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coolskull
Nov 11, 2007

this was when i had dialup, so music had to come in physical form. it made things hard.

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nankeen
Mar 20, 2019

by Cyrano4747
my dad loves 60s psychedelia and some of my earliest memories (and later memories, and right up until the present day memories) are of long meandering road trips listening to like the move and spooky tooth and poo poo with dad analysing all the lyrics for me and blurting out at least three times per song "hear that? unlocking your mind? that means lsd. whenever they talk about drifting away or going into a dream? lsd. listen, he's talking about flying. lsd! flying always means lsd". so from the time i was like 3 i thought lsd was the coolest thing ever and would talk constantly at school about how much i loved lsd and i couldn't wait to be out of school so i could just take lsd all day every day and write songs. some of my teachers were concerned but luckily this was a rural school so most of them didn't care

Pinecone Sample
Oct 12, 2010

THIS ACCOUNT HAS BEEN SEIZED
by the United States Federal Bureau of Investigation in accordance with a seizure warrant issued pursuant to 69 U.S.C Sec. 420
My parents didn't let me buy "The Fat of the Land" because of "Smack My Bitch Up" but they did let me buy "Antichrist Superstar"

snergle
Aug 3, 2013

A kind little mouse!

nankeen posted:

my dad loves 60s psychedelia and some of my earliest memories (and later memories, and right up until the present day memories) are of long meandering road trips listening to like the move and spooky tooth and poo poo with dad analysing all the lyrics for me and blurting out at least three times per song "hear that? unlocking your mind? that means lsd. whenever they talk about drifting away or going into a dream? lsd. listen, he's talking about flying. lsd! flying always means lsd". so from the time i was like 3 i thought lsd was the coolest thing ever and would talk constantly at school about how much i loved lsd and i couldn't wait to be out of school so i could just take lsd all day every day and write songs. some of my teachers were concerned but luckily this was a rural school so most of them didn't care

well dont leave me hanging did you live your lsd dreams and write songs

nankeen
Mar 20, 2019

by Cyrano4747

snergle posted:

well dont leave me hanging did you live your lsd dreams and write songs
poo poo i forgot to mention the saddest part, i've never been able to get my hands on any actual lsd and so the dream must remain a dream

nankeen
Mar 20, 2019

by Cyrano4747
when i was in my late teens dad flipped suddenly to "my teen daughter keeps talking about how much she wants to take lsd, this is a problem, how did this happen??" and then he had the temerity to blame my mother for it lol

christmas boots
Oct 15, 2012

To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out
Biscuit Hider

AlBorlantern Corps posted:

The mom rules either way. Thought her daughter was being attacked and stone cold knocked a man out

Then when she realized it wasn't took the kid to the hospital, let his parents know what happened without mentioning the sex stuff, genuinely apologized to the kid and got the daughter a lock for her bedroom.

She seems pretty rad all-around.

i vomit kittens
Apr 25, 2019


My ex proposed. I said no. He is now talking about suing me. Advice?

quote:

Just want to say this is going to sound insane but I am not trolling/making it up.

Me and this guy were together for 3 years. We're 19 now. We never talked about the future until a year in. Before then I'd try to discuss it and he would change the subject.

In short, I wanted kids, he didn't. I wanted to stay in Ireland, he didn't. I wanted to get married, he didn't. When I realised it was a bad match I broke it off but he asked to get back together, saying we were too young to worry about the future, and we got back together. This happened a few times over the next 18 months In this time we probably spent more time apart than together.

We knew early on that we wanted different things, and while marriage and kids are something I would want further down the line, I wasn't concerned about his open dislike of marriage and kids because 19 is too young to get married anyway. If I were dating him 10 or 15 years from now and he didn't want to get married, then I might have an issue, but when I'm barely out of my teens, it's not a huge concern, and just loving him and wanting to be with him is enough.

When I went to see him this time I was again, considering breaking up with him. Aside from the long term issues, he is also inconsiderate and has a mean streak that I really don't like. So when I arrived at his place, mentally debating breaking up with him for good this time, and he told me he wanted to take me out to dinner, I assumed he wanted to break up too, publicly so I wouldn't cause a scene. I don't normally cause a scene but being in public tends to prevent yelling, and we both yell every time we break up.

In the last year he has asked me 2 things that looking back now stand out to me. First he asked about jewellery, what kind of stuff I liked and what my taste was. I assumed it was because my birthday was coming up and he was getting me a bracelet or something so I told him simple and delicate, silver or steel rather than gold, if there was a colour then blue, nothing flashy or expensive as both my job prefers plain jewellery and it's just my personal preference. I also said "go cheap".

The other thing he asked me was how I felt about public proposals. I told him immediately that I, personally, disliked them as I felt I wouldn't be able to say no, even if I wanted to. I feel like public proposals are OK when they've been specifically requested and agreed on, but one that's totally out of the blue is not OK at all. I assumed he was asking about this because his friend had just proposed to his girlfriend of several years, publicly, and she'd accepted but admitted to him after that she would have preferred something private.

I never thought in a million years that he would propose.

So you can imagine my shock when we went to dinner and the first thing he did was propose.

The ring was huge, gold, gaudy, red gems around a diamond and the whole thing was the size and shape of a super bowl ring. He got on one knee, and held it out to me. We were in the middle of this popular restaurant and the place was packed. Everyone there could see what was going on and wasn't even trying to hide that they were looking at us.

I said no.

Well, I didn't so much say "no". I ran out of the restaurant.

He drove me there, so I got a cab back, and drove home that night.

I realise running out wasn't the best thing to do but I didn't know what else to do. I could feel everyone's eyes on me, and all I knew was that I didn't want to marry him or accept his proposal. I felt like I couldn't even speak, I was so upset about the whole thing. So I just got up and ran.

I just want to take the opportunity to say here that I really really don't care about the rings. Honestly, when I want to get married (which is absolutely not when I'm 19 years old) the right person could just turn to me and say "wanna get married?" and I'd say yes. I wouldn't even need a ring. I know I'm focusing on the ring and the public proposal a lot, but that's only because of 1) how far away it was from what I'd told him my taste was and 2) what happened next.

I didn't hear from him until a few weeks later. He said that he thought a proposal was something I'd want, but he saw now that it wasn't. He said that he was out of pocket for the rings. He'd bought us both the same one and gotten them engraved. He linked me to the jeweller's website and the ring was up for €1450 (about $1650/£1300). When I asked why he was telling me this he said that he'd hoped I would cover the cost of mine. He said that as they'd been engraved he couldn't get a refund. He'd hoped that I would say yes to the proposal, in which case he wouldn't have asked me to pay, but I said no. He also said I'd embarrassed him by saying no in public, and should have said yes, and if I was really against it waited to say no when we were alone.

We both live in small towns where gossip spreads at church. Enough people were at the restaurant that night that both of us got asked about it at church on Sunday.

He has since messaged me saying he's debating calling in a lawyer to sue me for the cost of my ring (€1450) and he also says that I have caused him "emotional distress" by turning him down in public, and have publicly humiliated him for both rejecting his proposal in public and leaving him to deal with church gossip, which I had no part in spreading. He says he can also get some money off me over those other 2 things. So €1450 for what he spent on my ring, and extra money for emotional distress and public humiliation.

I think his legal claims are all bullshit, and he wouldn't have a leg to stand on in a court of law, but I am not a law student or a lawyer. He is studying law currently and has an internship at a legal firm.

What do I do about all of this? Do I need to prepare myself for a lawsuit or is it not even worth worrying about?

Thanks in advance :)



EDIT: He knew I wanted to get married but not to him. He not only knew this but said he had no intention of marrying me, either. He openly despised marriage right up until the time he proposed and he knows that we want different things out of marriage, and I told him that this was why I was breaking up with him the times before this that I have ended the relationship. During the course of our relationship he's also said stuff like "we're still too young to think about marriage", "it's not like we're getting married" and (my favourite) "it's not like I'm gonna propose" (that one was last April)

Antivehicular
Dec 30, 2011


I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

i vomit kittens posted:

My ex proposed. I said no. He is now talking about suing me. Advice?

I want to be a fly on the wall in the lawyer's office in the initial consult with this dude

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Antivehicular posted:

I want to be a fly on the wall in the lawyer's office in the initial consult with this dude

That whole briefcase filled with cash you say?

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

AITA for asking my sister to be discreet about her polyamorous (Male-Female-Female) relationship in front of the kids?

I guess it should be are “we” the assholes, but idk if that’s an accepted acronym here.

Apologies that the line up is a bit complicated but I’ll try to lay it out as best I can.

My family is going on a group vacation this summer. We are pooling our resources to rent a nice property on the beach for a week. My husband and I are (unfortunately) taking the lead on planning and organization.

It will be me, my husband and our two kids, my brother, his wife, and their 3 kids, plus my parents. (Kids’ ages range from 3 to 9). In addition, my sister, her husband and their girlfriend are invited.

We initially only invited my sister and her husband, but my sister insisted that their girlfriend (who I think they’ve been dating for 9 months or so) be included as well.

My sister is in a polyamorous relationship and, although my family and I don’t get all of the nuances, we have tried to be understanding. So as a compromise we said that her girlfriend could come, but we asked that everyone please refrain from any PDA in front of the kids. We were planning to just refer to the girlfriend as a friend of the family. My sister was not happy with this suggestion and is now, once again, saying that she will not go on the trip under these circumstances.

At this point, everyone else is exhausted with the subject and all for letting her exclude herself from the trip. I’m conflicted though. She’s my sister and I obviously love her. But I also think my other family members are trying their best in a touchy situation.

Are we wrong?

dudeness
Mar 5, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
Fallen Rib
"I don't take legal claims seriously unless they're in writing"

Sometime later. "Ooops I sent a copy of your dumbass request to the head of the lawfirm you're interning at and also the head of the law dept. at your university".

MarcusSA
Sep 23, 2007

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for asking my sister to be discreet about her polyamorous (Male-Female-Female) relationship in front of the kids?



NTA

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

WIBTA if I quit the independent movie I'm directing? Worst case I strand the cast and crew in the middle of New Mexico and my family loses money. Best case I don't go insane.

It's always been my dream to be a film director. Two years ago I basically was inspired by Christopher McCandless and did a solo trip across the US and Mexico. In a tiny little town on the border I met this old guy named "Birdman" who's life story was so fascinating I wrote a screenplay based on his life freehand in about a week.

It took me two years but I took out tons of credit cards, my family invested an so actually have a few hundred thousand to work with. We are presently shooting across New Mexico and I have a somewhat professional film crew, actors and film equipment I've rented. It's cost a fortune and at this point we are so over budget it's not even funny.

Well I'm realizing now "Birdman" is a loving liar. And almost nothing he told me two years ago happened. He insisted on playing himself which I agreed to but he argues with me about the way things happened and whether things happened (for example he claimed he was in the first Iraq war and won the Medal of Honor, truth he wasn't even in the military). He has almost zero camera presence so I have to carefully "shoot around" him even though he's the focus of the movie. He also "accidentally" walked in our lead actress changing several times so she quit (reshoots=$$$) and now her replacement is probably sleeping with Birdman creating more potential drama when he pisses her off.

This morning is typical. We were supposed to start at 3AM so we could get establishing shots of the sunrise over the mountains. Birdman got everyone drunk last night (all his pay, he's going to want an advance when I see him) and no one showed up. We lost a morning or shooting and I still have to pay for food and hotels for today. Like I said, typical for this shoot.

I want DD the cast and crews pay up to today, take my credit card off the hotel and just drive the gently caress away today. I'm so frustrated. I can give my family back whatever money of thiers is left and say I'm sorry for the loss and I can look into bankruptcy for the credit cards. I can't bear the thought of dealing with these people again.

WIBTA if I walk away?

Edit: the moderators of this sub are horrendous.

Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

My [28F] wife to be is accusing me [26M] of giving her yeast infection either because I’m uncircumcised or because I gave her oral. Wants me to get circumcised and only have missionary sex in marriage.

We rarely have sex because we are both religious. Last time we did it was two months ago. Naturally, I go down on her, which she loves but never returns the favor because she is disgusted with giving me oral (she doesn’t like the look of a dick and is super conservative). The next day she starts itching and long story short determines she has yeast infection. Then she says she only gets it when I give her oral and most likely because I am uncircumcised.

Now, I know there are a lot of ugly uncircumcised, dirty dicks out there. Mine ain’t one of those. I have a nice dick. I keep it very clean. Skin pulls pack completely. I shower twice daily. Never had complaints about my dick in the past. I am not sexually active with anyone else. So how can I give her yeast infection? Is that even a thing? Are we sexually incompatible, as in, chemically incompatible down there? Is that a thing?

She now says when we get married we will only have regular, missionary sex. No oral, no exploring. I’m really hurt and frustrated because I am already feeling like this will be a sexually frustrating marriage if that’s true. I used be super sexually active before her, and now I barely have any sex because of my walk with God. So to be told, by my wife to be, that in marriage my sex life will also be a dud, scares me.

When I confronted her about it she says that she only says that because she is scared of getting yeast infection again but that she has been willing to explore with me in the past. I tell her I’m taking her word at face value. Anyways, I don’t know how to continue this conversation with her. Scared for the future. Any advice helps at this point.

TLDR: wife to be tells me she is getting yeast infection because I am uncircumcised or because I give her oral. Told me she only wants to have missionary sex from now on.

i vomit kittens
Apr 25, 2019


Smirking_Serpent posted:

WIBTA if I quit the independent movie I'm directing? Worst case I strand the cast and crew in the middle of New Mexico and my family loses money. Best case I don't go insane.

if the two leading actors are already loving, you might as well try to recoup some of your losses by converting your screenplay into a porno

Zulily Zoetrope
Jun 1, 2011

Muldoon

i vomit kittens posted:

My ex proposed. I said no. He is now talking about suing me. Advice?

If anything, he ought to pay her for any “emotional distress” he may have incurred from a public proposal blowing up in his face. If he ever manages to grow into being a decent dude, that will have been one of the most powerful lessons.

LadyPictureShow
Nov 18, 2005

Success!



Ex 34/m does not want to pay me 29/f child support unless we establish DNA first?

quote:

My ex and I broke up in September and that's the month I conceived and I didn't know I was pregnant since my period is irregular etc. I met a guy at the bar around the same time but I was single and slept with him in October a month after meeting. (Still didn't know I was pregnant since I'm overweight and have irregular periods).

Me n the new guy used condoms and he never ejaculated because he can only ejaculate by jerking off so it was only in and out type sex but no orgasm. ( I watched him pull it out and then jerk off to finish himself each time).Then I found out I was pregnant and contacted my ex. I already gave birth this June.

I conceived in September (9 months) so I know it's his and we never used condoms and he can ejaculate unlike the other guy I met at the bar. Anyway, since we broke up and I told him about the other guy, hes demanding a DNA test which is fine and warranted but he's expecting me to pay for it which cost over $100 and I'm not working right now.

He said until that's done he won't pay nothing and basically my only option is to take him to child support but I'm trying to be cordial with him and just let him pay me every month. I don't want the hassle of going through child support and he knows he'd probably pay more monthly anyway if I did.

I'm only asking for a measly $250 even $200 a month but he's hesitating because of the other guy. He keeps throwing in my face that I left in September. WHO SHOULD PAY FOR THE DNA ?

Tl;dr ex does not want to pay unless we establish DNA

quote:

I'm afraid I will burn bridges with him and a hope of a reconciliation in the future if I go the legal route. That's why I'm trying to establish payments just between us as an agreement

quote:

No . I just hope for the possibility of reconciliation in the future so I don't want to get him in legal trouble yet. Just hoping for payment under the table.

quote:

Well I'm only asking for 200-250. But when I used the Florida child support calculator online based on his income it said like 350.

Sagebrush
Feb 26, 2012

Smirking_Serpent posted:

WIBTA if I quit the independent movie I'm directing? Worst case I strand the cast and crew in the middle of New Mexico and my family loses money. Best case I don't go insane.


he argues with me about the way things happened and whether things happened (for example he claimed he was in the first Iraq war and won the Medal of Honor, truth he wasn't even in the military)

i wonder if this visionary genius knows you can look this stuff up

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for asking my sister to be discreet about her polyamorous (Male-Female-Female) relationship in front of the kids?

I dont see why you arent eager to have an extra hand around to watch your kids on vacation. Besides, worst case scenario is their relationship implodes on the vacation and you get a fascinating teaching moment

MarcusSA
Sep 23, 2007

LadyPictureShow posted:

Ex 34/m does not want to pay me 29/f child support unless we establish DNA first?

There are so so many layers to this it’s incredible.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Sagebrush posted:

i wonder if this visionary genius knows you can look this stuff up

He is starting his film career with no experience and financing on credit cards, so I think suggesting making sure you know what youre doing before doing it is beyond what this guy is capable of.

MarcusSA posted:

There are so so many layers to this it’s incredible.

Its like Im slicing through a cake thinking surely there will be something under all this fondant but surprise, its all fondant

HMS Beagle
Feb 13, 2009



We need to finance this. Goon project. I have to see that loving movie.

Palpek
Dec 27, 2008


Do you feel it, Zach?
My coffee warned me about it.


LadyPictureShow posted:

Ex 34/m does not want to pay me 29/f child support unless we establish DNA first?
I don't get what she's expecting from this. That somebody will post this one mind-hack that exes don't want you to know? Is she just venting? The guy won't pay unless he sees proof and won't pay for the test unless you force him, there's nothing to be learned from strangers on the net, what the hell.

i vomit kittens
Apr 25, 2019


HMS Beagle posted:

We need to finance this. Goon project. I have to see that loving movie.

Funding can be pulled from a product placement sponsorship with Doobie's DogHouse

HMS Beagle
Feb 13, 2009



i vomit kittens posted:

Funding can be pulled from a product placement sponsorship with Doobie's DogHouse

The climax of the film will feature Birdman ziplining at 60 mph to save his lady love.

LadyPictureShow
Nov 18, 2005

Success!



HMS Beagle posted:

We need to finance this. Goon project. I have to see that loving movie.

I'd rather see the movie about the failure to make this movie/disastrous production.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

LadyPictureShow posted:

I'd rather see the movie about the failure to make this movie/disastrous production.

I think this is why this is pissing me off so much. There are dozens of well recieved films where the film maker realizes theyre being duped or discovers a more interesting narrative while filming a documentary and shifts focus and this little wannabe waste of Netflix just wants to cut and run

Megillah Gorilla
Sep 22, 2003

If only all of life's problems could be solved by smoking a professor of ancient evil texts.



Bread Liar

Sagebrush posted:

i wonder if this visionary genius knows you can look this stuff up

Five seconds of google and wikipedia, tells me there were just 6 MoH awarded in Iraq.

They even have pictures of five of them.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Also its sort of a recurring theme you tend to be dead when you get a MoH

i vomit kittens
Apr 25, 2019


Barudak posted:

Also its sort of a recurring theme you tend to be dead when you get a MoH

odd how the only one without a picture is also the one who's still alive, David B"irdman"ellavia as his friends back home called him

Power Khan
Aug 20, 2011

by Fritz the Horse

Barudak posted:

Also its sort of a recurring theme you tend to be dead when you get a MoH

More than not, yes.

It's pretty fascinating how easy it would have been to verify, if the dude was indeed a MoH recipient

LadyPictureShow
Nov 18, 2005

Success!



The OP says first Iraq War, which was the Gulf War, right? .....nobody got a Medal of Honor in that conflict.


E: From the OP's comments

quote:

For the most part they have no respect for me and view me as a rich kid from Cherry Hill, NJ with and endless supply of mommy and daddy's money.

quote:

I’m 19 years old dude I’m a kid living above my means

Oh my goodness.

LadyPictureShow fucked around with this message at 09:01 on Jun 24, 2019

Barudak
May 7, 2007

i vomit kittens posted:

odd how the only one without a picture is also the one who's still alive, David B"irdman"ellavia as his friends back home called him

According to Wikipedia Davey "Big Birdman" Bellavia is a morning show host in buffalo NY so dude is committed to not showing his face.

Porfiriato
Jan 4, 2016


Smirking_Serpent posted:

WIBTA if I quit the independent movie I'm directing? Worst case I strand the cast and crew in the middle of New Mexico and my family loses money. Best case I don't go insane.

It's always been my dream to be a film director.

It took me two years but I took out tons of credit cards, my family invested an so actually have a few hundred thousand to work with.

From OP's comments.

young Fellini posted:

I’m 19 years old dude I’m a kid living above my means

Redditor posted:

Info: have you talked to your crew about your frustrations?

young Fellini posted:

Until I'm blue in the face. For the most part they have no respect for me and view me as a rich kid from Cherry Hill, NJ with and endless supply of mommy and daddy's money.

You uh, don't say.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Median Family Income in Cherry Hill: $105,000

nankeen
Mar 20, 2019

by Cyrano4747
i hope birdman starts posting for relationship advice

Pirate Radar
Apr 18, 2008

You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!
Birdman or (The Unexpected Virtue of Doing Any Research At All, Seriously, Even Just Google Would Have Prevented This)

Power Khan
Aug 20, 2011

by Fritz the Horse
Doing your homework is...not what most people do.

~red lights flash~

We'll just steam ahead, everything will be fine

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Pirate Radar
Apr 18, 2008

You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!
Though honestly he said his life journey thing was inspired by Christopher McCandless and he’s doing a lot better than McCandless so far so he’s got that going for him.

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