dudeness posted:

The question is, does the uncle have any children of their own?

If so his rear end is getting taken for a ride.

Straight White Shark posted:

his rear end is already getting taken for a ride

the way this story usually plays out is the uncle doesn't retire until the kid is in his 50s and has spent his whole life working for peanuts, and then the business immediately tanks because it was only able to support the uncle because he had an underpaid sucker propping it up. enjoy making it nearly to retirement age with no savings and a resume that consists of "busboy/failed restauranteur"

assuming that the uncle's restaurant business doesn't just go belly up before then (the odds of an individual restaurant failing in that time are extremely high, but I'm going to be charitable and assume the uncle has some ability to pivot from one restaurant to another to keep afloat)

Leon Einstein posted:

Yeah, but you're just assuming that's going to happen.

Leon Einstein posted:

You're mostly spot on, but we have no idea if he's being paid peanuts and has no savings.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for telling my wife I was away for a business trip, when really I went on a city break on my own?

I love my wife but she is awful to travel with. She's a bit of a princess and she doesn't care about art or architecture. She wears stupid shoes and walks too slow, but gets tired of places too fast.

I did originally have a meeting in London but it got cancelled and I still wanted to go, so I booked myself into a fancy hotel, went to galleries, rode the subway and ate in amazing restaurants for three nights. Aw man it was awesome. I just enjoyed not caring about her being entertained and being alone to my thoughts.

I just kept thinking the whole time I was there how she wouldn't have liked it, and would have ruined it. If I'd have told her about it she would have come with me, no question.

Am I an rear end in a top hat?

DarkSoulsTantrum posted:

I would imagine he was being well-paid she wouldn’t have had an issue.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for telling my wife I was away for a business trip, when really I went on a city break on my own?

I love my wife but she is awful to travel with. She's a bit of a princess and she doesn't care about art or architecture. She wears stupid shoes and walks too slow, but gets tired of places too fast.

I did originally have a meeting in London but it got cancelled and I still wanted to go, so I booked myself into a fancy hotel, went to galleries, rode the subway and ate in amazing restaurants for three nights. Aw man it was awesome. I just enjoyed not caring about her being entertained and being alone to my thoughts.

I just kept thinking the whole time I was there how she wouldn't have liked it, and would have ruined it. If I'd have told her about it she would have come with me, no question.

Am I an rear end in a top hat?

Blade Runner posted:

You're wrong, re-read the first paragraph

She doesn't talk about his goals, she tries to convince him to quit his job where he's happy and go somewhere else

If she says "Hey have you considered quitting working at the restaurant" and he says "I like working at the restaurant" and she doesn't press further as to whether he has plans to grow at the restaurant, that's absolutely on her

DemoneeHo posted:

She repeats in the comments that she tried to get him to consider other jobs, but apparently never bothered to ask why he was content to stay where he is.

Just poor communication all around.

epenthesis posted:

If he didn’t volunteer the information that he knew would make her happy—and he did know, because he said it the second she broke up with him—he was playing some sicko game with her. As if it never occurred to him that his partner would want to know about his career aspirations.

After writing that out, I’m actually leaning toward this being gold-digger-bait.

Serephina posted:

Her mum's 100% right in this. You've taken the first steps into playing at god, and it's a slippery slope indeed. Can't preggers? Test tube babies. Oh wait all of them took? Time to cull some. All of them healthy? Pick favorites and kill the rest. Tiny little baby steps down the road to damnation.

And this is coming from someone's who's an Atheist and very pro-choice.

Scathach posted:

God being content is so underrated. Dude dodged a bullet. If someone told me "I want you to have bigger plans for us!" I'd assume it meant "I want you to make more money and I'm fine with you being unhappy to pay for my poo poo."

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My (25/M) friend’s (28/M) girlfriend (27/F) asked me to pick her up after he drove off without her in the middle of an argument, and now my friend is angry, and saying I shouldn’t have helped.

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Edit. I'm not looking for advice about my door, door code, etc. I'm asking what I can legally do to try to stop this. Stop suggesting I illegally alter my address or book hundreds of random places in hopes I get mine. My door code isnt the issue. The issue is the guy booking other people's homes for profit. Please drop the obsession with it. Is there a charge for collecting money for something that isn't yours? Or can I get him for harassment? Is there a law I can use to push my building into reporting him for the short term rental he was just kicked out of? My condos door isn't the legal issue. Why is everyone so focused on it?

Anyways.

I live in south beach, airbnb is illegal here. A ton of people still do it, but most don't cause major issues. Someone (I am 95% sure i know who) keeps listing my unit number (with photos of another apartment) on short term rental sites. One day a guy waltzed into my place with luggage, and started yelling at me to get out. Oddly, he threatened to call the police on ME if I didn't leave. I grabbed a weapon and he reluctantly left. The police determined that he rented from someone that put my unit number up, but the photos/ contact info arent mine. I guess the scam is usually supposed to get the money. The scammer uses the money to get a real apartment, then last minute they reroute the guest to their unit. I guess this one never cancels.

I immediately contacted the property manager, security, and made a call to non emergency. The next day I got 2 cameras. Since then, 8 groups of crying/irate tourists have come to my door with luggage in the middle of the night. I immediately call the property manager and non emergency (often the guests call 911 to attempt to force me out of my own house. Proof I own is now pinned next to my door inside)

I genuinely feel bad for them, some have traveled for days only to be forced to find a room at 10x the price they paid since its the popular season. I honestly feel for them, but there's not much I can do for them other than to talk to the police confirming they were scammed and show proof air bnb is not legal here.

You cannot enter my building unless someone buzzes you in. I asked the people what number they dialed, and it was the apartment of a known airbnb. I know the guy inside, he's not a decent person. When I asked him about it, he got nasty and pretended to not speak english. He has since been evicted (for airbnbing) Yet the random arrivals still happen. The guests are now using a maintenance code to enter, so they don't need to be buzzed up.

The police and property manager do thankfully believe me on this. But is there anything I can do to get him to stop? I'm waiting for the day someone breaks in, or gets physically violent. Some of these people paid thousands and now have to pay 600 to 1k a night for a hotel after dealing with police, phone calls, and stress.

I can't go on these sites and find my place, since the photos used aren't of my place, and the unit isn't available to you until after you pay. he keeps making different profiles or using friends to make the ads, since they're rarely the same person/ company twice.

I am not the only condo in the building facing these issues. I have put a sign on my door saying this is not an air bnb, it's a private residence and to not disturb. Yet (obviously) people still bang on my door while yelling. Is there anything we can all do together? The property manager says since he doesn't live there anymore, there's nothing she can do. The police say without definite proof its him, they can't help much.

I cannot make a new apartment number, take my door off, or alter my door. I'm not looking for things to do to my door or door code. This isn't r/advice I need to know who i should contact legally? Or what legal options I have. Code enforcement is knocking on doors. But since no one's actually renting my place, its not their problem. We also have strong evidence he's doing this from another country, but must have help locally. Is there any way we can contact someone about that. I'm going to talk to the property manager in a few minutes about putting additional security on for the next few weeks, and to see if she's willing to report him to code enforcement so he will be forced to pay a huge fine.

Can I get a restraining order or something. But instead of him being allowed here, that he's not allowed to send people here? Or is there a law I can use to push my building into action. (The agreement I signed says they are not required to provide 24 hour on site security)

Anne Whateley posted:

In the US I think it usually means "I don't want a car accident or cancer to make us homeless"

LimburgLimbo posted:

Has it never even occurred to this dude to contact AirBnB? I feel like this is something a lawyer could jump all over as AirBnB not properly vetting their hosts and causing damages.

PHIZ KALIFA posted:

you aren't as pro-choice as you think

LimburgLimbo posted:

Has it never even occurred to this dude to contact AirBnB? I feel like this is something a lawyer could jump all over as AirBnB not properly vetting their hosts and causing damages.

Serephina posted:

I fully support a persons choice to remove non-sentient parasites. Just don't candy coat it. 'Designer Babies' means a very specific thing, and the OP's choice was a clear step in that direction. Smilie face.

Serephina posted:

I fully support a persons choice to remove non-sentient parasites. Just don't candy coat it. 'Designer Babies' means a very specific thing, and the OP's choice was a clear step in that direction. Smilie face.

DemoneeHo posted:

(Florida) someone keeps listing my condo as an air bnb. It's illegal in my zone.

Anne Whateley posted:

I mean it's clear what she was asking about

Her: Have you considered looking for other work, something you could make a future in?
Him: I'm happy here
Her: I just want you to have bigger plans for yourself and for our future

At that point if he just repeats "I'm happy here" and doesn't say anything about the bigger plans that he has, that's on him.

I mean there are plenty of stories about golddiggers, and some of them are even true, but this isn't one of them. It's reasonable to want a partner who has a plan that doesn't involve dishwashing, and who's willing to talk about your future together. If you're in a serious relationship, it's very weird to keep your plans secret just in case she's totally faking the whole thing for that sweet Joe's Diner cash in 30 years.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

My (25/M) friend’s (28/M) girlfriend (27/F) asked me to pick her up after he drove off without her in the middle of an argument, and now my friend is angry, and saying I shouldn’t have helped.

My friend and I work at the same restaurant. He and his girlfriend came to the restaurant for her birthday, had drinks with the head chef. and a really nice meal, and then they left. They’ve been together for about a year now, so I’ve met her quite a few times, but we’re not friends or anything. In fact I forgot that she even had my phone number until she called me last night, about an hour after closing (midnight) and asked if I could pick her up and drop her off at the train station on my way home. I was headed in that direction as it was, so I didn’t see the big deal in giving her a ride to the station.

She sounded pretty upset toward the end as though she had been trying to hold it in. I told her that I would be there in fifteen minutes, during which time I gathered my things and texted my friend asking what happened and why his girlfriend was asking me for a ride to the station when they were supposed to be together. He didn’t reply, so I called. No answer. I took that as a sign that something was wrong, so I went to get her. When I arrived she seemed really upset, so I drove her all the way home. Again, it was really late. I didn’t ask her what exactly had happened because I didn’t want to get more involved, but she mentioned an argument and that he had driven off without her.

The following morning my friend started shouting at me at work. I explained my side and he just continued shouting about how it wasn’t my place to pick her up and how he was going to come get her anyway. I get that it wasn’t my place to step in, but she asked. What was I supposed to do? Tell her no and make her wait out there alone in the middle of the night hoping that my friend would come to his senses soon enough? I tried contacting him but he didn’t answer, so I made the decision that I thought was best. That was really all there was to it.

But now my friend (who I’ve known since uni) is angry and spreading lies about me saying that I’m trying to get with his girlfriend. The only reason she even had my phone number was because my friend had called me through her phone on a snowboarding trip where he and I were the ones driving. His phone had run out of battery on the drive over there, and he had to get a message across to the other car that I was driving, so he used his girlfriend’s phone. Of course, he’s acting like he doesn’t remember that now.

Not sure what I’m supposed to do or what I should have done differently. I was raised by a single mother, and my friend wasn’t, so maybe he just doesn’t have that instinct to help out even when it’s not his “place”. I don’t know. It’s getting in the way of work at this point, so I’m not sure what to do. Working in a kitchen is difficult enough without added drama like this.

tl;dr He’s angry at me for coming to get her even though I tried contacting him multiple times to let him know that she was upset and scared enough to reach out to me, someone she barely knows, for a ride. All because I was headed in that direction anyway. Not sure what I could have done differently without leaving her in a potentially dangerous situation.

Serephina posted:

I fully support a persons choice to remove non-sentient parasites. Just don't candy coat it. 'Designer Babies' means a very specific thing, and the OP's choice was a clear step in that direction. Smilie face.

DemoneeHo posted:

(Florida) someone keeps listing my condo as an air bnb. It's illegal in my zone.

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Edit. I'm not looking for advice about my door, door code, etc. [...] My door code isnt the issue.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for getting really mad at my boyfriend when he said all girls who game are bad?

We were playing together and one of our teammates was doing stuff that was a bit questionable. My boyfriend noticed that the username of the player was girly and started talking about how bad girls are in video games and kept referring to girls as bitches. I got frustrated by it and asked if he thought I was bad too since I happen to be a girl and he replied that I would be if I didn't have him.

I decided to just stop playing after that match. We texted a bit back and forth about this, he said I was a whiny bitch. He also said I was no longer a female in the wild so I wasn't that bad. He complained that I took offense when he didn't say anything offensive. I told him it was really uncalled for and that he can't look at one girl playing and say that all girls are bad, we have run into so many "bad" players that were guys and he said nothing about it.

I don't know if I overreacted about it, I got mad and I did call him a dick two or three times. I told him to not play with me if I'm so bad and that he definitely has some sexism in him. I didn't really get to say much else as he was ranting on about how girls don't have hunting instinct like guys. He has taught me stuff in games that he played before I started, that I won't deny and I've been thankful for it. I just really disagree with what he is saying and I don't think it's weird that I took offense. What do you guys think, did I overreact?

Blade Runner posted:

It's not really reasonable to expect a partner to be unhappy for you, you're pretty much just absolutely making up the conversation in your post

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and expecting your partner to be "ambitious" (read: rich)

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Your "Well what if you have an unexpected medical complication?!" makes no sense at all because unless he goes from busboy to a job where he makes actual millions of dollars, he will be exactly the same amount of hosed

Straight White Shark posted:

LimburgLimbo posted:

Has it never even occurred to this dude to contact AirBnB? I feel like this is something a lawyer could jump all over as AirBnB not properly vetting their hosts and causing damages.

Scathach posted:

Having four babies at once is a giant risk that could leave her dead and her husband a widow taking care of their other kids. If she wants a lower risk on an already scary pregnancy there isn't anything wrong with that. Choosing which babies to keep is her choice alone. Hell there isn't anything wrong with getting an abortion for any reason and the "omg designer babies!" thing is stupid af.

<spoiler>Some people are reeeeal concerned that she's not choosing the boys instead, right? </spoiler>

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

choosing the girls just makes sense though

Serephina posted:

I fully support a persons choice to remove non-sentient parasites. Just don't candy coat it. 'Designer Babies' means a very specific thing, and the OP's choice was a clear step in that direction. Smilie face.