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Colonel J posted:Our (gf and I) 6th year anniversary is coming up and I'm planning to surprise my GF with a hitachi magic wand. Good idea?   This isn't even for the Hitachi, it's some cheaper knock-off version. Rave reviews, some dude admitting his redundancy, and Mother Teresa herself coming back from the dead to gush (literally) over how good it is. I'm sure she'll love it.
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Colonel J posted:Our (gf and I) 6th year anniversary is coming up and I'm planning to surprise my GF with a hitachi magic wand. Good idea? Good idea. I got a wireless one and it's great, rave reviews from the gf.
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Mar 15, 2019 16:09
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Yes, it's like a lava lamp.
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Is there a recommended place to purchase a Hitachi wand from? If I recall, goons said Amazon was mostly knockoff versions?
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Mar 15, 2019 16:12
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Getting a hitachi is fine if it sounds like her kind of thing, but hopefully you also have a nonsexual gift lined up?
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Mar 15, 2019 16:25
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Anne Whateley posted:Getting a hitachi is fine if it sounds like her kind of thing, but hopefully you also have a nonsexual gift lined up? Eh, we very rarely give each other gifts. I just felt like doing something outlandish.
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Johnny Truant posted:Is there a recommended place to purchase a Hitachi wand from? If I recall, goons said Amazon was mostly knockoff versions? NewYorkToyCollective.com sells it, and they’re awesome. Also AdamEve.com, very reliable. AlbieQuirky fucked around with this message at 16:47 on Mar 15, 2019 |
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Mar 15, 2019 16:44
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Colonel J posted:Eh, we very rarely give each other gifts. I just felt like doing something outlandish. Don't forget to tell us how it went. And by that, I mean "link the E/N thread".
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Mar 15, 2019 17:01
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I ordered mine from GoodVibrations.
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Mar 15, 2019 17:12
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Johnny Truant posted:Is there a recommended place to purchase a Hitachi wand from? If I recall, goons said Amazon was mostly knockoff versions? The problem with Amazon is they co-mingle stock...so if Amazon.com sells the real deal, and BobsDiscountVibes&Dongs.com sells knockoffs being advertised as the real deal Amazon will place the stock for both in the same bin...meaning you could pay full price and still end up with a knockoff. Anne Whateley posted:Getting a hitachi is fine if it sounds like her kind of thing, but hopefully you also have a nonsexual gift lined up? I think he's covered on this - a magic wand also does a very good job at its stated purpose as a deep tissue massager. My wife's sees more duty doing that than as a sex toy.
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Mar 15, 2019 17:21
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Colonel J posted:Our (gf and I) 6th year anniversary is coming up and I'm planning to surprise my GF with a hitachi magic wand. Good idea? It’s a loving no brainer. Shoulda been a 6th month anniversary gift imo 
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Mar 15, 2019 17:35
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Colonel J posted:Our (gf and I) 6th year anniversary is coming up and I'm planning to surprise my GF with a hitachi magic wand. Good idea? Put a sock-puppet on the Hitachi, then jump out of a closet wielding it when she comes home.
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Mar 15, 2019 18:13
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thotsky posted:Put a sock-puppet on the Hitachi, then jump out of a closet wielding it when she comes home. F-fingerblast that little turd
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Mar 15, 2019 19:26
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I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to be a judgy rear end about the vibe previously. But like when the gold standard of personal massagers costs like $60 how do you not bust that sucker out like week 10. Like it’s literally the cost of a halfway fancy dinner out. Just leave it as a parting gift if y’all don’t work out. Bam. here you go, remember me as your ‘gasm apollo I’ve wasted like twice as much on toys that ended up not working out (looking at you, wevibe), so worst case Ontario it’s too rough/indiscreet/plugged in and you have a decent massager for your glutes. My ex brought like $500 worth of wireless purple softtouch lelo/jejue poo poo into our shared bed and one corded hitachi supplanted loving all of them within like a week. The batteries failed on some of them from complete lack of use.
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Mar 15, 2019 19:58
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The magic wand is only a good idea if you're really drat sure you have more to offer her than good sex. Because she won't need you for that any more.
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Mar 15, 2019 20:03
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KillHour posted:The magic wand is only a good idea if you're really drat sure you have more to offer her than good sex. Because she won't need you for that any more. That's distinctly untrue, unless by "good sex" you mean "clitoral orgasms". Which I mean, I guess you might, but that seems pretty narrow.
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Does anyone know a good place to buy condoms in Sweden? Ordering online is fine, if they use discrete normal packaging.PittTheElder posted:I ordered mine from GoodVibrations.
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Mar 15, 2019 20:37
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Real talk, I'd 100% buy a wand just for shits and giggles and hey making your partner ooze their consciousness out of their ear holes from the soul lifting orgasm is great and all, but I legitimately worry it would sorta hamstring stuff in the bedroom? Like right now, I'm used, and it's all me, but if we brought a wand into things, I feel like that'd totally supplant me and I kinda like making my partner feel good myself. Imagine if there was a Fleshlight 2.0 that was amazing in every way and stimulated your prostate too and your gf got it for you, wouldn't you wanna gently caress the poo poo out of that every time instead of doing the usual thing with her? So personal anecdotes of guys who've bought their girls a wand, what happened and did things change in a bad way?
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Mar 15, 2019 20:38
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Qubee posted:Real talk, I'd 100% buy a wand just for shits and giggles and hey making your partner ooze their consciousness out of their ear holes from the soul lifting orgasm is great and all, but I legitimately worry it would sorta hamstring stuff in the bedroom? Like right now, I'm used, and it's all me, but if we brought a wand into things, I feel like that'd totally supplant me and I kinda like making my partner feel good myself. I didn't run into any of what you're worried about. First of all, it's not like she's using it while you just lie there and watch (though that could be fun too I guess), usually when we use it it's me using it on her, so I'm very involved and there's lot of teasing and edging happening before the big screams. Also, YMMV but after a wand orgasm there's nothing my girlfriend wants more than my dick inside her, usually with one or two more orgasms for her. Finally, it's really nice to have for the times when she finishes me first; she isn't super into receiving oral, and my vibe isn't the same after I finish which apparently puts a damper on her enjoyment some other stuff, but the wand still does it just fine. quote:Imagine if there was a Fleshlight 2.0 that was amazing in every way and stimulated your prostate too and your gf got it for you, wouldn't you wanna gently caress the poo poo out of that every time instead of doing the usual thing with her?
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Qubee posted:Real talk, I'd 100% buy a wand just for shits and giggles and hey making your partner ooze their consciousness out of their ear holes from the soul lifting orgasm is great and all, but I legitimately worry it would sorta hamstring stuff in the bedroom? Like right now, I'm used, and it's all me, but if we brought a wand into things, I feel like that'd totally supplant me and I kinda like making my partner feel good myself. I bought my wife some German jackhammer rabbit toy that gets her off in like 60 seconds, but she still bangs me a lot because the toy doesn't hold her tight and nibble her neck and tell her she's beautiful. You'll be fine unless your sex life consists of assuming the push-up position and wiggling in silence.
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PittTheElder posted:Also, YMMV but after a wand orgasm there's nothing my girlfriend wants more than my dick inside her, usually with one or two more orgasms for her. Is it luck of the draw whether you end up with a girl who can do this or not? Cause my current girlfriend (and my ex too) gets super super sensitive when she orgasms and I sorta adopt the emotional repair role where I just spoon her for 5 mins and whisper sweet nothings in her ear until she's good to go again (but even the whispering in her ear can make her shiver), then it's back to the utter filth dirty talk. If I touch her anywhere erotic, it just causes her to spasm and she says it's too sensitive, legit vampire out of a coffin maneuver (hands covering breasts and just rising straight up from the bed) which is hilarious to see. It was a funny predicament at the start cause my neanderthal brain thought "orgasm good, more touch good, keep touch" and she had to slowly school me and make me aware of the fact that no, pinning her arms down and touching her just feels too sensitive, and isn't as hot or teasing as I mistakenly thought. Also, completely unrelated question: does vaginal sex feel good for women? Cause I've always been under the impression that clitoral stimulation is the money-maker, and vaginal is mainly for us guys to enjoy. So should I feel bad if I just want to have penetrative sex for 15 minutes or does she still get satisfaction out of it? She says yes but I don't know if it's god's honest truth or just her taking one for the team and my enjoyment. Qubee fucked around with this message at 22:23 on Mar 15, 2019 |
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I imagine post-O sensitivity varies, I don't really have the sample size to make any sort of predictive statement. I imagine the wand won't make a huge difference but  Clitoral stimulation is super important, but all of the women I've ever been with have also enjoyed the vaginal intercourse part. There are always exceptions though, so just talk to and (since it sounds you already have), trust your partner. At a certain point you just need to. If you've sat down and had an open conversation about this outside of the bedroom (and you should), you should have no reason to disbelieve her.
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Electric Bugaloo posted:I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to be a judgy rear end about the vibe previously. No offense taken, we just aren't that into toys. She has a dildo and we bust it out sometimes, but I felt like giving her an upgrade. Making (enough) money is new for me, so spending 80$ on a vibrator really wasn't a priority.
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This thread rules and is a great reminder that if you are going through some hard poo poo, someone else has probably already been through the exact same situation. Almost no one is actually broken, just travelling down the wrong path.
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Qubee posted:Also, completely unrelated question: does vaginal sex feel good for women? Cause I've always been under the impression that clitoral stimulation is the money-maker, and vaginal is mainly for us guys to enjoy. So should I feel bad if I just want to have penetrative sex for 15 minutes or does she still get satisfaction out of it? She says yes but I don't know if it's god's honest truth or just her taking one for the team and my enjoyment. Do you enjoy any forms of intimacy that don't directly lead to orgasms?
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Qubee posted:So personal anecdotes of guys who've bought their girls a wand, what happened and did things change in a bad way? No things didn’t loving change in a bad way. Also are you afraid of your partner masturbating or getting themselves off easily? I’m going to call this as you feeling threatened by a vibrator. Hopefully this harsh verbal clarity helps you nip that feeling in the bud. As for what happened: 1) like I said, my ex had a few well-reviewed vibes already. She was initially skeptical that the hitachi would live up to the hype. When it did she was pleased and I was pleased and it raised her opinion of me because all of her previous partners had been pretty sexually clueless. Experimenting with it gave us a shared new thing to try together which made the bonding better imo. 2) It completely changed the way we approached poo poo like performance anxiety or issues with lasting too long or too little or getting sore or chafing or whatever. This doesn’t just go for the magic wand, incorporating any vibe into sex (or at least having it on hand) makes a lot of poo poo easier. Sometimes my ex would get cramps from being in one position or being on the edge for too long and the vibe would help relieve that. Sometimes you need a break and your partner can entertain themselves. My ex would tighten up after using it so it was fun to incorporate it creatively during piv. The magic wand has a long enough handle that it’s relatively easy for you or her to use it clitorally while you’re having vaginal or anal intercourse. 3) it made oral easier/more fun. Use it on your partner while going down on them. Use it on yourself while going down on them. Use it on them/have them use it on themselves/have them use it on you while they go down on you. Enough said. 4) the vibe was used on me. This is maybe the least expected/welcome thing to a lot of cishet dudes but vibrators work on penises too. They make silicone sleeves for the wand as well but in my experience just touching it against your body is plenty. Try using it perineally- just like put it on your taint while she goes down on you. 5) it made other toys better. Like the aforementioned sleeve, they also make insertable attachments if that’s your jam, but my ex thought they were pretty lovely and uncomfortable. Lots of different third parties are out there tho. In any case, the wand is powerful enough that usually touching it to something like a dildo/buttplug/fleshlight is enough to turn said object into a vibrating version of itself. Try fingering her while holding the ball of the vibe in your palm and pressing it against her vulva. Your fingers and hand should transfer vibrations. 6) it made bdsm better (if that’s your jam). The only thing better than using a vibrator on your partner is using a vibrator on your partner while they’re restrained (and have consented beforehand).
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Qubee posted:Is it luck of the draw whether you end up with a girl who Why do you trust goons more than your partner? Also, have you heard of the g-spot? Not to be a jerk but the best thing you can do is to buy a sex ed book, not like a textbook, but something interesting as well as informative, that's written by a woman (not, for example, She Comes First). It's good that you're asking questions, but it's really really good to start with the background of some 101-level info. You might not even know what you don't know. Colonel J posted:No offense taken, we just aren't that into toys. She has a dildo and we bust it out sometimes, but I felt like giving her an upgrade. Making (enough) money is new for me, so spending 80$ on a vibrator really wasn't a priority. 
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She comes first was my first sex book, but I have to agree it's largely outdated trash, and actual women have written much better books.
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Qubee posted:Is it luck of the draw whether you end up with a girl who can do this or not? Cause my current girlfriend (and my ex too) gets super super sensitive when she orgasms and I sorta adopt the emotional repair role where I just spoon her for 5 mins and whisper sweet nothings in her ear until she's good to go again (but even the whispering in her ear can make her shiver), then it's back to the utter filth dirty talk. If I touch her anywhere erotic, it just causes her to spasm and she says it's too sensitive, legit vampire out of a coffin maneuver (hands covering breasts and just rising straight up from the bed) which is hilarious to see. It was a funny predicament at the start cause my neanderthal brain thought "orgasm good, more touch good, keep touch" and she had to slowly school me and make me aware of the fact that no, pinning her arms down and touching her just feels too sensitive, and isn't as hot or teasing as I mistakenly thought. Ok so in the case of my ex and I, when we first started dating she’d never had a partnered orgasm and had a lot of difficulty orgasming alone. Turns out that the SNRI she’d been on for years had rendered her anorgasmic and switching meds basically opened the floodgates. For the first few weeks after, she’d become super sensitive if she came clitorally, and would require a sensory cooling off period before she could do anything else. But if we had intercourse she could orgasm multiple times and feel great (part of the trick is to keep loving your partner when they start coming. A lot of dudes see a woman orgasm and they think they’re done and they let off/pull out immediately without being told to do so and then the woman has a cramp and they have to cuddle for 20 minutes and- you see where this is going? Women don’t orgasm the way men do. Hell, transwomen on hormones don’t orgasm the way men do even if they have penises. Women tend not to need a big refractory period unless they become overstimulated). After a few weeks of that, things began to normalize. The number of orgasms she could have per night went down from like 11+ to 5 to 1-4 over the following months but her ability to jump from clitoral orgasm to vaginal or whatever also got way better. But for the most part, if she had too many exclusively clitoral orgasms she’d cramp up and get uncomfortable- and I’ve heard similar from other women. For the most part women aren’t lying when they say they want and enjoy penetrative sex. Otherwise why the gently caress would dildos exist? And, in general, women do tend to prefer sensory variety when it comes to stimulation. In the same way that you probably don’t want somebody to exclusively whail on your cockhead, women don’t like having purely external (and especially purely clitoral) stimulation. It sounds like you may be prioritizing clitoral stimulation at the expense of actually getting up into her biz. When you go down on her, do you go straight for the clit and stay there? Have you tried g-spot stimulation? Does she own any dildos or insertable vibes? If you haven’t watched many videos of actual women actually masturbating (not revenge porn) try doing that the next time you jerk off and see if there are any major technique differences between what they’re doing and you do. Maybe take notice when they put things inside themselves and consider modifying your approach.
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Shine posted:Do you enjoy any forms of intimacy that don't directly lead to orgasms? This reply nails sassy and accurate perfectly, thank you. You're right. Electric Bugaloo posted:No things didn’t loving change in a bad way. I like your advice and you've helped me in the past, never change please. Your frustrated replies make me crack a smile. I feel like a big silly for being threatened by an inanimate object. Gonna buy a wand down the line and name it Electric Bugaloo in your honour. Anne Whateley posted:Why do you trust goons more than your partner? Also, have you heard of the g-spot? Internet anonymity really helps with asking questions you're too embarrassed to ask about IRL. We've discussed this in person, we're really open about our sex life, but I've got years of bad baggage down the line / unhealthy relationships / manipulation so I'm a bit hosed when it comes to trust. I also have a tendency to get stuck in my own head and worry incessantly, even when my partner has explicitly told me "No, I genuinely like it". I told her she has her work cut out for her, cause she's got years of bad habits to break from all the previous lovely relationships I was in, and she's more than happy to prove that relationships don't have to be awful mindgames and manipulation tactics. Trust issues so bad I gotta turn to internet strangers to ask them if penis in verguba feels good for a woman, after having a woman deadass tell me "yes I enjoy penis in verguba".
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Poil posted:Does anyone know a good place to buy condoms in Sweden? Ordering online is fine, if they use discrete normal packaging. Are you looking for something specific? I'm in Stockholm and I'm pretty sure I've seen them in every grocery store. And I'd assume the sex toy shops would have them too. I'm not a penis haver though so I haven't looked specifically
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Um, this might be outside the scope of this thread, but does anyone have any advice for being good at kissing? General tips and maybe guides? Thank you.Xun posted:Are you looking for something specific? I'm in Stockholm and I'm pretty sure I've seen them in every grocery store. And I'd assume the sex toy shops would have them too. I'm not a penis haver though so I haven't looked specifically Poil fucked around with this message at 08:26 on Mar 16, 2019 |
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Poil posted:Um, this might be outside the scope of this thread, but does anyone have any advice for being good at kissing? General tips and maybe guides? Thank you.
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bowmore posted:find someone to practice with 
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Poil posted:No, just in general. I haven't had I usually see them near the ibuprofen at the register in ICA. I assume other stores would have them in the same-ish place too.
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Xun posted:I usually see them near the ibuprofen at the register in ICA. I assume other stores would have them in the same-ish place too. Apoteket was my go to when I lived in Sthlm, dunno if they'll have isoprene stuff like Skyn tho
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I had some interesting experiences today. Kissing is... weirdly unsatisfying. Not bad. Just not as amazing I thought it would be. Other things happened and now my head is totally e/n levels of bad. Welp.  Xun posted:I usually see them near the ibuprofen at the register in ICA. I assume other stores would have them in the same-ish place too.
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Poil posted:I had some interesting experiences today. Kissing is... weirdly unsatisfying. Not bad. Just not as amazing I thought it would be. Other things happened and now my head is totally e/n levels of bad. Welp. Well was it exciting at all? If not you might be kissing the wrong person
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Anne Whateley posted:Not to be a jerk but the best thing you can do is to buy a sex ed book, not like a textbook, but something interesting as well as informative, that's written by a woman (not, for example, She Comes First). Turtlicious posted:She comes first was my first sex book, but I have to agree it's largely outdated trash, and actual women have written much better books. Any actual reading recommendations on that subject then?
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Scarleteen and Go Ask Alice are amazing resources, and there's a book from each. I haven't read the books but based on the sites I'd still recommend them. Again these are pretty 101-level, they aren't like "how to blow your woman's mind," but you gotta have the basic facts down first
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PittTheElder posted:Well was it exciting at all? If not you might be kissing the wrong person 
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