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Midnight Voyager posted:gently caress that first doctor, jesus. What's with these fucks and just refusing to believe symptoms or the word of their patient? She's a lesbian, Harold! She doesn't gently caress dudes! GO DOWN FARTHER IN YOUR LIST OF POSSIBILITIES. When I was 16 I started having very irregular periods and honestly I didn't' give much of a poo poo because 3 months no period yay! I guess my step mom noticed and she dragged me to the hospital and they made me do x-rays and her and nurses were very badgering about if I did them then I'd harm my unborn child or they'd see it in the x-ray and then be mad about it. Spoiler, I was a goddamn virgin. I told them that and they ignored me. Also they seemed to find nothing at all because they left it at "x-rays look fine, keep on with your weird periods".
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# ? May 24, 2019 06:08 |
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My job has me interacting with retired or semi-retired doctors that were the tops of their various fields. It's amazing dealing with people for which reality its self could sooner bend and contort than ever see them wrong or mistaken about something.
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I mean hell, we're in the middle of a new drug crisis because docs love prescribing powerful opiates to anyone now, but seemingly especially old white dudes.
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# ? May 24, 2019 06:11 |
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empty sea posted:When I was 16 I started having very irregular periods and honestly I didn't' give much of a poo poo because 3 months no period yay! I guess my step mom noticed and she dragged me to the hospital and they made me do x-rays and her and nurses were very badgering about if I did them then I'd harm my unborn child or they'd see it in the x-ray and then be mad about it. last time i went to the hospital some years ago it was because i hadn't pissed in like three days, the doctor who came to see me badgered me for a good 20 minutes about whether or not i'd had sex with a bunch of dudes. "hmm nope never have" "it's not illegal these days you know? i won't tell anyone if you admit it." "yeah i know i just haven't hosed a guy" "are you absolutely sure?" "100% yes" "you wouldn't be lying to me, would you? i'm here to help" i dunno if it was his hosed up fantasy or what but he would not let it go. so eventually they tried drawing a sample from my bladder and they couldn't get anything, and when they did an ultrasound apparently my tank was just empty, despite drinking a gallon a day. and the next day it was fine, i could piss like a horse. to this day nobody knows where the three gallons of water i drank over those few days went
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# ? May 24, 2019 06:17 |
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Jesus these women. My husband turns into an anchor around my neck in the face of the smallest adversity. Should I stay with him? My husband has the nails of a Chinese Mandarin and resembles a walking trash heap. How do I work through this?
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# ? May 24, 2019 06:18 |
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I married a woman after she told me she killed her previous husbands for striking her. Later I struck her after learning that she fed honored guests crops stolen from a neighbor, now she's refusing to give me any of her long hair (which is her pride) with which i could use to restring my bow, which i am currently using to repel an army of bandit raiders. WIBTA if i just fuckin, stole some hair, or. . . (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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My boyfriend broke up with me and I think it’s all a huge mistake. How do I process this?quote:Okay, I want to cut to chase here. For the past year and a half, I have been dating this wonderful, but quiet, introverted, plagued with social anxiety and depression, geeky man, “Bob,” I met through a gaming group. Shortly after we started dating and he opened up about some THINGS I encouraged him to go to therapy and he started. We’ve been living together for a little over a year.
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# ? May 24, 2019 06:28 |
Scathach posted:poo poo, condolences. My mom just had a major spinal/organ moving surgery because her doctors told her for years that all her symptoms were just laziness (my mom was an EMT and hiker, and not overweight). She couldn't breathe because her spine was hosed up and pressing her organs where they shouldn't be. If they'd figured out fifteen years ago my mom wouldn't have had to undertake such a risky surgery. My mom spent 35 days in the hospital for gallstones that caused pancreatitis. It turns out she had them for years but was never given the scan that would actually reveal them, so she continued gaining weight and the doctors just told her she wasn't exercising enough or eating right until she suddenly collapsed in agony and had to be taken to the hospital. One nurse assumed that she had pancreatitis due to alcoholism for some reason and abused her (like wrapping her in the sheets so she couldn't move and insulting her) until she could break through the haze of pain and medication to tell a doctor. She made it out of surgery with a roughly 20% chance of survival, complete with a vision of her mother telling her it wasn't her time to die yet while she was on the table. Then in 2016 she had what we thought was a severe case of the flu but turned out to actually be torn mesh from her surgery going septic, and the doctor told us that if we waited another day she probably would have been beyond saving. I still have to live with her because she's physically weak and suffers pain and the risk of damage to her internal organs if she bends over so there's a lot of basic household stuff she can't do. All because nobody gave her one particular scan.
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gently caress Your Website posted:My boyfriend broke up with me and I think it’s all a huge mistake. How do I process this? Why all these dumb fuckers going for bustedass lovely men?
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# ? May 24, 2019 06:31 |
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Because women constantly get the message "you're not going to get a Disney prince, you're not perfect, nobody's going to be perfect, you need to compromise and put more work into it, you're lucky you have this one"
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Resting Lich Face posted:Why all these dumb fuckers going for bustedass lovely men? They always preface it by talking about how wonderful they are but I can't help picturing some skinnyfat guy with weird facial hair and a nasally voice who ends up being the only person to give this girl attention because she's kinda weird herself. Because every time I encounter a couple like this in real life they look exactly like this.
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Anne Whateley posted:Because women constantly get the message "you're not going to get a Disney prince, you're not perfect, nobody's going to be perfect, you need to compromise and put more work into it" Thank random chance I'm asexual then. I can't imagine being some dumbass brainwashed into loving some brokenass piece of poo poo failure of a human.
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Can you live with your ex?quote:I recently finalized the ending of a relationship…I say finalized because I’ve been trying to break up with my ex since October, but she finally was able to accept it months later…no matter how many times I told her, “my feelings for you have changed,” “I’m no longer attracted to you,” et al. For the record, she’s not a bad person…hardcore Geek Social Fallacy carrier, yes, but a generally decent, well intentioned (if a little misguided a lot of the time) human being. When the ending finally hit her, we were able to talk more openly than we have in months and are working out all the transitional stuff without conflict.
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The White Dragon posted:please don't put words in my mouth Cool I think maybe you just didn't fully see my post in context then. From my perspective it was this: *Lots of women discussing their experiences centered around doctors being sexist around topics of sexual activity and health* One poster: oh boy I am glad I've only been to expensive doctors in prestigious hospitals. I'm sorry people have to deal with crappy doctors! Me: it's not about the quality of the doctor, sexism in medicine affects women no matter how much they pay or how hard they work to find 'one of the good ones' You: actually I know a man who had a bad experience with a doctor, so there's no sexism in medicine, only elitism Me: no, it's both. Also women can also be sexist, and so female doctors can also be sexist but this absolutely doesn't mean that women don't deal with extra poo poo on top of the regular poo poo. If your point was 'female doctors can be sexist too', that's fine and we agree. If your point was 'there's no sexist element to bad medicine, it's just doctors randomly being bad' then we disagree.
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gently caress Your Website posted:Can you live with your ex? You can live with an ex. But they can't, because she's refusing to accept they're exes.
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# ? May 24, 2019 06:39 |
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I seriously gently caress with that one posters if then conditionals about sexism and doctors being trash humans
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Six months in and things are not goodquote:I have been seeing this guy for the past 6months long distance. We visit every few months. This past visit was the longest we’ve spent together (3 weeks) and it was somewhat a rollercoaster. A few things went wrong here and there of course that was bumpy. Overall I felt disrespected, confused, and disgusted. I told my partner that the state of his apartment made me feel uncomfortable (he’s a borderline hoarder w/ no access to his kitchen, getting electricity off the grid, walking space is lessening) and he responded by saying it’s related to my trauma. I understood that, yet he did nothing to increase my comfort while I was there. The mess continued to be an issue while I was there (losing things, bugs, mice) and finally before I left I told him that I felt like my feelings weren’t being taken seriously. He didn’t take this well and acted standoffish towards me afterwards. I’m back home now, and I’m feeling much better to be in a de-cluttered space. It’s been a week and I’ve asked that he take some space for himself and get help. We chatted briefly about it. I tried to check in today and got no response. I only know that he’s alive bc of his social media postings (some of which have been passive aggressive) I don’t know what to do at this point. I’m ready to give up and call it quits……should I give him more time? If so how much time is enough?
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# ? May 24, 2019 06:43 |
Why the gently caress do people do the whole long distance relationship thing? Never loving works,
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gently caress Your Website posted:Six months in and things are not good Why why why why why why gently caress..... gently caress. Resting Lich Face posted:Why the gently caress do people do the whole long distance relationship thing? It can work if there is going to be an end game of one of the two people moving in a determined set of time. If you are doing it with no end then yes you are right.
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My daughter (24F) is dating someone incompatible, please help!quote:First off, I want to let it be known that we are a family of Christians; I believe there is only one true God and that to be saved it must be through Jesus Christ. I have raised both my children “Paul” – 19 years old – and “Mary” – 24 years old – to be strong in faith and put their trust in God. quote:I saw your response on your website and thank you for writing back but I don’t think you understand. As I have said, while she is very independent she is not yet mature (she can be very selfish and I fear her being in New York has taught her to value the materialistic things of this world).
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Resting Lich Face posted:Why the gently caress do people do the whole long distance relationship thing?
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Sorry darling. At six months he's legally a tenant in your life. You're stuck with him for a few more years while the eviction process plays out.
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Resting Lich Face posted:Why the gently caress do people do the whole long distance relationship thing? Facts. I tried it once. I only did it because she was the hottest girl I've ever dated.
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:These people aren't people who were together and one of them moved away. They meet online and decide that they're dating. It doesn't matter that it never works because if you're someone who's willing to consider yourself in a relationship with someone you've never met you must not think there are any other viable alternatives. It's also really easy to ignore red flags and keep this kind of relationship going, because you don't spend enough face-to-face time together to get that you're incompatible. Combined with the loneliness/romantic desperation of your average nerd, and you can get gangrenous pseudo-relationships lingering on for years.
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gently caress Your Website posted:My daughter (24F) is dating someone incompatible, please help! this makes me angrier than the smug filthy garbage men
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Here’s one woman who’s successfully moved on from a long distance relationship to dating a dude right in her neighborhood! Surely this will be a huge improvement!quote:So I’m seeing a Dude. We’re very new; I started dating him about two months ago but one month in, I went to Spain for a month and just got back. Fuck Your Website fucked around with this message at 07:08 on May 24, 2019 |
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gently caress Your Website posted:My daughter (24F) is dating someone incompatible, please help! Like on the one hand she’s right, men can totally be capable of rape and he will absolutely drag her daughter into the tarry black pits of hell, but this entitlement about a 40k salary with a masters? Bitch, I know PhDs who make like 18k. A masters ain’t poo poo unless it’s in finance or you sell your soul to pharma and even then you’ll top out at 70ish. You need to let that 40k isn’t enough ship sail into the sunset. But A+ on the whole corruption angle, behind you 100%
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Resting Lich Face posted:Why all these dumb fuckers going for bustedass lovely men? Because they happen to not be lesbians and don't want to lead a life of abstinence What I'm saying is that all men are bustedass and lovely
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gently caress Your Website posted:My boyfriend broke up with me and I think it’s all a huge mistake. How do I process this? Something isn't sitting right about this one with me. Yep, he has critical sadbrains, but assumptions like "She doesn't want me to be friends with these 10+ people" don't just fall out of the sky.
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Midnight Voyager posted:gently caress that first doctor, jesus. What's with these fucks and just refusing to believe symptoms or the word of their patient? She's a lesbian, Harold! She doesn't gently caress dudes! GO DOWN FARTHER IN YOUR LIST OF POSSIBILITIES. We've got enough computer touchers in here that a lot of people are familiar with the phrase "users lie." I'm guessing it works the same way with patients. I'm no doctor but I'm pretty sure I'd rather cause some offense trying to sniff out a lie rather than accidentally irradiating someone's baby.
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Xequecal posted:We've got enough computer touchers in here that a lot of people are familiar with the phrase "users lie." I'm guessing it works the same way with patients. I'm no doctor but I'm pretty sure I'd rather cause some offense trying to sniff out a lie rather than accidentally irradiating someone's baby. People literally die from this poo poo, don't reduce it to 'causing offense'.
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HazCat posted:People literally die from this poo poo, don't reduce it to 'causing offense'. I'm not referring to the actual diagnosis errors, I'm referring to them pestering her constantly about potential pregnancy before doing an xray.
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Xequecal posted:We've got enough computer touchers in here that a lot of people are familiar with the phrase "users lie." I'm guessing it works the same way with patients. I'm no doctor but I'm pretty sure I'd rather cause some offense trying to sniff out a lie rather than accidentally irradiating someone's baby. 'Everybody lies', etc. Though that probably didn't help since now every doctor thinks he's House just because he has a PhD, a lovely attitude and a pill addiction. Problem is when the doctor does exactly the opposite and refuses to budge from their initial baseless assumption and ignores all evidence and symptoms to the contrary, especially when said assumption comes down to 'she's a lying whore'.
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Boyfriend Wants To Spend Time With Me Lady fundamentally has the same problem as the Six Black Chicks "This man loves my imperfect rear end so much he wants to eat dinner off it."
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Xequecal posted:I'm not referring to the actual diagnosis errors, I'm referring to them pestering her constantly about potential pregnancy before doing an xray. It's 'instead of doing an xray', though. This isn't just some uncomfortable gauntlet women need to go through before they get treatment. They regularly are refused (or never offered) treatments because doctors assume they are pregnant or sexually active or exaggerating their pain or lying for attention. You're making it sound like it's acceptable or understandable for doctors to make these assumptions because 'better safe than sorry', but the actual real world application of this is women dying from treatable illnesses.
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The intersection of this is that the US has childbirth mortality rates comparable to Third World countries for black women specifically to the point where Presidential candidates are specifically running on legislation to try to force hospitals to provide a better standard of care.
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HazCat posted:It's 'instead of doing an xray', though. This isn't just some uncomfortable gauntlet women need to go through before they get treatment. They regularly are refused (or never offered) treatments because doctors assume they are pregnant or sexually active or exaggerating their pain or lying for attention. But to be fair there are so many dumbasses who lie to their doctors I dont blame them for skeptical.
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I’m not a doctor lawyer so I’m not sure of the answer but if you lie to your doctor and get hurt because of the treatment you don’t get to sue them, right? Like, doctors aren’t this way for fear of malpractice lawsuits?
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Pirate Radar posted:I’m not a doctor lawyer so I’m not sure of the answer but if you lie to your doctor and get hurt because of the treatment you don’t get to sue them, right? Like, doctors aren’t this way for fear of malpractice lawsuits? Lol they absolutely can sue and might even win. They absolutely are the way they are because of malpractice.
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Homo Simpson posted:But to be fair there are so many dumbasses who lie to their doctors I dont blame them for skeptical. And yet they suddenly become much less sceptical dealing with white men and entirely happy to prescribe them the good pills. There's a long, long medical history of doctors writing off all of women's problems up to influenza, depression and heart attacks as 'hysteria' and/or pregnancy, kind of one of the big triggers of original feminism was women being fed up of being told all their problems were either made up for attention or all in their heads.
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