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Dear Amy: I like to think that I am a caring and sensitive man – one who respects women and appreciates the spirit of the #MeToo movement. Therefore, a recent experience has me disturbed. I am looking for some objective feedback. One recent evening, I was with a woman that I know well. We had drinks before, during and after dinner. It became apparent to me that she was quite intoxicated and probably should head to bed to sleep it off. I helped her up the stairs to the bathroom. After a few minutes, when I heard the bathroom door open, I came back upstairs to check on her. This is when things got “tricky.” She was naked, and she made strong sexual advances toward me. I knew that the “right” thing to do was to help her get dressed and into bed for sleep, and then go on about my own business. But I was weak, partly due to my strong attraction to her. We engaged in sexual activity, and during the acts I believed there was a possibility that the next day she would not remember (or at least she might not remember how things got started). Yet I continued, and for this I am feeling remorseful. Have I committed “date rape”? Am I a “predator”? If the situation came to a courtroom, or if I were a public figure, would people judge me to be a “bad” man? And finally, Amy, does it matter that this woman is my wife of 25 years? – Wondering Husband
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hmm bank statement says here: "debit:KFC: 7.43" then right after it: "debit:7ELVN: 16.39" She got chicken at the gas station, real pro move, saving time, very insightful.
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Dear Amy: I’m a college student from the suburbs of San Francisco. I’ve been attending college in New York. My best friend from school is coming to visit me this summer, and I couldn’t be more excited! But, excitement aside, I do have concerns. In a time where people of color, especially men, are having the police called on them for everything from waiting for a friend in Starbucks to taking a nap in a common area of a dorm building, I am worried about my neighbors’ potential reaction to a man of color showing up in their predominantly white suburb. I have toyed with the idea of making a post on Nextdoor.com asking people to think twice before panicking, should they see my friend walking down the street, as he belongs there as much as they do, but I know my county prides itself on being a liberal and progressive area, and I don’t want to insult anyone. I don’t want to upset my community by accusing them of racist behavior I have never witnessed, but I am aware of incidents taking place in similar communities. I do not know what to do to offend as few people as possible, while still trying to make sure my friend feels safe and welcome in the place I call home. Your suggestion? – Toeing the Line
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May 31, 2019 06:41
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gently caress Your Website posted:Dear Amy: I’m a young professional, working as a banker at a local branch. I have been going to the same therapist for nearly three years and I absolutely adore her. She has helped me beyond words. I treasure our wonderful connection and relationship. 
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Dear Amy: My boyfriend “Robby” is a wonderful person. I love him and his parents. Both of Robby’s parents are good people, who are very involved in his life. Lately, I have been feeling annoyed by his mother, and feel guilty. She is very judgmental of her son’s choices. For instance, he rarely drinks, but if there is one night where he goes out with friends, she criticizes and judges him. (He is 37 years old, by the way.) What has really gotten on my nerves lately is that she has been asking me to order a bunch of things from my Amazon account. She refuses to get a debit card or become familiar enough with the internet to learn how to order for herself, so instead she gets me to do this for her. This can be a pain, as I don’t always have the money in my account to cover her order, and even when I do, I’m still not comfortable making all of these orders for her. I feel like she is taking advantage of me. I also feel like it is hypocritical on her part to be so judgmental about her son’s life and constantly giving unsolicited advice, but she is not willing to adjust to technology and is willing to inconvenience others. I’m feeling resentful of her and also resentful of her son because he refuses to stand up to her and tell her to back off. Am I wrong for feeling frustrated? How can I politely decline purchasing any more things on her behalf from my account? – Annoyed
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Dear Amy: I’m a 31-year-old woman, and my brother is 37. We are both residing in the same apartment. I have no significant other or children. He is separated from his. We work together so we basically see each other every day. My problem is that he does NO chores where we live — not even his own laundry! I do everything. He didn’t want to get along with his ex, so I have to pick up and drop off my nephews when they come to visit. I don’t know why his issues with his ex are now my problem. I also do the “chores” at his (former) home where his ex-wife lives — I take out the trash, blow leaves, shovel, etc. I know that losing his house has made him even more angry and bitter, so he takes it out on me. He also always stresses about money and wants me to get a second job. The amount of resentment I feel toward him is immense, and I see an end to our relationship on the horizon. I want to be able to do whatever I want, whenever I want. I know that when I confront him about him being a lazy user, I should have a place ready to move to because I do not want to be around him after that inevitably heated argument. What do you think I should do? -Furious
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gently caress Your Website posted:Dear Amy: I’m a 31-year-old woman, and my brother is 37.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA if I didn't give my cousin the money from her graduation gift? ..."value my generosity"?
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May 31, 2019 07:05
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I am filled with anxiety seeing all these letters to the editor that don't have matching responses.
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May 31, 2019 07:07
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FactsAreUseless posted:Get a new therapist to help you talk about your relationship with your therapist. Yeah I’m sure the new therapist will love this new client. “You gotta help me... I started stalking my therapist. No wait where are you going, come back”
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:..."value my generosity"? It’s the one thing keeping from being righteously angry on her behalf. It’s one thing to feel hurt that she didn’t want to partake in the tradition, quite another to be hurt for not sucking your dick about your "generosity” That aunt can gently caress off though sephiRoth IRA fucked around with this message at 07:25 on May 31, 2019 |
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May 31, 2019 07:22
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Pirate Radar posted:Yeah I’m sure the new therapist will love this new client. “You gotta help me... I started stalking my therapist. No wait where are you going, come back”
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May 31, 2019 07:23
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA if I didn't give my cousin the money from her graduation gift? I tried to find that one, but this came up in my search and hello dolly! Did somebody say estranged parent?! WIBTA if I gave away a necklace which my great grandmother owned as opposed to letting my daughter-in-law have it? quote:This is my first reddit post outside of my regular subreddits so I hope I am following all of the rules. I am happy to edit if necessary.  The OP's comments are waaaaaay too on the nose, but holy LOL anyway
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Xik posted:I am filled with anxiety seeing all these letters to the editor that don't have matching responses.
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May 31, 2019 07:30
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Does "live-in" mean maid or lover? My first guess was the former but context implies the latter. I don't know which is funnier.
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:Does "live-in" mean maid or lover? My first guess was the former but context implies the latter. I don't know which is funnier. Youve been in this thread long enough to know theres no difference
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RenegadeStyle1 posted:WIBTA for asking my ex's daughter to stop calling me "dad"? I’m torn. Because on one hand, breaking a young girl’s heart with such indifference is bad, but getting the gently caress out of her life because you’re a worthless sack of poo poo who took some lady you ~~~might have kids with one day~~~ over the child you’ve raised for essentially her entire life is really a kindness. I was married and have two step kids from that marriage who are still -and will always loving be- my kids. gently caress that dude for being completely and utterly feckless and not standing up for his kid and gently caress his insecure sack of poo poo fiancée who can’t handle a loving child calling her future husband ‘dad.’ Even when I was loving dating before I got married again (to a lady who loves my kids), if there was someone who “couldn’t get it” or “didn’t understand why I care about kids that ‘aren’t mine,’” then they got kicked to the curb with the quickness. As if a loving partner is worth a relationship with your kids. and it’s like... if you guys have kids, they’ll loving LOVE having a big brother or sister. My bio kid adores her bro bros and it’s fuckin’ awesome. Both of them, first in line for the guillotine. Man. gently caress those people. Irredeemable garbage, both of them.
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AITA for pulling my kids from their school over a skit? My kids are in preschool, starting kindergarten in the fall. They’re in a private school for preschool, and my husband and I were debating whether to keep them there for kindergarten or send them to the public school, and this pushed it over the edge for us. At the end of every year, the preschoolers do the same zoo skit. Every kid makes a paper plate mask of their assigned animal and pretend to be the animal one by one. Last year, my kids come out on stage and they are the only two monkeys. They’re also the only black kids in the preschool class. After the play, I approached their teacher and asked if the kids chose their animals or were assigned. He told me that they were assigned. I told him that in the future, he might want to be more aware when assigning the animals, as it was a little uncomfortable for the only two black kids to be the only two monkeys. I tried to be nice about it and not attack him, as I understand that younger people may be less aware of racial stereotypes and he probably didn’t realize. He told me he’d be more careful in the future. Come this year, my kids once again are the only two monkeys in the show. They very easily could’ve been assigned any other animal since they remade the masks anyway. I once again approached the teacher and asked him if he recalled our conversation the year before. He told me that I was being sensitive and that he reassigned them the monkeys to show that we have moved past racial stereotypes and that our kids don’t recognize such slurs anymore. I was and am absolutely livid. I went straight to the principal/owner and told him that we will not be returning next year and told him exactly what happened. He defended the teacher and called it a misunderstanding, but then asked me to consider staying and offered to prorate the tuition. I walked out. At the moment, friends and family that we have explained the situation to have been split over whether we were in the right or not; some think the school was being ridiculous, others think we should have cut the school some slack because we have had a good experience with them otherwise. Am I the rear end in a top hat for pulling my kids from the school for next year?
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tehinternet posted:I’m torn. Because on one hand, breaking a young girl’s heart with such indifference is bad, but getting the gently caress out of her life because you’re a worthless sack of poo poo who took some lady you ~~~might have kids with one day~~~ over the child you’ve raised for essentially her entire life is really a kindness.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for pulling my kids from their school over a skit? Jesus yank those kids out ASAP, one clueless mistake is one thing but twice? The fact that they don’t show the slightest bit of consideration is a massive red flag.
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May 31, 2019 08:02
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for pulling my kids from their school over a skit? I don’t even see color I say as I make black children pretend to be monkeys.
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teen witch posted:Jesus yank those kids out ASAP, one clueless mistake is one thing but twice? The fact that they don’t show the slightest bit of consideration is a massive red flag. The part where the school was like "how about prorated tuition" is a "ooooooooh fuuuuuck" admission on their part.
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May 31, 2019 08:03
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for pulling my kids from their school over a skit? Saying the n word to prove I’m above racism🙏🏻
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May 31, 2019 08:21
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No no, I cast your child as Sambo because I'm so woke, you see, that stereotypes no longer have any meaning to me
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May 31, 2019 10:08
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I have spent a month building this porch set and you can't tell me not to use it.
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May 31, 2019 10:15
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BIG PUFFY NIPS posted:whats a FWB? Fresh Whole Blood
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May 31, 2019 10:43
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Boyfriend [19F] is disgusted that I [19F] touched his butthole right after he touched minequote:Okay so we were pretty much just play fighting on my bed after he won in Mario Kart. I got on top of him to wrestle and he started to touch my butt-hole through my yoga pants. I didn’t think anything bad of it and sort of gasped and laughed at the same time. We wrestled some more and this time, I grazed my fingertips on his butt-hole through his pants. He proceeded to stop wrestling and pushed me off him.
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May 31, 2019 10:59
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My (25M) girlfriend (30F) want me to keep a record of my masturbation in an Excel spreadsheet so she can monitor, is this normal?quote:This is very awkward but my girlfriend said she does not approve of me to masturbate, but will authorize me to do so if I keep a record in an Excel spreadsheet of every instance I masturbate.
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May 31, 2019 11:02
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MasBrillante posted:There is this episode of the podcast Criminal about this which is both one of the most depressing and most fascinating things I’ve ever heard. Imagine living with someone who says they love you and all the while they are secretly ruining your life brick by brick. Yeah I thought of this episode too. Worst part of it was, the subject in question had dealt with the credit issues their whole life and only came to realize that it was their loving mom doing it after the woman died. edit: grammar Giggle Goose fucked around with this message at 11:08 on May 31, 2019 |
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May 31, 2019 11:06
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welcome to hell posted:My (25M) girlfriend (30F) want me to keep a record of my masturbation in an Excel spreadsheet so she can monitor, is this normal? Well, that's an odd one
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welcome to hell posted:Boyfriend [19F] is disgusted that I [19F] touched his butthole right after he touched mine Don’t stay with men who threaten to beat you.
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May 31, 2019 11:25
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welcome to hell posted:My (25M) girlfriend (30F) want me to keep a record of my masturbation in an Excel spreadsheet so she can monitor, is this normal? Masturbate to the Excel spreadsheet.
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May 31, 2019 11:36
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welcome to hell posted:My (25M) girlfriend (30F) want me to keep a record of my masturbation in an Excel spreadsheet so she can monitor, is this normal? I am dying to know what he is/isn’t allowed to crank it to.
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May 31, 2019 11:38
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"She say she can track this "metric" in a "pivot table"?" this is fake as gently caress
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May 31, 2019 11:43
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Johnsonaccount.xls Onanreport.xls Seed_spillage_feb_2019.xls
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May 31, 2019 11:45
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La Brea Carpet posted:Johnsonaccount.xls /r/relationships: onanreport.xls
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May 31, 2019 12:01
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idiotgoons.xls: believe what's on reddit
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welcome to hell posted:My (25M) girlfriend (30F) want me to keep a record of my masturbation in an Excel spreadsheet so she can monitor, is this normal?
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there's not enough rows in excel to count my masturbatory habits
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I would never share my spreadsheet with a partner but lol just lol if you are not practicing data-driven jerkoff sessions
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