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drat r/RedPillWomen is still as insane as I remember it. Husband needs time to think about our relationship after EA, am I making things worse by having sex with him? quote:Husband had an emotional affair and has since broken it off with the other woman. However, he is taking time away from the family to think about whether he wants to stay married to me. He says that he will still continue to provide for me and my child even if we are not together, and that I can call him anytime and he would show up. But he feels a lot of guilt about what he did and at the same time feels like our relationship is "suffocating".
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Palpek posted:drat r/RedPillWomen is still as insane as I remember it. When I read the title at first I thought he was an ex-EA employee.
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Jun 3, 2019 15:42
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Power Khan posted:Switch places and sink into the ground. rear end in a top hat. Some of the comments by the OP are strange: quote:Very rarely go on dates any more. My wife doesn't trust child minders and we don't have family close by to help. They don't have SN and aren't harder to manage than any normal 3 year old. Shes had breaks! Days off with her girl friends and days out with sister and her mum. Cleaners are "a waste of money" we've had that conversation too. Wait, huh? quote:I do help, and could probably help more., but I already give her a day off at the weekend, I take the kids out away from the house so she can relax at home and I have a full schedule of house chores and other jobs to do at the weekeend. I've looked after the kids since day one, I'm a very hands I think dad. On days when my wife goes out and I stay home with the kids, I'll do all the house work, feed and play with the kids, cook and clean. And when she comes home she just says "what, are you just trying to prove a point or something?" One day a week! Kid-havers of the thread, weigh in. When kids have one stay at home parent, do they tend to be 'better behaved' when the other parent is in charge of them because it's a change in routine or stimuli? Or is that just anecdotal BS? Though he does mention the kids start nursery school half time next year, so maybe the issues will resolve themselves then?
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Jun 3, 2019 15:47
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Leon Einstein posted:There is a 100% this guy is creepy as gently caress and rubbed his boner on his SIL during the hugs he awkwardly gave her.
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Jun 3, 2019 15:51
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Pirate Radar posted:Is the NYT fair game for this? Because this is a real issue that many couples have to deal with, but this seems like an incredibly regrettable way to phrase it: My Marriage Has a Third Wheel: Our Child quote:I would never have predicted that the hardest part of parenting would be that our only child would come to fully believe she is the third person in our marriage. This arrangement began roughly as soon as she learned to talk. God forbid this turn into some sort of.... Family!
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Jun 3, 2019 15:52
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AITA for refusing to take part in my brother's weddingquote:Sorry about the clickbaity title, but there's too much nuance to fit in there.
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Jun 3, 2019 15:53
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Leon Einstein posted:There is a 100% this guy is creepy as gently caress and rubbed his boner on his SIL during the hugs he awkwardly gave her. Honestly, that's the best argument for a hijab I've ever seen. Explicitly telling creepos to gently caress off! Even if they're family!
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Jun 3, 2019 15:54
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LadyPictureShow posted:One day a week! Kid-havers of the thread, weigh in. When kids have one stay at home parent, do they tend to be 'better behaved' when the other parent is in charge of them because it's a change in routine or stimuli? Or is that just anecdotal BS? I would't say "better behaved" in the case of my kids, but absolutely easier to deal with. Kids get bored, parents get bored and in a routine, especially the primary caretaker. A simple change in routine like the other parent acting as primary caretaker for the day often makes everything more interesting for them, therefor less effort needs to be put into trying to come up with something to keep them occupied. It's also largely removes the natural friction that occurs when people spend so much time together: the same annoyances that the primary caretaker is dealing with 8 days a week aren't likely to be such an issue to the other parent.
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Jun 3, 2019 15:56
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Kaiju15 posted:God forbid this turn into some sort of.... Family!
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Jun 3, 2019 15:57
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Palpek posted:I remember one thread from a woman who was a r/redpillwomen regular and then made a thread panicing because she got pregnant and she was in the middle of "salary negotiations" with her husband and in a shocking twist he wanted to pay her something laughable (while making a shitton of money) because that's how much he valued a mother's work and as somebody completely dependant on him she had no bargaining options whatsoever. It was a brutal eye opening experience for her. I’m confused here. The lady has already seized the means of production but is still beholden to a capitalist pig. This isn’t supposed to happen!!!
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Jun 3, 2019 16:02
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ad090 posted:AITA for refusing to take part in my brother's wedding Unfortunate situation for all involved. Maybe have a joint service/wedding? If not for the pregnancy angle, the brother should have chosen a later date but with that not being an option, I don't think I'd sever family relationships over a 6 month difference in relationship length. I'd wager the parents should probably bear some of the rear end in a top hat burden as well for making everyone walk on eggshells.
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Jun 3, 2019 16:03
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chitoryu12 posted:When I read the title at first I thought he was an ex-EA employee. If this were true, the post would be about suicide.
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Jun 3, 2019 16:04
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Giant_Pupils posted:Maybe have a joint service/wedding? Yeah - I'm sure sharing the ceremony with a same-sex couple will go over well with the brother's fiancee's family - who is so religious that they'd figuratively (literally?) kill her over getting pregnant before marriage.
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Jun 3, 2019 16:15
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LadyPictureShow posted:
Here it's way worse. I have a strict list of things I know they need to keep happy and calm and it is exhausting: 5 km a day hiking (they are 6), max 30 min in a row screen time, minimal sugar, regular chore and homework schedule. Plus they are always fighting and competing and I've learned like a dozen tools for keeping them from losing their mind. Hyperactive kids are exhausting. I still work about 30 hours a week, and when my wife takes over she just cant 't do all that stuff. Even if she does, she doesnt have all the tools to stop a fight from breaking out. Coming home from work is tough because something is going to be a mess. Still way better than when my parents watch them, and just assume that I have all that structure because I'm an anal fuckwit, then wonder why the kids are having 30 minute meltdowns.
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Jun 3, 2019 16:16
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Geoj posted:Yeah - I'm sure sharing the ceremony with a same-sex couple will go over well with the brother's fiancee's family - who is so religious that they'd figuratively (literally?) kill her over getting pregnant before marriage. Exactly. Don't let the brother and his fiancée hijack op's actual wedding ceremony. I'd tell them to get a civil marriage now, save the religious ceremony for a later date. But it sounds like everyone is firmly entrenched in their current plan.
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Jun 3, 2019 16:19
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Geoj posted:Yeah - I'm sure sharing the ceremony with a same-sex couple will go over well with the brother's fiancee's family - who is so religious that they'd figuratively (literally?) kill her over getting pregnant before marriage. It's a rough situation any way you slice it. Choices appear to be: A) Joint service. Crazy family is crazy. Both services may be ruined and/or boycotted by awful religious zealots. Nothing of value would be lost but brother and fiancee won't see it that way. B) Keep going the current course. Both weddings sparsely attended. Everyone is mad. C) Ask brother and fiancee to suck it up and tell religious parents the truth resulting in disownment/murder. Can anyone think of a win/win scenario here? DemoneeHo posted:Exactly. I don't think this would work because they've already announced the wedding and would essentially have to fess up to zealotparents that the fiancee is pregnant if they go that route. Either that or live in secrecy for a year and then use some sort of pulley contraption to lower the baby into the wedding ceremony accompanied by a trumpet fanfare surrounded by people in angel costumes and claim it's a miracle. Frank Frank fucked around with this message at 16:22 on Jun 3, 2019 |
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Jun 3, 2019 16:19
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ad090 posted:AITA for refusing to take part in my brother's wedding "We can only go to one wedding, and we all decided to go to the straight one. Only because its earlier jeez why are you people so dramatic"
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Jun 3, 2019 16:22
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Giant_Pupils posted:Can anyone think of a win/win scenario here? OP goes no contact with his immediate family for the foreseeable future. Honestly if they're going to poo poo all over him in this fashion after he's been engaged for a year he's not doing himself any favors by keeping them in his life. e: track down pregnant fiancee's family and spill the beans. Once the cat is out of the bag there's zero pressure for them to get married!
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Jun 3, 2019 16:23
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If theres anything I learned from /r/relationships it's that the straights must be protected at all costs. It's not like they could have prevented or controlled getting pregnant just give them your wedding or they might have to have an uncomfortable conversation
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Jun 3, 2019 16:25
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AITA for "outing" my sister?quote:My sister is gay. She's 21 and has come back home after finishing her degree. She has a girlfriend. My parents have no idea she's gay.
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Jun 3, 2019 16:29
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Tato posted:Lmao that no one said not to wear a condom, yet goons can't stop tripping over themselves to argue their dick sensitivity and try to one up each other on maximum condom pleasure sensations. Even the dudes who first brought it up said the effect of "condoms reduce my sensation a lot but of course you should always use them because it's worth it." But don't let that stop the goon brigade stomping around with their dicks wagging, arguing for the superiority of their own penis sensitivity in both directions. See this is why we need a :males: smiley.
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Danaru posted:If theres anything I learned from /r/relationships it's that the straights must be protected at all costs. It's not like they could have prevented or controlled getting pregnant just give them your wedding or they might have to have an uncomfortable conversation Condoms reduce the sensation thus
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for "outing" my sister? There's no way this guy is so clueless as to think that him being an rear end in a top hat is ambiguous here.
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Danaru posted:"We can only go to one wedding, and we all decided to go to the straight one. Only because its earlier jeez why are you people so dramatic" I don't see where it said that. OP's complaint was that people can't go to both weddings and there are cancellations on both sides as a result. The ideal situation would be to tell the religious zealots to jump in an active volcano and just tell the truth but fiancee isn't having that. I don't know. The whole thing just sucks. I guess OP could just force the issue by telling everyone the real reason his brother is getting married but that would have consequences too. I don't think OP is being "dramatic" either, he's perfectly right to be angry at his brother, I was just trying to think of a way to salvage the situation. I don't think it's possible.
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Giant_Pupils posted:Unfortunate situation for all involved. Maybe have a joint service/wedding? If not for the pregnancy angle, the brother should have chosen a later date but with that not being an option, I don't think I'd sever family relationships over a 6 month difference in relationship length. I'd wager the parents should probably bear some of the rear end in a top hat burden as well for making everyone walk on eggshells. I don’t think you parsed those timelines correctly (or I didn’t) The OP has been with his boyfriend for five years and engaged for one The brother has been with his fiancée for five months and just now got engaged to be married in one month for a grand total of six months
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chitoryu12 posted:There's no way this guy is so clueless as to think that him being an rear end in a top hat is ambiguous here. I can believe a teenager thinking it's ambiguous just because as a whole teens are a selfish and contemptuous bunch.
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areyoucontagious posted:I don’t think you parsed those timelines correctly (or I didn’t) Just re-read that and you're right. I thought the engagement periods were 6 months (brother) 1 year (OP). That's ridiculous. I take it all back. Brother can pound sand.
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My boyfriend (28m) is convinced I'm (23f) likely to lose my job because of "unprofessional behaviour" and I am sure he's wrong. I work at a tech company that does contract work to develop automation prototypes for other companies. It's basically my dream job and I've gotten glowing performance reviews every 6 months I've been there. I get along great with everyone on my team, some of my good friends right now are people I met through this job. I'm currently on a project that is being done for this small tech startup, that has a reputation for being a difficult place to work; in terms of company culture. Similar rumors circulate about it and Uber, to give you an idea. Anyway, last week my team was going to demo our progress to the customers. I was presenting a large piece of machinery, and taking them through the associated software. My coworker Jack was there too, but he's a new hire so he was mainly there to watch and learn. Three guys from the customer company were there also. One was a manager and two were engineers. This was the first time I was presenting to these customers, my coworker Bob usually does that but he was on vacation. Partway through, one of the engineers made a comment about how I was much nicer to look at than Bob, commenting on my "behind"... I was shocked into silence for a moment, then I hit the emergency stop button on the device I was presenting. (Not just to be dramatic, part of my job was to supervise its operation and be able to stop it if necessary; and I knew I wouldn't be able to give it my full attention in the next few minutes.) I walked to the guy who said that, and told him "I don't want to hear that poo poo from you again. Ever. Understand?" And then when he said he did, I went through the rather time consuming process of resetting the hardware and software from an emergency stop, and beginning the demonstration again from the start. (I couldn't skip ahead because of how some processes were implemented in software right now.) I talked to my manager Sam afterwards, to tell him everything that had happened. I apologized for the language I used, but not for the message I'd tried to send. And give him a heads up that the customers were irritated that everything took two hours longer than it should have. Sam was completely fine with everything I'd said and all the decisions I'd made, and offered to be more present at future customer meetings because I shouldn't have to deal with that stuff. After work that day, I went to my friend Ellen's housewarming party for her new apartment move, and I brought my boyfriend Glenn. I was telling a group about how the demo at work went, and I was trying to tell the entertaining bits rather than make it all sad and frustrating... So I peppered in funny little details about how awkward the silence was after I hit the emergency stop button... How I cheerfully said that they'd all get to see the cold start procedure first hand. How long it took to bring the system back up, and how nobody even had phones to play with because we were in a secured part of the building. So it was just a bunch of dudes looking more and more antsy and irritated at their dumbass coworker over the course of an hour, as I did all the initial setup and startup checks for the machinery. The whole group was laughing about it, and I admit I had been focusing on the more awkward and absurd parts of the story to make everyone laugh. It likely came off like shutting the machine down was more about pettiness than anything else, when in reality I decided I wasn't prepared to closely supervise its operation while also confronting a dude. But, when Glenn and I were on our way home that night, he started to get mad at me for risking my job for petty reasons. I said my job wasn't at risk, and he called me naive. For thinking it was no big deal to curse at a customer, to extend a meeting for two hours 'to prove a point' and all that. I told him that I'd heard firsthand from my boss that I did nothing wrong, and that the customer was out of line. And I also told him that cussing isn't as big a deal in my industry as it probably is in his. And that things were fine. And he just doesn't believe me. Even now, a couple days later. He seems to have this idea that I'm in trouble at work whether I know it or not. And that I did something dumb and reckless. It came up again when I went to work later than usual on Friday. (I'd planned to come in late and stay late, which I'm allowed to do) But Glenn said something about me doing yet another thing that would look unprofessional. I'm fed up with this, I get he might be stressed about money because we live together and he's in grad school so money is tight. But I don't like hearing this poo poo when I don't think it's accurate. Any advice, Reddit? TLDR.... My boyfriend thinks I'm at risk of loving my job for unprofessional behavior
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Giant_Pupils posted:Unfortunate situation for all involved. Maybe have a joint service/wedding? If not for the pregnancy angle, the brother should have chosen a later date but with that not being an option, I don't think I'd sever family relationships over a 6 month difference in relationship length. I'd wager the parents should probably bear some of the rear end in a top hat burden as well for making everyone walk on eggshells. Ehh, the straight brother is lying to everyone else about the reason for getting married and doing some bigotry. I dunno if sever is the right play but he’s clearly being manipulated and pressured by a pair of lying dumbasses who don’t have the stones to deal with their fuckup.
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Yeah, if I was OP I would see if I could just drag all my wedding stuff one week prior to the brother just to spite him, although that’s probably not possible. gently caress that, I say the OP should just threaten to out (ironic, I know) the pregnancy if the brother doesn’t move his wedding a few weeks later or go get a courthouse wedding ASAP
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My boyfriend (28m) is convinced I'm (23f) likely to lose my job because of "unprofessional behaviour" and I am sure he's wrong. Dump your idiot boyfriend immediately. If your job fires you for this (they won't), enjoy your payday in court. It's a little hard to ask her to "be professional" and not use foul language when it's the immediate result of being blatantly sexually harassed in front of multiple witnesses.
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ad090 posted:AITA for refusing to take part in my brother's wedding
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AITA for believing in science?quote:Here's the deal. Somehow I 100% knew exactly who this guy had been listening to, and checking his other posts on Reddit confirmed it. Can you do the same? Its Jordan Peterson, of course.
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Leon Einstein posted:The authors of these articles seem oblivious that the essays make them look like horrible people. What a selfish person. women realizing that intensive parenting is hurting them is good imo
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Yeah, that lady had the perfect response to that sort of adolescent sexist comment. "Oh no! Since Kevin just acted like a piece of poo poo, now you all get to stay two hours late while I restart the machine. Nice going, Kevin!" She should dump her useless boyfriend because he clearly thinks that standing up for herself was an overreaction.
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Piell posted:AITA for believing in science? Of course it is  Listen, skepticism is great, it helps us with our critical thinking sometimes, but being that guy that just shits on everything is awful. Newsflash, idiot! Even some of the most well-founded science is still kind of a guess at this point! Some things you will have to take at face value! Ugh, I want a divorce!
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No Pants posted:women realizing that intensive parenting is hurting them is good imo
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Piell posted:AITA for believing in science? More like Jordan PESTERson amirite?
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TIFU by writing official mails to people and not realising my profile picture is literally me grabbing a friend's buttquote:So a couple of weeks ago, I finally setup my apple-id. I also put up some random photo of myself. For whatever reason, I just picked the first image that popped up, which happened to be a shot of me grabbing one of the lads's bum. I had cropped said friend out of the picture to make it be of my face only, thinking nothing of it.
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Leon Einstein posted:It's not good to compete with your child for your husband's attention, you absolute weirdo. Even when the bad mother was Ayelet Waldman, all they're saying is that your relationship with your children is not the same as your relationship with your husband, and it's all right to treat them differently. Weirdo.
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