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Smirking_Serpent posted:This summer my parents have been coming over largely unannounced (maybe a text on the way over) to my house every weekend to go kayaking off my community beach. I told them they should park on the street but they're afraid of being sideswiped so they park in my driveway and block my partner in.
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Frog Act posted:Little late but having a plantation wedding is like choosing a gallows, one of those underground Román slave pens, or any other dreadful historical site that if it’s allowed to stand should be treated reverentially as a monument to the exploited visiting jamestown owns because you can tell when an exhibit was installed based on the use of 'immigrants' vs. 'slaves'. most of the exhibits talk about 'immigrants from africa', and only the most recent parts mention slavery at all. when I was in graduate school one of my classmates did her thesis on how VA plantations treat slavery. she visited all of them and the vast majority didn't mention slavery at all.
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Sagebrush posted:also like what the gently caress is gonna happen when that kid is a med school resident at 19 and he's a virgin with no friends and no social knowledge and no concept of how normal humans live and his patient is a 60 year old man who wants to talk about his sex problems with his wife but enough about how he'll be a perfectly normal MD. what about the problems this could cause?
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[AL] School seeking custody of my unborn childquote:Totally uneducated in legal terms there will be a few terms you correct me on.
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Dancer posted:We're talking plantations not confederate statues in this particular conversation. If the entirety of Auschwitz were demolished today, our collective memory of the Holocaust would be damaged. Not like, a massive amount, but non-zero. Some plantations (as the one mentioned a few posts up) can fulfill that role, and can fulfill it in a way very few other buildings could. The Bramble's argument applies just as well to confederate statues as it does to plantations, it makes no difference. The idea that we need to preserve every physical representation of a series of atrocities in order to not repeat those atrocities is so stupid that I can't even accurately describe it. You're misunderstanding what's being argued on each side here; no one is suggesting that we need to burn down memorials and museums that happen to have been former plantations. Most plantations are not historical sites memorializing the atrocities committed there, they're for-profit venues still owned by the same families that owned the slaves that worked that land. That's hosed up.
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AITA for my (perhaps problematic) choice of song in our workplace development activity?quote:Some background: in my workplace, they are big on “team-building.” They have quarterly group meetings/sessions where, in addition to giving an update on our workplaces’ progress/team’s success, they have a number of fun group activities designed to have everyone work together and get to know each other a little better.
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Palemdromes posted:So should they be burned down? Never visited? yes, and yes. the only reasonable alternative is to leave one or two of them as auschwitz-style memorials to the frightening depths of evil humans will sink to for a little comfort and power. plantation weddings are so insanely hosed up that when paula deen's controversy came out I thought it was satire. "no way a bunch of white people are throwing parties at plantations with the servants all being black. nobody is that fuckin' stupid, nobody. this is a hilarious bit of satire. surely I will click this link and be rickrolled." welp
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ScentOfAnOtaku posted:and of course not all people having plantation weddings are bad people all people who have plantation weddings are doing a bad thing. saying "some are good people though" is meaningless apologia that only serves to gloss over the fact that making light of slavery is loving abhorrent
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Piell posted:AITA for my (perhaps problematic) choice of song in our workplace development activity? I desperately want to know how this guy was going to spin his having a big dick as beneficial in the workplace
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Piell posted:AITA for my (perhaps problematic) choice of song in our workplace development activity? goons did stuff like this when we were 12 with Bloodhound Gang songs and we knew we were TA then, what is wrong with this purported adult?
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If this can't stop the plantation wedding derail, nothing will AITA for telling my dad someone pooped in the trash can at a family party when I knew who did it? quote:So yeah, Title pretty much sums it up. This was a few years ago when my family went to visit my aunts family in AZ . Everyone was having a great time drinking and listening to music and poo poo like that . You know, a classic Mexican family barbecue with a roasted pig and tacos and what not. Spirits are high and everyone is having a fun ol time. That sets the stage.
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Is it acceptable to get married at a Soup Plantation? No black face or period attire.
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NEED HELP!! MY DOG CHEWED MY PASSPORT (TORN TO PIECES) AND I HAVE A FLIGHT OUT OF COUNTRY (U.S.A.) IN A FEW HOURS. NEED TO GET A PASSPORT ASAP! WHERE CAN I GET ONE? TITLE SAYS IT ALL. I TRIED GOOGLE AND I FOUND A COUPLE OF SITE THAT CAN GET ME A PASSPORT IN 24 HRS BUT IDK IF THATS LEGIT. IM FREAKING OUT. PLEASE HELP! EDIT: LOCATED IN NEBRASKA. TRAVELING TO MEXICO
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Fantastic Flyer posted:NEED HELP!! MY DOG CHEWED MY PASSPORT (TORN TO PIECES) AND I HAVE A FLIGHT OUT OF COUNTRY (U.S.A.) IN A FEW HOURS. NEED TO GET A PASSPORT ASAP! WHERE CAN I GET ONE? This person is absolutely angling to be offered illegal services right? Because otherwise they’ve got to realize this is hopeless.
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Antivehicular posted:I desperately want to know how this guy was going to spin his having a big dick as beneficial in the workplace You could hold down a heavy stack of papers until somebody could find a paperweight. 
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Pinecone Sample posted:If this can't stop the plantation wedding derail, nothing will nta. dad's reaction wasn't OP's fault. OP tried to handle it quickly and discreetly.
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I’d be on board for plantation weddings if every person in this nation fully and unequivocally understood the horrors of chattel slavery, it’s ongoing impacts, the massive, systematic and intentional inequality in our nation, and the viscous nature of white supremacy and fragility. All in living, gory color, no detail spared or sugarcoated. If Becky and Beaux want their tacky little faux southern aristocratic wedding after all of that, let them. Let them consecrate their love on the grounds of mass murder and literal crimes against humanity. I just hope those grounds are haunted.
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QuarkJets posted:The Bramble's argument applies just as well to confederate statues as it does to plantations, it makes no difference. The idea that we need to preserve every physical representation of a series of atrocities in order to not repeat those atrocities is so stupid that I can't even accurately describe it. I mean, duh. And actually yes, the way I followed (which may very well have slipped at some point along the chain), I was responding to something that was downstream of someone literally suggesting "burn down all plantations". Ergo my Auschwitz example.
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Dancer posted:I mean, duh. How many weddings happen at Auschwitz
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Piell posted:How many weddings happen at Auschwitz There was that one sponsored by Arby's. 
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Do you need a passport to go to Mexico? I haven't been in forever but I remember when I was a kid we drove into Canada with out them. I thought that was part of Nafta but maybe that's changed.
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My (36m) wife (32f) cheated on me and we are trying to work it out, but I feel like she's wildly insensitive. Married 5 years with a toddler. I'll say right upfront her actions seriously hurt my self-esteem, ability to trust and overall wellbeing. I'm not sure she understands how badly. We were definitely going through a rough patch which likely stemmed from many things (her sister was sick in the hospital for months, many issues at her place of employment, she had quit drinking last year so that coping mechanism was gone). I tried to be supportive, but she was very angry and often turned her anger towards me. I felt like I couldn't do anything right half the time. In the past, we've had issues where she would text a male co-worker too much. I didn't like this because it seemed to take up too much of her free time, and I also felt it was bordering on an emotional affair. She stopped it and we got past it (but it did put a dent in my trust for her). Once again, I noticed she was texting some guy from facebook. I asked her if I could read their texts and she claimed that she had deleted them....not because they were inappropriate but because she panicked knowing I'd be angry she was texting him to begin with. We fought over that and that's where things went south. I didn't communicate well I admit, and I angrily told her if she continued texting him I wanted a divorce. All she got from that was that I "wanted a divorce". Our relationship became strained, but we still were together. We still had sex (although rarely at that point) and acted as a couple. Apparently while this was going on, she decided I was a jerk for even mentioning divorce and she started meeting up with texting-guy for sex in his car (at least 6 times). I had no idea. Things ended between them and then on a fluke I found out. At first she denied it, but eventually admitted everything. I was BLINDSIDED badly. I went into a depression where I couldn't cope. I took a 3 week leave of absence from work and stayed with my brother. I eventually moved back (my wife was very remorseful and wanted another chance). However......she makes little jokes, little quips about things to "lighten the mood". It isn't lightening the mood for me at all. Instead it's like a knife in the gut. For example, we'll be talking about something to do with getting a new car and how much space it has, and she'll say "well, you know I know all about how much space is in the backseat of cars". Then she'll see my face freeze and she'll say "Come on! I'm joking!!" This has happened many times since I've been back. Am I just being crazy and over sensitive? It has only been 4 months since I found out about the affair. I don't find it funny at all, and I've told her. She doesn't seem to understand that these "jokes" aren't funny, don't lighten the mood, and in fact hurt me. Another horrible aspect of this affair is that she told me he gave her money and gifts, so she said he was practically like a "sugar daddy" and there was no love on either side. Today she accidentally added more sugar than she meant to her coffee, and she said "jeez, now I'm a REAL sugar baby". Am I reading too much into this and looking for problems? Please tell me because I feel like I'm going crazy. TLDR: wife had an affair, we agreed to try to make things work, but her little jokes about the affair are really not funny to me and upset me a lot.
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It’s amazing how many people “I just deleted the evidence already because *reasons*” works on.
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Don't burn any building down actually. Seize them and give all the revenue they generate to descendants of slaves. Really, do anything with them that helps black people. Anything except for "descendants of slaveholders continue to profit from this."
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That woman should consult a doctor since having brass ovaries like that cant be healthy. Also destroy all plantations, even monticello
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I was taught, in 2006, that some slaveowners were ok because they were nice to their slaves. Burn down the South.
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Jfc sever from affair joke wife. That's loving terrible.
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Its emotional abuse, right? She's trying to speedrun forgiveness by pretending it's all in the past and treating his reactions to her jokes as wild overreactions.
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Dancer posted:I mean, duh. Museums and memorials that used to be plantations are no longer plantations, hth
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Hellblazer187 posted:Don't burn any building down actually. Seize them and give all the revenue they generate to descendants of slaves. Really, do anything with them that helps black people. Anything except for "descendants of slaveholders continue to profit from this." Yeah but wouldn’t it be an ironic twist if ppl had to maintain the plantations and it was a negative cost for ownership and the black owners had to move in and maintain the plantations for free. Like in Fletch.
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Hellblazer187 posted:Do you need a passport to go to Mexico? I haven't been in forever but I remember when I was a kid we drove into Canada with out them. I thought that was part of Nafta but maybe that's changed. Yes, since 2009. If you opted for an enhanced license in a state that offers them [probably not Nebraska], that will work until REAL ID goes into effect. There are some legit private same-day/overnight passport services in medium to large cities. I've only heard second-hand stories about them, I think they can run like $800.
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Hellblazer187 posted:Do you need a passport to go to Mexico? I haven't been in forever but I remember when I was a kid we drove into Canada with out them. I thought that was part of Nafta but maybe that's changed. Yes, that was a change sometime in the last ~10 years
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Hellblazer187 posted:Its emotional abuse, right? She's trying to speedrun forgiveness by pretending it's all in the past and treating his reactions to her jokes as wild overreactions. Yeah, minimizing offense by joking/dismissals/"it wasn't a big deal, why are you still hung up on it?" is textbook emotional abuse. It's pretty sad and gross.
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Ah, ok. My last time in Mexico was over ten years ago I think. I had no idea an overnight passport was possible even in big cities. I know some embassies can get you a temp passport to get you back home if needed but not applicable to this guy
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My (36m) wife (32f) cheated on me and we are trying to work it out, but I feel like she's wildly insensitive. Just kill her. (USER WAS BANNED FOR THIS POST)
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Something a little different for the thread. TIFU by eating bugs my entire life and having a spider bite the inside of my mouth quote:Okay so you know some people have dark, dark, dark secrets Some people pick their nose, some pick it and eat it, some people eat poo poo, some people do really strange things. Well I like to eat live bugs. Nobody in my life knows this. I just like the way some of them are soft and taste quite gummy, I like how some are crunchy and almost explode in your mouth when you bite down.
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Deserved for confusing spiders with insects.
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Xik posted:Something a little different for the thread. Just tell the doctor it was for a bet and you'll be fine, that's like only the third dumbest thing they've seen this week
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Xik posted:Something a little different for the thread. Maybe it laid its eggs in his mouth before dying
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