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Anne Whateley posted:Again, they weren't meeting as strangers, they were already friends. What a stupid way to ruin a friendship, imo. think about how hosed up this would be if it were a dinner date. him: can I take you out to dinner? her: only if you want to go as friends him: oh sorry I'll find someone else her: what you aren't going to buy me dinner anymore????
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Leon Einstein posted:But she isn't a professor according to the story. If someone has a particular way they want to be addressed, you need to address them that way. It's their name, not yours. Anyway it doesn't surprise me that Australians don't recognize academic titles, being a nation of illiterate convicts and all
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Renegret posted:Never 100%. Corporate karma drama owns
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Sagebrush posted:If someone has a particular way they want to be addressed, you need to address them that way. It's their name, not yours. I mean I don't actually care and I don't think most people would but it seems like a weird take to say this in the context of professional titles, if someone insisted on you calling them Doctor if they didn't have a PhD/MD etc.
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Jun 27, 2019 18:02
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Anne Whateley posted:again maybe this is a gender difference but ime concerts are way more of a friend activity than a romantic or first-date activity. That said, I also definitely eat dinner with friends i don't see it as a gender difference - i think we are looking at two different aspects of this dude's approach he won two tickets for popular singer. he knows lady who might be interested in date, but also likes popular singer. you're seeing this from the angle that he changed his mind, and she is now not going to see popular singer, so it's denying her an experience she would personally enjoy. but guy is not necessarily interested in seeing popular singer, he wants a date. so others are seeing it from the angle that this guy is dealing with a romantic rejection on what he framed as a date i wouldn't go on a solo concert experience with someone unless we both wanted to see the artist, or i was putting up with an artist i dont care about as a romantic overture to my date partner. i'm assuming here that guy doesn't care about popular singer, he's just trying to convert his lucky ticket win into a date, which is a pretty normal behavior for a young adult as long as he's not a pervert about it. in my opinion it's pervier to go on a non-date with a potential romantic partner because that's the sort of friendship coin behavior that nice guys get up to
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Gf brought up my skin colour. Should I leave ?quote:I have dark skin. I never thought I would hear something like this from someone else.
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DemoneeHo posted:Gf brought up my skin colour. Should I leave ? yikes
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DemoneeHo posted:Gf brought up my skin colour. Should I leave ? Launch her into space
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DemoneeHo posted:Gf brought up my skin colour. Should I leave ? Hahaha "I totally could be racist about your gross dark skin, but I'm not! See how nice I am?"
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HIJK posted:How on earth does this happen, how do you get one chilled out average sibling and then the other sibling is a ginormous prick which one is chilled out and which is the prick? they are both dicks but the bigoted sister is worse. Chances are the neice wont reach out to her uncle because the neice will be just like her mom and dad bigoted assholes. unless they turn out to be gay. The fact that he doesnt realise that and is keeping a dirt book on his sister incase she does is stupid. use your dirt book to gently caress her over or dont keep one because just having one is going to make you unhappy as gently caress every time you add a new thing to it. DemoneeHo posted:Gf brought up my skin colour. Should I leave ? woke racists  then find someone else
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Sagebrush posted:If someone has a particular way they want to be addressed, you need to address them that way. It's their name, not yours. this isn't like preferred pronouns or identifying by a new name, it's demanding a title that you haven't even earned
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I feel like it would be fine, if a little odd, to ask to be referred to as professor even if you're not one. If a teacher asked me to do that I'd just roll with it. Where she messed up was first in just assuming everyone would do that without her letting them know, and second in saying the reason why was because she was "above them", which makes it seem like a power trip They were seriously over the line in rudeness afterwards though
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CountryMatters posted:I feel like it would be fine, if a little odd, to ask to be referred to as professor even if you're not one. If a teacher asked me to do that I'd just roll with it. Would it actually be fine, or would it immediately mark that person in your mind as unbelievably pretentious? Because I might roll with it when necessary, but my eyes would be rolling out of my head whenever she wasn't around.
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The only thing I can see wrong with the concert guy is that he wanted to take her to a hotel on a first date, but maybe the concerts out of town and getting a hotel room makes sense? Either way, shes not into him, and I'd even say that asking someone you just rejected if they want to go as friends because you're really into the band is manipulative as gently caress and not a really friendly thing to do.
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Norton the First posted:Would it actually be fine, or would it immediately mark that person in your mind as unbelievably pretentious? Because I might roll with it when necessary, but my eyes would be rolling out of my head whenever she wasn't around. Australian culture is extremely egalitarian. If you're going to act like a loving tool, everyone will cheerfully call you on it. If you literally use the phrase "I am above you", people from far and wide will gather on rooftops around your workplace and home for the opportunity to throw their poo poo at you. It's one of the few virtues of our culture.
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CountryMatters posted:I feel like it would be fine, if a little odd, to ask to be referred to as professor even if you're not one. If a teacher asked me to do that I'd just roll with it. Where she messed up was first in just assuming everyone would do that without her letting them know, and second in saying the reason why was because she was "above them", which makes it seem like a power trip they're all grad students though -- the students and the teacher. those master's students could easily be teaching her class next semester because that's just how grad school is. there is so much self-importance in higher ed
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MIL pocket dialled me, heard her calling me a bad parent.OP posted:So, LTL FTP, and on mobile and all that jazz. commenter posted:Hes furious with his mum, so is he going to say something to her? OP posted:Hi, he called her earlier today to ask what she was thinking by talking bad about us behind our backs. MIL denied she said anything until he said I have it on voicemail, so literally a recording and she ended up hanging up on him. He also went over to her house earlier today after she summoned us there. I chose to stay home because I couldn't deal with the confrontation at the moment and she attacked him as soon as he walked in the door.
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Megillah Gorilla posted:Australian culture is extremely egalitarian. Having a student tell her to “go back to Germany” if she doesn’t like the culture clash is an abysmally atrocious method of handling it. Very doubtful that the German teacher is going to integrate or even try to change her approach to something more fitting if she’s just going to get bigotry from her students who are mad because this drat immigrant isn’t aligning with their cultural values to their liking. Getting insulted and disrespected by the natural born citizens does not encourage people to conform. e: the more I think about it the more insane it becomes, that dude had a tantrum at his teacher because she was pretentious and he decided to attack her nationality and immigrant status. that’s just hosed up. HIJK fucked around with this message at 18:56 on Jun 27, 2019 |
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HIJK posted:Having a student tell her to “go back to Germany” if she doesn’t like the culture clash is an abysmally atrocious method of handling it. If your culture involves you saying "I am above you" and insisting that you are intrinsically superior to others, your culture actually sucks balls and you can go gently caress yourself imo
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Australians are also very racist. This is one of the may terrible things about our culture. But, yes, telling her off for putting on airs is 100% okay in my book, no matter what opinion she holds about herself.
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To me it sounds like a clumsy attempt to be taken seriously and to avoid seeming too familiar with her students. They're not supposed to be friends. "I am above you" feels like a phrase that got mangled in translation from something not as rude in German. Total guessing on that one though.
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HIJK posted:Having a student tell her to “go back to Germany” if she doesn’t like the culture clash is an abysmally atrocious method of handling it. Student was dumb, wannabe prof is a massively self-important tool, but at least neither is tiresome enough to still be litigating concert ticket issues from five pages ago.
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Megillah Gorilla posted:But, yes, telling her off for putting on airs is 100% okay in my book, no matter what opinion she holds about herself. This is fair. Blade Runner posted:If your culture involves you saying "I am above you" and insisting that you are intrinsically superior to others, your culture actually sucks balls and you can go gently caress yourself imo imo responding to a snotty “I am above with you” with tantrumy xenophobia is just as hosed up, ESH in that situation.
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5 pages ago was 5am today, so gently caress you I'll voice my opinions whenever unless a mod steps in
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WIBTA if I refused to play D&D with the DM’s gf?quote:Throwaway because my DM has my main account and uses this sub. AITA for being racist on myself? quote:Let me get this straight, I am fairly white and I LOVE my skin colour. I love seeing my skin white colour sometimes and I get lost in thoughts on how I would feel less special if I was of any other colour. Please believe me I don't hate/dislike black people or their colour. But I feel a lot lucky that I am white. AITA for demanding my neighbors move their clothes line that blocks the entrance to my home? quote:Recently I bought a vacation cottage in a small community. I park my car in front of my house, next to my neighbors porch and their is a small pathway down to the landing where my house is. All of this is considered "my land". I come home to other day and there is clothes line put up from the neighbors porch connecting to a tree I own, and their dirty clothes are hanging down over the one path to get into my house. I promptly left a note saying I felt it was inappropriate and rude, and told them to take it down tomorrow or I would be happy too. The next day as I am getting home from work, I see them on their deck so I remind them to take the line down and how I feel it is disrespectful. My neighbor who is a 33 year old women, begins sobbing on the spot, saying that that clothes line has been up since she was a kid, and then comments about how "you haven't even been alive for 30 years let alone lived here for thirty years". I was pretty shocked by her reaction, especially the crying. After a 10 minute conversation that went no where, I just left and took it down and told them if it went up again I would take it back down. For the past couple of days whenever I see her she gets teary and emotional and says I am a "bully". She gives off hand petty remarks like "if you were so mature you would've used proper punctuation and capitalization in your note or talked to me and my family man to man" Did I handle this wrong? I feel this was a very blunt, direct and sensible request on my part. I am pretty confused by the all around response I got and feel they are trying to take advantage of me because of my age and being new, and weren't prepared for any resistance. I am a 22 y/o male.
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zakharov posted:"I am above you" feels like a phrase that got mangled in translation from something not as rude in German. Total guessing on that one though. No, it's still rude in German. We use different pronouns for people higher ranked or unfamiliar to us, maybe that was throwing her off.
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Rubellavator posted:5 pages ago was 5am today, so gently caress you I'll voice my opinions whenever unless a mod steps in No talking about the posts in /r/relationships in the thread for talking abouts posts in /r/relationships.
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Jack-Off Lantern posted:No, it's still rude in German. We use different pronouns for people higher ranked or unfamiliar to us, maybe that was throwing her off. I retract that then but the students were still out of line, I don't care how Australian they are.
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Tythas posted:Throwaway because my DM has my main account and uses this sub. Oh, I thought this highly specific situation might be about me, but it's on a throwaway account so it must not be
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Fitzy Fitz posted:Oh, I thought this highly specific situation might be about me, but it's on a throwaway account so it must not be I think it's more the DM doesn't normally read that sub, but if he sees his friend has posted there, he might look.
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DemoneeHo posted:MIL pocket dialled me, heard her calling me a bad parent. This dude/lady may be shocked to hear, but everyone thinks everyone else is a bad parent, maybe don't take it personally, and also don't feed your kid loving chips and maybe get control of your feral child
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Blade Runner posted:I mean I don't actually care and I don't think most people would but it seems like a weird take to say this in the context of professional titles, if someone insisted on you calling them Doctor if they didn't have a PhD/MD etc. If I want to be called Professor Brush and my students call me Sage, it's not an insult if I correct them. Irl I don't care but some professors really do. "Professor" is an odd word in higher education because it's both a formal title and a generic term. Most of my students call anyone who's teaching a class "professor," even though that formally only applies to tenure-track faculty (adjuncts and GTAs being "lecturers"), and if you want to be real nitpicky I should technically be addressed as Associate Professor Brush because Professor is a rank above mine. The specific titles used for different ranks also vary from country to country. If this grad student wants to be called professor, it's a bit of an eye-roll, but in context she's not actually claiming a title she doesn't have (as it would be if she insisted on being called Doctor prior to earning her Ph.D). She's an rear end in a top hat for saying she's "above the rest of you" though. Sagebrush fucked around with this message at 19:19 on Jun 27, 2019 |
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Tythas posted:WIBTA if I refused to play D&D with the DM’s gf? It’s not worth the stress bro, just bow out gracefully
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ElGroucho posted:This dude/lady may be shocked to hear, but everyone thinks everyone else is a bad parent, maybe don't take it personally, and also don't feed your kid loving chips and maybe get control of your feral child Here is a personal insult. Don't take it personally. ???
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HIJK posted:How on earth does this happen, how do you get one chilled out average sibling and then the other sibling is a ginormous prick I don't know, let me ask my really relaxed broth- oh. Pick posted:Hey guess what, most of you guys ARE really misogynistic and the fact that it's a lot of you doesn't mean you're not all in the wrong on many scenarios presented. Misanthropic, please
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AITA for wanting my boyfriend to leave his pregnant wifequote:I met my now boyfriend at work. He flirted with me from the day I met him and since I don't typically like mixing work with pleasure I always blew him off. Then after about a month of his advances I agreed to go out with him. I found out along the way he was married but he didn't wear a wedding ring because that wasn't something men did in his culture and he was in an open marriage. I have always been ok with poly relationships so for me it was a non issue.
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