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I'm not sure about this situation but I will not be surprised if AITA .

So, yesterday, I was home alone when I discovered that a pipe from the water tank was leaking and needs to be fixed. I called my dad and he told me to call a plumber and he will pay me later. Not think much of it, I cut of the water supply and started browsing the internet for some plumbers in my area and found three companies in the nearby city and two independent ones. I thought about it and said it would be nice if I hired one of the independent ones to show some support for independent workers, plus, they are cheaper. (I honestly don't know if that is a good reason or not, that is the first time I deal with something like this)

Anyways, after I called the plumber (let's call him Mario), he arrived relatively quickly and started to immediately inspect the situation while writing down some spare parts on a piece of paper. Then, he told me that there might be something stuck in the pipe which caused it to bust and he will need some parts while giving me the piece of paper. Here are some of the exchanges I had with him in no particular order:

Mario: "I will need these parts."

Me: "I'm sorry, I'm alone and can leave the house alone."

Mario: "well, your community doesn't have a plumbing shop and you are the one with the car, right?" (I'm 18)

Me: "isn't that your job?"

Mario: "well, of course but we need to help each other out to fix the problem."

Me: "but I don't know anything about plumbing and I'm afraid I might get the wrong part."

Mario: "don't worry. You can't call something like the other. And I couldn't be more specific with the names."

Me: "just go get them from insert shop name here and I will pay you."

Mario: "I'm trying to give you the chance to choose the brand you would like to install in your system." (Really?)

This kept on for a while and at this point I was trying not get angry because I don't want to look stupid. Is that what plumbers usually do? He then told me before storming off that he will never come here again because "I'm not taking it seriously and being an uncooperative rear end in a top hat.".

Only seconds later, my parents and sister arrived and my dad said that he pumped into him. Naturally, he asked what happened. After I explained everything, my dad sighed and told me to get the tool box. When I asked what is wrong, he simply told me "I will look into it" without specifying what he means which got me worried.

So, AITA here? Again, I won't be surprised if I am.

Edit: minor formatting edits.

Peaceful Anarchy posted:

AITA for not wanting to buy spare parts for the plumber to start working?

Peaceful Anarchy posted:

AITA for not wanting to buy spare parts for the plumber to start working?

Palpek posted:

My boyfriend “slut shames” me because of my post partum body


But wait for the comments...

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I’m 22F and since I have a full time job my parents want me to pay rent to them. I refused out right. But here is my reasoning, I want to move out so badly and have my own place. They do not want this, they want me to stay with them until I can afford to BUY a house. Right now I am perfectly able to rent a place and live alone feed myself, take care of myself in every way. I AM READY TO LEAVE. They want me with them, I love them and hate arguing with them and don’t mind living with them if it’s free. But they are strict. I ask them to take sick days off work. Like a child does when they want to stay home sick from school. I Tell them where I’m going. Can’t come home after 10pm, can’t drink alcohol at all or smoke. I do not want to Pay them and still follow strict rules. I run errands for them, do a set list of daily chores I cannot have a pet and I cook dinner for them and clean the kitchen afterward nearly nightly. I don’t always mind living with them but I will not live by their rules and PAY.

AITA for wanting to live with them for free or not at all?

Edit: I contribute to the household financially by buying all the food and some toiletries and cleaning products.

Edit 2: I forgot to mention I would be moving out with my fiancé. I have been dating him for 5 years and I am tired of seeing him on their terms...also we have a pretty lousy sex life due to us both living at home. We make 56,000 a year combined and in our small southern city we can afford to rent a nice house.

Azerban posted:

There's no one more poo poo than someone with the privilege to 'not be political.'

DEAD GAY FORUM posted:

lol

DEAD GAY FORUM posted:

lol

HIJK posted:

Murder your boyfriend lol, if all he wants to do is shriek (“provocative” really?) because you’re different now that you’ve had a baby then he no longer deserves to be your boyfriend. Putting your body through hell to have his child and this is how he repays you? that’s a little hosed up.

Picnic Princess posted:

I guess I'm just used to my husband liking a bit of cleavage because then he gets to see it and that makes him happy. It seems much more healthy for your spouse to enjoy the fact your body exists. I'm not going to complain if he takes his shirt off on a hot day in public, my man is fine and I'm not insecure. He can flaunt what he's got when I'm around any day.

Barudak posted:

Its very simple, a lot of men are sad that the Joseon dynasty no longer exists.

Literally A Person posted:

The weirdest part of that for me is how the hell does having a hot wife make you look bad in any way? I mean, call me nuts but when you walk into a room with a good looking partner no one thinks to themselves, "wow, poor person, they have a hot mate."

Barudak posted:

Its very simple, a lot of men are sad that the Joseon dynasty no longer exists.

Pirate Radar posted:

But then when other people look at your hot wife you feel bad for some reason.

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So this is late, we aren't even togeather anymore so maybe this was a red flag of the end of the relationship.... Anyway, the topic came up recently and... well... here we are.

First, we were broke millenials in CA so it was established that we weren't going to spend a lot and we established that we would only get each other one gift and then have a date night that we split. We were togeather four years before this. Gift was a $30 limit.

While not a competition I try to always reach to the recipient interests making the gift personal. Example, he's a guitarist so I went out and got him electric green bass guitar strings and this cute pack of 6 different style picks (redwood, bone, bison horn ect..). Two gifts, I know. I wouldn't have held it against him.

He got me a laundry basket....

Now, granted I kinda needed one. I like to organize can wear again and dirty clothes and my old second one was worn.. Fine. But what got me was that this was my giftlast year... the same one... and that's all he got me. I later saw it at a store down the street on sale.

AITA for being upset? Or should I have made the point to buy me something personal?

Malachite_Dragon posted:

Why are the weapon-obsessed poo poo-monglers so loving reluctant to lock things up? It doesn't matter if it's a gun or a battle-axe, it is not a goddamn toy, put it the gently caress away.

mind the walrus posted:

2. I have never met a primary earner who didn't immediately default to thinking of all the money as theirs the instant there's a whiff of friction.

Peaceful Anarchy posted:

The Something Awful Forums > Main > General Bullshit > /r/relationships: Only seconds later, my parents and sister arrived and my dad said that he pumped into him

DemoneeHo posted:

Gifts are an act of aggression

AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend for gifting me a laundry basket.. for the second Christmas gift in a row....

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My wife wants a divorce because she’s not happy. We have a 3 year old child together which she wants custody of. I make around 55k a year and pay 90% of bills. She makes around 25/30k a year and has to pay $400 a month in restitution for a grand larceny charge that she was arrested and convicted for last year after stealing 50k from her previous employer. If she misses a payment she will go to jail. There is no way she could afford housing, restitution and raise a child on her own. Her only option would be to move in with her parents in Georgia, USA. I’m content with the relationship and would like to work it out at least for our child’s sake. I also don’t want her to be miserable for the next 15 years. Can she get custody and move to GA? Any help is appreciated. Please let me know if you need any additional info. Thanks so much!

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I have a big family, with around 20 cousins, 10 aunts and uncles, and several others who always show up to family reunions. I'm a male in my 20s.

Last weekend we had a family reunion in a cabin resort in the woods. On the last night there, while everyone was sitting by the campfire, my uncle (by marriage), snuck up behind me and blasted an air horn about a foot or two away from the back of my head. This air horn was not a normal little one you often see at sporting events. This campground has bear around, so they keep several large air horns around the place to be used to scare off a bear in case they get too close.

As soon as he did it, everyone called him an rear end in a top hat and got angry at him. He showed no remorse whatsoever. He laughed about it, telling us how he and his friends from work have blown air horns at each other before as a prank.

I was so furious when it happened that I didn't know what to do. I sat there quietly stewing in my rage for a while. I wanted to beat the poo poo out of him or hold him down while I emptied half of the air horn directly into his ear. But instead I walked away eventually and spent the rest of the night in my room. It's important to know that this uncle was hosting this reunion. It's a "corporate retreat campground" that his company lets employees use.

He clearly knew he hosed up because he attempted to apologize the next day, but it was a pretty lovely apology. While everyone was sitting down for breakfast, he snuck up behind me, put his arms on my shoulders and quietly said, "I heard your ears were ringing. Sorry about that." He didn't even say it to my face, or say it loud enough for anyone else to hear. I grumbled something about "it's okay," but I absolutely do not forgive him.

This happened last Saturday, a week ago. For the first couple days my ears were literally sore, and any loud noises were painful to hear. Since then, my ears have been constantly ringing. It's the worst when I'm in a quiet environment, like trying to work or go to sleep. I hear this high pitched sound that is driving me nuts. Sometimes it'll start to subside, but it still comes and goes. I think I could have permanent hearing damage.

This guy has been giving me poo poo since I was a young kid, so this was not a one time occurrence, though this was definitely the worst thing he's done to me by far. I've contacted a personal injury lawyer in my area to learn about my options, but I figured some people here might have good info as well. I won't hear back from the lawyer until tomorrow at the earliest. Any info is appreciated. Suing my uncle would tear a huge hole in my family, but I really don't care about that if I end up having a ringing in my ear for the rest of my life. It's interfering with my ability to sleep and work. Thanks for any help.

EDIT: I am seeing an audiologist and ENT this week. I will post an update here when I have one if the mods allow it.

DemoneeHo posted:

She sounds like a keeper

DemoneeHo posted:

[MI, USA] Considering suing my uncle after he intentionally fired an air horn meant for bears in my ear, and now I have what appears to be a permanent ringing in my ear


Do it

fits my needs posted:

DemoneeHo posted:

[MI, USA] Considering suing my uncle after he intentionally fired an air horn meant for bears in my ear, and now I have what appears to be a permanent ringing in my ear

Admiral Ray posted:

Sarcasm isn't an emotion or a feeling you loving moron.

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u/FrontPark8
My BF "Adam" and I have been together for three years. He had some sexual experience (only with women) and limited relationship experience before we met. I have had a few long term relationships that I value, but ultimately didn't work out. Our sex life has always been great and has only gotten better with time.

Adam has been expressing an interest in exploring with other men for a long time and with increasing interest. We have been long distance for a few months and have been alternating visiting each other monthly. I encouraged him to take three months to explore since this question doesn't seem to be going away unanswered.

While I found the idea of a long distance, one side open relationship a dance with disaster (and let him know this), I also have no interest in being with someone who doesn't know what he wants or may resent me for not exploring his identity. At first, it was fun to talk with him about matches and dates, but recently I have lost all attraction to him. Not because of his bisexuality, but his attitudes and behaviors. Examples:

1. He has mentioned finding men his own age extremely unattractive. He also mentioned that women his own age are unattractive unless they look younger than they are.

2. As soon as he got the green light to explore this, he started pushing for all sorts of other things between the two of us (exhibitionism, swinging, etc..). I told him that he needed to slow down.

3. Before his first date he picked a fight with me about something insignificant (travel dates for an annual family trip I take) . He told me that our fundamental difference on this issue was a core difference and that relationships couldn't withstand many of those 5 minutes before his date with another person. Afterwards, I let him know how fundamentally wrong it is to make your partner feel anything other than loved, secure and appreciated before and after dates. He agreed and apologized. I'm not over it.

4. While talking about how excited his is to give a guy a blow job, he also mentioned that he doesn't like going down on women that much (even though he has always expressed the opposite), but that I "don't taste so bad. sometimes."

Basically, he has made me feel as though he isn't attracted to me and this (along with the immaturity) has made me lose all attraction for him. I know I need to break up with him, I just don't know how honest to be. I am afraid that all he will hear is that I am not attracted to him because of his sexual orientation when really it is his behavior surrounding this process. How honest should I be?

TDLR: I have lost sexual attraction to my BF as he explores his bisexuality. Though the loss of attraction isn't related to his sexuality, I am not sure how honest to be since he has little experience in bisexuality or romantic relationships.

Motronic posted:

I'm going to just assume I'm a monster for leaving this 17" spitting ax out by the fireplace.

Beachcomber posted:

I'm happy I know what this is, but sad at the same time.

Ignorance is bliss.

life is a joke posted:

The guy was probably wrong to put a teen renter in this situation, but it’s not weird at all to offer someone the chance to get their own parts. It saves time (he could have gotten started) and it spares everyone the “I just don’t see why I’m being charged so much for [specific part] l, it’s just a pipe.” That’s more of a thing that you would do with a homeowner though, not some anxious teen that obviously didn’t understand. The plumber should have just dropped it and added the $150 to the bill, daddy is paying anyway.

e: oops it’s his parents house, not renting