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I am a southerner as well and while I’ve had therapists that have literally called me crazy, an ex girlfriend of mine recommended the one I am currently seeing and she is very helpful. she does a lot of substance abuse and couples stuff and, as noted earlier, is LGBT friendly, which is a good indicator someone won’t be a religious weirdo. you’ve had terrible luck, most people who get LCSW degrees or psychology doctorates are secular and empathetic, or I’d like to think so anyway. keep trying and you’ll be able to find someone if you live in a decent sized urban or suburban area
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Jun 23, 2019 01:53
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The first therapist I saw also took a religious angle and basically insinuated that my problems weren't that bad. It turned me off of counseling for a year or two. Then later I did my own research and found someone who did like lgbt stuff, relationship counseling, all kinds of other hardcore sounding specialties and she was rad.
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Jun 23, 2019 03:24
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My wife has lost her goddamn mind. She took Latuda for a while, didn't realize it was screwing up her anxiety, and it eventually built up to the point where she's unable to even make decisions without breaking down crying. The doctor's cleared her to stop taking it but she's a wreck right now. This was triggered by her getting turned down for two jobs because she didn't have "experience in the industry" (which sounds like bullshit to me) and if it doesn't clear up when the Latuda flushes out of her system she might be having a mental breakdown of her own. I don't know if I'm strong enough to do what she did for me and basically run my entire life while I sat there suffering in a chair all day long. I'm worried it'll put me back in the hospital if I try. Friday owned, I got a six months contract extension, raise, and dunked on my work project so hard I got to walk off whistling showtunes instead of working overtime on the weekend. Now this. I'm not feeling real great and would like off this rollercoaster.
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Jun 23, 2019 03:54
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Thread has convinced me, I will try therapy again. I'm in a less religious area, and I'll try and aim for someone LGBT friendly to make it less likely I get someone religious. I will schedule at least one session. I will try.
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Jun 23, 2019 04:03
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FactsAreUseless posted:That's a toxic workplace. It isn't you, that feeling of confusion and inability to do your job stem from your terrible work, not your own ability to do it. Thank you so much. When I started it seemed to be a somewhat decent job. Ive never had anything negative about my work told to me at this job before. It really feels like it came out of left field. I am a bit of a nervous person, so I chalked up my discomfort to be generalized anxiety. Now that I have had the day to think, there definitely seems to be an underlying toxicity to this workplace. Developers are paired, and while at first I felt this was a good idea it now seems like half of the team is lionized as great workers and the other half as layabouts. There is a lot of snarkiness and dismissiveness leveled against people in the group. As well, I have had the day to think about the situation. What sort of manager would see a post like that and not immediately identify the person who wrote it as a toxic coworker? What sort of manager would blame the person being attacked in that post? The way I see it, the post either gets ignored (or wasnt seen) and I look for a new job while still working there, I get fired and just chalk it up to being scapegoated, or that guy gets canned (Im an associate and hes only a contractor so this is a possibility) What a loving rear end in a top hat to do that. He was probably trying to snake his way to my associate position. He probably feels bitter becaise he feels as a contractor he works harder than me for less pay. Im sorry I'm not on the ball enough to post hate filled diatribes on a Saturday the day a person goes on vacation, I guess. Ferdinand the Bull has issued a correction as of 05:19 on Jun 23, 2019 |
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Jun 23, 2019 04:09
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PsychedelicWarlord posted:Your coworker sounds like a tool and his actions are so unprofessional that you shouldn't take it as a reflection on your ability at work at all. Thank you. Colorado is beautiful and in retrospect he is a tool. Also, youre a beautiful human. Thank you for the empathy you have shown people on this board.
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Jun 23, 2019 04:10
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PsychedelicWarlord posted:Your coworker sounds like a tool and his actions are so unprofessional that you shouldn't take it as a reflection on your ability at work at all. jfc agreed
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Jun 23, 2019 04:11
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Xaris posted:if your in tech, yeah you can jump around jobs. or at least start looking in your spare time and at least you have a fallback in already having a job so you don't have to stress about it while being unemployed. but yeah your co-workers suck and thats not something that (usually) happens in a decent workplace. True, tech jobs you can definitely jump around pretty easy. I would like to take a job I enjoy other than another toxic role.
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Jun 23, 2019 04:11
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Ferdinand the Bull posted:Thank you. Colorado is beautiful and in retrospect he is a tool. Colorado owns and I hope you enjoy your time here. check out garden of the gods if you can!
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Jun 23, 2019 04:14
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I've been doing some light job searching and god does it feel bad. I'm a good worker but most of my job experience is kinda specialized so I feel like it's hard to sell. I feel unqualified for everything. does anyone have job website recommendations?
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Jun 23, 2019 04:18
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Consummate Professional posted:I've been doing some light job searching and god does it feel bad. I'm a good worker but most of my job experience is kinda specialized so I feel like it's hard to sell. I feel unqualified for everything. does anyone have job website recommendations? im still employed but i really want a municipality job and applied and did my very first interview in over 8 years last month and it was a disaster and i'm terrible at interviewing--so i'm definitely not changing jobs anytime soon. at least i didn't do as bad as I thought and they actually called yesterday if i was interested in interviewing with the corrosion protection department but i had to nope that one because i have zero experience in it, maybe they'll ask again for another department, we'll see.
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Jun 23, 2019 04:24
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yeah that's kinda what I figured. I'm about 7 months away from getting my bachelors and hope that opens a lot of stuff up. the pay and work at this job is fine but the management loving sucks. it's getting harder to disconnect the work and personal life.
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Jun 23, 2019 04:31
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Consummate Professional posted:I've been doing some light job searching and god does it feel bad. I'm a good worker but most of my job experience is kinda specialized so I feel like it's hard to sell. I feel unqualified for everything. does anyone have job website recommendations? ask a manager has a good post on niche job boards and another thing you might want to try is looking for region-specific boards.
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Jun 23, 2019 05:00
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Consummate Professional posted:yeah that's kinda what I figured. I'm about 7 months away from getting my bachelors and hope that opens a lot of stuff up. the pay and work at this job is fine but the management loving sucks. it's getting harder to disconnect the work and personal life. oh i didnt realize you were still in college. check out if they do any college career fairs. we had engineering career fairs when i was at undergrad and grad, including field specific ones. even if it doesn't pan out, you can get a good idea for what companies are out there
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Jun 23, 2019 05:05
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Chokes McGee posted:My wife has lost her goddamn mind. She took Latuda for a while, didn't realize it was screwing up her anxiety, and it eventually built up to the point where she's unable to even make decisions without breaking down crying. The doctor's cleared her to stop taking it but she's a wreck right now. as husband you agreed to take care of her, but it doesnt mean you have to do it alone. get help somewhere 
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Jun 23, 2019 05:36
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Chokes McGee posted:My wife has lost her goddamn mind. She took Latuda for a while, didn't realize it was screwing up her anxiety, and it eventually built up to the point where she's unable to even make decisions without breaking down crying. The doctor's cleared her to stop taking it but she's a wreck right now. got any sevens posted:as husband you agreed to take care of her, but it doesnt mean you have to do it alone. get help somewhere also you didn't say anything but ima go ahead and project what my damaged thoughts would be doing to me in yr situation and advise not to let her struggles diminish yr successes. the two are discrete occurrences and remembering that, at times, you are the poo poo can motivate you to solve other admittedly unrelated problems. you got that, and you can get this. breathe, hydrate, feel.
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Jun 23, 2019 18:07
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Being a socialist by ideology but also completely loving alienated from other human beings is insane bullshit. It would be so much easier for me to be a dumb centrist white lady. Doesnt required any solidarity, just selfishness, which I've got in spades
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Jun 23, 2019 21:19
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Automatonic Water posted:Being a socialist by ideology but also completely loving alienated from other human beings is insane bullshit. It would be so much easier for me to be a dumb centrist white lady. Doesnt required any solidarity, just selfishness, which I've got in spades I think it is ok to want the best for people without having to let their drama into your life. You dont have to be an extrovert to believe others shouldnt suffer at the hands of Capital.
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Jun 23, 2019 23:55
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Automatonic Water posted:Being a socialist by ideology but also completely loving alienated from other human beings is insane bullshit. It would be so much easier for me to be a dumb centrist white lady. Doesnt required any solidarity, just selfishness, which I've got in spades oof. this hit close (except the "white" part, lol)
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Jun 24, 2019 00:10
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got any sevens posted:as husband you agreed to take care of her, but it doesnt mean you have to do it alone. get help somewhere SHVPS4DETH posted:also you didn't say anything but ima go ahead and project what my damaged thoughts would be doing to me in yr situation and advise not to let her struggles diminish yr successes. the two are discrete occurrences and remembering that, at times, you are the poo poo can motivate you to solve other admittedly unrelated problems. you got that, and you can get this. breathe, hydrate, feel. Thanks, all.  Mostly, I had to vent spleen to prevent further damage. The Latuda's washed out, and I have my wife back now. Wish I wasn't so jumpy about the relapse thing, but I'm slowly proving to myself I can handle stress better than I think.
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Jun 24, 2019 13:04
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Chokes McGee posted:Thanks, all. ur doin the thing
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Jun 24, 2019 13:48
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Zyla posted:ur doin the thing 
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Jun 24, 2019 14:00
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I need a job where I don't have a boss who gives me child abuse flashbacks. I mean I need a job where I don't have a boss at all, but I'll settle for not needing breathing exercises just to get through the work day
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Jun 24, 2019 16:56
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Goon Danton posted:I need a job where I don't have a boss who gives me child abuse flashbacks. my last boss literally had narcissistic personality disorder which is one of the many reasons for my breakdown, the goalposts get moved out from under you and it's declared to be your fault there's not a lot of people I legit wish bad things upon but he's on the short list
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Jun 24, 2019 17:05
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Yeah I repeatedly get shouted at for not doing things I was never told to do and/or doing things I was told to do. I think it's a result of general managerial incompetence rather than an actual Cluster B disorder, but my mom was Borderline so it's extremely unfun to deal with.
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Jun 24, 2019 17:09
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Goon Danton posted:Yeah I repeatedly get shouted at for not doing things I was never told to do and/or doing things I was told to do. I think it's a result of general managerial incompetence rather than an actual Cluster B disorder, but my mom was Borderline so it's extremely unfun to deal with. gently caress yes, extremely felt my mom is a monster and all the dbt in the world wasn't going to fix the poo poo she did
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Jun 24, 2019 17:35
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Goon Danton posted:I need a job where I don't have a boss who gives me child abuse flashbacks. mood me: " *exaggerated groan bc there's 30 mins left before close and expo just called a hundred items at once* " chef: "hey. that big sigh? don't do that." me: " *looks up expecting a joking face* " chef: " *is dead serious* " me: " *thousand yard stare* heard "
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Jun 24, 2019 20:34
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They are having an argument about people who believe in magic in the C-Spam pictures thread, and it is making me anxious because my brain is bad. If I could get a brain transplant and have a normal brain that wasn't hilarious to cool people, I would do. But, I am stuck with the brain that gets flashbacks to being an unhappy teenager who gets mocked for being weird and doesn't know how to not be weird. Doesn't matter that nobody in the thread was talking to or about me personally, I get those flashbacks anyway.
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Jun 24, 2019 21:15
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won't attempt a very helpful reply, but, yeah, that thread is currently in a bit of a froth of know-all superiority which i am pretty sure none of the posters have deserved. gently caress'em.
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Jun 24, 2019 21:35
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as long as you are happy and the poo poo that makes you happy isnt detrimental to yourself or others, gently caress people who say otherwise. happiness is in short supply on earth. if crystals, jesus, yoga, casting spells, anime wall scolls, or playing magic: the gathering brings you some peace and happiness, gently caress people who give you poo poo for it in a non-ribbing way. seriously, gently caress those people. my lack of belief in any of the above doesn't give me license to take away the happiness of people who get some joy or some hope out of it. signed, a guy who was once cool and popular in high school
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Jun 24, 2019 21:54
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Jollity Farm posted:They are having an argument about people who believe in magic in the C-Spam pictures thread, and it is making me anxious because my brain is bad. If I could get a brain transplant and have a normal brain that wasn't hilarious to cool people, I would do. But, I am stuck with the brain that gets flashbacks to being an unhappy teenager who gets mocked for being weird and doesn't know how to not be weird. Doesn't matter that nobody in the thread was talking to or about me personally, I get those flashbacks anyway. yeah it’s pretty cool how people who believe in magic are crackpots but people who think talking to an invisible sky man to intervene on your behalf is perfectly normal and sane yep really cool
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Jun 24, 2019 23:51
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my therapist challenged me to hold myself accountable to going out and doing something social which I have been avoiding with excuse after excuse. if I don't go to Sunday MTG at the comic store I said I will donate $1 to noted shitlord cory Gardner. I'd much rather talk to strangers than give him a cent.
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Jun 25, 2019 00:03
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just lol if you believe in anything besides the immortal science of marxism lenninism
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Jun 25, 2019 00:03
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turn off the TV posted:just lol if you believe in anything besides the immortal science of marxism lenninism i also believe that im gay as hell and that i cannot trust my parents with this information i'll probably move out of state and block their numbers because yeesh
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Jun 25, 2019 00:15
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Goon Danton posted:I need a job where I don't have a boss who gives me child abuse flashbacks. Update to this: it's definitely a fun feeling when your therapist advises you to start looking for a new job, lol
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Jun 25, 2019 00:20
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Consummate Professional posted:my therapist challenged me to hold myself accountable to going out and doing something social which I have been avoiding with excuse after excuse. if I don't go to Sunday MTG at the comic store I said I will donate $1 to noted shitlord cory Gardner. I'd much rather talk to strangers than give him a cent. having a weekly thing like that can be really helpful. it also gets easier each time.
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Jun 25, 2019 01:17
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lmao the hospital that did a multitude of malpractices on me insists that 1) my complaint is that i experienced overly long wait times 2) therefore they will not honour my appeal lol okay idiots (while that is a minor complaint that i have -- actually my complaint is that the nurse forgot about me for going on two hours and told me that she forgot about me when she returned to tell me i can be discharged but the hospital would not be able to provide me treatment -- that is not my allegation of malpractice) juche avocado has issued a correction as of 01:30 on Jun 25, 2019 |
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Jun 25, 2019 01:27
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PsychedelicWarlord posted:having a weekly thing like that can be really helpful. it also gets easier each time. I go to free poker on thursdays it's my goddamn lifeline some weeks
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Jun 25, 2019 02:29
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Poniard posted:i also believe that im gay as hell and that i cannot trust my parents with this information I should have something better than a smilie to put here, but I don't. But I'm sure everyone else has sympathy too, and some of them might even know what to say.
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Jun 25, 2019 02:54
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Goon Danton posted:Update to this: it's definitely a fun feeling when your therapist advises you to start looking for a new job, lol
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