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A Wizard of Goatse posted:man I'm not even touching y'alls extremely furious positions on toddlerwear I just liked the attempt to make it somehow less weird by bringing dog bikinis into the mix, and the general "when you think about it words are just noises, man, it's society that gives them meaning" take It is just an example of how clothes matter in some contexts and not others and we are capable as a society of changing the meaning we attribute to clothes, if we want to. That is why we do not swim in full clothes anymore in the US. It is not at all analogous to just throwing your hands up and saying “why do words mean things?” It is providing an example of thinking in a way that is neutral and non sexual.
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MasBrillante posted:Listen, I’m just saying that parents dressing their babies at cute stuff they find at the store is fine. They are not creepy or sexualizing their children, even if other adults can’t seem to separate the contexts.
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Jun 10, 2019 17:37
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Name-erasing girlfriend is a possessive rear end; it’d be different it was just exes or something but it sounds like it’s everyone. Drunk sister OP is NTA. I’m super glad they didn’t just say “no I’m not coming” and not call the parents, that could have been dangerous.
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Jun 10, 2019 17:37
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irrespective of whether baby nipple pasties are socially acceptable bordering on mandatory, if someone dresses their dog up in a bikini they are 110% loving that dog
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Jun 10, 2019 17:39
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Xenocides posted:There are some mentally damaged parents out there overtly and consciously sexualizing their children. I do not think it is always pedophilia. Sometimes it is just living vicariously through their kids to recapture youth and sexual attention. I had a friend growing up and she had a mom who was basically trying to shove her into relationships at 14 and 15 and you could tell if was all mom wanting to relive her teenage years and young love stuff through her daughter. Weird as hell. I suspect child pageants come from a similar derangement. True. I just don’t think that’s the entire explanation and I think there’s room to push people to think in ways that are less harmful to the welfare autonomy of children at the end of the day. PetraCore posted:I don't think the parents are messing up, fwiw, I just think it's weird that apparently it's tricky to find one-piece bathing suits for little kids these days. Two-piece suits are fine but it's nice to have a range of options. That’s real as gently caress. I remember when I was little, I had two pieces that met in the middle because they are easier for parents I guess? Are those not a thing anymore?
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Jun 10, 2019 17:40
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not picking up my drunk little sister from a house party? Did this happen in like 2009, before Uber existed?
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Hellblazer187 posted:Did this happen in like 2009, before Uber existed? it's probably not reasonable to assume that drunks in 2019 are using Uber unless that's how they got to the party, either
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Jun 10, 2019 17:42
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gotta have a credit card for uber, which she probably does, but her parents probably check it if they're conservative assholes and i'm betting "coming home from a party at 2 AM" is probably still a strike in their book
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Jun 10, 2019 17:42
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MasBrillante posted:
They are difficult to find and I'm not googling "child bikinis" to show you because I don't need Google giving me creepy YouTube recommendations forever.
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MasBrillante posted:That’s real as gently caress. I remember when I was little, I had two pieces that met in the middle because they are easier for parents I guess? Are those not a thing anymore?
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MasBrillante posted:True. I just don’t think that’s the entire explanation and I think there’s room to push people to think in ways that are less harmful to the welfare autonomy of children at the end of the day. Yeah, those are a thing. It makes it easier when it comes time for using the toilet. You just have to wade through rack after rack of cutesy poo poo before you find one of those.
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Jun 10, 2019 17:43
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Hellblazer187 posted:Did this happen in like 2009, before Uber existed? Not all 16 year olds have a credit card or cash for an Uber on them at all times. It is weird to me that he is not willing to do this. I have two little sisters and would be out of bed and driving quickly if I thought they were in any danger. I am wondering if this is an ongoing problem and he is burned out helping her. If it is one time thing YTA. If this is an ongoing thing she keeps doing NTA.
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Jun 10, 2019 17:46
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This whole dumb convo about kid bikinis is moot since most of you all aren't allowed within 100 yards anyways. More content and less blowhards wrestling their inner pedophile
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My 4 year old is a water bug, and wearing a two piece means she can pee without having to take off her life jacket and struggle in the bathroom. I'm weirded out by the people saying it is inherently sexual to wear a two piece.
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Jun 10, 2019 17:47
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Chichevache posted:That's a good dog. Pet it for me. She's the best dog and I adore her. 
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Jun 10, 2019 17:48
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Xenocides posted:Not all 16 year olds have a credit card or cash for an Uber on them at all times. To be fair, they called their parents to pick them up. So it’s not as if they left them in danger. It’s not how I would have done it, but I can see why the need to check if they are the rear end in a top hat, I guess.
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Jun 10, 2019 17:48
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not picking up my drunk little sister from a house party? Sounds like the lovely apple didn't fall far from the lovely tree. And, good work on making sure your little sister will never trust you with anything ever again.
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Jun 10, 2019 17:48
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Djeser posted:it's fair to say that you find bikinis on little kids weird but it's weird in the same dimension as like, "i love suckin titty" shirts for babies
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Jun 10, 2019 17:51
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On the one hand I like to think that I'd be willing to go and help someone I care about get home from a party no matter what, but on the other hand I also have to get up at 5 AM for work and if someone woke me up at 2 in the morning asking me for anything at all on the phone, I would make a series of inarticulate noises and pass back out, so this guy actually has one up on me
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Jun 10, 2019 17:52
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PetraCore posted:Yeah I remember those, easier for bathrooms too. And there were a lot of kid two-piece swimsuits that just, like, had a strip of belly or whatever. Tankinis I think they were called? Tankinis are really cool and cute and they've been coming back into style over the past couple years or so. My girlfriend was looking at a few that were very pretty recently. Even Target has some great stuff these days. Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 18:01 on Jun 10, 2019 |
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Jun 10, 2019 17:55
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Megillah Gorilla posted:Sounds like the lovely apple didn't fall far from the lovely tree. Have you ever heard of the crab who got out of the bucket just standing on the outside poking the little crab with a stick?
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Jun 10, 2019 17:55
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for erasing my boyfriend's ex girlfriend's names from his wall? Yeah she seems like a real winner.
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Jun 10, 2019 17:57
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There's a wide range of what falls under two piece, please just dont put your baby or small child in a thong I dont know if those exist and I am not gonna try to find out
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Jun 10, 2019 17:57
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for not picking up my drunk little sister from a house party? I hope OP's little sister never speaks to them again because they are literal garbage. Picking up your drunk younger sibling discreetly without judgment is like Decent Family 101.
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Jun 10, 2019 17:59
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for erasing my boyfriend's ex girlfriend's names from his wall? Love this paragraph. The people who melt down the hardest are always the first to pull the “health” card in a conflict. And lol that the exes are still coming over anyway.
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Jun 10, 2019 18:03
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AITA for telling my 16 y/o sister that if she needs someone to buy her Plan B, don’t come to me?quote:So this is going to require some backstory, and I apologize in advance.
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Jun 10, 2019 18:16
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Willfrey posted:This whole dumb convo about kid bikinis is moot since most of you all aren't allowed within 100 yards anyways. I think that’s just you projecting, mate.
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Jun 10, 2019 18:25
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So glad I don't have a younger sister to be inexplicably terrible to because ~principles ~
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Jun 10, 2019 18:30
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Sjs00 posted:So glad I don't have a younger sister to be inexplicably terrible to because ~principles ~ If you’re talking about the Plan B one, read the post because that’s not it at all.
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Jun 10, 2019 18:31
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DreamingofRoses posted:If you’re talking about the Plan B one, read the post because that’s not it at all. I am totally open to discuss that with my limited understanding. I understand Plan B to be birth control of some kind, the OP having a girlfriend and presumably a regular need for said birth control and that the sister is 16 (!) Why isn't he being a good older brother and just doing the thing before sister gets irreversibly pregnant or worse
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Jun 10, 2019 18:36
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Sjs00 posted:I am totally open to discuss that with my limited understanding. He already did it once, he saying he's not going to do it again (if the need pops up) because his sister is a royal pain in the rear end.
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Jun 10, 2019 18:38
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Blade Runner posted:On the one hand I like to think that I'd be willing to go and help someone I care about get home from a party no matter what, but on the other hand I also have to get up at 5 AM for work and if someone woke me up at 2 in the morning asking me for anything at all on the phone, I would make a series of inarticulate noises and pass back out, so this guy actually has one up on me realistically same
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can't believe my sixteen year old sister acts irrational and over-dramatic
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tactlessbastard posted:He already did it once, he saying he's not going to do it again (if the need pops up) because his sister is a royal pain in the rear end. The sister asked for him leave somewhere early to drive her to visit the mother. At 16 maybe she is too young or too impoverished to have a car or Uber. Not really an unreasonable request?
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Sjs00 posted:I am totally open to discuss that with my limited understanding. Plan B is a form of emergency contraception. It is not meant to be a replacement for birth control used during sex. So essentially he said “next time you have an emergency, don’t come crying to me.” Which is probably not the best thing to tell a 16 year old, or a sibling.
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Djeser posted:can't believe my sixteen year old sister acts irrational and over-dramatic
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Sjs00 posted:The sister asked for him leave somewhere early to drive her to visit the mother. At 16 maybe she is too young or too impoverished to have a car or Uber. Not really an unreasonable request? After being called “selfish” and “never putting family first “ for not breaking plans to drive 5 hours, and being blocked on all social media and then coming home to the sister laughing at hurting the girlfriends feelings, I think it might be a little understandable. Especially after he and his girlfriend already helped her through a bad time.
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Sjs00 posted:The sister asked for him leave somewhere early to drive her to visit the mother. At 16 maybe she is too young or too impoverished to have a car or Uber. Not really an unreasonable request? I'm talking about the petulant blocking and the poo poo taking his gf
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Sjs00 posted:The sister asked for him leave somewhere early to drive her to visit the mother. At 16 maybe she is too young or too impoverished to have a car or Uber. Not really an unreasonable request? It's not unreasonable, but neither is "No, sorry, I have other stuff I need to do." an unreasonable response to someone asking you to leave 5 hours earlier than you'd planned to, and "gently caress you" followed by cutting off communications with you for a week is a very unreasonable response to that The sister is 16, she's still a child but she's old enough that she doesn't get to be an rear end in a top hat to everyone around her for no reason and nobody can really be expected to put up with someone treating them like loving garbage and saying a bunch of hurtful poo poo about them and their loved ones just because they're young
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DreamingofRoses posted:After being called “selfish” and “never putting family first “ for not breaking plans to drive 5 hours, and being blocked on all social media and then coming home to the sister laughing at hurting the girlfriends feelings, I think it might be a little understandable. Especially after he and his girlfriend already helped her through a bad time. I suppose. The problem (as with all unreliable narrators) is that if taken at face value the next update would be "So my sister is now an unplanned pregnancy I could have prevented/ she went to visit the mother with a sketchy friend of hers and we haven't heard from her for 3 days" followed up with the OP having a smug "I told you so"
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