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empty sea: Jul 17, 2011; gonna saddle my seahorse and float out to the sunset

Midnight Voyager posted:

gently caress that first doctor, jesus. What's with these fucks and just refusing to believe symptoms or the word of their patient? She's a lesbian, Harold! She doesn't gently caress dudes! GO DOWN FARTHER IN YOUR LIST OF POSSIBILITIES.

When I was in high school, I broke a finger. The x-ray technician just kept trying to get me to admit I'd hosed before and might be pregnant. She did everything to get me to confess this, and when I didn't, she put the lead apron on me anyway. "Just in case". If you're gonna do it anyway, don't interrogate me about my lack-of-gently caress life!

When I was 16 I started having very irregular periods and honestly I didn't' give much of a poo poo because 3 months no period yay! I guess my step mom noticed and she dragged me to the hospital and they made me do x-rays and her and nurses were very badgering about if I did them then I'd harm my unborn child or they'd see it in the x-ray and then be mad about it.

Spoiler, I was a goddamn virgin. I told them that and they ignored me.

Also they seemed to find nothing at all because they left it at "x-rays look fine, keep on with your weird periods".

# ? May 24, 2019 06:08

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# ? May 30, 2024 18:44

Baronjutter: Dec 31, 2007; "Tiny Trains"

My job has me interacting with retired or semi-retired doctors that were the tops of their various fields.

It's amazing dealing with people for which reality its self could sooner bend and contort than ever see them wrong or mistaken about something.

# ? May 24, 2019 06:10

Ghost Leviathan: Mar 2, 2017; Exploration is ill-advised.

I mean hell, we're in the middle of a new drug crisis because docs love prescribing powerful opiates to anyone now, but seemingly especially old white dudes.

# ? May 24, 2019 06:11

Fur20: Nov 14, 2007; すご▞い！
君は働か░い
フ▙▓ズなんだね！

empty sea posted:

When I was 16 I started having very irregular periods and honestly I didn't' give much of a poo poo because 3 months no period yay! I guess my step mom noticed and she dragged me to the hospital and they made me do x-rays and her and nurses were very badgering about if I did them then I'd harm my unborn child or they'd see it in the x-ray and then be mad about it.

Spoiler, I was a goddamn virgin. I told them that and they ignored me.

Also they seemed to find nothing at all because they left it at "x-rays look fine, keep on with your weird periods".

last time i went to the hospital some years ago it was because i hadn't pissed in like three days, the doctor who came to see me badgered me for a good 20 minutes about whether or not i'd had sex with a bunch of dudes.

:smaug:

"hmm nope never have"
:smuggo:

"it's not illegal these days you know? i won't tell anyone if you admit it."
:smaug:

"yeah i know i just haven't hosed a guy"
:smuggo:

"are you absolutely sure?"
:smaug:

"100% yes"
:smuggo:

"you wouldn't be lying to me, would you? i'm here to help"

i dunno if it was his hosed up fantasy or what but he would not let it go. so eventually they tried drawing a sample from my bladder and they couldn't get anything, and when they did an ultrasound apparently my tank was just empty, despite drinking a gallon a day. and the next day it was fine, i could piss like a horse. to this day nobody knows where the three gallons of water i drank over those few days went :iiam:

# ? May 24, 2019 06:17

cumshitter: Sep 27, 2005; by Fluffdaddy

Jesus these women.

My husband turns into an anchor around my neck in the face of the smallest adversity. Should I stay with him?

My husband has the nails of a Chinese Mandarin and resembles a walking trash heap. How do I work through this?

# ? May 24, 2019 06:18

PHIZ KALIFA: Dec 21, 2011; #mood

I married a woman after she told me she killed her previous husbands for striking her. Later I struck her after learning that she fed honored guests crops stolen from a neighbor, now she's refusing to give me any of her long hair (which is her pride) with which i could use to restring my bow, which i am currently using to repel an army of bandit raiders. WIBTA if i just fuckin, stole some hair, or. . .

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# ? May 24, 2019 06:21

Fuck Your Website: Nov 29, 2003; FUCK YOU, AND FUCK YOUR WEBSITE

My boyfriend broke up with me and I think it�s all a huge mistake. How do I process this?

quote:

Okay, I want to cut to chase here. For the past year and a half, I have been dating this wonderful, but quiet, introverted, plagued with social anxiety and depression, geeky man, �Bob,� I met through a gaming group. Shortly after we started dating and he opened up about some THINGS I encouraged him to go to therapy and he started. We�ve been living together for a little over a year.

We had a rough July with some D&D fallout and friend troubles adding stress to our relationship but worked through everything. Can go into further detail on this but haven�t included for space.

One of Bob�s main mental health issues has been his inability to recognize feelings which he developed somehow as a coping mechanism in the course of his long-untreated depression (he described having outlooks I would think are depression since high school and we are early 30s). He started anti-depressants this May.

We went on vacation the first week in August, and it was lovely. And, on vacation, Bob was horny FOR THE FIRST TIME IN HIS LIFE. I thought this was awesome, and that it signaled that feelings and things were coming back to him. The next weekend, he was horny again! I was praising the heavens for this.

But that weekend also, he had a �rough� therapy session and spent a day processing his therapy and I asked if I had reason to worry and he said �he didn�t know how to answer that� so I worried. We had a heavy conversation for hours the next day about what he was processing: that he thought, as a result of the D&D fallout, that I had told him he couldn�t hang out with some of his friends and thus lost access to like 10 other friends he made through them. When he finally used his words and got this out of his brain spin, I was shocked and horrified. I had never said or wanted anything like that, and I told him that I was so sorry he spent any time thinking that, that that was not true, of course he can spend time with those friends (I may not for a while). I became dubious of the quality of his therapist at this time, as he reported to me that things his therapist asked him to help him process were �What would happen if she reacted like this to something you did?� and �What other friends will you lose?� which to me seem like questions ANXIETY provides and not that therapist should suggest? We spent the next day talking about our previous lack of intentionality regarding time with friends and discussed making sure that we balance together and separate friend time and his needs for alone time for future.

The next weekend, he had a rough therapy session again, but told me that he was still processing and that I had nothing to worry about. We went to the Ren Faire with friends (3 hour car round trip) and he said he had a great time because we problem-solved stress creating car time well (Hamilton Soundtrack) and going to shows and sitting for longer periods of time made him happier and not as overwhelmed by people. On Sunday we cleaned a bunch of the house, and moved a bunch of my stuff to the attic. He was still processing.

On Tuesday, I got home from work after him and he seemed super weird. I asked him what was wrong, and we sat down, and he told me he thinks we should break up. I have been flailing and I don�t know what to do. We talked for like two hours, he could give me no reasons (I�ve read several of your break-up posts and get that he doesn�t owe me it and stuff), and we agreed to take some space and slow things down for two weeks and re-evaluate.

I love him, and I really believe we are great together and balance each other very well. He says he still loves me. I don�t understand why he shut me out for 5 days and then got to here, and I�m extremely worried that he�s making a mistake based on head-spinning as he hasn�t used his words to communicate any problems and the week before 1 day processing in his head had him believing he was forbidden to see his friends.

I�m becoming more at peace with the perhaps inevitability of this, but the other part: He said that he�s had his feelings coming back and that they�re not all negative (a worry I had), and that he�s felt contentment on our vacation and I don�t understand how things could turn so quickly without any obvious conflict.

I really want to be around when he gets happy back, and if I don�t make him happy, fine. I�ve never experienced a breakup where the problem isn�t known, and hasn�t been discussed multiple times before.

There may be nothing I can do, but if I can help him use his words, or I can ask the right questions about his therapist to find out if bad therapist, or if misogynist therapist, then that would be useful.

We have had serious conversations, and discussed serious concerns, and solved them in every case prior so I just don�t understand not giving me the opportunity too�

We�re almost done 1 week of space and I just want to try for longer. :-/

-Hurt, and about to be Homeless

# ? May 24, 2019 06:28

chitoryu12: Apr 24, 2014

Scathach posted:

poo poo, condolences. My mom just had a major spinal/organ moving surgery because her doctors told her for years that all her symptoms were just laziness (my mom was an EMT and hiker, and not overweight). She couldn't breathe because her spine was hosed up and pressing her organs where they shouldn't be. If they'd figured out fifteen years ago my mom wouldn't have had to undertake such a risky surgery.

Like dude what incompetent doctor misses that a heart is BEHIND a lung? It took a loving xray tech to save her life.

My mom spent 35 days in the hospital for gallstones that caused pancreatitis. It turns out she had them for years but was never given the scan that would actually reveal them, so she continued gaining weight and the doctors just told her she wasn't exercising enough or eating right until she suddenly collapsed in agony and had to be taken to the hospital. One nurse assumed that she had pancreatitis due to alcoholism for some reason and abused her (like wrapping her in the sheets so she couldn't move and insulting her) until she could break through the haze of pain and medication to tell a doctor.

She made it out of surgery with a roughly 20% chance of survival, complete with a vision of her mother telling her it wasn't her time to die yet while she was on the table. Then in 2016 she had what we thought was a severe case of the flu but turned out to actually be torn mesh from her surgery going septic, and the doctor told us that if we waited another day she probably would have been beyond saving. I still have to live with her because she's physically weak and suffers pain and the risk of damage to her internal organs if she bends over so there's a lot of basic household stuff she can't do. All because nobody gave her one particular scan.

# ? May 24, 2019 06:31

Resting Lich Face: Feb 21, 2019; This case of an intraperitoneal zucchini is unusual, and does raise questions as to how hard one has to push a blunt vegetable to perforate the rectum.

gently caress Your Website posted:

My boyfriend broke up with me and I think it�s all a huge mistake. How do I process this?

Why all these dumb fuckers going for bustedass lovely men?

# ? May 24, 2019 06:31

Anne Whateley: Feb 11, 2007; i like nice words

Because women constantly get the message "you're not going to get a Disney prince, you're not perfect, nobody's going to be perfect, you need to compromise and put more work into it, you're lucky you have this one"

# ? May 24, 2019 06:35

chitoryu12: Apr 24, 2014

Resting Lich Face posted:

Why all these dumb fuckers going for bustedass lovely men?

They always preface it by talking about how wonderful they are but I can't help picturing some skinnyfat guy with weird facial hair and a nasally voice who ends up being the only person to give this girl attention because she's kinda weird herself. Because every time I encounter a couple like this in real life they look exactly like this.

# ? May 24, 2019 06:35

Resting Lich Face: Feb 21, 2019; This case of an intraperitoneal zucchini is unusual, and does raise questions as to how hard one has to push a blunt vegetable to perforate the rectum.

Anne Whateley posted:

Because women constantly get the message "you're not going to get a Disney prince, you're not perfect, nobody's going to be perfect, you need to compromise and put more work into it"

Thank random chance I'm asexual then. I can't imagine being some dumbass brainwashed into loving some brokenass piece of poo poo failure of a human.

# ? May 24, 2019 06:36

Fuck Your Website: Nov 29, 2003; FUCK YOU, AND FUCK YOUR WEBSITE

Can you live with your ex?