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QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Those women shutting down the creepy guy hitting on them in an Applebee's owned enough when it was just the dude talking about it, but I'm so glad that the update was posted. gently caress you, idiot

DemoneeHo posted:

AITA for being upset when people ‘joke’ about the parentage of my son?

Wait, why did she insist on a paternity test if she's not willing to wave it in the face of every rear end in a top hat questioning their son's parentage?

Also :sever: from anyone who uses the word "snowflake" in response to making the very reasonable request to stop questioning your child's parentage. That's the word that conservative shitheels use to inform everyone that they're too stupid to care about anyone but themselves

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Miserable Maid
Apr 22, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:

mungtor posted:

Assuming your referencing me... I think your being mostly fair. But a bit of my point was also not to try because the internet says white doctors are bad. Your doctor may suck, but while I'm not invalidating your experience I'm saying that isn't a given.

No one is saying all doctors are bad of course, that would be silly, but there is a very real, very widespread issue with many doctors defaulting to not taking women seriously as opposed to men with the same symptoms, leaving innocent women in very real danger. Similar issues with minorites, most blatantly with black patients. (The amount of doctors/nurses that believe blacks have a magical pain tolerance due to race would make your jaw drop)

It's especially distressing as it's not just an awful coincidence, but a learned/self perpetuating problem.

HazCat
May 4, 2009

Also it's pretty tone deaf to tell people who want and are attempting to find good medical care how important it is to find good medical care because without it you could die.

Ironically, the 'no seriously, you should really try to see a doctor' advice is more relevant for men (because there's a widespread trend of men dying from preventable illnesses because they never get screened for anything).

Fuck Your Website
Nov 29, 2003
FUCK YOU, AND FUCK YOUR WEBSITE

MasBrillante posted:

I [30m] too picky, Searched for too long. Dwelled on shortcomings and lost my best match. Feeling depressed and hopeless.

Lot to process here. *scribbles on notepad* I’m going to recommend you see a different therapist from now on. A specialist in your area.

Xik
Mar 10, 2011

Dinosaur Gum

Anne Whateley posted:

1. video games
2. anime
3. nerd media franchises
4. buying plastic poo poo from all the above

ta-da

But he couldn't get to 5 without including jerking it

loving hell Anne, no need to come at me so hard with those personal attacks.

Also Doctor chat, our ~family~ doctor (GP), the one my whole family has been seeing since I was single digits in age, is a Māori woman and is so loving insanely popular that you need to book at least three weeks in advance to see her. I mean, that's insane for a non-specialist, public GP over here. She stopped taking new patients like a decade ago.

You end up having these awkward conversations when you ring up the clinic and are like, oh hey, can I book an appointment to see Mary, "Uh, best we can do is some dumb time like a month from now, but you can see any one of the other five [white male doctors] basically any time today".

I always just thought it was because she was an amazing, caring doctor (which she is obviously), but reading this thread it's probably that there are some non-trivial amount of woman on her books that go to her because of underlying sexism where male docs don't take them seriously.

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender
My roommate (24m) doesn't like what I (24f) do with my tampons, wants me to move out

quote:

​I live in a 2-br, 1-bath place with Seth (24) and his girlfriend Julie (24). I'm not around much as I'm busy with work​, my relationship, hobbies, and friends. I probably spend 2-3 evenings/nights a week there on average. So most of the time Seth and Julie have the place to themselves and they really run with it. They've kind of taken over the common spaces, organizing things how they want, leaving messes, decorating to their taste. Not ideal, but it's okay because I'm not there to give a poo poo most of the time and I'm saving up to move out as soon as possible, which will probably be in the next year.

Julie and I get along well, we're both chatty so we have a friendly relationship. Seth is more introverted and I don't know him as well. As far as I can tell his hobbies are pc gaming and arguing with Julie, which doesn't give us a lot of common ground. That's all right though, he and I don't need to be best buddies, we just have to live together and be cordial.

What does bother me is Seth's qualms about my feminine hygiene. A few months ago he shouted to me from the living room to come out and talk to him. He told me sternly, "I don't know how to say this without embarrassing you, but you really need to find another way to dispose of your female products." I asked what he was talking about, thinking that maybe Julie did something gross and I was being framed for it, and he said that he could see my used tampons and pads in the bathroom garbage. That was it. I said that I didn't understand what the problem was: where else would discarded tampons go? Seth said that he didn't care what I did with them, but he didn't want to have to see them. I told him there wasn't much I could do, and that he should try not to look into the garbage can if it bothers him that much. I went back to my room, having had enough of that conversation.

I see no reason to change my habits. I discard my tampons in our opaque, lined waste basket that has a lid on it. There is no way anyone can see them unless they're peering directly into the trash can, which, why would you do that? It's the bathroom garbage, of course it's unpleasant! But, in the intervening couple of months, I have made more of an effort to wrap my pads and tampons in more layers of toilet paper, to try to compromise with Seth. Maybe if they're more carefully wrapped up they won't soak through and he can't see any menstrual blood. I feel like it's dumb and unnecessary, but if it keeps the peace, fine.

Turns out it doesn't keep the peace. Last night was the first time I've been home in over a week. Seth shouted my name from the other end of the house and told me he found more used tampons in the bathroom garbage. "I thought we talked about this," he said. That pissed me off, but I tried to be calm:

"Periods aren't that gross. It's a reality for women, and you chose to live with two. I will not be changing my bathroom habits. I don't comment on yours. Stop looking at my used tampons if they bother you and please leave me alone about this."

He kind of grumbled and went back to playing his game, so I went back to my room and went to bed. This morning, I woke up to a note telling me I needed to find a new place to live by next month. It was signed by both my roommates (I had no idea Julie had a problem with this. She's never addressed it with me). We have a month to month lease, so any of us could leave at the end of next month, but I don't agree that it should be me. If my throwing tampons away in the garbage is such a problem, why don't they get their own place? I love the apartment itself, it's well located, it's an amazing deal, and the landlord is decent which is hard to come by in this city. I also am not financially prepared to move. It's impossible; I don't have the money.

My question is how can I fix this problem with Seth? I don't want to cave to his weird demands, I really think he's being unreasonable. If I can't get him to understand that tossing wrapped tampons in the trash is normal roommate behavior, how can I get him to move out? Should I involve my landlord? Landlord is VERY hands-off and I feel like he would not want to be bothered by petty roommate squabbles. Is there any way he can help, legally? Can I just be kicked out by Seth and Julie? Is there any angle of this I'm not seeing?

tl;dr-- Roommate doesn't like that I throw my used tampons in the trash. I think that's dumb. He wants me to move out. What do?

Xik
Mar 10, 2011

Dinosaur Gum
So uh.... where else would they go except wrapped up and into the bin? What does Julie do with them in this story?

I would pay good money to watch this guy react to someone tipping out and then boiling their reusable menstrual cup.

MarcusSA
Sep 23, 2007

Haifisch posted:

My roommate (24m) doesn't like what I (24f) do with my tampons, wants me to move out

Yeah what does his current GF do with them??

Peaceful Anarchy
Sep 18, 2005
sXe
I am the math man.

Am I [18F] as bad of a daughter as my dad [39M] says I am?

quote:

This might be a long post, I don’t know, but I need advice or a wake up call.

Today I got into an argument with my little sister [11F] because she has been wearing and disrespecting (she’s very harsh with clothing) my clothing without asking me. She’s only doing this because my parents haven’t gone to the laundromat in months (they always let laundry pile up and never wash my or my other sister [14F] laundry so I went and washed mine today with my own money from my birthday money from two weeks ago). I told her yesterday when I found out that she had been wearing my clothes that as long as she asks me I will hand her something that I don’t wear often and don’t mind her getting dirty. I was upset because when I came home from the laundromat I found out that I hadn’t washed a few things because my sister stashed them. I asked her nicely to take my clothes off and to not do it again, but she preceded to provoke me by gurgling juice in her mouth (my mother was in the room and ignored the entire situation). She spilled the juice all over the clothes she was wearing so I got upset and panicked and began to try to get the pants off her, but she got defensive and started to attack me and threw her juice container at me and it spilled everywhere, even my mom. My mom gets upset and decides to speak up now, but then my sister keeps my clothes on. So now I’m upset and my sister and I continue arguing and I say that I’m sorry that you don’t have anything clean to wear, but it’s not my fault. Then my sister starts to insult me blah blah blah, but I didn’t get very very upset until she said “You don’t like to do anything that’s why you didn’t finish my hair because you didn’t finish it”.

For context, I am an amateur hairstylist and my mom made me do a very time consuming hairstyle for my sister last minute while I was applying for scholarships on Thursday. I got upset, but I still took my time and did it because I take pride in everything that I do and I don’t want my sister looking a mess for her birthday. The problem was that we didn’t have enough materials to finish the hairstyle so I couldn’t complete it in time. My mom must have gotten upset at the result and said to my sister that it’s because I’m lazy and didn’t want to do it right. This is when I got upset, I felt like it was an unreasonable accusation and an assassination of my character to say that I did something half assed because I genuinely didn’t and this is a recurring scenario where whenever I do less than what’s expected I get belittled or bad talked. They just made ASSumptions about me and ran with it. After my sister brought that up my mom came into the room and got mad at her and said not to bring her up in arguments when she’s arguing with her sisters, but my dad quickly chimes in aggressively and screams “but Maxion (me) was doing it to” and basically says that I was saying that it wasn’t my fault that the laundry was done and that I called my parents ridiculous (I don’t remember because I was upset, but I may have).

This upset me because this entire time my dad didn’t intervene into the situation at all when my sister and I was arguing and he didn’t even give my mom context when he started to blurt out things I was saying. I pointed this out to him and he basically started saying how I’m rude, disrespectful, and grown now so he doesn’t have to take care of me. He told me how it’s sad that I want respect, but I can’t give it to people He then proceeded to say how I don’t do enough housework and help my parents out enough and that I disrespected my mom even though she gives me everything and I should be ashamed of myself. Then he proceeded to say how he and my mom do not give my sister [14F, not 11F] any consequences whenever we are out of line and that only my two younger siblings [11F, 8M] get consequences for things.

My response to his arguments was that I’m a very busy high school student who has a lot on my plate and I’m never home. I think it’s unfair to crucify me for not helping out when I’m never here to help out and am overwhelmed with responsibilities. I do straighten things up when I see things getting too messy, but I still get accused of never doing anything. When I cleaned the living room yesterday and my parents didn’t see it because my siblings got it messy again, my dad called me a liar. I don’t know what to do to satisfy him in that department. I also think it’s unfair to claim I don’t get in trouble for anything when I do get into trouble I get yelled at, called bitch by my mom, my character gets assassinated, they refuse to make me dinner, wash my laundry with the family, and ect. I also feel like I chase behind my siblings all day to do the right thing (clean, do homework, watch appropriate things) more than my parents do combined, but only because my dad yelled at me for not doing more of this 7 months ago. Even though I always got in trouble for doing that. When I explained all this to him he called me stupid, said I sounded stupid, and threatened me to stop talking. I started to get upset and told him that he doesn’t do anything around the house, it’s filthy and he’s just lifting weights and shaving his face when there’s a million things that need to be done like laundry. If the laundry was done this whole situation wouldn’t have even started. I then told him that the only reason why he was so eager to have an input on the argument in the first place was because he wants to hurt my mom and I’s relationship. I also told him that I discipline his children more than he actually does. I felt like all of these things were true and that I was wrong for saying them, but I am so sick of being treated like I’m not good enough, like I don’t do enough, and like I don’t deserve things.

I don’t like my dad, he doesn’t even belong at home with us because of his domestic abuse case, but my mom allows him to stay. We have therapists, but my mom coaches us what to say because she doesn’t want us to say our dad still lives with us. Either yes, no, or idk. Over a year ago he yelled outside that “I’ve been a disrespectful little poo poo ever since I was taking dick” I was 16 and still a virgin. I’ve never been comfortable walking near my house ever since and It’s why I hide my boyfriend from my parents. My dad steals money from us, he doesn’t pull his own weight and he has a gambling + alcohol addiction. He leaves every bill past due (turnoff notice for light bill), my mom takes him shopping and asks for nothing in return, he has a girlfriend and spends my moms money on his girlfriend and thus things like my tuition and housing deposit didn’t get paid on time so I almost lost my spot at HU, he lies about literally everything, he only does things to gain an upper hand in an argument against my mom, he’s never had a stable job, he accused me of recording his conversations and showing my mom, he records my mom’s conversations and my conversations when I play Xbox with my boyfriend, and I don’t think he gives us a stable life and yet he gets to live a decent life avoiding any consequence that is put out for people like him. He’s beat us with sticks, punched us, and everything under the sun. I don’t think it’s fair for him to cry about consequences when he has been avoiding them all of my life.

Even though all of this is true, he’s still my dad. I have to deal with him for the rest of my life. If I’m wrong, how do I get better? I try being a more helpful person around the house, but that doesn’t satisfy anyone so what else can I do?

TD;LR : I got into an argument with my sister, she said something about my mom that got me upset so my mom got mad at my sister for bringing my mom’s name into the argument, but my dad instigated and said that I said some things about my parents that I don’t remember. We argued and he basically said that I’m rude, disrespectful, and don’t do enough with no consequences. I feel like I do my best considering that I’m never home and that the things he accuses me of isn’t fair considering he doesn’t do much himself. Am I wrong? If so, is there advice on how do I change?
Typical teenage stuff until a hard turn just as my eyes were glazing over.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Haifisch posted:

My roommate (24m) doesn't like what I (24f) do with my tampons, wants me to move out

Start putting them in plastic bags and then hanging them from the bathroom ceiling

Antivehicular
Dec 30, 2011


I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

I really want to know what that dude wants her to do with her used tampons. Reabsorb them into her body?

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Antivehicular posted:

I really want to know what that dude wants her to do with her used tampons. Reabsorb them into her body?

Stop having periods

HazCat
May 4, 2009

Barudak posted:

Stop having periods

Tbh this is the correct answer, but to a different question.

The correct answer to her question is :murder:

blackmet
Aug 5, 2006

I believe there is a universal Truth to the process of doing things right (Not that I have any idea what that actually means).

Haifisch posted:

My roommate (24m) doesn't like what I (24f) do with my tampons, wants me to move out

A trash can for the bathroom with a cover that is not opaque.

Paid for by him, of course.

He'd still have to see them whenever he opened that trash can though, so I'm not sure even that would work.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

blackmet posted:

A trash can for the bathroom with a cover that is not opaque.

Paid for by him, of course.

He'd still have to see them whenever he opened that trash can though, so I'm not sure even that would work.

He already can't see them without opening the trashcan; a not-opaque cover would be transparent

Khazar-khum
Oct 22, 2008

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
2nd Battalion

Antivehicular posted:

I really want to know what that dude wants her to do with her used tampons. Reabsorb them into her body?

Be a freebleeder.

The Lone Badger
Sep 24, 2007

Glue the lips together.

MrQwerty
Apr 15, 2003

LOVE IS BEAUTIFUL
(づ ̄ ³ ̄)づ♥(‘∀’●)

Air-dry

Serene Dragon
Mar 31, 2011

wow, can't believe we actually got an actual live mansplainer in thread, coming in to tell us womz that not all doctors are sexist, after a whole bunch of us outlined our personal experiences with them

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


thanks to that brave man, sexism is now over o7

Jeffrey of YOSPOS
Dec 22, 2005

GET LOSE, YOU CAN'T COMPARE WITH MY POWERS
Shut up about doctors.

the holy poopacy
May 16, 2009

hey! check this out
Fun Shoe

Peaceful Anarchy posted:

Am I [18F] as bad of a daughter as my dad [39M] says I am?
Typical teenage stuff until a hard turn just as my eyes were glazing over.

I'm not sure "my parents haven't done laundry in months" is typical teenage stuff.

DreamingofRoses
Jun 27, 2013
Nap Ghost
I wonder if he wants her to flush them. If so, he’s a bigger dumbass than we’re giving him credit for.

echopapa
Jun 2, 2005

El Presidente smiles upon this thread.

Antivehicular posted:

I really want to know what that dude wants her to do with her used tampons. Reabsorb them into her body?

Use the paper shredder.

ad090
Oct 4, 2013

claws for alarm
AITA for failing a student because their excuse for missing the final was not satisfactory?

quote:

I am a professor that lectures undergraduate courses in statistics and probability. A lot of the students that take my courses struggle because they're not math/stats majors, and only take them because they're required for social science or business majors.

One of my students failed to show up to his final exam. I emailed him asking why, and he showed up at my office the next morning to explain. Apparantly he had come out as gay to his family the day prior and they reacted very poorly. He said he was too traumatized (his words) to take my exam, which was his last.

I asked him if he had a note from a mental health specialist and he said he didn't because he just stayed home all day coping with his parents' rejection.

I told him I'm sorry but that I can't let him sit the final without a note. This discussion went on for about an hour and he got extremely emotional, insisting this was a special case where rules had to be bent.

I disagreed, and as the final made up 70% of the final grade, I have failed him. He will need to retake the course next year as it's mandatory for his major.

Since recounting this tale to my wife I've had never ending nagging about how I should make an exemption for his young man. AITA?

mind the walrus
Sep 22, 2006

Peaceful Anarchy posted:

Am I [18F] as bad of a daughter as my dad [39M] says I am?
Typical teenage stuff until a hard turn just as my eyes were glazing over.
Aw this kid needs to hit escape velocity and fast.

ad090 posted:

AITA for failing a student because their excuse for missing the final was not satisfactory?
It's nice to know that at least some Professors are dimly aware of the bubble they live in.

DeadMansSuspenders
Jan 10, 2012

I wanna be your left hand man

Holy poo poo 70% of your grade in one test?

Pinecone Sample
Oct 12, 2010

THIS ACCOUNT HAS BEEN SEIZED
by the United States Federal Bureau of Investigation in accordance with a seizure warrant issued pursuant to 69 U.S.C Sec. 420
AITA for asking my gf not to masturbate whilst I'm at work?

quote:

But of a weird one but here goes.

I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years. The past 6 months I've been experiencing a low sex drive. She's bisexual and has a high sex drive so I have a lot insecurity around it. She doesn't seem to mind and when I put it off, she understands and just let's it go.

She has only said once that it made her feel poo poo that we had gone like 3 months without sex. I told her I'm working on it and not to pressure me or it'll make it harder and she said fine and left it at that.

I often asked her if she masturbated because I was worried she might be and that was a sign that I wasn't giving her what she wanted/needed. She would say no, probably out of politeness.

I got in my head and was convinced she was cheating on me even though she reassured me and even said she would be celibate forever if that's what it meant to be with me. But, like I said, insecurities.

I came home early from work and didn't tell her. When I walked in it was obvious she'd been masturbating. I was shocked and walked downstairs and she followed shortly after and asked what was wrong. I told her it made me feel like poo poo and that I was hurt that whilst I'm at work, excited to come home to her, she's masturbating over other men/women. She told me I was being unreasonable and that it's a two way thing and that I can't expect her to have no sexual urges at all. We reached a stalemate and it devolved into a big argument.

AITA? I honestly don't know if this is considered weird in other relationships or not.

Tl;Dr I'm self conscious about my low sex drive and gf masturbated. It told her it hurt me and she said I was being unreasonable.

Edit - I don't have an issue with mastubation in general. Also, I'm not concerned about my libido. I have always had a low sex drive, it happens, not everybody is super into it.

Universe Master
Jun 20, 2005

Darn Fine Pie

Once upon a work day dreary
Whilst I toiled with but one query
Did she with her pussy play?
whilst I slaved the day away

Danaru
Jun 5, 2012

何 ??

ad090 posted:

AITA for failing a student because their excuse for missing the final was not satisfactory?

DIE. DIE. DIE. DIE.

Dazerbeams
Jul 8, 2009

Universe Master posted:

Once upon a work day dreary
Whilst I toiled with but one query
Did she with her pussy play?
whilst I slaved the day away

Quoth the lady, “Vibrator.”

Patrick Spens
Jul 21, 2006

"Every quarterback says they've got guts, But how many have actually seen 'em?"
Pillbug

Pinecone Sample posted:

AITA for asking my gf not to masturbate whilst I'm at work?

What the gently caress is she supposed to do you dumb bastard?

Clark Nova
Jul 18, 2004

Pinecone Sample posted:

AITA for asking my gf not to masturbate whilst I'm at work?

I guess he wants her to stop wanking and start banging other dudes?

Ham Equity
Apr 16, 2013

The first thing we do, let's kill all the cars.
Grimey Drawer

Haifisch posted:

My roommate (24m) doesn't like what I (24f) do with my tampons, wants me to move out

I feel like either we're not getting the whole story here, or dudebro forged the other roommate's signature. I wonder if anyone ever told them roommates don't work like Survivor, you can't just vote people off the island?

DeadMansSuspenders
Jan 10, 2012

I wanna be your left hand man

Get your murder tools ready.
My [26F] boyfriend [28M] and I got into an embarrassing argument(?) at a restaurant and it devolved into an awkward fight and (kind of) prejudiced name calling. How do I fix this?

quote:

I have been dating my boyfriend for just over a year, and in his defense he has been very patient with my awful financial situation which has been going on from February-End of April. (Unexpected vet bills and such, but my kitten ended up surviving so all worth it in my mind!)

Anyways. Today I had the day off, and so did my boyfriend, it doesn’t happen very often so I was very excited. We had plans to make breakfast together and then he was going golfing with his friend. I was invited (of course) but since I work at this golf course and it was windy I chose to stay home and play video games (which I greatly enjoyed so no hard feelings there really). He ended up getting up later than expected and no longer wished to do breakfast together. Disappointing, but not a huge deal.

He returns from golf 5 hours later, and I had wanted to go for drinks and appies at a fancier restaurant. He brought his friend along and we enjoyed our appies, drinks, and an ice cream sundae. When it came time for the bill, I told the waitress to put the appies and dessert on my bill, I thought it would be a nice surprise and a kind gesture.

Instead, it blew up in my face. He put me down in front of the waitress and embarrassed me (not in a super rude way but enough that I was embarrassed and felt slightly humiliated). I decided to try and save face (grace under pressure and all that) and just paid for our whole bill even though it was slightly out of my budget. It was awkward and other than a “thank you” at the dinner table from him we didn’t speak the whole ride home.

I ended up telling him I felt unwell and went to bed and fell asleep for a few hours. I woke up and still felt upset so I called my friend and vented to them about what happened and how I was frustrated and upset about

a) how I was treated in front of the waitress

b) that we always have to sit near a tv so he can watch sports and

c) that he never seems to want to spend time with me (I’m always more than welcome to tag along with him and his friends but he never wants to do any of my suggestions, ie: go for a walk, etc. Which I guess in all fairness are kind of lame suggestions.) basically just venting that I wished I was slightly higher in his priority list. He’s a huge sports fan and enjoys playing and watching so I often have to take a backseat, which is mostly fine. I know how hard he works and I think he deserves to have fun, it just would be nice if even one day a month we could do my suggestion. Or some other compromise.

Well unfortunately he ended up hearing me talking to my friend and was understandably upset. I told him I stood by what I said, as I hadn’t called him down or bashed him in any way. (ie: called him a piece of poo poo or a lovely boyfriend) I was just venting to my friend about how he made me feel. Obviously now I feel worse because him overhearing this wasn’t part of my plan, I just wanted to feel better and get some compassion or perhaps a different perspective or something. I guess honestly I shouldn’t have talked about it at all.

He ended up getting really mad, called me a r*tard and childish, and said that grown ups don’t split the bill, and they don’t offer to pay for anything unless they can pay for all of it (which I did anyways).

I understand that he is upset, I would honestly be hurt and upset too if I heard him venting to his friend about something I did that made him feel lovely. Unfortunately, he didn’t hear the first part of the conversation that I had prefaced with “Friend, I need your help. I’m not sure if I’m just cranky and PMSing (sorry if that’s TMI Reddit) or if I have a valid reason to be upset.

I guess what I’m asking is:

A) how should I handle this situation going forward? I obviously was planning on bringing up my hurt feelings once I had hashed everything out with my bff but now I feel terrible that he overheard me, I know it must have been upsetting to hear (no matter how nicely it’s put no one wants to hear that they made someone unhappy); but at the same time I’d like to stand my ground because I feel like my reasons for being upset are/were valid and I didn’t say them in a nasty way.

B) what do I do about this name calling? I try very hard to control my temper and not say nasty/mean things or call him names and I’d like to receive that same respect from him. It hurts that that is what he thinks of me and it bothers me that he would call me a prejudiced term like that. (He is not at all racist or against people with disabilities so I think it was just said in anger)

I think maybe I’ll just go to my parents house for a few days to cool off at least but that’s as far as I’ve gotten with any sort of plan.

Thank you for reading and for any advice, different perspectives, or suggestions. I know this is a tame post compared to most other stuff on here, and I apologize for the length I was attempting to be thorough.

TL;DR: I tried to pay for 60-70% of the dinner bill as a thoughtful gesture after a rough financial period of 3ish months, my boyfriend got really mad. I vented to my friend about it (in a non rude way) and my boyfriend overheard and called me a r*tard and childish and told me I shouldn’t bother trying to pay unless I can pay for the whole thing. Advice or suggestions on how to handle this situation?

The Iron Rose
May 12, 2012

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:

Danaru posted:

DIE. DIE. DIE. DIE.

Nah there's a lot of bullshit excuses students use to not write their essays and exams. Sucks for the kid but honestly it's a safe assumption this kid's a liar if only because most students are and that's a hilariously unverifiable story.

Porfiriato
Jan 4, 2016


DeadMansSuspenders posted:

Get your murder tools ready.
My [26F] boyfriend [28M] and I got into an embarrassing argument(?) at a restaurant and it devolved into an awkward fight and (kind of) prejudiced name calling. How do I fix this?

I saw the word "appies" and my vision faded into a red haze until the beginning of the next post, so I don't know if that's a repost or if there's yet another person out there using that term.

Fuck Your Website
Nov 29, 2003
FUCK YOU, AND FUCK YOUR WEBSITE

DeadMansSuspenders posted:

Get your murder tools ready.
My [26F] boyfriend [28M] and I got into an embarrassing argument(?) at a restaurant and it devolved into an awkward fight and (kind of) prejudiced name calling. How do I fix this?

Dump this dickwad.

The Iron Rose posted:

Nah there's a lot of bullshit excuses students use to not write their essays and exams. Sucks for the kid but honestly it's a safe assumption this kid's a liar if only because most students are and that's a hilariously unverifiable story.

Yeah and even if true that’s 1000% not the teacher’s responsibility. Kid has an exam and oh well guess I’ll come out to my gay hating parents the day before? No, more likely kid knew he was going to tank the important exam and drafted a creative excuse that he thought would be valid enough while also being unverifiable.

Part of being in school is learning to manage your responsibilities as an adult. The world does not make allowances for your personal decisions more often than not and electing to put yourself through great emotional turmoil the day before an important exam is poor decision making. (He would still have been gay the day after the exam, presumably.)

gently caress this kid for lying about traumatic life events to try and skate a class he isn’t smart enough to pass.

Fuck Your Website fucked around with this message at 16:19 on May 26, 2019

sephiRoth IRA
Jun 13, 2007

"Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."

-Carl Sagan

Known Lecher posted:

I saw the word "appies" and my vision faded into a red haze until the beginning of the next post, so I don't know if that's a repost or if there's yet another person out there using that term.

It’s so hard for me when a person is all “...and after they finished slapping me around the Applebee’s and punching my mom in the kidneys, they dumped their vodka all over me and set both me and my appies on fire” and I have to tell them “it’s so sad you didn’t die in the fire”

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Sloth Life
Nov 15, 2014

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Fallen Rib
A compromise would be a second bin just for him, only his gross stuff goes in, as long as he keeps out of the girl bin hes good

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