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cumshitter posted:OK son, just to show you that your mother and I aren't total monsters, you can still play with your PS2 and this game... Metal Gear Solid: Sons of Liberty? Sounds straight enough. Heck, it's downright patriotic. Now don't you dare think about any young, twinky men with perfectly sculpted butts. You hear me? He's really into this game. He keeps on talking about solid snakes.
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Ex-thiest married to a very extreme Christian - need advice Hi lovely people of this reddit, I'll try to make this as brief as possible & include a TL;DR at the bottom. This is me asking for advice as well as a rant bc I'm at wits end. I'm a 27 yr old female & I married my husband at 20, he's the same age. We married in a very weird, small 'church' that I have since realized is very much a cult. The reason I was in it was because my mother, who I suspect had mental illness pushed a lot of strange religious beliefs on me 'god chose our family, we can do no wrong, we must save people etc' which eventually lead her to an alcohol addiction that took her life last year. I escaped her clutches at 19 & fled to the only safe haven at the time, which was the church, the 'pastors' wife was my friend. I immediately met my husband, 6 months later we said I like you, 4 weeks later we were married. It's what happened in the church to many other couples. (We all lived in their house & rented out the rooms like a big community. It got crazy) Now this church is as f*** as you can get. They preached happiness and freedom, which is why I joined because I was young and god fearing but wanted to have fun. Turns out it was not fun at all and I quickly lost my faith after witnessing the abuse from the husband/pastor to his wife. Screaming at her for not being spiritual enough to cure her genetic born disease, for burning her eggs, for wearing something too tight, for not being a good artist, or for focusing on art too much and not god. She is so talented she could've been famous, but she got locked into this abusive relationship & is now too sickly to do anything. So after 2 long years of doubting, I finally told her they're all basket cases & I never wanted to see them again. Now my husband, he's the most loyal, faithful thing you could ever meet and he refuses to talk bad about anyone he loves. The pastor paid for him to come live with him & my husband was a depressed teen who suddenly found love and friendships in a community, he was eternally thankful (he also grew up in church). This church is very strange, they're very good at making excuses for their behavior, oh gods okay with this etc etc. The pastor would preach alcohol is the devil, then go have beers after the sermon & say "they need to learn the real message meaning from god not me". My husband is very sweet, he loves them to death and believes fully in them. The pastor has preached continuously that he is the only one this close to god on earth right now and he can get everyone in the 'holy of holies' & everyone else will be in the 'outer courts'. When I cut them off in 2016, it was rocky for my husband and I. I was angry, scared, I'd never known a life without believing there was a god to keep me safe, but eventually I came out of my shell and I felt unchained for the first time in my life. I'm confident, happy, VERY bisexual (lol), and I'm not constantly checking every decision I make with someone who's not there. Including going to college bc everyone in my life told me not to cuz its not what god wanted (but guess who's finally graduating!!!) But my husband is diving deeper and deeper into this. He's always spent way too much time listening to this guys sermons & the bible, but its been getting worse. He gives tithe every paycheck (the cult couple has no other jobs, except the pastor finally got the wife to get a job to pay for her own expensive meds). He's been waking up hours before work to listen to his sermons & the bible instead of when he used to wake me up for coffee. He gets 2 days off a week, 1 he spends going to the sermon, the other is our date day & he has an earbud in his ear the whole time even when I'm yelling at him about it. He even has an earbud in his ear when we're watching our favorite Netflix shows. It's getting completely obsessive and frustrating. Now I've read a lot of people's stories, I know many of you may say it's a lost cause & it honestly would be if he wasn't so freaking perfect and wonderful in every other way. I'm COMPLETELY honest with him about my feelings, he's very accommodating to my new athiest-ish beliefs and we've found ways to speak & connect. But he was going to fast for 3 days & he's sick, I was so angry that when he left for work I went on his FB to read all his messages to find more reasons to be angry (I've literally blocked & avoided anything about this church for years) & I found messages to the pastors wife which I know they're friends, but I've told him do not EVER talk about me esp in a bad way, he always said he never ever would. There was one message from her saying "I know you said (your wife) has got a lot of self pity right now blah blah" & dozens of messages of her saying she's got signs from god saying me & her are going to be good friends again (wow, so, so far off base). I have a bff who was in the same church with almost the same story, she just got divorced & is happy right now. Her ex was the opposite of my husband though. My questions for reddit is how on earth am I supposed to cope? We do so well, then an episode like this happens and I'm so livid I want to run, but I don't want a life without him. I need some form of coping, I tried online therapy, it was okay, but I don't like talking about my problems if I'm in a good mood. Also no, he'd never do therapy, unless it's someone from that church (ha). TL;DR: between a crazy cult and an alcoholic mother, I turned athiest but am still married to a very religious (but otherwise wonderful) man that is still in the crazy cult. He lives & breathes this cults teaching, and it makes me want to rip my eyeballs out. I need your stories, advice, and pleaaase for the love of god (ha) book recommendations, anger management recommendations, and honestly if you have any post-belief-turned-semi athiest stuff that can help me form new ways of thought processing and mental clarity that'd be great!
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:Women's shoes are made out of spiderwebs and monofilament silk and the gossamer whispers of fairies talking dirty to the morning dew This is incredibly funny and you are one of my favourite posters.
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Beachcomber posted:This is incredibly funny and you are one of my favourite posters.  my wife bought a pair of "ballet flats" which were less substantial than a pair of hiking socks i was given, gratis, after purchasing a pair of boots from a tweaker in a van. women would run the loving world if they just had decent shoes.
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He’s super lucky he wasn’t outright fired for breaking work equipment and he should seek therapy for his obvious anger issues.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Ex-thiest married to a very extreme Christian - need advice it's real fuckin  that the post ends with HOW CAN I MAKE THIS WORK???
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Jun 12, 2019 06:18
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:women would run [...] if they just had decent shoes. 
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Xenocides posted:Are my parents [45M][43F] wrongly punishing my brother [16M] for being gay? If you have to repeatedly ask if what your bigot parents are doing is fair, you are in no place to offering advice you loving putz.
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I [27M] start to question the point of being with my woman[25F]. It it a sealed deal now? Hello, Reddit. We've been together for almost two years now (it will ding on 4th of August), we've met each other on dating site. The start was awesome, as it always is, the honeymoon period. We've been living together for 15 months now. Everything is rather fine, but I start to question whether or not I want to be with her. Why? I kinda feel like I'm suffocating, and the longer I'll be with her, the more I'll feel like that, I'm afraid. Why? Okay, here's the thing, I am happy with her, sort of. We talk and laugh a lot, we go on dates, we have a good language between us, we can watch movies, play games, have sex, travel together, meet friends and all, I don't complain. We both have a lot of fun together. The thing that I'm worried about is the "me" part. What I mean is, there are things that I want to do with her or even alone and I feel like she will be holding me back. She's a pretty... convenient kind of person. She can be difficult to live with. When we try things to eat, she will stop after the first bite 70% of the time, because she's a very picky eater. When traveling, there is no camping with her, no skipping showers. We always stay at hotels cause they're clean, there are no bugs, there are nice showers etc. Sex never goes outside the bedroom, no butt stuff, no oral from her, lots of toys though. I don't push her, she knows what she will and will not do, I can respect that, I don't know if I can accept that though. The bottom line is, she's not at all adventurous, it starts becoming boring to me. Too safe. Too predictable, too not fun. I crave some edge, some danger, some memorable stupid situations. I don't know how to word it better. I guess one could say I'm kinda "punk" in nature too, I've always been. I want to hit the road, hitchhike and end up wherever I will. She won't even ride rollercoasters, won't hitchhike, won't spend a night in the forest, won't try a lot of things. That's the thing, she won't even as much as try a lot of stuff, just straight up decline. I want to visit various countries and try some jobs there, breathe in their culture and ways of life. I know she will complain if she's with me on these ventures. Either about the work or the living standards. We've been there before once already. Neither her nor I want to settle with kids and all that stuff, we don't want kids, like ever, so our end goals align. Like I said though, she's difficult to live with. She doesn't know the meaning of "when there's a will, there's a way". The always makes up excuses why she won't do something, instead of making it work somehow. When it comes to life and things that happen, I'm very adaptable, accidents happen, right? When something doesn't go your way, it's a bummer, but you have to handle it somehow. When her plans go down the drain, she gets furious, when she doesn't get what she wants, she gets mad. Don't be mistaken: she's not selfish. She's very loving and caring of me. We split chores and we both do our parts thoroughly, she will take care of me if need be, she's helpful, thoughtful and understanding. I can go and get drunk with friends and she won't say a thing, she'll drag me to bed, get me a large basin to puke into, and go on with her stuff, without complaining. A lot of times she would encourage me herself to go and have fun with my friends. She won't bother me with texts when I'm out. As I said before, I'm very adaptable, she's not, not one bit. I'm like throwing a rock in a well, she's like that kid's toy where a square block needs to fit into a square hole. And that's a 24/7 deal. I'm fine with a lot of things, she's not. We always do shopping together, because if I went alone, she wouldn't eat half of stuff that I bought, and wouldn't even try the 1/4 of the rest of stuff, her tongue is so annoyingly sensitive. Most of things we do always end up her way, just because I don't mind it and I'm just fine with whatever she wants. Once in blue moon though, I DO WANT something, and very often she won't play ball. And that should be fine, right? Don't do what you don't want to, nobody should be forced to do anything. So I don't, but I am still annoyed. I could give hundreds of examples how that attitude of hers manifests, but I won't, this post is very long already, and I believe you'll understand what I mean. I love her very much, but I can't shake the feeling that she's much more happier with me than I am with her. She always gets what she wants, just because I'm fine with it, I on the other hand, slowly but steadily, suffocate with hunger. She's constantly like "you're my future hubby" and all that. I'm not much into religion or marriage but I couldn't give her the same statement even if I was. There are too many questions looming above my head. I love her, I love watching her smile, I love cooking her dinners and giving gifts, I feel very protective of her, she's a small person, very cute and a bit childish in some ways, so it only boosts my sense of being defensive over her. I'm always helping her when she needs help, I give her all I can, so does she. Yet, I am still unsatisfied. There’s one more thing. There was a semi-affair a while ago. I went for a beer with a female friend from work, my woman knew about this, we were supposed to go with few other people from work, but they bailed on us, so it was just me and that girl from work. We had a few beers and chatted for like 5 hours. That meeting turned into a date eventually. Crazy chemistry we had together. We both felt it and we both knew it was mutual. We ended the evening with a passionate hug (started the evening with a high five) and went our separate ways. After that we texted A LOT. There was flirt, there were dirty jokes that obviously were flirty in nature. We secretly met up at work in some unattended spots to talk, flirt and all that. Her boyfriend was at work with us, mind you. We both felt like total asshats and we talked about it. I wanted to end it, she convinced me otherwise, I submitted, because I really wanted her, and she really wanted me. All this time we felt really bad for our SOs, but we kept on going, we lied our way to another date that ended with a kiss. We still wanted more, but we felt worse and worse, my conscience was eating my from inside, and she felt the same way. She said it costs her too much and it needs to stop, I agreed with her. After that single kiss, one day later, we ended it. It was a two week period of weakness and a strong passion, but it was wrong. It only reinforced my concerns when it comes to my woman though. That coworker has traits that align with mine and doesn't have the flaws that annoy me in my woman so badly, maybe that's why she attracted me so quickly and heavily. What I want to ask you, is once a seed is planted, is it an irreversible process? Is the break up inevitable? Will I be more unhappy the further I go into relationship with her? Am I just biding my time, and wasting both, hers and mine? I know I'm an rear end for that "affair" and though technically I didn't cheat, I sure feel like I did, and I feel like a total douche for acting like that behind her back. If I found a way to make my relationship work though, I would be willing to swallow it and keep it a secret until the end of time. That's not how I feel though, I am afraid that raising these questions and contemplating if I really want to be with her, means I already made up my mind but I just refuse to admit it. Do I want too much? Do I need a “perfect fit for me” person that doesn’t exist? It crossed my mind that I'm maybe just not cut out for relationships and I'm more of a free soul. I don't know, I feel like garbage, because I really don't want to hurt her, but those thoughts of mine just won't go away. I'm really sorry for the long post, I just hope that some of you will read it. TLDR; We're happy and loving for now, but I fear the longer we're together, the more trapped I will feel, because I want to do things that she'll never be on board with. I already question the point of continuing this, but only because of future concerns, not current problems. Does this mean it's the point of no return and the split is inevitable?
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Boyfriend’s porn tendenciesquote:My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years. When our relationship first started, we had the new couple sex frequently. Eventually I was placed on a birth control that lowered my libido A LOT and we started having sex only like once a month. Earlier this year, I was put on a different birth control and my sex drive went crazy. I also accidentally stumbled upon his internet search history (before I had refound my sex drive) and he was looking at porn 2-3 days a week.
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Jun 12, 2019 06:33
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I want to gently caress other people Reddit is that uncommon
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Jun 12, 2019 06:41
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MasBrillante posted:She won't even ride rollercoasters, won't hitchhike, won't spend a night in the forest, won't try a lot of things. reddit help my gf is a real stick in the mud. she doesn't like road trips, doesn't like backalley surgery, doesn't like hiking, doesn't like a ton of stuff
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Jun 12, 2019 06:48
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GF won't say candyman in the mirror three times, won't let me read from the necronomicon and don't even get me started on her aversion to the lament configuration!
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hmu girl we can shower every day and you can eat whatever you like and watch me go on roller coasters occasionally, and then I'll buy you a corn dog if you like them
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Anne Whateley posted:hmu girl we can shower every day and you can eat whatever you like and watch me go on roller coasters occasionally, and then I'll buy you a corn dog if you like them Goddamn no funnel cake? 
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Jun 12, 2019 07:55
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hon you can have your pick of the fair food, as long as you aren't one of those people who tops funnel cake with tomato sauce
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Anne Whateley posted:hon you can have your pick of the fair food, as long as you aren't one of those people who tops funnel cake with tomato sauce I need a fainting couch at this suggestion
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Anne Whateley posted:hon you can have your pick of the fair food, as long as you aren't one of those people who tops funnel cake with tomato sauce YOU WHAT
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Jun 12, 2019 08:16
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lamo if you dont put ketchup on your ice cream
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Jun 12, 2019 08:25
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Djeser posted:lamo if you dont put ketchup on your ice cream You know what's actually good on ice cream? Powdered gruel made from a mixture of malted barley, wheat flour, and evaporated whole milk.
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Jun 12, 2019 08:34
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i don't know what that is but if you're joking pleas eknow i do not joke about ketchup on ice cream
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Jun 12, 2019 08:38
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you should be put in prison for your culinary crimes.
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Piell posted:2 people eating a total of 12 donuts is a lot, wtf. "Those two people only ate 11 donuts, that's not that much" I say, clutching my chest and breathing heavily between each key stroke
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Jun 12, 2019 09:12
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nankeen posted:i will eat twelve donuts at a single sitting Don't worry we all believe you
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Rubellavator posted:There are large sections of the country with practically no Mexicans whatsoever. Which bits? Because there are a fair number of them in, e.g., Michigan and Utah which are otherwise mostly p drat white
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My husband loves to drink my breast milk and it’s starting to get out of handquote:I think it started innocently enough when we were having sex and he accidentally got a mouth full when he was sucking on my nipples. 
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Jun 12, 2019 10:39
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If you're a thread regular and that seems familiar it's because there was a similar story posted in here from a husbands perspective. I enjoy my wife’s lactating, but she wants to wean our kid. quote:My wife and I had a kid around a year and a half ago, My wife Breastfed and honestly I love it. I nurse from her every time we have sex, and truthfully almost every night before falling asleep. It is sexual for me, but it’s also just really comforting.
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Tythas posted:AITA for asking an older man to leave the skatepark my kids were at and then threating to call the police when he didn't? This bitch dialed 911 because someone threw her folding chair over a fence Someone in an emergency situation could very well have had to wait momentarily for resources while this was dealt with Couldn't be bothered to find the non-emergency line to dial There's a room in hell for you lady
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Beachcomber posted:The difference between bravery and stupidity is a very fine line. He should have had a lie ready like "I was just making sure I wasn't gay." He knew what his parents were like. oh do gently caress off
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StrangersInTheNight posted:This bitch dialed 911 because someone threw her folding chair over a fence The non-emergency line often goes to the same call center as 911, they're just allowed to let it ring for a bit.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:This bitch dialed 911 because someone threw her folding chair over a fence
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Aren't a huge portion of 911 calls butt dials? I remember reading an article about that being a huge problem
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Beachcomber posted:You know what's actually good on ice cream? Hell yeah, I'm down. malted milk is delicious!
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Jun 12, 2019 11:27
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my husband is nourished solely by the milk of my breasts, he needs no other food
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nankeen posted:my husband is nourished solely by the milk of my breasts, he needs no other food So you’re eating for two?
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dudeness posted:GF won't say candyman in the mirror three times, won't let me read from the necronomicon and don't even get me started on her aversion to the lament configuration!
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:
Ugh, I always have to beg my co-workers to please wear men's work shoes, and they always refuse. Men's work shoes have great soles, wide toes, and great traction, and can be found in sizes that fit most women. Women's work shoes are slippery, made of the weakest material and stitching, fall apart if you sneeze too hard, and are expensive I assume Women's clothing designers are just a secret society bent on making girls and women suffer for no reason
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MagusofStars posted:If there’s a room in hell for calling 9-1-1 instead of the non-emergency line, it’ll contain like half of the US population i mean, for better reasons too, but yeah no poo poo
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