this guy gets worse

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Since I have a transnational relationship with her, as I met her on a sugar daddy website, it would destroy the employee relationship. Sometimes employees have to work under false pretenses in order to work harder.

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As an employer, I have to find creative ways to motivate those that work for me. Turns out marriage is a strong motivator for her as her home country is much worse than mine. I've seen youtube videos of it, not good one bit. Anyone in their right mind would argue that she has a much better life working for me than back there

LadyPictureShow fucked around with this message at 06:20 on Mar 2, 2019

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wizardofloneliness
Dec 30, 2008

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I'm (F20) living off food stamps while my partner (M29) gets to spend without much worry. We live together.

TL;DR My partner of 3 years is well off while I'm working for rent and struggling for food, all while we live under the same roof. What should I do?

I'm shocked that the guy who was going out with a 17 year old girl when he was 26 and then had her move in with him when she turned 18 is not that great of a partner.

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