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if that kid had responded with compassion and the community rallied behind them the victim could have turned their life around. but because they responded to a cry for help with violence the child grew depressed and septic.
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Barudak posted:Not a reddit post, it was a vice article. Search for "My Grandmother the Poisoner" Jesus, what the hell is wrong with that family that they all just kept visiting this woman that they knew was poisoning them?
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May 14, 2019 16:46
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Auto Level Yoshi posted:So youre stating that by me saying youre a stupid oval office, legally speaking ive just sexually harassed you?
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My boyfriend [31M] asked me [33F] to choose between him and my late husband in the afterlife. Relationships Basically the title. I'm 33F, my boyfriend is 31M, my late husband was 32M. I was with my late husband for 3 years but we had known each other since we were 15. He was my first true love and we reconnected some time later. I loved him desperately and 2 years ago he passed away very unexpectedly. It's been very hard to move on with my life but I met my boyfriend last summer and things have been going great. (We've been together almost a year.) My boyfriend knows everything about my late husband and up until recently he's been very understanding and patient. I made it clear when we started dating that it was very difficult to "move on" and that I would always love my late husband. When we first started dating I'm sure I talked about him a lot because I was still grieving pretty heavily but as time has passed I learned to curb talking about him too much as sometimes it hurt my boyfriend's feelings. The other night we were in bed and I could tell something was bothering him. I pressed, and finally he got very emotional and said he wanted to ask me something but he knew it was "selfish and irrational and stupid" and that it would make me very upset. But seeing this thing was weighing on him so heavily I told him to go ahead. He's an emotional guy when he gets upset but he was full-blown crying when he asked me, apropos of nothing -- we hadn't talked about my late husband AT ALL in recent memory, and as far as I know nothing came up that would warrant this -- "If you had to choose in the afterlife between me and [husband], who would you pick?" I was pretty shocked and took a minute to answer. My first response was "I think that's a hard question because you know I'm an atheist and I don't believe in an afterlife." He said "I know." I went on to give as honest of an answer as I could, which was that I love my late husband very much but I love him too and that ultimately he is the one I'm with. It's not like I had an option between my boyfriend and my husband, but I DID have an option of whether to choose anyone ever again, and I chose him (despite not even wanting to date anyone when we met.) I said we should focus on the present and the future and that I was so lucky to have him, which I guess in the end isn't really an answer to his question. That seemed to satisfy him and he calmed down but now I'm feeling very weird about the whole thing. I think it was a very unfair question to ask, because how am I supposed to pick between the love I lost and the love I found? I don't think I should have to. And the whole idea of "whose table in Heaven are you going to sit at" seems incredibly juvenile and stupid. I love my boyfriend very much and I'm looking forward to our future together but I'm not sure how to proceed. It's hard for him to open up about deeply emotional things so I think it would be counterproductive to be upset with him for this question but I also don't want to be put in that position ever again. I don't want to have to "choose." I want to still be able to wear my husband's old t-shirts if I feel like it, enjoy the movies and songs we enjoyed together, have memories of him around that make me smile without worrying it's going to destroy my boyfriend emotionally. It's obviously a sensitive subject so how do I approach this with him, and how do I deal with my feelings of how unfair it is and how I don't want to choose between the two of them? TL;DR: My boyfriend asked me to choose between him and my dead husband in the afterlife. I don't want to choose but I gave him an answer about how much I loved him but will always love my late husband as well. I feel weird and upset that he asked me this question and put me in this position but I don't know how to talk to him about it without making him shut down emotionally in the future.
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May 14, 2019 16:57
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Pretty unreasonable either way, how does she know she'll even have the time to spend with her spouses when she's busy pushing boulders all day in Hell?
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May 14, 2019 16:59
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If you arent praying, giving to charity, and doing good works to ensure you go to heaven to eiffel tower your wife with her dead husband why do you even believe in god?
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May 14, 2019 17:00
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Hey, I know you don't believe in ghosts, but would you still let me watch you shower if I died and became a ghost?
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May 14, 2019 17:10
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Lmao remember that story about the guy who spilled ink over his nazi brother's painting of Hitler? I got banned from AITA for a month for congratulating him and saying nazis deserve to be punched, under the ruling that I was encouraging violence. So for a larf I messaged the AITA moderation team. 
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May 14, 2019 17:13
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cumshitter posted:Lmao remember that story about the guy who spilled ink over his nazi brother's painting of Hitler? Laffo
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May 14, 2019 17:16
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Beachcomber posted:Fetish fuel little sister grows up with a vore fetish but she wants to be the one eatting people.
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May 14, 2019 17:21
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cumshitter posted:Lmao remember that story about the guy who spilled ink over his nazi brother's painting of Hitler? Thus is awesome. Thanks for bringing it to the thread.
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May 14, 2019 17:22
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This was posted this morning but deleted, try to read as much of this as you can before checking the name. You will regret using me 😈 u/thatMGTOWguy quote:Just broke up with her after wasting around 3 years of my life. And it wasn’t even a proper relationship. Almost relationship, confused attraction knowing we had no future. She refused to stand up for me in front of her family and married someone of her family’s choice. I was ready to fight for her and stand up to everyone involved.
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May 14, 2019 17:25
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Speaking of nazis... I (20F) think I might be dating a neonazi? And I'm Jewish? quote:The title pretty much says it all, but I've been seeing someone for a few weeks now. We'll call him Kyle (19M). We aren't officially together but we text quite frequently and he asks me to hang out often, though I'm a student and have two jobs so I haven't been able to see him more than a few times. He doesn't work or go to school so he has a lot more free time than I do.
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May 14, 2019 17:26
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Power Khan posted:My boyfriend [31M] asked me [33F] to choose between him and my late husband in the afterlife. This guy is forging new realms in stupid, juvenile, hypothetical questions.
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May 14, 2019 17:34
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tactlessbastard posted:This guy is forging new realms in stupid, juvenile, hypothetical questions.
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May 14, 2019 17:37
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Fil5000 posted:Smashmouth Hendren invented the egg challenge.
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May 14, 2019 17:42
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cumshitter posted:Lmao remember that story about the guy who spilled ink over his nazi brother's painting of Hitler? Truly the hero we need. Also, can you confirm from earlier- someone said cum is a fruit & not dairy, is that right?
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May 14, 2019 17:45
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Antivehicular posted:Who eats six eggs at a sitting?! 
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May 14, 2019 17:55
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DemoneeHo posted:Speaking of nazis... Didn't we have one of these where the girl was the nazi and the guy was Jewish?
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MightyJoe36 posted:Didn't we have one of these where the girl was the nazi and the guy was Jewish? Yes, and while you think "hey if they break up and date the other partner this could all work out" you'd be wrong because you didn't end that sentence by saying "and of course I'd ensure the Nazi couple take a long walk off a short pier"
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May 14, 2019 18:05
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Is cheating for money cheating? Is there anything like "justified cheating"?quote:**TL;DR;** : My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex for money to pay for the university. Cheating or not?
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May 14, 2019 18:12
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She cheated on you dude. All these words you wrote in defense of her and her actions are as wasteful as bitcoin.
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May 14, 2019 18:14
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:if that kid had responded with compassion and the community rallied behind them the victim could have turned their life around. but because they responded to a cry for help with violence the child grew depressed and septic. Thanks for the obligatory scorching hot take. Whatever pushed that kid to suicide it wasn't another kid defending people from him.
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May 14, 2019 18:15
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DemoneeHo posted:Speaking of nazis... "Is there a possibility my neo-Nazi boyfriend doesn't hate Jewish people?" Is a strong question
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May 14, 2019 18:17
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Grape posted:Thanks for the obligatory scorching hot take. Even if it did, where the gently caress are the accountable adults here?
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May 14, 2019 18:18
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welcome to hell posted:Is cheating for money cheating? Is there anything like "justified cheating"? Oh, no, in that case it's not cheating, of course not. Anything else? Sounds like a wonderful relationship
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May 14, 2019 18:18
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welcome to hell posted:Is cheating for money cheating? Is there anything like "justified cheating"? Your girlfriend is a prostitute. HTH.
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May 14, 2019 18:18
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MasBrillante posted:Even if it did, where the gently caress are the accountable adults here? lmao
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May 14, 2019 18:19
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Blade Runner posted:lmao It was an extremely rhetorical question, yeah.
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May 14, 2019 18:26
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tactlessbastard posted:This guy is forging new realms in stupid, juvenile, hypothetical questions. FactsAreUseless posted:It's not new, sadly. I've heard this one before. this poo poo is especially baffling because it's one of the only parts of the mechanics of afterlife that's explicitly addressed in the Bible! Matthew 22:23-30 posted:That same day the Sadducees, who say there is no resurrection, came to him with a question. “Teacher,” they said, “Moses told us that if a man dies without having children, his brother must marry the widow and raise up offspring for him. Now there were seven brothers among us. The first one married and died, and since he had no children, he left his wife to his brother. The same thing happened to the second and third brother, right on down to the seventh. Finally, the woman died. Now then, at the resurrection, whose wife will she be of the seven, since all of them were married to her?”
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May 14, 2019 18:40
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therobit posted:Your girlfriend is a prostitute. HTH. Paradoxically, if the money was in exchange for cheating and not for the sex, then she's not a prostitute, however, the sex was cheating and the bargain was also cheating.
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May 14, 2019 18:41
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welcome to hell posted:Is cheating for money cheating? Is there anything like "justified cheating"? "I won't take money from my current boyfriend, but I will gently caress my ex boyfriend for money."
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welcome to hell posted:Is cheating for money cheating? Is there anything like "justified cheating"? I was a bit on edge because that first paragraph sure made it sound like she was coerced into sex and he wanted an excuse to resent her for it, but nope, thankfully it's just a trainwreck of an online relationship.
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:I was a bit on edge because that first paragraph sure made it sound like she was coerced into sex and he wanted an excuse to resent her for it, but nope, thankfully it's just a trainwreck of an online relationship. If she were coerced into cheating, it's still cheating. She put herself in the situation to ask ask the ex for money, and did not accept the money offered by her current boyfriend.
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May 14, 2019 18:53
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DemoneeHo posted:Speaking of nazis... Dump him, get a new boyfriend, and then let your nazi-ex know that the Jews have replaced him.
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Yeah, that wasn’t even prostitution. She was offered money, refused it, asked ex for money, got it, THEN went on further dates and cheated. Like, she’s somehow worse at being a prostitute than he is a john. 
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May 14, 2019 19:28
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cumshitter posted:Lmao remember that story about the guy who spilled ink over his nazi brother's painting of Hitler? Thank you for sharing this, this owns DemoneeHo posted:sounds like he should learn from this guy: That's what happens when your dick isn't constantly being worn down by vagina acid
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welcome to hell posted:Is cheating for money cheating? Is there anything like "justified cheating"? All of these stories, especially the ones that don't make any sense remind me of my very early 20s. I had friends that would narrate entire stories just like this one. Usually it came down to ''relationships'' that were completely one sided so the women just did whatever and had no issue telling them about it (''Oh yeah I met my ex the other day and we went to the park and I sucked his dick in the public bathroom") and the dude is so delusional he won't say anything but then cry about it and analyze it for a few months.
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So, do people who think it's a date to go out to dinner with a friend of the opposite gender also think it's a date when a bi person goes out to dinner with a friend of the same gender? I can't imagine being told that I can't go out to dinner with any of my friends ever again, and thinking that's a healthy relationship.ChickenOfTomorrow posted:After a sexual assault, I set a boundary that I don't spend time 1:1 with cis men unless it's necessary for work or organizing. I joke about it being the Pence Rule, but, yeah, maybe it is that except from the perspective of a woman who has experienced someone crossing a firm boundary because they "couldn't control themselves." In a few years I'll probably feel safe again and reevaluate the boundary, but for now it's something I need (and having it as a blanket boundary helps avoid men taking it personally and whining that I don't trust them). ChickenOfTomorrow posted:After a sexual assault, I set a boundary that I don't spend time 1:1 with cis men unless it's necessary for work or organizing. I joke about it being the Pence Rule, but, yeah, maybe it is that except from the perspective of a woman who has experienced someone crossing a firm boundary because they "couldn't control themselves." In a few years I'll probably feel safe again and reevaluate the boundary, but for now it's something I need (and having it as a blanket boundary helps avoid men taking it personally and whining that I don't trust them). Somebody who is aware of their trauma and there hyper-vigilance etcetera, is more likely to, as you said, talk to their partner about it before it comes up. But just springing it on them is BS regardless of the reasoning. Letting irrational fears rooted in trauma lead you to try to control your partner may be more understandable, but the result is the same either way. Then again, my own trauma leads me to be especially wary of anybody who tries to restrict who their partner's friends are, and when and where they're allowed to see them. So I honestly could just be going too hard in the opposite direction in myself.
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therobit posted:Jesus, what the hell is wrong with that family that they all just kept visiting this woman that they knew was poisoning them? "Family always sticks together no matter what" It's a huge thing with mine to the point I'm the monster because I cut out toxic people which means I'm heartless. Like the uncle who raped my mom and my aunt multiple times when they were teenagers and my grandparents told the girls to shut up and never talk about it. Or my dad who tried to stab my mom to death in front of me when I was 8. My mom has reprimanded me multiple times for me choosing to not have anything to do with those two. Now I'm not talking to anyone in my family because I'm battling Lyme and I'm not spending enough time managing their emotions since my disease has been so hard on them, why aren't I doing more to make them feel better? I don't give them enough attention, I clearly don't care about them at all. They would 100% expect me to keep eating grandma's poison food and tell me I'm a horrible uncaring person if I didn't.
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