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i called in today for the first time in at least 5 years (2.5 at current gig) bc i have a hip so sore that i can’t walk and all i could think was “oh god i hope i don’t get fired” i got a little pushback abt seeing a doc but i’ve got no insurance and already promised i’d be in tomorrow and they have the bodies to cover for my absence again i am having difficulty walking but all i can think abt is how this is going to impact my standing the post from the previous page applies to me 100% and is indeed accurate and well, ed balls
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Mar 22, 2019 20:49
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succ posted:Thinking about work is kinda weird. We are told to work 40 hours in 5 days and questioning it and wondering why we are unhappy we get told, "you might be depressed." It's entirely possible to not mind and even kind of enjoy work and I really miss having a brain that was like that.
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Mar 22, 2019 20:51
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turn off the TV posted:It's entirely possible to not mind and even kind of enjoy work and I really miss having a brain that was like that. i love my job and i’m paid well even though it comes with mountains of bullshit that is completely unnecessary bc my boss has a corporatization fetish even tho it’s a small restaurant and i miss the prior chef every day and oh wow i kinda hate my job but i love what i do? if that makes any sense? it sure beats slowly going insane working at call centers getting yelled at for poo poo that wasn’t my fault
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Mar 22, 2019 21:02
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I kind of liked the contract tech jobs but I realize that it is not the norm. I hope we can get to a point as a society where we can get structure, group tasks that are satisfying to accomplish, and free coffee without the misery and fear of dying penniless. And maybe being able to work more of a 30 hour workweek, those last two hours are hell and pointless
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Mar 22, 2019 21:07
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I actually like my job a lot. I find the work enjoyable, I’ve learned a ton, and I can work from home when I need to. If you’re lucky enough to have a job that you like, then that’s great. Just don’t put your job ahead of your own physical and mental health, and don’t get the idea that your employer has your best interests in mind. Always put your own concerns ahead of your company’s. Oftentimes there’s a lot of overlap there, especially in the US where employment is tied to healthcare. When in doubt, you can generally assume that your company will prioritize profit over your well-being. Also, always remember that HR is not there to protect the employees. They’re there to protect the company from the employees.
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Mar 22, 2019 21:23
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the prez sukks like, share, reblog if you agree e: poo poo wrong thread
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Mar 22, 2019 21:24
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I talked w/ my boss and he was like 'oh god I'm so sorry it was a mistake and I was just copying over last week's schedule and forgot to delete this day' so that made me feel better. I just got too worked up. he's always been super flexible and will do anything within reason for us. I'm just not good with communication so! that's my fault! my raise should be in the next couple of months and he gave me the highest 'exceeds expectations' kind of poo poo on my review which was nice to hear. I also learned that he's leaving in a few weeks and I'm really really really bummed about it bc he's a good dude, but he's getting out of retail into a job that's relevant to his music-making, which is awesome  
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Mar 22, 2019 21:31
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SHVPS4DETH posted:i called in today for the first time in at least 5 years (2.5 at current gig) bc i have a hip so everyone's always been pretty good about this poo poo at my job tbh, I'm just afraid of them thinking poorly of me when there's not much evidence that they would because we're all normal, sad, bitter people lol
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Mar 22, 2019 21:32
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i got banned due to bastageddon and it was good for my mental health actually. like, spending all my downtime at work drowning in irony-poisoned bitter nerd discussion about how hosed we are wasn't that great psychologically? woah.. also i went back on my anti-brokebrain meds AND found a weed man who lives like half a block from me. and i got fresh cookies being delivered as i post this  recipe for happiness: stop being extremely online all the time, get therapy/meds, smoke weed, eat cookies, be gay, do crimes
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Mar 22, 2019 22:29
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Feranon posted:i got banned due to bastageddon and it was good for my mental health actually. like, spending all my downtime at work drowning in irony-poisoned bitter nerd discussion about how hosed we are wasn't that great psychologically? woah.. on that note, this weekend may be a really good time to take a mental health break
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Mar 22, 2019 23:07
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i wanna get back on brain meds but i wanna be not on anything for my adhd test bc i dont want it to mess with the testing. i also hate my job and have an intense desire to take out a bunch of money and move to where i wanna be and hope to get something within a few months. my job and my location are definitely contributing to my depression also my cousin who was my best friend and her boyfriend who i considered a friend died in a plane crash in kenya last month so ive been dealing with that poo poo too and i dumped my boyfriend of a year over christmas
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Mar 22, 2019 23:15
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nice to see youre ok now chokes i miss our slack chats 
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Mar 22, 2019 23:18
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cheese eats mouse posted:i wanna get back on brain meds but i wanna be not on anything for my adhd test bc i dont want it to mess with the testing. gently caress that sounds rough af  GL goon
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Mar 23, 2019 00:45
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cheese eats mouse posted:nice to see youre ok now chokes i miss our slack chats cheeeeeeeeese  I'm in Austin, I got a tattoo. it literally almost killed me lol austin not the tattoo
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Mar 23, 2019 00:52
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Chokes McGee posted:cheeeeeeeeese I’m glad you got out though I know that was a big goal for you and the wife
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Mar 23, 2019 01:10
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for my own mental health I wanna take a tab tonight BUT i don’t have any weed to smoke to make it more full on plus I don’t want to be tired tomorrow so maybe mental health has to wait 🤷♂️ lol yep there is only one way
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Mar 23, 2019 03:53
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trying to find a new job is hard im dumb as poo poo and theres nowhere that pays enough to support my extravagant lifestyle of eating beans in an unfurnished beige room
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Mar 23, 2019 06:15
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So, this is a very awkward question. A decent-sized chunk of me believes that if good things happen to me, at best that means its robbing someone else of a good thing and at worst it causes bad things. I know this is a delusion. The chunk of me that's the most stable and sane knows that's not true. But it also doesn't have the tools or know-how to fight a lot of crippling emotions/fears/etc. I'm in therapy, I obviously have to work on my therapist with this. I didn't reach this explicit realization until yesterday. The next session is Tuesday. So, uh... What do I do, where do I start?
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Mar 23, 2019 11:47
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RandomPauI posted:So, this is a very awkward question. this is very common! it’s the same mechanism that kicks in when you feel like your personal problems are meaningless because someone somewhere else has it much worse. in my case it’s been 100% self esteem issues plus a childhood of constantly being yelled at for being selfish for no goddamn reason. you deserve happiness like everyone else, and your good things help get you feeling good and doing good which has a pay it forward effect. so it can actually help! anyway it’s good you’re realizing this because now that you know it’s a thing and can this face it. keep talking to your therapist and keep up the good work goon sir/ma’am
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Mar 23, 2019 16:05
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I had that belief too, where whenever I was doing better it seemed like bad things would happen to my friends. What was actually happening though is that I was doing well enough that I wasn't always caught up in my own poo poo and was able to notice what other people were going through.
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Mar 23, 2019 16:47
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mekyabetsu posted:In a similar vein, I’ll often be reading a book, start getting paranoid that I missed some minor but important plot point a few paragraphs prior, then go back and read from the beginning of the paragraph/page/chapter/etc. I’ll literally do this five or six times before I’m fully “satisfied” that I completely absorbed the material, and I can go on.
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Mar 24, 2019 00:51
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Goon Danton posted:I had that belief too, where whenever I was doing better it seemed like bad things would happen to my friends. What was actually happening though is that I was doing well enough that I wasn't always caught up in my own poo poo and was able to notice what other people were going through. Mine is more like "I went to the California Science Museum and had a great time which is why the Thomas Fire happened and two people died".
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Mar 24, 2019 02:33
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i went to a party last night!  i havent gone to a party in years lmao also i went as shall we say...an as unseen version of myself that is much more real would recommend!!! sometimes your life long unceasing depression might be because of dysphoria  
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Mar 24, 2019 03:56
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Zyla posted:i went to a party last night! e: whoops dysphoria that is something COMPLETELY different lol. glad you got accepted for who you were buddy leaving the below bc it’s still useful dysthymia is very real as is cyclothymia they may be considered “lesser” versions but it’s a really draining thing to have lurking around hidden in the background while you’re all bah I’m fine no depression/mania here
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Mar 24, 2019 05:58
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i feel nothing, i'm always pretending to care about others because i wish i did, but i dont, because life is pointless and the bad guys won before we were born
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Mar 24, 2019 08:39
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got any sevens posted:i feel nothing, i'm always pretending to care about others because i wish i did, but i dont, because life is pointless and the bad guys won before we were born For what it’s worth, if you’re bothering to pretend to care that shows you’re a decent person. I also think there’s some value in focusing what’s in front of you rather than obsessing about the bigger picture that you aren’t even certain about. Everyone dies someday, surely it’s worth sticking with life to see where it’ll go? Are you so sure of the future that you can say for certain life doesn’t have happiness in store for you? Rookoo has issued a correction as of 09:23 on Mar 24, 2019 |
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Mar 24, 2019 09:19
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Zyla posted:i went to a party last night! Wow are you me? Ive got a therapist appointment monday where i kiinda need to get my gender dysphoria write up because an amaazing endocrinologist agreed to see me in 2 weeks instead of the normal several months and im nervous af
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Mar 24, 2019 11:29
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Stinky Wizzleteats posted:Wow are you me? Congrats
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Mar 24, 2019 16:14
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RandomPauI posted:So, this is a very awkward question. Happiness isn't a zero-sum game, but what really sounds like your problem is that you don't feel like you deserve to be happy and you're trying to rationalize that negativity. Are you familiar with downward comparisons? Therapists often use them with depressed patients because some people respond very well to them. In essence, a downward comparison is one where your seemingly dire position is compared favorably to someone even worse off. In your case, think of this: there are people who are much worse than you, real stone cold pricks, who are happy, and they don't deserve it any more or less than you. Unless you're a moralist, in which case you should know they definitely deserve happiness less than you. Oh, one other thing: try writing down this explicit realization of yours, and details surrounding it, like when you thought this, what thoughts preceded it, what happened to you in the hours beforehand, etc. and then provide that to your therapist on Tuesday. edit: RandomPauI posted:Mine is more like "I went to the California Science Museum and had a great time which is why the Thomas Fire happened and two people died". Didn't see that part before, your problem could be very different from what I initially thought, but I still think you should write down the episode for yourself and your therapist Filthy Hans has issued a correction as of 20:39 on Mar 24, 2019 |
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Mar 24, 2019 20:35
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For a good philosophical-psychological framework I recommend Frankl's man's search for meaning. His view is that a meaningful existance comes from purpose and love for another person or people. That purpose can also be the suffering the universe gave us to endure. Very powerful especially from a holocaust survivor I would like to ask for advice how you guys deal with informational hygiene. Escitalopram stopped some addictive behaviours like smoking and sweets, but still when faced with a stressful situation I grab my phone to check the news/forums on what the orange man did
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Mar 24, 2019 21:43
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mekyabetsu posted:In a similar vein, I’ll often be reading a book, start getting paranoid that I missed some minor but important plot point a few paragraphs prior, then go back and read from the beginning of the paragraph/page/chapter/etc. I’ll literally do this five or six times before I’m fully “satisfied” that I completely absorbed the material, and I can go on. This behavior extends to games and movies. Just replace going back a few pages with reloading a save game, rewinding the movie, etc. platzapS posted:This was a symptom of my OCD. I felt like I couldn't say I "truly" read it if I didn't get every word. Just out of curiosity, how did you two do on reading comprehension tests when you were young? I could see how whiffing an important test early on would turn into a life-long fear of missing material, but that's just a wild guess and I'm not a psychologist. Still, it's always worth considering how little events from your childhood can cause big ripples that chase you for a long time.
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Mar 25, 2019 00:12
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I've realized I have a problem that I feel like C-Spammers probably can relate to and maybe have some advice. See, kinda all my hobbies got sucked into politics. So when the politics suck, everything does. The books I've got kicking around that I want to read are about politics, the movies I've been thinking about are documentaries, even talking about video games or tabletop games is mired in politics. I can't get away and I've done this all to myself. The solution is obvious, I know, but when so many of the things I find interesting intersect with the political, it's hard to pull away from it.
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Mar 25, 2019 00:25
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the solution is to make that your career, helping make those documentaries
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Mar 25, 2019 00:35
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Grondoth posted:I've realized I have a problem that I feel like C-Spammers probably can relate to and maybe have some advice. felt. One of the many, many things that led to my breakdown was taking the phone app I made for Harris’ campaign to the local DSA guy going OH BOY HERES MY CHANCE TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE WITH MY COMPUTER TOUCHING only to have him poo poo all over it and then tell me what it should be and to do that instead now I do things that actually make a difference like helping provide info to fellow mental illness sufferers
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Mar 25, 2019 01:40
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got any sevens posted:the solution is to make that your career, helping make those documentaries idiocracy 2
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Mar 25, 2019 01:41
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Chokes McGee posted:felt. One of the many, many things that led to my breakdown was taking the phone app I made for Harris’ campaign to the local DSA guy going OH BOY HERES MY CHANCE TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE WITH MY COMPUTER TOUCHING only to have him poo poo all over it and then tell me what it should be and to do that instead Yeah I wanted to sit back, put on a podcast and just play some things. Then I realized all my podcasts except one are related to politics.
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Mar 25, 2019 02:09
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i think that my family is going to disown me starting june 1st so it's gonna be neat to see if i can somehow apply and qualify for disability within the next few months or be cured of anxiety, depression and constant migraines before then
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Mar 25, 2019 02:35
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Nae! posted:Just out of curiosity, how did you two do on reading comprehension tests when you were young? I could see how whiffing an important test early on would turn into a life-long fear of missing material, but that's just a wild guess and I'm not a psychologist. Still, it's always worth considering how little events from your childhood can cause big ripples that chase you for a long time. I don’t remember specifics, but I know I did reasonably well. I was always more math and science oriented, but I still did pretty well in English classes and standardized reading tests. This behavior I have, where I re-read things out of some misguided fear that I missed a relevant point, isn’t rational. I don’t do it because I actually missed something; I do it because of either anxiety or some degree of undiagnosed ADHD. I’m cognizant of the root of the problem (I think), but while I’m experiencing its effects, it’s like an itch. Trying to ignore it is torture.
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Mar 25, 2019 04:27
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Stinky Wizzleteats posted:Wow are you me? yay im glad for ya! ----- in me news: fuckkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk i woke up today with horrific anxiety and despair about being old and not having accomplished goals of marriage/house/career and not seeing a path to any of them and it makes me feel real bad 
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Mar 25, 2019 14:13
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Zyla posted:yay im glad for ya! Now imagine you've accomplished all of those things and you hate your spouse, you're underwater on your house, and every day in your job makes you want to hurl yourself off the roof. Your dreams can turn into nightmares very quickly if you don't focus on why they're your dreams. What is it about the marriage/house/career trifecta that actually appeals to you? If you can figure out the components of those things that have actual meaning to you (probably companionship and stability to start), you can seek them out through other means. Don't fall into the trap of 'checking off the boxes' of society's idea of happiness. Find yours and everyone who doesn't like it can get bent.
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Mar 25, 2019 15:19
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