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WIBTA for having an unequal will drafted even though my kids are young? I'm 44 with an 18 year old daughter and a 16 year old son. I'm a single father since my wife passed three year ago. Not that it's relevant, but both she and our second daughter passed during childbirth. I've been dealing with thoughts of mortality and death recently and figured I should get a will drafted to ensure my children are secure. Even though they're still young, I think at this point how they act and behave resembles what they will as they're older. I think most people become themselves around these ages. I want to split it 90/10 favoring my daughter. She's about to graduate university after an accelerated highschool program and my son wants to drop out the moment he can (here it's at 17). Here's a few things my son has done or has been a part of that cements my idea: got two girls pregnant, both were terminated has been expelled from one highschool and had to be put in another in a further district has already been involved with the police for driving without a license, driving inebriated, and felonious assault (knife) As much as I love my son since a father's love is unconditional, I don't like him if that makes sense. I believe he has no future and it's not a function of his upbringing, else my daughter wouldn't be at her point. He's just a bad seed, it can't be helped despite my attempts. My estate isn't huge. I'd give him nothing but at least 10% of my estate ensures he can't contest it and it's enough to get him a couple years of rent. If he makes a complete 180, sure I can get it changed, but I'm confident I won't have to. Am I the rear end in a top hat, though?
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Jul 14, 2019 21:16
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Smirking_Serpent posted:WIBTA for having an unequal will drafted even though my kids are young? Hrm I wonder what sort of traumatic event could have happened to make this kid act out...
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Jul 14, 2019 21:23
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Yeah get your son the help he very obviously needs, rear end in a top hat
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Jul 14, 2019 21:26
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My (27f) girlfriend lied to me about doing cam girl workquote:Tldr gf originally told me she wanted to do some cam girl work but then said she had decided not to. I logged into her computer with the web browser still open on her account for a cam site then lied to me when I questioned her.
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Jul 14, 2019 21:30
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Lmfao get fuuuucked absintee daughter with your hand suddenly out.
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Jul 14, 2019 21:31
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AITA for exposing the poo poo out of my ex-girlfriend for her racist remarks?quote:My ex-girlfriend (20F) and I (20M) broke up a few months ago. It was a less-than-ideal breakup, she really didn't want us to be separated. For relevance, my ex wanted to continue to follow me on social media (I didn't care that she did, I wanted her to see I was moving on so she should too).
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Jul 14, 2019 21:32
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Lol get fuucked racist ex, exposing those scum to their family and friends is the best available option. Goddamn these can't be true I just want to print them off and smear them all over my gross naked body.
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Jul 14, 2019 21:35
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The reason men like me communicate with women. Manhattan New York. (self.relationship_advice)quote:I think I always communicate or attempt to connect with a female for a potential possibility or possible future outcome. In my mind, all the female that I ever spoke with after college, outside of family and work. I have a space in my head that is telling to start something with that female. Maybe start a girlfriend boyfriend relationship, maybe a sexual fetish. Maybe just being a pervert and want to have a wet dream about them. Whatever the reason. I always believed that I can one day do something about each and every girl.
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Jul 14, 2019 21:36
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Haifisch posted:The reason men like me communicate with women. Manhattan New York. (self.relationship_advice) I understand each individual word in this post, but assembled in this order I cannot discern any possible meaning from them.
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Jul 14, 2019 21:39
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Haifisch posted:The reason men like me communicate with women. Manhattan New York. (self.relationship_advice) I hate when there's a deadline on my compensated dating model projects and I have to work until 5 am
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Jul 14, 2019 21:40
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AITA for paying R Kelly's "Bump and Grind" as a total joke when I was hooking up with a Tinder date? u/HuMuFuWu ill try to keep this short as possible. I matched with a girl on tinder earlier this week, we agreed to go out last night. She was incredible, not only is she "girl next door" hot, she's wicked smart and was honestly one of the funniest and wittiest people I've ever met. I mean I had such an amazing time and we clicked so well that if she would have said "let's run off to Vegas and get married" part of my brain would been like "maybe this can work..." So we ended up back at my place and she said she wanted to be clear that she wasn't ready for sex yet. I told her that was totally fine and there was no pressure at all. We sort of went between making out, watching stranger things and joking/talking. When one episode ended she started kissing me again and went down and was sort of kissing my member on top of my pants. I decided it would be hilarious time to play "bump and grind." The mood instantly changed and she said "wow you think I want to hear a kid toucher's awful music as I'm trying to decide if I like you enough to put your duck in my mouth?" I told her it was honestly a joke and I've always thought R Kelly was stupid and it was more in line of how much I knew she loved Dave Chappelle show. She asked if I was planning on peeing on her next. I said I was really sorry and it was honestly a joke. She said she wanted me to take her home so I did. When we got there she said somthing along the lines of "look I really like you but I have a past where I can't laugh at certain things, give me some time and I'd like to see you again." And she gave me a hug and left. So obviously I can assume what she means about her past and what I did was very stupid...but was I an rear end in a top hat for it?
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Jul 14, 2019 21:40
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for exposing the poo poo out of my ex-girlfriend for her racist remarks? This kind of act in necessary if we are to move forward as a culture. SilvergunSuperman posted:Lmfao get fuuuucked absintee daughter with your hand suddenly out. The comments claim that they have asked and have never received any kind of reason at all she dropped them. They don't say she had an invalid reason. Even if the reason was that they're too loving Republican to live, I'd expect some kind of answer to be forthcoming. Regardless, daughter doesn't deserve the money because she was too loving obvious about it. You've gotta play the long game with these things.
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Jul 14, 2019 21:42
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SilvergunSuperman posted:Lol get fuucked racist ex, exposing those scum to their family and friends is the best available option. And there's always people on Reddit who overwhelmingly vote that he's the rear end in a top hat because they think the only way to not be an rear end in a top hat is to meekly avoid any sort of conflict, turn over a new leaf, and never once get revenge or hurt anyone no matter what they do to you. AITA for cutting my friend out of my life upon hearing his intention to marry a homophobic woman? quote:Throwaway for paranoia reasons.
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Jul 14, 2019 21:47
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therobit posted:AITA for paying R Kelly's "Bump and Grind" as a total joke when I was hooking up with a Tinder date? Bahahahaha you poor dumb gently caress. You dumb dumb dumb gently caress. Hahaha
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Jul 14, 2019 21:48
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Another few posts by Fight Man lately. How is Judo for self defense? quote:I’m a very skinny and weak guy but I have been wanting to learn some self defense lately. I’m about 5’10 and 107 pounds. I’m 20. No matter how much I eat I can’t gain anything and I don’t really go to the gym. Would judo be something to take up? If not judo then what? I’m going crazy. quote:I just got done getting my rear end beat. Today I attacked someone just because I did not like the way that they were looking at me. One year ago today. quote:One year ago today my girlfriend of 3 years at the time and I went out for some dinner and then headed to the party where she fell for another guy. We talked about our future that day. We talked about marriage and the excitement of the upcoming baby. I thought that in a year my life would be so cool. But it isn’t. Because she’s gone. I still miss her and love her. I wish I had her back even though she did terrible things after our split. She is in jail for a very long time and I keep thinking about going and visiting her. Today I am very sad because one year ago today my life changed forever. Someone in the comments said he'll meet him and let himself get beat up just so he can say he finally won a fight.
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Jul 14, 2019 21:49
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LadyPictureShow posted:Any idea what happened to him? Did he become a concert violinist, or end up bludgeoning his parents to death with his Stradivarius? This recording was found at the scene https://youtu.be/P7zSUMvWjSU
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Jul 14, 2019 22:01
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Beachcomber posted:Regardless, daughter doesn't deserve the money because she was too loving obvious about it. You've gotta play the long game with these things.  either suck up and come up with a story and play it out over 3-10 years without even mentioning it until they do; or just accept you had a reason to sever the parents to begin with and no amount of is worth grovelling back. but half assing it is the worst.
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Jul 14, 2019 22:11
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What are the odds that Fight Man (if real) has some sort of brain damage (from the drug use?) that has just completely gutted his impulse control? Because, like, he knows he shouldn't get into fights, he knows he needs to stop drinking all the time, he knows he's messing himself up, but he cannot stop himself?
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Jul 14, 2019 22:20
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PetraCore posted:What are the odds that Fight Man (if real) has some sort of brain damage (from the drug use?) that has just completely gutted his impulse control? Because, like, he knows he shouldn't get into fights, he knows he needs to stop drinking all the time, he knows he's messing himself up, but he cannot stop himself? Assuming he's real, absolutely. He was already a dickhead but if he's at the point of attacking random people on the street for looking at him funny (because he's walking around covered in bruises and bleeding cuts from getting into a fistfight every day) then he's definitely going insane.
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Jul 14, 2019 22:27
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chitoryu12 posted:Assuming he's real, absolutely. He was already a dickhead but if he's at the point of attacking random people on the street for looking at him funny (because he's walking around covered in bruises and bleeding cuts from getting into a fistfight every day) then he's definitely going insane.
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Jul 14, 2019 22:29
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PetraCore posted:Just if he's really drinking all the time and doing a bunch of random drugs afaik it's pretty hard to tell if his brain chemistry is temporarily out of whack from that or if he's got physical damage underlying it. It's kinda chicken and egg because inhibited impulse control, surprise surprise, leads to a lot of addiction issues. He's taken a ton of head wounds, including getting his head bounced off the pavement, so I'm surprised his brain isn't leaking out his ears at this point.
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Jul 14, 2019 22:30
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chitoryu12 posted:He's taken a ton of head wounds, including getting his head bounced off the pavement, so I'm surprised his brain isn't leaking out his ears at this point. agreed, this clearly started over the loss of his family but it's spiraled to a point of intractable co-morbidity. dude needs intensive intervention, i think it's fairly safe to assume he's got no social safety net and probably very VERY limited family outside of his ex. i'm scared this dude is going to fall for the alt right's bullshit and hurt someone just to feel like they're part of a group.
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Jul 14, 2019 22:33
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SilvergunSuperman posted:Lmfao get fuuuucked absintee daughter with your hand suddenly out. People don't actually cut contact with their rich parents for no reason; the fact that the OP doesn't even provide a scapegoat reason for becoming estranged suggests the parents themselves were the cause but are unable to acknowledge that. "We were never abusive to her" is entitled boomer speak for "we never physically abusive to her". "She never gave us a reason" (from the comments) means that there was a lifetime of reasons. My bet is that this story about starting funds for each child is a complete fabrication. Giving a big sack of money to the 2nd oldest was a deliberate attempt to manipulate the oldest into contacting them again. And it worked; they were successfully able to get in one last snub. "Just look at all of the riches you could have had if you would only let us continue abusing you." If oldest daughter had stuck around, 2nd oldest probably wouldn't have gotten a dime. e: OP's name is feelshitty999. They made a validation post, basically. They know that they caused the estrangement of their oldest daughter and want strangers to make them feel better about that, they just haven't found RejectedParents yet QuarkJets fucked around with this message at 22:45 on Jul 14, 2019 |
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Jul 14, 2019 22:40
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Pick posted:women tend to prefer parties they're less likely to get raped at I haven’t been raped at a wine and cheese party, either. I have been sexually assaulted at multiple drunk-rear end parties tho. I think you’re on to something.
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Jul 14, 2019 22:40
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:agreed, this clearly started over the loss of his family but it's spiraled to a point of intractable co-morbidity. dude needs intensive intervention, i think it's fairly safe to assume he's got no social safety net and probably very VERY limited family outside of his ex. His next post is he tries to join the Proud Boys, but when they try to make him recite breakfast cereals while getting punched for initiation he gets instantly angry and tries to punch them back but they just beat him unconscious and steal his wallet.
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Jul 14, 2019 22:42
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QuarkJets posted:People don't actually cut contact with their rich parents for no reason; the fact that the OP doesn't even provide a scapegoat reason for becoming estranged suggests the parents themselves were the cause but are unable to acknowledge that. "We were never abusive to her" is entitled boomer speak for "we never physically abusive to her". "She never gave us a reason" (from the comments) means that there was a lifetime of reasons. oh yeah, i'm certainly sure she has a (probably) good reason. emotionally abusive and controlling is pretty common and worthy reason, and they aren't willing to accept that or acknowledge any wrong-doing. she was probably in the right to sever. but its still funny to sever and then many years later call and immediately ask 'wheres my money''.
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Jul 14, 2019 22:42
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Haifisch posted:The reason men like me communicate with women. Manhattan New York. (self.relationship_advice) Every time I stumble over a word choice that'd odd in hindsight or realize my face isn't doing what I want it to do I worry that people are going to assume I'm this sort of freak instead of more typical social anxiety.
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Xaris posted:but its still funny to sever and then many years later call and immediately ask 'wheres my money''. "She was extremely upset and thinks I'm being manipulative" suggests that she was calling to accuse them of being emotionally manipulative, not that she was calling to ask for the money. She probably didn't even ask for the money; the OP never says that she did QuarkJets fucked around with this message at 22:57 on Jul 14, 2019 |
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Jul 14, 2019 22:54
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Bruceski posted:Every time I stumble over a word choice that'd odd in hindsight or realize my face isn't doing what I want it to do I worry that people are going to assume I'm this sort of freak instead of more typical social anxiety. It's mostly an ESL thing, I think, but also a cultural attitude about trying to understand dating. I knew a Taiwanese-born guy who talks [especially about women] exactly like this. I've also noticed some Spanish speakers write with overly short sentences like that. edit: yep found a post he made about being DACA so there's, let's say, about a 95% chance he was born in Latin America and about a 2% chance he was born in East Asia Pinecone Sample fucked around with this message at 23:02 on Jul 14, 2019 |
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Jul 14, 2019 22:59
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Pinecone Sample posted:It's mostly an ESL thing, I think, but also a cultural attitude about trying to understand dating. I knew a Taiwanese-born guy who talks [especially about women] exactly like this. I've also noticed some Spanish speakers write with overly short sentences like that. Ah. I read it more as someone creating sexual narratives for any women he meets and then expecting them to live up to it. Jumped to conclusions there.
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Jul 14, 2019 23:08
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feedmegin posted:You do realise that PhDs were the original doctors right? Doctor literally means teacher, it's the medical profession that hijacked the term. Nobles gentrified the barber-surgeon profession once they decided that doing surgery wasn’t beneath them.
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Jul 14, 2019 23:18
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Pvt.Scott posted:Nobles gentrified the barber-surgeon profession once they decided that doing surgery wasn’t beneath them.
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Pvt.Scott posted:Nobles gentrified the barber-surgeon profession once they decided that doing surgery wasn’t beneath them. They appropriated the white lab coat from scientists to steal their valor too
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Jul 14, 2019 23:24
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Me [26M] with my girlfriend [24F] of 3 years, had a fight following disappointing birthday venuequote:Hello!
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Jul 14, 2019 23:46
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Haifisch posted:Me [26M] with my girlfriend [24F] of 3 years, had a fight following disappointing birthday venue I hate both of these people.
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Jul 14, 2019 23:49
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Hey for your birthday how about I take you to that place you hate then gaslight you? What do you mean you want to break up?
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Jul 14, 2019 23:53
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PetraCore posted:This was directly because of the surgery on King Louis XIV's anal fistula, right? more for the fact that he literally died screaming 'I've never felt such pain, but I'm most troubled that none of my doctors can relieve me' due to misdiagnosed gangrene that they had to admit would have been solved by surgery, but the fistula was the start of surgery being accepted by the noble class, to the point when noble court types literally faked rear end craters to get it like the king.
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Haifisch posted:Me [26M] with my girlfriend [24F] of 3 years, had a fight following disappointing birthday venue so he took her to a place she disliked (not even as a group thing it sounds like, he could have just taken her another place), weirdly tried to lie and say 'actually this is all good and you're just lying because you're mad' and is surprised she feels like he doesn't show her the caring he used to
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Jul 14, 2019 23:55
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Its like reading a speak and spell get dumped
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why does this person whose opinions I dismiss with contempt claim I don’t care about her? She must have different financial values than I
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