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Parents refuse to let me get cochlear implants.. help?? u/blushinfruit Commenting has been restricted due to enough legal advice, thank you guys! (INDIANAPOLIS, IN) Okay so, obviously this needs a backstory because this is probably too ridiculous/unbelievable to hearing people. I’m a deaf teenager born to Deaf parents. (Please note the capitalization usage of the words deaf and Deaf, as they are two very different words, even though they’re spelled the same way. The big “D” is someone that has been identifying as Deaf since birth, is heavily involved in the deaf community, and American Sign Language is their native language. A lowercase “d” is someone that is deaf, but not technically proud of it, if you know what I mean. They may be ASL users, or use the oral method, or is a full on English speaker.) Anyways. I was born deaf, and was exposed to sign language from the very beginning. My parents were born deaf to hearing parents. They got hearing aids when they were a kid, and they went to speech therapy and hearing schools, until they reached middle school age, and eventually transferred to Deaf schools. The educational system for the Deaf failed my parents, as they graduated from high school with a 5th grade reading level for my mother and 3rd grade for my father. They went to a Deaf college, and barely graduated with an Associates degree. I was placed in The Florida School for the Deaf at the age of 3, got hearing aids, but was never taught how to speak. I’m on the severe side when it comes to the scale of deafness. I’ve never heard anything properly in my entire life, even with hearing aids. The sounds were all the same, and I couldn’t identify where the sound was coming from. I couldn’t tell what words were coming out of the speaker’s mouth. Let’s fast forward to 13 years later..I’m 16 now and I’m pretty near to graduation, I’m graduating November 2019. I’m currently in a hearing school with access to an interpreter everyday. It gets exhausting. I end up never paying attention to the interpreter signing, instead of paying attention to her signing, I usually focus on reading the teacher’s lips and try my best to figure out what’s going on. I miss 90% of the information, so thankfully, my teacher gives me notes afterwards. I’m going to college soon, and I’m going to be on my own soon, that means no access to interpreters unless I fight for the right to have access, and I have to depend on myself. It’s going to be a huge struggle and I want all of this to stop. I want to be able to hear, and take speech classes. Even if I end up not able to speak fluently after multiple speech classes, I’ll still have the satisfaction knowing I tried. I’ve been asking my parents for cochlear implants on both of my ears, but they straightforwardly said NO. I asked them why, and they said they don’t believe the need to hear is necessary. That we can live without the ability to hear, which I strongly disagree with. Unfortunately, I wish this wasn’t the case, but this world was designed for hearing people. Even with accommodations and modifications for the deaf, this world is still designed for hearing people. I don’t want to miss out on opportunities, I need to start learning how to speak and have the ability to hear NOW. Because when I reach my 30’s, it’ll be too late. I don’t want the barriers and the frustration that come with deafness. Of course, the cochlear implant isn’t a medical miracle, but it’s somehow helpful, and my parents need to understand this. I’ve been fighting for a while for me to get cochlear implants before college starts, but.. I start college in 2020, and I still don’t know how to speak or have the ability to hear. How can I get cochlear implants and speech therapy without my parents’ permission? Any advice would be appreciated!
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May 16, 2019 04:07
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cumshitter posted:I can't imagine how lovely that office is. Management made it extremely clear to everyone that she was being punished for doing extra unpaid supervisory duties and refusing to train her replacement for free, who was not even hired from within. What message are you supposed to take away from that besides, "Do free work for us and then eat poo poo"? i bet they complain a lot about how they can't find qualified people to work in the office and when they do, they're never loyal to the company
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May 16, 2019 04:20
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not throwing my career away for my mentor? Christ, what a loving rear end in a top hat. That "but she knows" thing especially pisses me off. Dipshit probably thinks like "Why do I need to tell my wife I love her? She already knows I do, so what's the point of saying it?" Like it's the bare minimum you could do for someone that really helped you out, and he's now burning bridges with one of the only people that could save him when the (clearly terribly ran) company decides he's outlived his usefulness I really hope that whole company goes under
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May 16, 2019 04:21
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But surely this lovely company wouldn’t ever treat me shittily! Two years later: well gently caress
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May 16, 2019 04:23
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I checked it out, and aside from a few idiots, everyone is rightfully calling him garbage. One person put it really well : "You don't have to be brave, you just need to not be such a coward" in regards to upsetting management by signing it. God, that OP is a moron. J's word is worth so much more then his company for extending his career. The company won't give him a second thought when he leaves or is more likely layed off
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May 16, 2019 04:35
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If OP is a man then he may right to think the lovely atmosphere may not apply to him. If OP is woman then she's right to be afraid of signing that card. That said, this: Miserable Maid posted:Christ, what a loving rear end in a top hat. That "but she knows" thing especially pisses me off.
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May 16, 2019 04:37
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Smirking_Serpent posted:i can get her being forced out for being a CRAZY FEMALE, but deliberately giving her an empty card is so loving petty that it sounds like something from the office I’ve got a buddy that works for a place like that. His supervisor had finally had it with the poo poo conditions. He gave his two weeks, but apparently did his best to be respectful. The higher ups told him they’d throw him a goodbye party. Two days later the party happened, lots of food and booze, and right as this guy walked in the room they fired him on the spot and had security escort him out. My friend said everyone just ate and drank in silence while the higher ups tried to make like a party and then gave people the stinkeye when they weren’t partying too. Corporate can be pretty hosed up. It breeds pettiness and assholery.
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May 16, 2019 04:40
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areyoucontagious posted:I’ve got a buddy that works for a place like that. His supervisor had finally had it with the poo poo conditions. He gave his two weeks, but apparently did his best to be respectful. The higher ups told him they’d throw him a goodbye party. Two days later the party happened, lots of food and booze, and right as this guy walked in the room they fired him on the spot and had security escort him out. what the gently caress
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May 16, 2019 04:45
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Today in “this is definitely legit”quote:A gentlemen approached me at a gas station while I was filling up and asked me If i could help him get his car across states due to him not being able to because of heart conditions. He also said that he couldn’t do it through a tow truck service because he has some parrots he wants me to drive aswell on the way to virginia. While I wholeheartedly would like to help him, and the money he is willing to dish out for said service was very inticing, I have a few doubts. Firstly how can I avoid any sort of scam or scheme? My friend said I could go to a notary and have him ans I sign a legal paper, but im also worried about the parrots ? What if god forbid they are stolen! Or his car, what if it has some issues he is not aware of and I get stranded. My last worry is payment, should I ask him to pay me before or after I deliver his vehicle? How can I be sure he will pay me. Any helpful answers are appreciated.
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May 16, 2019 04:54
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Lol he’s worried about the birds being stolen but not the car?
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May 16, 2019 04:56
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ghost emoji posted:AITA for treating cashiers like they’re stupid to avoid getting the wrong change (self.AmItheAsshole) YTA. Right there, you can stop n Oh you fool, you crazy fool. quote:AITA for treating cashiers like they’re stupid to avoid getting the wrong change mllaneza fucked around with this message at 07:16 on May 16, 2019 |
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May 16, 2019 05:00
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:Even if OP is afraid of signing that card they could have explicitly said so to her in private and supported J outside of the office. No loving kidding. Completely ignoring her while all that was happening to her is absolute betrayal. The silence says "I agree with how they're treating you."
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May 16, 2019 05:01
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Tetramin posted:Lol he’s worried about the birds being stolen but not the car? Parrot bandits are stalking the state line just waiting for prey.
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May 16, 2019 05:01
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Baby airplane chat: Before a year old this doesn't work but after that point this is by far the best babyhack I've been giving for flying with small children: Go to the dollar store and buy one super cheap toy for each 15-30 minutes you will be on the plane. Put them in a bag and don't let the child see them before hand. Pull them out one at a time and move to the next when the child gets bored. Small kids are super fascinated with new toys but will get bored. Having a succession of new toys will completely distract them from everything else and they can be $2-3 dollar ones at the most you can throw away after the flight. Hell we even got a bunch out of those 25cent vending machines in the plastic bubbles one time. A long 8 hour or more flight this probably won't work the whole flight but that's why you tire them out with little sleep before hand and some Benadryl and they can take a nap when the toys stop working for the last couple of hours. My son was an extremely active toddler and this worked to perfection on multiple 2-5 hour flights.
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May 16, 2019 05:02
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I don't want the baby airplane getting distracted. look what happened with the 737 MAX
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May 16, 2019 05:10
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D-Pad posted:Baby airplane chat: This is true, and also works well for cats and dogs when moving them to a new house
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May 16, 2019 05:13
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Smirking_Serpent posted:what the gently caress Lmao my first job when you put in your two weeks notice the boss would open his office door and loudly cuss you out to the entire office. Someone I work with had a director who was a member of a parisian streetgang in his youth and kept ties with them as an adult and funded them from his success. If you quit you couldnt say where you were going or post where you went on social media or some extremely rough people would show up at your new job to harass you/your new business.
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May 16, 2019 05:15
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Miserable Maid posted:I checked it out, and aside from a few idiots, everyone is rightfully calling him garbage. One person put it really well : I dunno what I would have done in that situation either. The fact that absolutely no one else signed it and that corporate lorded this in front of everyone clearly indicates some kind of Orwellian nightmare. If I'm early 20s and recently promoted from intern, I dunno if I can risk them firing me and poo poo talking me to the whole industry like they already openly said they were going to do to her.
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May 16, 2019 05:26
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Barudak posted:Lmao my first job when you put in your two weeks notice the boss would open his office door and loudly cuss you out to the entire office. jeauxjeaux's bizarre severance package
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May 16, 2019 05:27
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Xequecal posted:I dunno what I would have done in that situation either. The fact that absolutely no one else signed it and that corporate lorded this in front of everyone clearly indicates some kind of Orwellian nightmare. If I'm early 20s and recently promoted from intern, I dunno if I can risk them firing me and poo poo talking me to the whole industry like they already openly said they were going to do to her. I feel like if s/he was working for multiple years developing a career, they'd have more to stand on, but as it is they've only been there a year, and judging by what happened, they're more disposable then they think In fact I'd go so far as to say they're already on the poo poo list due to their previous relationship. It's not if, but when
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May 16, 2019 05:46
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AITA for telling "no they won't" to a person who told someone they'll see their dead pet again one day? (self.AmItheAsshole)quote:It happened on Reddit just a few hours ago. OP was saying they had a hard tim when their pet died, which is totally understandable. Then there was a discussion in the comments that went like this:
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May 16, 2019 05:55
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D-Pad posted:Baby airplane chat: We have done the new toy thing to good effect. We don't let. Our kids watch TV every day and with older kids (as in not babies or toddlers) if they are TV starved you can plug them into a device for hours.
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May 16, 2019 05:55
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ghost emoji posted:AITA for telling "no they won't" to a person who told someone they'll see their dead pet again one day? (self.AmItheAsshole) Hey dont you have some siblings sexuality to go out?
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May 16, 2019 06:02
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ghost emoji posted:AITA for telling "no they won't" to a person who told someone they'll see their dead pet again one day? (self.AmItheAsshole) 
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May 16, 2019 06:08
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therobit posted:We have done the new toy thing to good effect. We don't let. Our kids watch TV every day and with older kids (as in not babies or toddlers) if they are TV starved you can plug them into a device for hours. So you're the dick with the kid watching the loudass tablet.
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May 16, 2019 06:09
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Resting Lich Face posted:So you're the dick with the kid watching the loudass tablet. Nah, they make headphones for kids with a way to limit the volume so it's safe for their ears.
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May 16, 2019 06:32
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Is it legal for my college professor to tell their class who to vote for?quote:At the end of the final lecture of my political science class, my professor told the class to go out and vote for the Democratic party in the 2020 election to get Trump out of office. As far as I am concerned this is an illegal action. Am I correct? quote:I was in class and I have the powerpoint where he bashes Trump quote:I plan to tell the dean/chair of political science department to advise the teacher to teach from a textbook instead of biased articles Lol what a weenie.
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May 16, 2019 06:39
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La Brea Carpet posted:Is it legal for my college professor to tell their class who to vote for? I can't imagine it would be illegal. And there are not relatively that many poli-sci professors who would tell you to vote for Trump. And the ones that exist possibly got their PhD at Trump University.
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May 16, 2019 06:45
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I am a college professor and it is neither illegal nor even against university policy for me to tell my students who to vote for. I can't do something like bribe them with extra credit for voting for the democrats, obviously, but promoting my own opinion and encouraging them to adopt it is 100% protected academic freedom. but please do take the powerpoint where he bashes trump to your dean like it's a smoking gun. I'm sure he will be very receptive 
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May 16, 2019 06:46
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AITA for telling my girlfriend she’s weird for claiming she gave a kid a sexual awakening? Okay, so my gf works at dunkin donuts and she sometimes calls me during her breaks to chat. Well, this time she calls me and is all giggly saying that she gave a kid his sexual awakening by giving him a sandwich. Naturally, my first reaction is “What?” to which she responds that she gave a kid a sandwich and he was giving her “eyes” all the rest of his time there. I’m kind of confused by this whole thing so I ask her how old he looked and she was like “11-12”, to which I say “Okay, that’s a really weird thing to say about a 12 year old” and she was like “What? all my coworkers agree he was giving me the eyes and doing TONS of double takes”. I continue to ask why this is a sexual awakening thing but didn’t progress anywhere beyond that justification and now she’s calling me an rear end in a top hat... so am I?
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May 16, 2019 06:47
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my girlfriend she’s weird for claiming she gave a kid a sexual awakening? Lot to unpack here
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May 16, 2019 06:51
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i vomit kittens posted:She should be angry that he stopped at three $6 drinks instead of finding something that was like $20 per. Back at the ad agency, our CFO tried to wind me up over a $750 bar bill for 18-year Macallan and 14-year Scapa (pay whatever is asked for any Scapa product, they make amazing Scotch). That didn't go very far because of the golf cart belonging to spa security that ended up in the swinging pool. My bar tab was a rounding error on what that cost, and he was totally in on it.
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May 16, 2019 06:58
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A lot of girls gave me boners when I was 12 (every girl basically) Also, the boners would come even when there were no girls. Suddenly there'd just be a boner in class and it was horrifying and I had to spend the next minute covering up my boner crisis
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mllaneza posted:Back at the ad agency, our CFO tried to wind me up over a $750 bar bill for 18-year Macallan and 14-year Scapa (pay whatever is asked for any Scapa product, they make amazing Scotch). That didn't go very far because of the golf cart belonging to spa security that ended up in the swinging pool. My bar tab was a rounding error on what that cost, and he was totally in on it. at my last job, i went to a company christmas party where there was an open bar and among other things there was a bottle of 25-year Macallan i drank myself a tidy little bonus with that. i never caught poo poo because they weren't keeping track of who ordered what. eventually other people caught on and they ran out of the 25, so i had to settle for 18 year for the rest of the evening i only wish i could have drank even more that night because i hate the owners of that company and i hope they die in penury
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May 16, 2019 07:26
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My [20f] boyfriend[27m] of almost two years has been in the process of joining the Navy Reserves since August, I just now told him it’s not what I want. He told me he’d rather be with me than in the Navy. I don’t know what to do. (Please no comments about our age gap. I am about to turn 21.) I have been dating my boyfriend James since July 2017. In August 2018 he told me he was joining the navy reserves and that he would have to go away for a few months. I was crushed. He was in the marines before and was working a dead end job and decided he wanted more in life so he decided to do that. I was upset, but soon learned his joining process would take a really long time. He hears from the Navy and then three months goes by without hearing from them, and then he hears from them again. It’s been like that since August when he decided to join. He told me he’s going away this weekend to do ‘navy stuff’ and I told him how much I didn’t want that. I’ve hinted to it before, but then tried to convince myself that it would be okay if he went away for 3-4 months. I basically told him being with someone in the military isn’t what I want in my future. I also told him I’m always afraid he’s going to have to leave me for months and when he hears back from them all the safety and security I feel in our relationship melts away. He told me he didn’t want me to feel upset, and that he can ensure he’d rather have a future with me than with the navy. I told him I didn’t want that for him either, and finally settled on saying I would never make him choose between me and his career. We left it at that and he said he’ll let me know when something new happens with the Navy right away, but I can’t stop crying about it. We are very good together and this isn’t right. I don’t think I can be a military girlfriend. I want stability in my relationship. I don’t know what to do now because I told him I’d stay with him and everything but the military thing really bothers me and I’m sick of feeling so upset over it. I feel so stuck. Tl;dr I don’t know what to do about my boyfriend possibly leaving for months
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May 16, 2019 08:01
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Some guys are threatening sexual violence to a friend of mine from germany, but she won't report because they know she has some illegal WW2 collectible that would ruin her career if police found out. Is it possible she can get help from authorities without losing her career? The memorabilia isn't anything dangerous, just a small compass with a swastika on the backside. But she has reasons to suspect the people threatening to rape her knows about it. In germany the laws are very strict about these things and if police finds out she says she would no longer be able to perform this job, it's in the public sector. The guys who are threatening her have repeatedly tried to make her drink certain things and got angry when she refused, and they also raped someone she knows. We suspect it was daterape drugs, and they also threaten to hurt her friends if she tell them. I've kept some details a bit vague to protect her.
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May 16, 2019 08:01
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Tell your girlfriend to do the reich thing and throw it away wehr none will find it, not even in 1,000 years, and if she cant that she will find herself without any living space with you.
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May 16, 2019 08:08
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To my knowledge it's perfectly legal to own that and something like half of German police are just gonna be like low-key "right on, lady" *wink/OK symbol* when they catch wind of it kinda takes a special mindset to just go "I guess might as well let these guys run a train on me cause there is no. way. I'm getting rid of the nazi compass", gently caress sake you can pick up a good compass for cheap and it'll have like an anchor on it and as a bonus properly point north instead of towards Poland
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"If the memorabilia is her sole bar to calling the police, it should be easy enough for her to relocate it (with a friend, a relatie, a safety deposit box)."quote:but then she would have to lie to the police, there's no way she would do that
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